UPDATED Update on John's Mom :)

[jmcquown]

Cantankerous woman that she is, she told John yesterday to just take some
furnishings and stuff over to her apartment at the nursing home and "let's
get it over with". Sorry but I got a chuckle out of that. So she went to
the apartment yesterday. It's located down a *long* hallway away from some
of the shared areas (dining room, rec room, etc.) The walking is good for
her (and of course there are railings).

He went to visit her today. Knocked on the door of her apartment. No
answer. He found her in the communal dining room, chatting with a couple of
other people! He was astonished! She has never been a sociable sort of
person. When she saw him she said something like, "What are you doing here?
I just saw you yesterday!" LOL I think this is going to work out just
fine! Thanks for all the purrs!

Jill
--
I used to have a handle on life...but it broke off.

[Jo Firey]

"jmcquown" > wrote in message
...
> Cantankerous woman that she is, she told John yesterday to just take some
> furnishings and stuff over to her apartment at the nursing home and "let's
> get it over with". Sorry but I got a chuckle out of that. So she went to
> the apartment yesterday. It's located down a *long* hallway away from
> some
> of the shared areas (dining room, rec room, etc.) The walking is good for
> her (and of course there are railings).
>
> He went to visit her today. Knocked on the door of her apartment. No
> answer. He found her in the communal dining room, chatting with a couple
> of
> other people! He was astonished! She has never been a sociable sort of
> person. When she saw him she said something like, "What are you doing
> here?
> I just saw you yesterday!" LOL I think this is going to work out just
> fine! Thanks for all the purrs!
>
I'm so glad to hear this. I hoped it would work that way for her. My Mom
was never very outgoing and we had visions of her sitting alone in her
apartment. No way. Plenty of the other residents WERE outgoing and helpful
and friendly and they took her in hand. She loved it.

Jo

[Melissa Houle]

SNIP
> He went to visit her today. Knocked on the door of her apartment. No
> answer. He found her in the communal dining room, chatting with a couple
of
> other people! He was astonished! She has never been a sociable sort of
> person. When she saw him she said something like, "What are you doing
here?
> I just saw you yesterday!" LOL I think this is going to work out just
> fine! Thanks for all the purrs!
>
> Jill
> --
> I used to have a handle on life...but it broke off.
>
Glad to hear that John's Mom is settling well into her new life, and that it
looks as if she'll fit right in! I'm sure it's a huge load off John's mind,
too.

Melissa

[Adrian]

jmcquown wrote:
> Cantankerous woman that she is, she told John yesterday to just take
> some furnishings and stuff over to her apartment at the nursing home
> and "let's get it over with". Sorry but I got a chuckle out of that.
> So she went to the apartment yesterday. It's located down a *long*
> hallway away from some of the shared areas (dining room, rec room,
> etc.) The walking is good for her (and of course there are railings).
>
> He went to visit her today. Knocked on the door of her apartment. No
> answer. He found her in the communal dining room, chatting with a
> couple of other people! He was astonished! She has never been a
> sociable sort of person. When she saw him she said something like,
> "What are you doing here? I just saw you yesterday!" LOL I think
> this is going to work out just fine! Thanks for all the purrs!
>
> Jill

LOL! It sounds like John's mother is as unpredictable as a cat.
--
Adrian (Owned by Snoopy & Bagheera)
A house is not a home, without a cat.

[Christine Burel]

"jmcquown" > wrote in message
...
> Cantankerous woman that she is, she told John yesterday to just take some
> furnishings and stuff over to her apartment at the nursing home and "let's
> get it over with". Sorry but I got a chuckle out of that. So she went to
> the apartment yesterday. It's located down a *long* hallway away from
some
> of the shared areas (dining room, rec room, etc.) The walking is good for
> her (and of course there are railings).
>
> He went to visit her today. Knocked on the door of her apartment. No
> answer. He found her in the communal dining room, chatting with a couple
of
> other people! He was astonished! She has never been a sociable sort of
> person. When she saw him she said something like, "What are you doing
here?
> I just saw you yesterday!" LOL I think this is going to work out just
> fine! Thanks for all the purrs!
>
> Jill
> --
> I used to have a handle on life...but it broke off.
>
>
It sounds very promising, Jill. I'm very glad it seems to be working so
well for her. Regards to John.
Christine

[EvelynVogtGamble(Divamanque)]

jmcquown wrote:

> Cantankerous woman that she is, she told John yesterday to just take some
> furnishings and stuff over to her apartment at the nursing home and "let's
> get it over with". Sorry but I got a chuckle out of that. So she went to
> the apartment yesterday. It's located down a *long* hallway away from some
> of the shared areas (dining room, rec room, etc.) The walking is good for
> her (and of course there are railings).
>
> He went to visit her today. Knocked on the door of her apartment. No
> answer. He found her in the communal dining room, chatting with a couple of
> other people! He was astonished! She has never been a sociable sort of
> person.

Was that entirely from choice, or because she had trouble
making the effort to get out, when she lived on her own? My
mother was happy with people to talk with, too, when she
first moved to a senior residence. Problem for my Mom was
that she was a double-Sagittarius, born with both feet in
her mouth, possessing not an ounce of tact!

She always said exactly what she thought, with no idea it
might offend anyone. Her family was used to her little
ways, but strangers were not so forgiving, and old people
tend to brood and hold grudges. Consequently, it wasn't
very long before she had no friends there at all, because
newcomers were warned away before they had a chance to know
her. We all felt sorry for her, but there wasn't much we
could do, since she was her own worst enemy, and wouldn't
listen to our advice. Too bad, because there were plenty of
sociable people available, had she made a real effort. I
hope John's mother has better luck (and a less abrasive tongue).

[jmcquown]

EvelynVogtGamble(Divamanque) wrote:
> jmcquown wrote:
>
>> He went to visit her today. Knocked on the door of her apartment.
>> No answer. He found her in the communal dining room, chatting with
>> a couple of other people! He was astonished! She has never been a
>> sociable sort of person.
>
> Was that entirely from choice, or because she had trouble
> making the effort to get out, when she lived on her own?

I believe it was her choice. At 89 she was still driving (thankfully not
much) to go to the bank, the store, etc. She just acted like she didn't
like people. Only spoke to one neighbor that I know of and then only
briefly when she did.

My
> mother was happy with people to talk with, too, when she
> first moved to a senior residence. Problem for my Mom was
> that she was a double-Sagittarius, born with both feet in
> her mouth, possessing not an ounce of tact!
>
Sounds like Gretchen!

> She always said exactly what she thought, with no idea it
> might offend anyone. Her family was used to her little
> ways, but strangers were not so forgiving, and old people
> tend to brood and hold grudges. Consequently, it wasn't
> very long before she had no friends there at all, because
> newcomers were warned away before they had a chance to know
> her. We all felt sorry for her, but there wasn't much we
> could do, since she was her own worst enemy, and wouldn't
> listen to our advice. Too bad, because there were plenty of
> sociable people available, had she made a real effort. I
> hope John's mother has better luck (and a less abrasive tongue).

Thanks, I hope so, too. I mentioned in another post she is unreasonably
prejudiced. I hope she manages *not* to convey that to her fellow
residents.

Jill

[Jo Firey]

"jmcquown" > wrote in message news:MSxHe.237
> Sounds like Gretchen!
>
>> She always said exactly what she thought, with no idea it
>> might offend anyone. Her family was used to her little
>> ways, but strangers were not so forgiving, and old people
>> tend to brood and hold grudges. Consequently, it wasn't
>> very long before she had no friends there at all, because
>> newcomers were warned away before they had a chance to know
>> her. We all felt sorry for her, but there wasn't much we
>> could do, since she was her own worst enemy, and wouldn't
>> listen to our advice. Too bad, because there were plenty of
>> sociable people available, had she made a real effort. I
>> hope John's mother has better luck (and a less abrasive tongue).
>
> Thanks, I hope so, too. I mentioned in another post she is unreasonably
> prejudiced. I hope she manages *not* to convey that to her fellow
> residents.
>

Fortunately most of the time in such places the "old folks" do make
allowances. And if the staff is well trained they do stuff like rearrange
seating to help everyone to get along. It isn't in their best interest to
have inside and outside groups form like junior high school. The better
everyone gets along, the easier their lives are.

Jo

[Sam Nash]

"jmcquown" > wrote in message
...
> Cantankerous woman that she is, she told John yesterday to just take some
> furnishings and stuff over to her apartment at the nursing home and "let's
> get it over with". Sorry but I got a chuckle out of that. So she went to
> the apartment yesterday. It's located down a *long* hallway away from
> some
> of the shared areas (dining room, rec room, etc.) The walking is good for
> her (and of course there are railings).
>
> He went to visit her today. Knocked on the door of her apartment. No
> answer. He found her in the communal dining room, chatting with a couple
> of
> other people! He was astonished! She has never been a sociable sort of
> person. When she saw him she said something like, "What are you doing
> here?
> I just saw you yesterday!" LOL I think this is going to work out just
> fine! Thanks for all the purrs!
>
> Jill
> --
> I used to have a handle on life...but it broke off.
>
Great news, Jill, but if you don't mind, I'll have the crew continue the
purrs for a bit. At least until she really settles in.
Sam, closely supervised by Mistletoe

[polonca12000]

That's wonderful!
Best wishes,
--
Polonca & Soncek

"jmcquown" > wrote in message
...
> Cantankerous woman that she is, she told John yesterday to just take some
> furnishings and stuff over to her apartment at the nursing home and "let's
> get it over with". Sorry but I got a chuckle out of that. So she went to
> the apartment yesterday. It's located down a *long* hallway away from
some
> of the shared areas (dining room, rec room, etc.) The walking is good for
> her (and of course there are railings).
>
> He went to visit her today. Knocked on the door of her apartment. No
> answer. He found her in the communal dining room, chatting with a couple
of
> other people! He was astonished! She has never been a sociable sort of
> person. When she saw him she said something like, "What are you doing
here?
> I just saw you yesterday!" LOL I think this is going to work out just
> fine! Thanks for all the purrs!
>
> Jill
> --
> I used to have a handle on life...but it broke off.
>
>

[EvelynVogtGamble(Divamanque)]

jmcquown wrote:

>
> Thanks, I hope so, too. I mentioned in another post she is unreasonably
> prejudiced. I hope she manages *not* to convey that to her fellow
> residents.

Oh, that was my mom, too - there were only two ways of doing
things - her way and the wrong way. (Which didn't endear
her to people, either.)