Wah! Ana might have a home

[KellyH]

I've been fostering Ana for 7 months now. She's my foster kitten with a
liver shunt, had seizures when she was 4 months old, needs meds twice a day.
So far, no one has really shown any interest in her. I got an inquiry
yesterday about her from the shelter website. Called the woman, expecting
the usual, that she just saw her picture and didn't read that she needs
medication, etc.
She had read all that, and had no problem giving her meds, asked me lots of
questions about her condition. I politely cross-examined her to make sure
she would be good enough for my Ana. I really tried to find something
wrong, but I couldn't. So, she is going to meet Ana tomorrow. My only
little concern is that Ana really likes other cats, and she currently
doesn't have any. There are lots of cats at the shelter, one in particular
I was thinking of, who would make a good buddy for Ana. I'll talk to her
about that. I really think Ana will be happier in the company of another
cat. Although Ana is really sweet, she's not exactly a lovebug type of cat.
I explained that, and she didn't seem to mind. I just hope she's not
disappointed that Ana doesn't sit in her lap and cuddle. I think maybe in a
house with less cats she might seek attention from people more. She follows
me around and sits next to me, on my desk, etc. But has never really been a
lapcat.
Anyway, it looks like my little girl might be leaving. I was very sad last
night, but I feel a little better today.

--
-Kelly
kelly at farringtons dot net
"Wake up, and smell the cat food" -TMBG

[Jennifer]

KellyH wrote:
> Although Ana is really sweet, she's not exactly a lovebug type of
cat....I just hope she's not
> disappointed that Ana doesn't sit in her lap and cuddle. I think
maybe in a
> house with less cats she might seek attention from people more. She
follows
> me around and sits next to me, on my desk, etc. But has never really
been a
> lapcat.

I adopted Scout when she was a bit over a year old. She'd been living
in a foster home with an average of nine other cats at a time, and
wasn't really a lap cat. Very affectionate and loved her scratches,
but would not stand for being held and did not do laps. That lasted
about two months. Now she purrs and cuddles when picked up and held,
and curls up in my or my husband's lap pretty much every day. We only
have one other cat.

So, maybe :)

Good luck with the adoption!

--
Jennifer

[-L.]

KellyH wrote:
> I've been fostering Ana for 7 months now. She's my foster kitten
with a
> liver shunt, had seizures when she was 4 months old, needs meds twice
a day.
> So far, no one has really shown any interest in her. I got an
inquiry
> yesterday about her from the shelter website.

Oh Kelly, that's excellent! As hard as it will be, it is a blessing to
have someone willing to take on a cat who needs daily meds. Maybe the
woman went through something similar - or something. You just never
know. It's a good sign that she wasn't deterred by Ana's history.

I am sending purrs that you and the woman hit it off fabulously and
that she decides to take Ana and get her a companion, as well.

hugs,
-L.

[Mary]

"KellyH" > wrote in message
...
> I've been fostering Ana for 7 months now. She's my foster kitten with a
> liver shunt, had seizures when she was 4 months old, needs meds twice a
day.
> So far, no one has really shown any interest in her. I got an inquiry
> yesterday about her from the shelter website. Called the woman, expecting
> the usual, that she just saw her picture and didn't read that she needs
> medication, etc.
> She had read all that, and had no problem giving her meds, asked me lots
of
> questions about her condition. I politely cross-examined her to make sure
> she would be good enough for my Ana. I really tried to find something
> wrong, but I couldn't. So, she is going to meet Ana tomorrow. My only
> little concern is that Ana really likes other cats, and she currently
> doesn't have any. There are lots of cats at the shelter, one in
particular
> I was thinking of, who would make a good buddy for Ana. I'll talk to her
> about that. I really think Ana will be happier in the company of another
> cat. Although Ana is really sweet, she's not exactly a lovebug type of
cat.
> I explained that, and she didn't seem to mind. I just hope she's not
> disappointed that Ana doesn't sit in her lap and cuddle. I think maybe in
a
> house with less cats she might seek attention from people more. She
follows
> me around and sits next to me, on my desk, etc. But has never really been
a
> lapcat.
> Anyway, it looks like my little girl might be leaving. I was very sad
last
> night, but I feel a little better today.
>

This is the part of fostering that I would have the hardest time with.
Good luck. I also want to say that if your gut tells you not to adopt her
out to this woman, I don't think you should. Whenever I ignore those
instincts it is a mistake. Brian had those feelings about the woman
who took Henry, and that, not my dislike of Megan, was the basis
of my worry that Henry was going somewhere where he would not
be loved.

[KellyH]

"Mary" > wrote
> This is the part of fostering that I would have the hardest time with.
> Good luck. I also want to say that if your gut tells you not to adopt her
> out to this woman, I don't think you should. Whenever I ignore those
> instincts it is a mistake. Brian had those feelings about the woman
> who took Henry, and that, not my dislike of Megan, was the basis
> of my worry that Henry was going somewhere where he would not
> be loved.
>
>

It's not so bad when you don't have them for very long. I've never had a
foster for 7 months. Last time I had a long-term foster was Antonio, and it
was about 4 months in that I decided to keep him.
I don't know how I'm going to get through the meeting without looking like a
lunatic. I was making a list of Ana's little quirks and favorite things and
started bawling. If *anything* is off about this person, she's not getting
Ana.

--
-Kelly
kelly at farringtons dot net
"Wake up, and smell the cat food" -TMBG

[Mary]

"KellyH" > wrote in message
...
> "Mary" > wrote
> > This is the part of fostering that I would have the hardest time with.
> > Good luck. I also want to say that if your gut tells you not to adopt
her
> > out to this woman, I don't think you should. Whenever I ignore those
> > instincts it is a mistake. Brian had those feelings about the woman
> > who took Henry, and that, not my dislike of Megan, was the basis
> > of my worry that Henry was going somewhere where he would not
> > be loved.
> >
> >
>
> It's not so bad when you don't have them for very long. I've never had a
> foster for 7 months. Last time I had a long-term foster was Antonio, and
it
> was about 4 months in that I decided to keep him.
> I don't know how I'm going to get through the meeting without looking like
a
> lunatic. I was making a list of Ana's little quirks and favorite things
and
> started bawling. If *anything* is off about this person, she's not
getting
> Ana.
>

I have no doubt you will make the right choice. I admire your courage,
your honesty, and your big heart. I will not worry about Ana.

[KellyH]

"Nomen Nescio" ]> wrote
> Just keep in mind that Senator Bill Frist used to "adopt" cats when he was
> in Harvard Med. School and take them home to cut up for "practice". If the
> woman is in Med. School, you might want to think twice about it! I'm not
> trying to disturb you, it's just the kind of thing that would scare the
> hell out
> me if I were responsible for seeing that a cat was placed in a good home.
> I'd probably be interrogating a prospective pet owner on a level that
> would
> make the Gestapo cringe.
> I do hope you've found her a good home.
>

Another reason to hate Frist! I didn't know that, very disturbing.
I do adoptions at the shelter in general, and I'm a pretty thorough
interviewer. I'm getting away from being an adoption counselor though.
It's so tough, and it's so much responsibility. You are soley responsible
for making sure this cat goes to a good home. I had a kitten I adopted out
(my second adoption, I was a rookie but that doesn't excuse it) come back
declawed. I felt awful, like I let that kitten down, because I did. :(

--
-Kelly
kelly at farringtons dot net
"Wake up, and smell the cat food" -TMBG

[KellyH]

"Diane L. Schirf" > wrote
> For those of you who foster cats -- do you follow up after for a period
> of time, just to be sure?
>

It all depends on the situation as to how much and for how long, but yes.
Our shelter's rule is generally to call one or two times for a regular
adoption. They don't want us to stalk people.
--
-Kelly
kelly at farringtons dot net
"Wake up, and smell the cat food" -TMBG

[Helen Miles]

"KellyH" > wrote in message


> I don't know how I'm going to get through the meeting without looking like a
> lunatic. I was making a list of Ana's little quirks and favorite things and
> started bawling. If *anything* is off about this person, she's not getting
> Ana.///

Not being funny Kelly, but this suggests very strongly to me that you're
probably not going to be able to give her up and you actually have a new
furr-kid. ;o)

I know, I've been there with a long term feral foster, who's still with
me after 4 1/2 years, has flown all over the world with me, and puches
me about like the princess she is! ;o)

Helen M


--
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[HRFLTiger]

Diane L. Schirf wrote:
>
> When does the cat change from "foster" status?///

2 hours after she arrived, and looked at me with her big fraidy feral
eyes. ;o) She was only ever going to be a foster cat, because I was
asked to foster her 3 days after my wonderful cat Sir William went to
Rainbow bridge and I was never ever getting another cat. Of course,
Pandora knew different...;o)

Helen M

[Brian Link]

On Fri, 1 Apr 2005 11:50:02 -0500, "Mary" > wrote:

>
>"KellyH" > wrote in message
...
>> I've been fostering Ana for 7 months now. She's my foster kitten with a
>> liver shunt, had seizures when she was 4 months old, needs meds twice a
>day.
>> So far, no one has really shown any interest in her. I got an inquiry
>> yesterday about her from the shelter website. Called the woman, expecting
>> the usual, that she just saw her picture and didn't read that she needs
>> medication, etc.
>> She had read all that, and had no problem giving her meds, asked me lots
>of
>> questions about her condition. I politely cross-examined her to make sure
>> she would be good enough for my Ana. I really tried to find something
>> wrong, but I couldn't. So, she is going to meet Ana tomorrow. My only
>> little concern is that Ana really likes other cats, and she currently
>> doesn't have any. There are lots of cats at the shelter, one in
>particular
>> I was thinking of, who would make a good buddy for Ana. I'll talk to her
>> about that. I really think Ana will be happier in the company of another
>> cat. Although Ana is really sweet, she's not exactly a lovebug type of
>cat.
>> I explained that, and she didn't seem to mind. I just hope she's not
>> disappointed that Ana doesn't sit in her lap and cuddle. I think maybe in
>a
>> house with less cats she might seek attention from people more. She
>follows
>> me around and sits next to me, on my desk, etc. But has never really been
>a
>> lapcat.
>> Anyway, it looks like my little girl might be leaving. I was very sad
>last
>> night, but I feel a little better today.
>>
>
>This is the part of fostering that I would have the hardest time with.
>Good luck. I also want to say that if your gut tells you not to adopt her
>out to this woman, I don't think you should. Whenever I ignore those
>instincts it is a mistake. Brian had those feelings about the woman
>who took Henry, and that, not my dislike of Megan, was the basis
>of my worry that Henry was going somewhere where he would not
>be loved.
>

Yay! You're referring to me in unrelated posts! It's working!

Even though you totally misrepresent me. But that's common troll-food.
Everyone sees it for what it is.

You Rock.

Sadly for you, Henry's pretty damn happy.

Sorry that a cat's welfare interferes with your psychotic world-view.
Nonetheless, there is help for you if you choose to take advantage of
it. Sadly, I have more faith in Megan's kitty charges than yourself.
Perhaps you could ask Megan for counselling? She has great insights
into the animal brain.. and you might possibly benefit.

Good luck.


BLink

[Mary]

"Brian Link" > wrote in message
...
> On Fri, 1 Apr 2005 11:50:02 -0500, "Mary" > wrote:
>
> >
> >"KellyH" > wrote in message
> ...
> >> I've been fostering Ana for 7 months now. She's my foster kitten with
a
> >> liver shunt, had seizures when she was 4 months old, needs meds twice a
> >day.
> >> So far, no one has really shown any interest in her. I got an inquiry
> >> yesterday about her from the shelter website. Called the woman,
expecting
> >> the usual, that she just saw her picture and didn't read that she needs
> >> medication, etc.
> >> She had read all that, and had no problem giving her meds, asked me
lots
> >of
> >> questions about her condition. I politely cross-examined her to make
sure
> >> she would be good enough for my Ana. I really tried to find something
> >> wrong, but I couldn't. So, she is going to meet Ana tomorrow. My only
> >> little concern is that Ana really likes other cats, and she currently
> >> doesn't have any. There are lots of cats at the shelter, one in
> >particular
> >> I was thinking of, who would make a good buddy for Ana. I'll talk to
her
> >> about that. I really think Ana will be happier in the company of
another
> >> cat. Although Ana is really sweet, she's not exactly a lovebug type of
> >cat.
> >> I explained that, and she didn't seem to mind. I just hope she's not
> >> disappointed that Ana doesn't sit in her lap and cuddle. I think maybe
in
> >a
> >> house with less cats she might seek attention from people more. She
> >follows
> >> me around and sits next to me, on my desk, etc. But has never really
been
> >a
> >> lapcat.
> >> Anyway, it looks like my little girl might be leaving. I was very sad
> >last
> >> night, but I feel a little better today.
> >>
> >
> >This is the part of fostering that I would have the hardest time with.
> >Good luck. I also want to say that if your gut tells you not to adopt her
> >out to this woman, I don't think you should. Whenever I ignore those
> >instincts it is a mistake. Brian had those feelings about the woman
> >who took Henry, and that, not my dislike of Megan, was the basis
> >of my worry that Henry was going somewhere where he would not
> >be loved.
> >
>
> Yay! You're referring to me in unrelated posts! It's working!
>
> Even though you totally misrepresent me. But that's common troll-food.
> Everyone sees it for what it is.
>
> You Rock.
>
> Sadly for you, Henry's pretty damn happy.
>
> Sorry that a cat's welfare interferes with your psychotic world-view.
> Nonetheless, there is help for you if you choose to take advantage of
> it. Sadly, I have more faith in Megan's kitty charges than yourself.
> Perhaps you could ask Megan for counselling? She has great insights
> into the animal brain.. and you might possibly benefit.
>
> Good luck.

Of course you still miss him. You abandoned him to someone who did
not really want him. You know this. It is at the root of all your blustering
and posturing. Poor Henry.

[Brian Link]

On Mon, 4 Apr 2005 01:44:25 -0400, "Mary" > wrote:

>
>"Brian Link" > wrote in message
...
>> On Fri, 1 Apr 2005 11:50:02 -0500, "Mary" > wrote:
>>
>> >
>> >"KellyH" > wrote in message
>> ...
>> >> I've been fostering Ana for 7 months now. She's my foster kitten with
>a
>> >> liver shunt, had seizures when she was 4 months old, needs meds twice a
>> >day.
>> >> So far, no one has really shown any interest in her. I got an inquiry
>> >> yesterday about her from the shelter website. Called the woman,
>expecting
>> >> the usual, that she just saw her picture and didn't read that she needs
>> >> medication, etc.
>> >> She had read all that, and had no problem giving her meds, asked me
>lots
>> >of
>> >> questions about her condition. I politely cross-examined her to make
>sure
>> >> she would be good enough for my Ana. I really tried to find something
>> >> wrong, but I couldn't. So, she is going to meet Ana tomorrow. My only
>> >> little concern is that Ana really likes other cats, and she currently
>> >> doesn't have any. There are lots of cats at the shelter, one in
>> >particular
>> >> I was thinking of, who would make a good buddy for Ana. I'll talk to
>her
>> >> about that. I really think Ana will be happier in the company of
>another
>> >> cat. Although Ana is really sweet, she's not exactly a lovebug type of
>> >cat.
>> >> I explained that, and she didn't seem to mind. I just hope she's not
>> >> disappointed that Ana doesn't sit in her lap and cuddle. I think maybe
>in
>> >a
>> >> house with less cats she might seek attention from people more. She
>> >follows
>> >> me around and sits next to me, on my desk, etc. But has never really
>been
>> >a
>> >> lapcat.
>> >> Anyway, it looks like my little girl might be leaving. I was very sad
>> >last
>> >> night, but I feel a little better today.
>> >>
>> >
>> >This is the part of fostering that I would have the hardest time with.
>> >Good luck. I also want to say that if your gut tells you not to adopt her
>> >out to this woman, I don't think you should. Whenever I ignore those
>> >instincts it is a mistake. Brian had those feelings about the woman
>> >who took Henry, and that, not my dislike of Megan, was the basis
>> >of my worry that Henry was going somewhere where he would not
>> >be loved.
>> >
>>
>> Yay! You're referring to me in unrelated posts! It's working!
>>
>> Even though you totally misrepresent me. But that's common troll-food.
>> Everyone sees it for what it is.
>>
>> You Rock.
>>
>> Sadly for you, Henry's pretty damn happy.
>>
>> Sorry that a cat's welfare interferes with your psychotic world-view.
>> Nonetheless, there is help for you if you choose to take advantage of
>> it. Sadly, I have more faith in Megan's kitty charges than yourself.
>> Perhaps you could ask Megan for counselling? She has great insights
>> into the animal brain.. and you might possibly benefit.
>>
>> Good luck.
>
>Of course you still miss him. You abandoned him to someone who did
>not really want him. You know this. It is at the root of all your blustering
>and posturing. Poor Henry.
>

hm.. what part of "Henry's pretty damn happy" don't you understand?
Are you off your meds? If so, have someone explain that sentence to
you. We'll wait. Remember.. it's ONE of the blue pills and TWO of the
white pills.

I would pity you, except for the fact that you take so much joy in
posting disconnected dreck. It probably keeps you alive. And where
there's life, there's hope...

I'm happy that Henry's happy, and our resident cats are happy.

Sure I miss him, but his life sucked here. Our other cats' lives
sucked while he was here. Why do you enjoy our suffering..? (oh yeah,
you're bat****-crazy).

Frankly you seem to care less for cat welfare than your own
fantastical world-view..

And your response will be: a pithy non-sequitor. Anxiously waiting for
it.. so I can add it to my catalogue of usenet nutjobs' ridiculous
responses. I'm writing a book, you know.

BLink

[Mary]

"Brian Link" > wrote in message
...
> On Mon, 4 Apr 2005 01:44:25 -0400, "Mary" > wrote:
>
> >
> >"Brian Link" > wrote in message
> ...
> >> On Fri, 1 Apr 2005 11:50:02 -0500, "Mary" > wrote:
> >>
> >> >
> >> >"KellyH" > wrote in message
> >> ...
> >> >> I've been fostering Ana for 7 months now. She's my foster kitten
with
> >a
> >> >> liver shunt, had seizures when she was 4 months old, needs meds
twice a
> >> >day.
> >> >> So far, no one has really shown any interest in her. I got an
inquiry
> >> >> yesterday about her from the shelter website. Called the woman,
> >expecting
> >> >> the usual, that she just saw her picture and didn't read that she
needs
> >> >> medication, etc.
> >> >> She had read all that, and had no problem giving her meds, asked me
> >lots
> >> >of
> >> >> questions about her condition. I politely cross-examined her to
make
> >sure
> >> >> she would be good enough for my Ana. I really tried to find
something
> >> >> wrong, but I couldn't. So, she is going to meet Ana tomorrow. My
only
> >> >> little concern is that Ana really likes other cats, and she
currently
> >> >> doesn't have any. There are lots of cats at the shelter, one in
> >> >particular
> >> >> I was thinking of, who would make a good buddy for Ana. I'll talk
to
> >her
> >> >> about that. I really think Ana will be happier in the company of
> >another
> >> >> cat. Although Ana is really sweet, she's not exactly a lovebug type
of
> >> >cat.
> >> >> I explained that, and she didn't seem to mind. I just hope she's
not
> >> >> disappointed that Ana doesn't sit in her lap and cuddle. I think
maybe
> >in
> >> >a
> >> >> house with less cats she might seek attention from people more. She
> >> >follows
> >> >> me around and sits next to me, on my desk, etc. But has never
really
> >been
> >> >a
> >> >> lapcat.
> >> >> Anyway, it looks like my little girl might be leaving. I was very
sad
> >> >last
> >> >> night, but I feel a little better today.
> >> >>
> >> >
> >> >This is the part of fostering that I would have the hardest time with.
> >> >Good luck. I also want to say that if your gut tells you not to adopt
her
> >> >out to this woman, I don't think you should. Whenever I ignore those
> >> >instincts it is a mistake. Brian had those feelings about the woman
> >> >who took Henry, and that, not my dislike of Megan, was the basis
> >> >of my worry that Henry was going somewhere where he would not
> >> >be loved.
> >> >
> >>
> >> Yay! You're referring to me in unrelated posts! It's working!
> >>
> >> Even though you totally misrepresent me. But that's common troll-food.
> >> Everyone sees it for what it is.
> >>
> >> You Rock.
> >>
> >> Sadly for you, Henry's pretty damn happy.
> >>
> >> Sorry that a cat's welfare interferes with your psychotic world-view.
> >> Nonetheless, there is help for you if you choose to take advantage of
> >> it. Sadly, I have more faith in Megan's kitty charges than yourself.
> >> Perhaps you could ask Megan for counselling? She has great insights
> >> into the animal brain.. and you might possibly benefit.
> >>
> >> Good luck.
> >
> >Of course you still miss him. You abandoned him to someone who did
> >not really want him. You know this. It is at the root of all your
blustering
> >and posturing. Poor Henry.
> >
>
> hm.. what part of "Henry's pretty damn happy" don't you understand?
> Are you off your meds? If so, have someone explain that sentence to
> you. We'll wait. Remember.. it's ONE of the blue pills and TWO of the
> white pills.
>
> I would pity you, except for the fact that you take so much joy in
> posting disconnected dreck. It probably keeps you alive. And where
> there's life, there's hope...
>
> I'm happy that Henry's happy, and our resident cats are happy.
>
> Sure I miss him, but his life sucked here. Our other cats' lives
> sucked while he was here. Why do you enjoy our suffering..? (oh yeah,
> you're bat****-crazy).
>
> Frankly you seem to care less for cat welfare than your own
> fantastical world-view..
>
> And your response will be: a pithy non-sequitor. Anxiously waiting for
> it.. so I can add it to my catalogue of usenet nutjobs' ridiculous
> responses. I'm writing a book, you know.
>

Oh good. That's a great thing to do while chain smoking and
sucking down beer. You'll enjoy that.

[Marion]

KellyH wrote:
> I've been fostering Ana for 7 months now.
....
> Anyway, it looks like my little girl might be leaving. I was very
sad last
> night, but I feel a little better today.
>
Oh, I know how torn you must feel -- giving up a foster
is particularly difficult after you've devoted time and
attention and love to deal with a health problem.
I sent a wail into this group a couple of months ago
after a kitten I'd nursed for 2 months was adopted. I
have a suggestion from that experience: could you ask
the adopter to keep you posted with reports on how she
is doing?
I did that, and the adopters have been most kind in
sending little emails on how she's doing. They report
some funny things she does, and how cute she is. I've
found that I've been able to let her go through reading
these notes.

Marion