Re: Pining

[Karen Chuplis]

I'm soooo sorry to hear this :((((( Red will need extra attention for a
while. I would think about leaving the television or radio on too, while you
are out. Eventually you will want to introduce a new companion. I just feel
awful for both you and Red :( My deepest condolences.

Karen

"DB" > wrote in message
...
> Hi all,
>
> I lost Seven yesterday after a blood clot formed and blocked off the blood
> supply to her legs causing paralysis in three legs on Saturday. The vets
> thought it would be kinder to help her on her way than to attempt any more
> treatment yesterday after she ran into further complications of renal
> failure. All very sudden and distressing, but leaves me with another
> problem.
> Seven's mum disappeared when the kittens were a week old, so they had to
be
> hand fed, and Red was brought in as a slightly older kitten so they would
> have interaction from another feline, as the couple of older cats we had
> were less than friendly toward the little ones.
> So they've been together for six years, and now Red is on her own. She's
> taken to sitting on the sill and calling for Seven from the window where
> they used to come in and go out, and is seeming to do a lot of checking
> around the house in the places Seven used to snooze.
> Red is fine when there's company in the house, but I have to go to work,
and
> am worried about her being left on her own at the minute as she doesn't
> really understand what's happened. I did go to be with Seven at the end,
and
> thought perhaps Red might pick that up from the smell of my hands, but i'm
> not sure that it made much difference.
> Does anyone have any idea's on what i can do to make things any
> easier/better for her, or is all i can give it just time?
>
> Cheers,
> D.
>
>
> --
>
> - DB -
> - remove the mouse to reply -
>
>

[Karen Chuplis]

I'm soooo sorry to hear this :((((( Red will need extra attention for a
while. I would think about leaving the television or radio on too, while you
are out. Eventually you will want to introduce a new companion. I just feel
awful for both you and Red :( My deepest condolences.

Karen

"DB" > wrote in message
...
> Hi all,
>
> I lost Seven yesterday after a blood clot formed and blocked off the blood
> supply to her legs causing paralysis in three legs on Saturday. The vets
> thought it would be kinder to help her on her way than to attempt any more
> treatment yesterday after she ran into further complications of renal
> failure. All very sudden and distressing, but leaves me with another
> problem.
> Seven's mum disappeared when the kittens were a week old, so they had to
be
> hand fed, and Red was brought in as a slightly older kitten so they would
> have interaction from another feline, as the couple of older cats we had
> were less than friendly toward the little ones.
> So they've been together for six years, and now Red is on her own. She's
> taken to sitting on the sill and calling for Seven from the window where
> they used to come in and go out, and is seeming to do a lot of checking
> around the house in the places Seven used to snooze.
> Red is fine when there's company in the house, but I have to go to work,
and
> am worried about her being left on her own at the minute as she doesn't
> really understand what's happened. I did go to be with Seven at the end,
and
> thought perhaps Red might pick that up from the smell of my hands, but i'm
> not sure that it made much difference.
> Does anyone have any idea's on what i can do to make things any
> easier/better for her, or is all i can give it just time?
>
> Cheers,
> D.
>
>
> --
>
> - DB -
> - remove the mouse to reply -
>
>

[rainyseason]

"DB" > wrote in message
...
> Hi all,
>
> I lost Seven yesterday after a blood clot formed and blocked off the blood
> supply to her legs causing paralysis in three legs on Saturday. The vets
> thought it would be kinder to help her on her way than to attempt any more
> treatment yesterday after she ran into further complications of renal
> failure. All very sudden and distressing, but leaves me with another
> problem.
> Seven's mum disappeared when the kittens were a week old, so they had to
be
> hand fed, and Red was brought in as a slightly older kitten so they would
> have interaction from another feline, as the couple of older cats we had
> were less than friendly toward the little ones.
> So they've been together for six years, and now Red is on her own. She's
> taken to sitting on the sill and calling for Seven from the window where
> they used to come in and go out, and is seeming to do a lot of checking
> around the house in the places Seven used to snooze.
> Red is fine when there's company in the house, but I have to go to work,
and
> am worried about her being left on her own at the minute as she doesn't
> really understand what's happened. I did go to be with Seven at the end,
and
> thought perhaps Red might pick that up from the smell of my hands, but i'm
> not sure that it made much difference.
> Does anyone have any idea's on what i can do to make things any
> easier/better for her, or is all i can give it just time?
>
> Cheers,
> D.


Advice I got here and adapted in a similar situation - Feliway diffuser
(biggest help), put blankets and toys with the other cat's smell on in
important places, put your own 'smelly' articles of clothing in important
places for your cat when you aren't around. I found it easier for a
couple of weeks to keep the same routines I had with both cats, I
even used to say goodnight to my angel and talk to her infront of
my cat. I did talk to him a lot to tell him what happened when I knew
he was looking for her. It does get easier over time (apologies for the
canned phrase, but it's true) and my cat started to create his own
routines slowly and aspects of his personality came out that we hadn't
seen before.

It's a heartbreaking time, I feel very sad for all of you.

We got an 8month kitten from the shelter 6 weeks later, but I think
in retrospect that was too soon for me and for my cat. All's fine
now, but I think it complicated life a bit.
--
Barbara

[rainyseason]

"DB" > wrote in message
...
> Hi all,
>
> I lost Seven yesterday after a blood clot formed and blocked off the blood
> supply to her legs causing paralysis in three legs on Saturday. The vets
> thought it would be kinder to help her on her way than to attempt any more
> treatment yesterday after she ran into further complications of renal
> failure. All very sudden and distressing, but leaves me with another
> problem.
> Seven's mum disappeared when the kittens were a week old, so they had to
be
> hand fed, and Red was brought in as a slightly older kitten so they would
> have interaction from another feline, as the couple of older cats we had
> were less than friendly toward the little ones.
> So they've been together for six years, and now Red is on her own. She's
> taken to sitting on the sill and calling for Seven from the window where
> they used to come in and go out, and is seeming to do a lot of checking
> around the house in the places Seven used to snooze.
> Red is fine when there's company in the house, but I have to go to work,
and
> am worried about her being left on her own at the minute as she doesn't
> really understand what's happened. I did go to be with Seven at the end,
and
> thought perhaps Red might pick that up from the smell of my hands, but i'm
> not sure that it made much difference.
> Does anyone have any idea's on what i can do to make things any
> easier/better for her, or is all i can give it just time?
>
> Cheers,
> D.


Advice I got here and adapted in a similar situation - Feliway diffuser
(biggest help), put blankets and toys with the other cat's smell on in
important places, put your own 'smelly' articles of clothing in important
places for your cat when you aren't around. I found it easier for a
couple of weeks to keep the same routines I had with both cats, I
even used to say goodnight to my angel and talk to her infront of
my cat. I did talk to him a lot to tell him what happened when I knew
he was looking for her. It does get easier over time (apologies for the
canned phrase, but it's true) and my cat started to create his own
routines slowly and aspects of his personality came out that we hadn't
seen before.

It's a heartbreaking time, I feel very sad for all of you.

We got an 8month kitten from the shelter 6 weeks later, but I think
in retrospect that was too soon for me and for my cat. All's fine
now, but I think it complicated life a bit.
--
Barbara