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Kitkat
October 6th 06, 05:14 AM
Hi all. It has been just over a month. I miss him just as much if not
more every day. Here's Dudley's story for those who wanted to read about
him. :)

First off, I have to preface this by saying we had no intention of
getting another cat. I have had my Luna since she was about 6 months old
and at the time we did get Dudley, she was about 6 years old. She is a
much happier single cat, but bless her for tolerating Dudley like she did.

A friend of the family's mother passed away (Virginia was the mom, Linda
the daughter...and Linda is a dear friend of my mother-in-law.) Linda
mentioned to us that her mother was ill and did we want a beautiful
Siamese if and when she passed away. At the time we had no real interest
(for many reasons besides Luna). When Virginia finally passed away, we
went to the wake. Linda approached us right away, telling us all about
Dudley (whose name was then Jasper...i often refer to him on here as
JasperDuds or J-Dud :) ) Linda said he was a wonderful cat, a bit older,
and just needed a lap to live out his time on. I was like, NO WAY. But
then she said that I should "just go see him!!" and like a TOTAL
SUCKER...I agreed.

When we arrived at Virginia's apartment (very close to the wake, so we
literally went DURING the wake) we found Dudley just sitting on
Virginia's bed, which was one of those hospice kind of beds, not even a
cushy comfy one. Oh god my heart is breaking again just thinking about
it. He just had this look on his face like, where the HELL is my mom?
When is she coming back? From what I understand, Dudley spent just about
every moment attached to Virginia's side. :( My heart broke when I saw
him. I just KNEW I had to get him the hell out of there. Oddly, there
was another cat there, too, named Max. Max was younger and more active.
He was running around and having a jolly time. Plus, the two were NOT
bonded at all. So, right then I decided, hell yes we are getting this
cat out of here. Linda would take care of getting Max adopted. But I had
to take Dudley. He absolutely needed a home.

We brought him home and isolated him in a small room away from Luna
until we could get him in to the vet. That ended up being about 4 days
later and in that time, DH and I began to think that Dudley couldn't
see...and we also thought that he couldn't really hear!!! Apparently
Linda was not aware of this...but Dudley was deaf and blind. A
wonderful, beautiful purebred seal point Siamese whose mommy just
died... (and that mommy was his 2nd mommy...his first was ALSO an
elderly woman who died!!)...and he couldn't hear OR see and clearly had
no idea what the hell was happening to him.

We got him checked out at the vet and it was confirmed that he was
almost completely deaf and blind. Otherwise, he seemed to be in decent
health so we integrated him as best we could to the rest of the home.

Luna was never fond of him. But she is not an agressive cat, rather a
scaredy cat! So, basically they just "worked" together. Sometimes if
Dudley was walking down the hall towards Luna, she would hiss and swat
at him because she clearly had no idea he couldnt even see her.
Sometimes he would bump into her while her back was turned so neither
knew the other was there. Ahh. Such memories.

About 6 months after we got him, Dudley got sick. He was lethargic and
wouldnt eat and had thrown up quite a bit. We took him to the vet who
ran blood tests and suspected Pancreatitis. Dudley was a TERRRRRRIBLE
patient at the vet. I would be too if I could not see or hear but kept
getting poked by strange things that smelled funky!!!! So, they gave him
some fluids and some meds and sent him home to recuperate with us. This
was on a Friday and by Sunday he was not doing better and I took him to
the emergency vet. He ended up there for 2 nights and saw a specialist
who worked there during the day. She suspected pancreatitis as well and
did an ultra sound which showed some thickening of tissue in the I
HONESTLY CAN NOT REMEMBER which organ!!! :) (stomache? liver? i really
think liver) At the time, Dudley was about 12.5 years old and I could
not justify extensive and invasive testing to see if he had cancer or
not when I felt it was cruel to put him through any kind of serious
treatment. DH and I decided together then that our mission was to give
Dudley the best we could for whatever time he had left in life. We would
give him all supportive/palliative care, but we would not subject our
elderly, deaf blind cat to such stuff. When he recovered from the bout
with pancreatitis, we also had a dental done in which they removed all
of his teeth except his fangs. He was now toofless!!!!

Dudley recovered well and did not have a flare up until this past March.
He got sick and we took him to the vet immediately. He got meds and
fluids and literally bounced back within hours! It was fantastic.

Then, DH and I went on vacation to North Carolina in the middle of
August. The day we left, Dudley got sick. We had a cat sitter, but we
still didn't find out until the next day and by Friday, I had our
neighbor take him to the vet. We really hoped he would bounce back
again...but alas this time he did not. We came home from vacation early
and had him back and forth to the vet for just over another week. But
his systems were just not working properly. He was constipated and quite
frustrated about it. I was giving him fluids at home and then eventually
was also giving him all of his meds at home via injection. Just over a
week later, we really started to realize this was not going to get
better. On a Monday night, we knew it was time. His breathing was
labored, he could barely eat and he kept trying to use the litter box
but couldnt. We decided we would take him in the morning to be
euthanized and we cried all night about it. Late that night we said good
night and my DH told Dudley it was okay to LET GO. We pet him and we
told him we loved him and that he should stop fighting.

He died shortly thereafter. We were in the next room sleeping. My Dudley
died on his own terms in his own home with his loving mommy and daddy
just down the hall. We awoke the next morning prepared to take him to
the vet and he was gone.

We loved Dudley SO DAMN MUCH. His ashes are now back at home with us
where he belongs.

I'm bawling.
I miss him.
He was such a wonderful creature and I learned SOOOO much from having
him. Two years was not enough.

Here he is....happy and (relatively) healthy:

http://public.fotki.com/kitkatluna/animals/jasper_dudley/window4.html
that is the picture on his special urn

http://public.fotki.com/kitkatluna/animals/jasper_dudley/dscf0007.html
he loved the window!

http://public.fotki.com/kitkatluna/animals/jasper_dudley/dscf0019.html
his infamous buddha pose

http://public.fotki.com/kitkatluna/miscellaneous/random/jasper.html
the day we brought him home

John Ross Mc Master
October 6th 06, 05:24 AM
He's beautiful. God bless you in this time of grief. You will be
reunited.


On Fri, 06 Oct 2006 04:14:54 GMT, Kitkat >
wrote:

>Hi all. It has been just over a month. I miss him just as much if not
>more every day. Here's Dudley's story for those who wanted to read about
>him. :)
>
>First off, I have to preface this by saying we had no intention of
>getting another cat. I have had my Luna since she was about 6 months old
>and at the time we did get Dudley, she was about 6 years old. She is a
>much happier single cat, but bless her for tolerating Dudley like she did.
>
>A friend of the family's mother passed away (Virginia was the mom, Linda
>the daughter...and Linda is a dear friend of my mother-in-law.) Linda
>mentioned to us that her mother was ill and did we want a beautiful
>Siamese if and when she passed away. At the time we had no real interest
>(for many reasons besides Luna). When Virginia finally passed away, we
>went to the wake. Linda approached us right away, telling us all about
>Dudley (whose name was then Jasper...i often refer to him on here as
>JasperDuds or J-Dud :) ) Linda said he was a wonderful cat, a bit older,
>and just needed a lap to live out his time on. I was like, NO WAY. But
>then she said that I should "just go see him!!" and like a TOTAL
>SUCKER...I agreed.
>
>When we arrived at Virginia's apartment (very close to the wake, so we
>literally went DURING the wake) we found Dudley just sitting on
>Virginia's bed, which was one of those hospice kind of beds, not even a
>cushy comfy one. Oh god my heart is breaking again just thinking about
>it. He just had this look on his face like, where the HELL is my mom?
>When is she coming back? From what I understand, Dudley spent just about
>every moment attached to Virginia's side. :( My heart broke when I saw
>him. I just KNEW I had to get him the hell out of there. Oddly, there
>was another cat there, too, named Max. Max was younger and more active.
>He was running around and having a jolly time. Plus, the two were NOT
>bonded at all. So, right then I decided, hell yes we are getting this
>cat out of here. Linda would take care of getting Max adopted. But I had
>to take Dudley. He absolutely needed a home.
>
>We brought him home and isolated him in a small room away from Luna
>until we could get him in to the vet. That ended up being about 4 days
>later and in that time, DH and I began to think that Dudley couldn't
>see...and we also thought that he couldn't really hear!!! Apparently
>Linda was not aware of this...but Dudley was deaf and blind. A
>wonderful, beautiful purebred seal point Siamese whose mommy just
>died... (and that mommy was his 2nd mommy...his first was ALSO an
>elderly woman who died!!)...and he couldn't hear OR see and clearly had
>no idea what the hell was happening to him.
>
>We got him checked out at the vet and it was confirmed that he was
>almost completely deaf and blind. Otherwise, he seemed to be in decent
>health so we integrated him as best we could to the rest of the home.
>
>Luna was never fond of him. But she is not an agressive cat, rather a
>scaredy cat! So, basically they just "worked" together. Sometimes if
>Dudley was walking down the hall towards Luna, she would hiss and swat
>at him because she clearly had no idea he couldnt even see her.
>Sometimes he would bump into her while her back was turned so neither
>knew the other was there. Ahh. Such memories.
>
>About 6 months after we got him, Dudley got sick. He was lethargic and
>wouldnt eat and had thrown up quite a bit. We took him to the vet who
>ran blood tests and suspected Pancreatitis. Dudley was a TERRRRRRIBLE
>patient at the vet. I would be too if I could not see or hear but kept
>getting poked by strange things that smelled funky!!!! So, they gave him
>some fluids and some meds and sent him home to recuperate with us. This
>was on a Friday and by Sunday he was not doing better and I took him to
>the emergency vet. He ended up there for 2 nights and saw a specialist
>who worked there during the day. She suspected pancreatitis as well and
>did an ultra sound which showed some thickening of tissue in the I
>HONESTLY CAN NOT REMEMBER which organ!!! :) (stomache? liver? i really
>think liver) At the time, Dudley was about 12.5 years old and I could
>not justify extensive and invasive testing to see if he had cancer or
>not when I felt it was cruel to put him through any kind of serious
>treatment. DH and I decided together then that our mission was to give
>Dudley the best we could for whatever time he had left in life. We would
>give him all supportive/palliative care, but we would not subject our
>elderly, deaf blind cat to such stuff. When he recovered from the bout
>with pancreatitis, we also had a dental done in which they removed all
>of his teeth except his fangs. He was now toofless!!!!
>
>Dudley recovered well and did not have a flare up until this past March.
>He got sick and we took him to the vet immediately. He got meds and
>fluids and literally bounced back within hours! It was fantastic.
>
>Then, DH and I went on vacation to North Carolina in the middle of
>August. The day we left, Dudley got sick. We had a cat sitter, but we
>still didn't find out until the next day and by Friday, I had our
>neighbor take him to the vet. We really hoped he would bounce back
>again...but alas this time he did not. We came home from vacation early
>and had him back and forth to the vet for just over another week. But
>his systems were just not working properly. He was constipated and quite
>frustrated about it. I was giving him fluids at home and then eventually
>was also giving him all of his meds at home via injection. Just over a
>week later, we really started to realize this was not going to get
>better. On a Monday night, we knew it was time. His breathing was
>labored, he could barely eat and he kept trying to use the litter box
>but couldnt. We decided we would take him in the morning to be
>euthanized and we cried all night about it. Late that night we said good
>night and my DH told Dudley it was okay to LET GO. We pet him and we
>told him we loved him and that he should stop fighting.
>
>He died shortly thereafter. We were in the next room sleeping. My Dudley
>died on his own terms in his own home with his loving mommy and daddy
>just down the hall. We awoke the next morning prepared to take him to
>the vet and he was gone.
>
>We loved Dudley SO DAMN MUCH. His ashes are now back at home with us
>where he belongs.
>
>I'm bawling.
>I miss him.
>He was such a wonderful creature and I learned SOOOO much from having
>him. Two years was not enough.
>
>Here he is....happy and (relatively) healthy:
>
>http://public.fotki.com/kitkatluna/animals/jasper_dudley/window4.html
>that is the picture on his special urn
>
>http://public.fotki.com/kitkatluna/animals/jasper_dudley/dscf0007.html
>he loved the window!
>
>http://public.fotki.com/kitkatluna/animals/jasper_dudley/dscf0019.html
>his infamous buddha pose
>
>http://public.fotki.com/kitkatluna/miscellaneous/random/jasper.html
>the day we brought him home

Elle
October 6th 06, 05:26 AM
What a beautiful cat Dudley was. Thank you for loving him
and sharing his story.

John Ross Mc Master
October 6th 06, 05:28 AM
Although he died in August, I know you haven't gotten over it. My
Beast died in 2004 and I still cry over her. Again, God bless you.



On Fri, 06 Oct 2006 04:14:54 GMT, Kitkat >
wrote:

>Hi all. It has been just over a month. I miss him just as much if not
>more every day. Here's Dudley's story for those who wanted to read about
>him. :)
>
>First off, I have to preface this by saying we had no intention of
>getting another cat. I have had my Luna since she was about 6 months old
>and at the time we did get Dudley, she was about 6 years old. She is a
>much happier single cat, but bless her for tolerating Dudley like she did.
>
>A friend of the family's mother passed away (Virginia was the mom, Linda
>the daughter...and Linda is a dear friend of my mother-in-law.) Linda
>mentioned to us that her mother was ill and did we want a beautiful
>Siamese if and when she passed away. At the time we had no real interest
>(for many reasons besides Luna). When Virginia finally passed away, we
>went to the wake. Linda approached us right away, telling us all about
>Dudley (whose name was then Jasper...i often refer to him on here as
>JasperDuds or J-Dud :) ) Linda said he was a wonderful cat, a bit older,
>and just needed a lap to live out his time on. I was like, NO WAY. But
>then she said that I should "just go see him!!" and like a TOTAL
>SUCKER...I agreed.
>
>When we arrived at Virginia's apartment (very close to the wake, so we
>literally went DURING the wake) we found Dudley just sitting on
>Virginia's bed, which was one of those hospice kind of beds, not even a
>cushy comfy one. Oh god my heart is breaking again just thinking about
>it. He just had this look on his face like, where the HELL is my mom?
>When is she coming back? From what I understand, Dudley spent just about
>every moment attached to Virginia's side. :( My heart broke when I saw
>him. I just KNEW I had to get him the hell out of there. Oddly, there
>was another cat there, too, named Max. Max was younger and more active.
>He was running around and having a jolly time. Plus, the two were NOT
>bonded at all. So, right then I decided, hell yes we are getting this
>cat out of here. Linda would take care of getting Max adopted. But I had
>to take Dudley. He absolutely needed a home.
>
>We brought him home and isolated him in a small room away from Luna
>until we could get him in to the vet. That ended up being about 4 days
>later and in that time, DH and I began to think that Dudley couldn't
>see...and we also thought that he couldn't really hear!!! Apparently
>Linda was not aware of this...but Dudley was deaf and blind. A
>wonderful, beautiful purebred seal point Siamese whose mommy just
>died... (and that mommy was his 2nd mommy...his first was ALSO an
>elderly woman who died!!)...and he couldn't hear OR see and clearly had
>no idea what the hell was happening to him.
>
>We got him checked out at the vet and it was confirmed that he was
>almost completely deaf and blind. Otherwise, he seemed to be in decent
>health so we integrated him as best we could to the rest of the home.
>
>Luna was never fond of him. But she is not an agressive cat, rather a
>scaredy cat! So, basically they just "worked" together. Sometimes if
>Dudley was walking down the hall towards Luna, she would hiss and swat
>at him because she clearly had no idea he couldnt even see her.
>Sometimes he would bump into her while her back was turned so neither
>knew the other was there. Ahh. Such memories.
>
>About 6 months after we got him, Dudley got sick. He was lethargic and
>wouldnt eat and had thrown up quite a bit. We took him to the vet who
>ran blood tests and suspected Pancreatitis. Dudley was a TERRRRRRIBLE
>patient at the vet. I would be too if I could not see or hear but kept
>getting poked by strange things that smelled funky!!!! So, they gave him
>some fluids and some meds and sent him home to recuperate with us. This
>was on a Friday and by Sunday he was not doing better and I took him to
>the emergency vet. He ended up there for 2 nights and saw a specialist
>who worked there during the day. She suspected pancreatitis as well and
>did an ultra sound which showed some thickening of tissue in the I
>HONESTLY CAN NOT REMEMBER which organ!!! :) (stomache? liver? i really
>think liver) At the time, Dudley was about 12.5 years old and I could
>not justify extensive and invasive testing to see if he had cancer or
>not when I felt it was cruel to put him through any kind of serious
>treatment. DH and I decided together then that our mission was to give
>Dudley the best we could for whatever time he had left in life. We would
>give him all supportive/palliative care, but we would not subject our
>elderly, deaf blind cat to such stuff. When he recovered from the bout
>with pancreatitis, we also had a dental done in which they removed all
>of his teeth except his fangs. He was now toofless!!!!
>
>Dudley recovered well and did not have a flare up until this past March.
>He got sick and we took him to the vet immediately. He got meds and
>fluids and literally bounced back within hours! It was fantastic.
>
>Then, DH and I went on vacation to North Carolina in the middle of
>August. The day we left, Dudley got sick. We had a cat sitter, but we
>still didn't find out until the next day and by Friday, I had our
>neighbor take him to the vet. We really hoped he would bounce back
>again...but alas this time he did not. We came home from vacation early
>and had him back and forth to the vet for just over another week. But
>his systems were just not working properly. He was constipated and quite
>frustrated about it. I was giving him fluids at home and then eventually
>was also giving him all of his meds at home via injection. Just over a
>week later, we really started to realize this was not going to get
>better. On a Monday night, we knew it was time. His breathing was
>labored, he could barely eat and he kept trying to use the litter box
>but couldnt. We decided we would take him in the morning to be
>euthanized and we cried all night about it. Late that night we said good
>night and my DH told Dudley it was okay to LET GO. We pet him and we
>told him we loved him and that he should stop fighting.
>
>He died shortly thereafter. We were in the next room sleeping. My Dudley
>died on his own terms in his own home with his loving mommy and daddy
>just down the hall. We awoke the next morning prepared to take him to
>the vet and he was gone.
>
>We loved Dudley SO DAMN MUCH. His ashes are now back at home with us
>where he belongs.
>
>I'm bawling.
>I miss him.
>He was such a wonderful creature and I learned SOOOO much from having
>him. Two years was not enough.
>
>Here he is....happy and (relatively) healthy:
>
>http://public.fotki.com/kitkatluna/animals/jasper_dudley/window4.html
>that is the picture on his special urn
>
>http://public.fotki.com/kitkatluna/animals/jasper_dudley/dscf0007.html
>he loved the window!
>
>http://public.fotki.com/kitkatluna/animals/jasper_dudley/dscf0019.html
>his infamous buddha pose
>
>http://public.fotki.com/kitkatluna/miscellaneous/random/jasper.html
>the day we brought him home

Kitkat
October 6th 06, 05:34 AM
John Ross Mc Master wrote:
> Although he died in August, I know you haven't gotten over it. My
> Beast died in 2004 and I still cry over her. Again, God bless you.
>

Definitely...NOT over it at all. I can't believe how hard I just cried
while typing all of that. Sometimes it just overwhelms me!!!!!!!!

One thing I have been able to do again...I sing songs about him. DH and
I always change the lyrics of songs and fit in Dudley somehow. Our motto
was "ALL DUDLEY...ALL THE TIME!" and I find I am able to sing about him
more now than I was at first.

It just takes time. Like, pretty much forever!

:)

22brix
October 6th 06, 06:34 AM
What an absolutely gorgeous cat. I think you were both lucky to have found
each other! I'm so very sorry for your loss--thank you for sharing his
story.

Bonnie

"Kitkat" > wrote in message
m...
> Hi all. It has been just over a month. I miss him just as much if not more
> every day. Here's Dudley's story for those who wanted to read about him.
> :)
>
> First off, I have to preface this by saying we had no intention of getting
> another cat. I have had my Luna since she was about 6 months old and at
> the time we did get Dudley, she was about 6 years old. She is a much
> happier single cat, but bless her for tolerating Dudley like she did.
>
> A friend of the family's mother passed away (Virginia was the mom, Linda
> the daughter...and Linda is a dear friend of my mother-in-law.) Linda
> mentioned to us that her mother was ill and did we want a beautiful
> Siamese if and when she passed away. At the time we had no real interest
> (for many reasons besides Luna). When Virginia finally passed away, we
> went to the wake. Linda approached us right away, telling us all about
> Dudley (whose name was then Jasper...i often refer to him on here as
> JasperDuds or J-Dud :) ) Linda said he was a wonderful cat, a bit older,
> and just needed a lap to live out his time on. I was like, NO WAY. But
> then she said that I should "just go see him!!" and like a TOTAL
> SUCKER...I agreed.
>
> When we arrived at Virginia's apartment (very close to the wake, so we
> literally went DURING the wake) we found Dudley just sitting on Virginia's
> bed, which was one of those hospice kind of beds, not even a cushy comfy
> one. Oh god my heart is breaking again just thinking about it. He just had
> this look on his face like, where the HELL is my mom? When is she coming
> back? From what I understand, Dudley spent just about every moment
> attached to Virginia's side. :( My heart broke when I saw him. I just
> KNEW I had to get him the hell out of there. Oddly, there was another cat
> there, too, named Max. Max was younger and more active. He was running
> around and having a jolly time. Plus, the two were NOT bonded at all. So,
> right then I decided, hell yes we are getting this cat out of here. Linda
> would take care of getting Max adopted. But I had to take Dudley. He
> absolutely needed a home.
>
> We brought him home and isolated him in a small room away from Luna until
> we could get him in to the vet. That ended up being about 4 days later and
> in that time, DH and I began to think that Dudley couldn't see...and we
> also thought that he couldn't really hear!!! Apparently Linda was not
> aware of this...but Dudley was deaf and blind. A wonderful, beautiful
> purebred seal point Siamese whose mommy just died... (and that mommy was
> his 2nd mommy...his first was ALSO an elderly woman who died!!)...and he
> couldn't hear OR see and clearly had no idea what the hell was happening
> to him.
>
> We got him checked out at the vet and it was confirmed that he was almost
> completely deaf and blind. Otherwise, he seemed to be in decent health so
> we integrated him as best we could to the rest of the home.
>
> Luna was never fond of him. But she is not an agressive cat, rather a
> scaredy cat! So, basically they just "worked" together. Sometimes if
> Dudley was walking down the hall towards Luna, she would hiss and swat at
> him because she clearly had no idea he couldnt even see her. Sometimes he
> would bump into her while her back was turned so neither knew the other
> was there. Ahh. Such memories.
>
> About 6 months after we got him, Dudley got sick. He was lethargic and
> wouldnt eat and had thrown up quite a bit. We took him to the vet who ran
> blood tests and suspected Pancreatitis. Dudley was a TERRRRRRIBLE patient
> at the vet. I would be too if I could not see or hear but kept getting
> poked by strange things that smelled funky!!!! So, they gave him some
> fluids and some meds and sent him home to recuperate with us. This was on
> a Friday and by Sunday he was not doing better and I took him to the
> emergency vet. He ended up there for 2 nights and saw a specialist who
> worked there during the day. She suspected pancreatitis as well and did an
> ultra sound which showed some thickening of tissue in the I HONESTLY CAN
> NOT REMEMBER which organ!!! :) (stomache? liver? i really think liver) At
> the time, Dudley was about 12.5 years old and I could not justify
> extensive and invasive testing to see if he had cancer or not when I felt
> it was cruel to put him through any kind of serious treatment. DH and I
> decided together then that our mission was to give Dudley the best we
> could for whatever time he had left in life. We would give him all
> supportive/palliative care, but we would not subject our elderly, deaf
> blind cat to such stuff. When he recovered from the bout with
> pancreatitis, we also had a dental done in which they removed all of his
> teeth except his fangs. He was now toofless!!!!
>
> Dudley recovered well and did not have a flare up until this past March.
> He got sick and we took him to the vet immediately. He got meds and fluids
> and literally bounced back within hours! It was fantastic.
>
> Then, DH and I went on vacation to North Carolina in the middle of August.
> The day we left, Dudley got sick. We had a cat sitter, but we still didn't
> find out until the next day and by Friday, I had our neighbor take him to
> the vet. We really hoped he would bounce back again...but alas this time
> he did not. We came home from vacation early and had him back and forth to
> the vet for just over another week. But his systems were just not working
> properly. He was constipated and quite frustrated about it. I was giving
> him fluids at home and then eventually was also giving him all of his meds
> at home via injection. Just over a week later, we really started to
> realize this was not going to get better. On a Monday night, we knew it
> was time. His breathing was labored, he could barely eat and he kept
> trying to use the litter box but couldnt. We decided we would take him in
> the morning to be euthanized and we cried all night about it. Late that
> night we said good night and my DH told Dudley it was okay to LET GO. We
> pet him and we told him we loved him and that he should stop fighting.
>
> He died shortly thereafter. We were in the next room sleeping. My Dudley
> died on his own terms in his own home with his loving mommy and daddy just
> down the hall. We awoke the next morning prepared to take him to the vet
> and he was gone.
>
> We loved Dudley SO DAMN MUCH. His ashes are now back at home with us where
> he belongs.
>
> I'm bawling.
> I miss him.
> He was such a wonderful creature and I learned SOOOO much from having him.
> Two years was not enough.
>
> Here he is....happy and (relatively) healthy:
>
> http://public.fotki.com/kitkatluna/animals/jasper_dudley/window4.html
> that is the picture on his special urn
>
> http://public.fotki.com/kitkatluna/animals/jasper_dudley/dscf0007.html
> he loved the window!
>
> http://public.fotki.com/kitkatluna/animals/jasper_dudley/dscf0019.html
> his infamous buddha pose
>
> http://public.fotki.com/kitkatluna/miscellaneous/random/jasper.html
> the day we brought him home

mlbriggs
October 6th 06, 06:38 AM
On Fri, 06 Oct 2006 04:14:54 +0000, Kitkat wrote:

> Hi all. It has been just over a month. I miss him just as much if not
> more every day. Here's Dudley's story for those who wanted to read about
> him. :)
>
> First off, I have to preface this by saying we had no intention of
> getting another cat. I have had my Luna since she was about 6 months old
> and at the time we did get Dudley, she was about 6 years old. She is a
> much happier single cat, but bless her for tolerating Dudley like she did.
>
> A friend of the family's mother passed away (Virginia was the mom, Linda
> the daughter...and Linda is a dear friend of my mother-in-law.) Linda
> mentioned to us that her mother was ill and did we want a beautiful
> Siamese if and when she passed away. At the time we had no real interest
> (for many reasons besides Luna). When Virginia finally passed away, we
> went to the wake. Linda approached us right away, telling us all about
> Dudley (whose name was then Jasper...i often refer to him on here as
> JasperDuds or J-Dud :) ) Linda said he was a wonderful cat, a bit older,
> and just needed a lap to live out his time on. I was like, NO WAY. But
> then she said that I should "just go see him!!" and like a TOTAL
> SUCKER...I agreed.
>
> When we arrived at Virginia's apartment (very close to the wake, so we
> literally went DURING the wake) we found Dudley just sitting on
> Virginia's bed, which was one of those hospice kind of beds, not even a
> cushy comfy one. Oh god my heart is breaking again just thinking about
> it. He just had this look on his face like, where the HELL is my mom?
> When is she coming back? From what I understand, Dudley spent just about
> every moment attached to Virginia's side. :( My heart broke when I saw
> him. I just KNEW I had to get him the hell out of there. Oddly, there
> was another cat there, too, named Max. Max was younger and more active.
> He was running around and having a jolly time. Plus, the two were NOT
> bonded at all. So, right then I decided, hell yes we are getting this
> cat out of here. Linda would take care of getting Max adopted. But I had
> to take Dudley. He absolutely needed a home.
>
> We brought him home and isolated him in a small room away from Luna
> until we could get him in to the vet. That ended up being about 4 days
> later and in that time, DH and I began to think that Dudley couldn't
> see...and we also thought that he couldn't really hear!!! Apparently
> Linda was not aware of this...but Dudley was deaf and blind. A
> wonderful, beautiful purebred seal point Siamese whose mommy just
> died... (and that mommy was his 2nd mommy...his first was ALSO an
> elderly woman who died!!)...and he couldn't hear OR see and clearly had
> no idea what the hell was happening to him.
>
> We got him checked out at the vet and it was confirmed that he was
> almost completely deaf and blind. Otherwise, he seemed to be in decent
> health so we integrated him as best we could to the rest of the home.
>
> Luna was never fond of him. But she is not an agressive cat, rather a
> scaredy cat! So, basically they just "worked" together. Sometimes if
> Dudley was walking down the hall towards Luna, she would hiss and swat
> at him because she clearly had no idea he couldnt even see her.
> Sometimes he would bump into her while her back was turned so neither
> knew the other was there. Ahh. Such memories.
>
> About 6 months after we got him, Dudley got sick. He was lethargic and
> wouldnt eat and had thrown up quite a bit. We took him to the vet who
> ran blood tests and suspected Pancreatitis. Dudley was a TERRRRRRIBLE
> patient at the vet. I would be too if I could not see or hear but kept
> getting poked by strange things that smelled funky!!!! So, they gave him
> some fluids and some meds and sent him home to recuperate with us. This
> was on a Friday and by Sunday he was not doing better and I took him to
> the emergency vet. He ended up there for 2 nights and saw a specialist
> who worked there during the day. She suspected pancreatitis as well and
> did an ultra sound which showed some thickening of tissue in the I
> HONESTLY CAN NOT REMEMBER which organ!!! :) (stomache? liver? i really
> think liver) At the time, Dudley was about 12.5 years old and I could
> not justify extensive and invasive testing to see if he had cancer or
> not when I felt it was cruel to put him through any kind of serious
> treatment. DH and I decided together then that our mission was to give
> Dudley the best we could for whatever time he had left in life. We would
> give him all supportive/palliative care, but we would not subject our
> elderly, deaf blind cat to such stuff. When he recovered from the bout
> with pancreatitis, we also had a dental done in which they removed all
> of his teeth except his fangs. He was now toofless!!!!
>
> Dudley recovered well and did not have a flare up until this past March.
> He got sick and we took him to the vet immediately. He got meds and
> fluids and literally bounced back within hours! It was fantastic.
>
> Then, DH and I went on vacation to North Carolina in the middle of
> August. The day we left, Dudley got sick. We had a cat sitter, but we
> still didn't find out until the next day and by Friday, I had our
> neighbor take him to the vet. We really hoped he would bounce back
> again...but alas this time he did not. We came home from vacation early
> and had him back and forth to the vet for just over another week. But
> his systems were just not working properly. He was constipated and quite
> frustrated about it. I was giving him fluids at home and then eventually
> was also giving him all of his meds at home via injection. Just over a
> week later, we really started to realize this was not going to get
> better. On a Monday night, we knew it was time. His breathing was
> labored, he could barely eat and he kept trying to use the litter box
> but couldnt. We decided we would take him in the morning to be
> euthanized and we cried all night about it. Late that night we said good
> night and my DH told Dudley it was okay to LET GO. We pet him and we
> told him we loved him and that he should stop fighting.
>
> He died shortly thereafter. We were in the next room sleeping. My Dudley
> died on his own terms in his own home with his loving mommy and daddy
> just down the hall. We awoke the next morning prepared to take him to
> the vet and he was gone.
>
> We loved Dudley SO DAMN MUCH. His ashes are now back at home with us
> where he belongs.
>
> I'm bawling.
> I miss him.
> He was such a wonderful creature and I learned SOOOO much from having
> him. Two years was not enough.
>
> Here he is....happy and (relatively) healthy:
>
> http://public.fotki.com/kitkatluna/animals/jasper_dudley/window4.html
> that is the picture on his special urn
>
> http://public.fotki.com/kitkatluna/animals/jasper_dudley/dscf0007.html
> he loved the window!
>
> http://public.fotki.com/kitkatluna/animals/jasper_dudley/dscf0019.html
> his infamous buddha pose
>
> http://public.fotki.com/kitkatluna/miscellaneous/random/jasper.html
> the day we brought him home


My Princess (RB 16) was a beautiful Siamese like Dudley. It has been over
9 years and I still miss her. Best wishes. MLB

Lynne
October 6th 06, 01:27 PM
Kitkat wrote:
> Hi all. It has been just over a month. I miss him just as much if not
> more every day. Here's Dudley's story for those who wanted to read about
> him. :)
>
> First off, I have to preface this by saying we had no intention of
> getting another cat. I have had my Luna since she was about 6 months old
> and at the time we did get Dudley, she was about 6 years old. She is a
> much happier single cat, but bless her for tolerating Dudley like she did.
>
> A friend of the family's mother passed away (Virginia was the mom, Linda
> the daughter...and Linda is a dear friend of my mother-in-law.) Linda
> mentioned to us that her mother was ill and did we want a beautiful
> Siamese if and when she passed away. At the time we had no real interest
> (for many reasons besides Luna). When Virginia finally passed away, we
> went to the wake. Linda approached us right away, telling us all about
> Dudley (whose name was then Jasper...i often refer to him on here as
> JasperDuds or J-Dud :) ) Linda said he was a wonderful cat, a bit older,
> and just needed a lap to live out his time on. I was like, NO WAY. But
> then she said that I should "just go see him!!" and like a TOTAL
> SUCKER...I agreed.
>
> When we arrived at Virginia's apartment (very close to the wake, so we
> literally went DURING the wake) we found Dudley just sitting on
> Virginia's bed, which was one of those hospice kind of beds, not even a
> cushy comfy one. Oh god my heart is breaking again just thinking about
> it. He just had this look on his face like, where the HELL is my mom?
> When is she coming back? From what I understand, Dudley spent just about
> every moment attached to Virginia's side. :( My heart broke when I saw
> him. I just KNEW I had to get him the hell out of there. Oddly, there
> was another cat there, too, named Max. Max was younger and more active.
> He was running around and having a jolly time. Plus, the two were NOT
> bonded at all. So, right then I decided, hell yes we are getting this
> cat out of here. Linda would take care of getting Max adopted. But I had
> to take Dudley. He absolutely needed a home.
>
> We brought him home and isolated him in a small room away from Luna
> until we could get him in to the vet. That ended up being about 4 days
> later and in that time, DH and I began to think that Dudley couldn't
> see...and we also thought that he couldn't really hear!!! Apparently
> Linda was not aware of this...but Dudley was deaf and blind. A
> wonderful, beautiful purebred seal point Siamese whose mommy just
> died... (and that mommy was his 2nd mommy...his first was ALSO an
> elderly woman who died!!)...and he couldn't hear OR see and clearly had
> no idea what the hell was happening to him.
>
> We got him checked out at the vet and it was confirmed that he was
> almost completely deaf and blind. Otherwise, he seemed to be in decent
> health so we integrated him as best we could to the rest of the home.
>
> Luna was never fond of him. But she is not an agressive cat, rather a
> scaredy cat! So, basically they just "worked" together. Sometimes if
> Dudley was walking down the hall towards Luna, she would hiss and swat
> at him because she clearly had no idea he couldnt even see her.
> Sometimes he would bump into her while her back was turned so neither
> knew the other was there. Ahh. Such memories.
>
> About 6 months after we got him, Dudley got sick. He was lethargic and
> wouldnt eat and had thrown up quite a bit. We took him to the vet who
> ran blood tests and suspected Pancreatitis. Dudley was a TERRRRRRIBLE
> patient at the vet. I would be too if I could not see or hear but kept
> getting poked by strange things that smelled funky!!!! So, they gave him
> some fluids and some meds and sent him home to recuperate with us. This
> was on a Friday and by Sunday he was not doing better and I took him to
> the emergency vet. He ended up there for 2 nights and saw a specialist
> who worked there during the day. She suspected pancreatitis as well and
> did an ultra sound which showed some thickening of tissue in the I
> HONESTLY CAN NOT REMEMBER which organ!!! :) (stomache? liver? i really
> think liver) At the time, Dudley was about 12.5 years old and I could
> not justify extensive and invasive testing to see if he had cancer or
> not when I felt it was cruel to put him through any kind of serious
> treatment. DH and I decided together then that our mission was to give
> Dudley the best we could for whatever time he had left in life. We would
> give him all supportive/palliative care, but we would not subject our
> elderly, deaf blind cat to such stuff. When he recovered from the bout
> with pancreatitis, we also had a dental done in which they removed all
> of his teeth except his fangs. He was now toofless!!!!
>
> Dudley recovered well and did not have a flare up until this past March.
> He got sick and we took him to the vet immediately. He got meds and
> fluids and literally bounced back within hours! It was fantastic.
>
> Then, DH and I went on vacation to North Carolina in the middle of
> August. The day we left, Dudley got sick. We had a cat sitter, but we
> still didn't find out until the next day and by Friday, I had our
> neighbor take him to the vet. We really hoped he would bounce back
> again...but alas this time he did not. We came home from vacation early
> and had him back and forth to the vet for just over another week. But
> his systems were just not working properly. He was constipated and quite
> frustrated about it. I was giving him fluids at home and then eventually
> was also giving him all of his meds at home via injection. Just over a
> week later, we really started to realize this was not going to get
> better. On a Monday night, we knew it was time. His breathing was
> labored, he could barely eat and he kept trying to use the litter box
> but couldnt. We decided we would take him in the morning to be
> euthanized and we cried all night about it. Late that night we said good
> night and my DH told Dudley it was okay to LET GO. We pet him and we
> told him we loved him and that he should stop fighting.
>
> He died shortly thereafter. We were in the next room sleeping. My Dudley
> died on his own terms in his own home with his loving mommy and daddy
> just down the hall. We awoke the next morning prepared to take him to
> the vet and he was gone.
>
> We loved Dudley SO DAMN MUCH. His ashes are now back at home with us
> where he belongs.
>
> I'm bawling.
> I miss him.
> He was such a wonderful creature and I learned SOOOO much from having
> him. Two years was not enough.
>
> Here he is....happy and (relatively) healthy:
>
> http://public.fotki.com/kitkatluna/animals/jasper_dudley/window4.html
> that is the picture on his special urn
>
> http://public.fotki.com/kitkatluna/animals/jasper_dudley/dscf0007.html
> he loved the window!
>
> http://public.fotki.com/kitkatluna/animals/jasper_dudley/dscf0019.html
> his infamous buddha pose
>
> http://public.fotki.com/kitkatluna/miscellaneous/random/jasper.html
> the day we brought him home

Beautiful cat, beautiful story! Thanks for sharing.

We just lost our little blind boy 2 months ago. Very sad story, he
wasn't even a year old. He had some kind of neurological damage after
neutering surgery and a partial loss of vision. He adapted just fine,
but then went completely blind a few weeks before his death and became
very upset. Just as he was starting to adapt again, he went into
seizures that would not stop and died at the emergency clinic. I can't
even think about it...

Elle
October 6th 06, 03:41 PM
I am sorry, Lynne. That's quite a burden to shoulder. You
did everything you could for this kitten.

"Lynne" > wrote
> Beautiful cat, beautiful story! Thanks for sharing.
>
> We just lost our little blind boy 2 months ago. Very sad
> story, he
> wasn't even a year old. He had some kind of neurological
> damage after
> neutering surgery and a partial loss of vision. He
> adapted just fine,
> but then went completely blind a few weeks before his
> death and became
> very upset. Just as he was starting to adapt again, he
> went into
> seizures that would not stop and died at the emergency
> clinic. I can't
> even think about it...
>

cybercat
October 6th 06, 05:07 PM
"Kitkat" > wrote in message
om...
> John Ross Mc Master wrote:
>> Although he died in August, I know you haven't gotten over it. My
>> Beast died in 2004 and I still cry over her. Again, God bless you.
>>
>
> Definitely...NOT over it at all. I can't believe how hard I just cried
> while typing all of that. Sometimes it just overwhelms me!!!!!!!!
>


I think about you two every day.

> One thing I have been able to do again...I sing songs about him. DH and I
> always change the lyrics of songs and fit in Dudley somehow. Our motto was
> "ALL DUDLEY...ALL THE TIME!" and I find I am able to sing about him more
> now than I was at first.
>

Pam this is SOO funny! I do the same thing! My latest, which I serenaded
Gracie with when I intercepted her while she was vaulting off of my
pillow this morning--"I want to knowww what FUZZZ IZZZZZZZ ...
I WANT YOU TO SHOWWWWWW MEEEE."

They get even worse.

There is one I like to call the Weasel Cantata that is entirely
"instrumental," sung scat-style. It is a tribute to her weasellyness.

Sounds to me like you and Tim got beat by the same silly stick
as I did when you were young. :)



--
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Rhonda
October 6th 06, 05:22 PM
Kitkat wrote:
> Hi all. It has been just over a month. I miss him just as much if not
> more every day. Here's Dudley's story for those who wanted to read about
> him. :)

Thanks for writing that, Pam. The way you found him was just incredible.
Seeing him sitting on his owner's bed would have got me too! That was
touching.

Then to find out he can't see or hear -- he's very lucky he ended up
with you.

I'm glad he had some time with you. What a sweet cat.

Take care,

Rhonda

Kitkat
October 7th 06, 02:28 AM
cybercat wrote:

>
>
> Pam this is SOO funny! I do the same thing! My latest, which I serenaded
> Gracie with when I intercepted her while she was vaulting off of my
> pillow this morning--"I want to knowww what FUZZZ IZZZZZZZ ...
> I WANT YOU TO SHOWWWWWW MEEEE."
>
> They get even worse.
>

We do it to just about every song we hear. Sometimes, we'll just look at
eachother at the time when we would have both started singing his name
in the song...and just smile. It's stil hard.
>
> Sounds to me like you and Tim got beat by the same silly stick
> as I did when you were young. :)

It sure seems like it!!!

:)

Kitkat
October 7th 06, 05:29 AM
Rhonda wrote:
> Kitkat wrote:
>
>> Hi all. It has been just over a month. I miss him just as much if not
>> more every day. Here's Dudley's story for those who wanted to read
>> about him. :)
>
>
> Thanks for writing that, Pam. The way you found him was just incredible.
> Seeing him sitting on his owner's bed would have got me too! That was
> touching.
>
> Then to find out he can't see or hear -- he's very lucky he ended up
> with you.
>
> I'm glad he had some time with you. What a sweet cat.
>
> Take care,
>
> Rhonda
>

Thanks, Rhonda. He was indeed sweet...sweet as sugar. We are so lucky we
had him. We just wish he had more time with him. I have no regrets
though. I think we appreciated him for everything he was and we did not
take him for granted. He was special...much more special than your
average cat. (no offense to my luna or any other kitties :) )

Elizabeth Blake
October 7th 06, 06:16 AM
"Kitkat" > wrote in message
m...
> Hi all. It has been just over a month. I miss him just as much if not more
> every day. Here's Dudley's story for those who wanted to read about him.
> :)

Beautiful story. Dudley was very lucky to have you & your husband as his
final caretakers. He was a gorgeous boy!

--
Liz

Anonymous
October 7th 06, 09:11 AM
Rhonda wrote:
> Kitkat wrote:
>
> Hi all. It has been just over a month. I miss him just as much if
not
> more every day. Here's Dudley's story for those who wanted to read
> about him. :)
>
>
> Thanks for writing that, Pam. The way you found him was just
incredible.
> Seeing him sitting on his owner's bed would have got me too! That
was
> touching.
>
> Then to find out he can't see or hear -- he's very lucky he ended up
> with you.
>
> I'm glad he had some time with you. What a sweet cat.
>
> Take care,
>
> Rhonda
>
>
Thanks, Rhonda. He was indeed sweet...sweet as sugar. We are so lucky
we
had him. We just wish he had more time with him. I have no regrets
though. I think we appreciated him for everything he was and we did
not
take him for granted. He was special...much more special than your
average cat. (no offense to my luna or any other kitties :) )
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Anonymous
October 7th 06, 09:11 AM
Rhonda wrote:
> Kitkat wrote:
>
> Hi all. It has been just over a month. I miss him just as much if
not
> more every day. Here's Dudley's story for those who wanted to read
> about him. :)
>
>
> Thanks for writing that, Pam. The way you found him was just
incredible.
> Seeing him sitting on his owner's bed would have got me too! That
was
> touching.
>
> Then to find out he can't see or hear -- he's very lucky he ended up
> with you.
>
> I'm glad he had some time with you. What a sweet cat.
>
> Take care,
>
> Rhonda
>
>
Thanks, Rhonda. He was indeed sweet...sweet as sugar. We are so lucky
we
had him. We just wish he had more time with him. I have no regrets
though. I think we appreciated him for everything he was and we did
not
take him for granted. He was special...much more special than your
average cat. (no offense to my luna or any other kitties :) )
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Anonymous
October 7th 06, 09:11 AM
Rhonda wrote:
> Kitkat wrote:
>
> Hi all. It has been just over a month. I miss him just as much if
not
> more every day. Here's Dudley's story for those who wanted to read
> about him. :)
>
>
> Thanks for writing that, Pam. The way you found him was just
incredible.
> Seeing him sitting on his owner's bed would have got me too! That
was
> touching.
>
> Then to find out he can't see or hear -- he's very lucky he ended up
> with you.
>
> I'm glad he had some time with you. What a sweet cat.
>
> Take care,
>
> Rhonda
>
>
Thanks, Rhonda. He was indeed sweet...sweet as sugar. We are so lucky
we
had him. We just wish he had more time with him. I have no regrets
though. I think we appreciated him for everything he was and we did
not
take him for granted. He was special...much more special than your
average cat. (no offense to my luna or any other kitties :) )
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Anonymous
October 7th 06, 09:11 AM
Rhonda wrote:
> Kitkat wrote:
>
> Hi all. It has been just over a month. I miss him just as much if
not
> more every day. Here's Dudley's story for those who wanted to read
> about him. :)
>
>
> Thanks for writing that, Pam. The way you found him was just
incredible.
> Seeing him sitting on his owner's bed would have got me too! That
was
> touching.
>
> Then to find out he can't see or hear -- he's very lucky he ended up
> with you.
>
> I'm glad he had some time with you. What a sweet cat.
>
> Take care,
>
> Rhonda
>
>
Thanks, Rhonda. He was indeed sweet...sweet as sugar. We are so lucky
we
had him. We just wish he had more time with him. I have no regrets
though. I think we appreciated him for everything he was and we did
not
take him for granted. He was special...much more special than your
average cat. (no offense to my luna or any other kitties :) )
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Anonymous
October 7th 06, 09:11 AM
Rhonda wrote:
> Kitkat wrote:
>
> Hi all. It has been just over a month. I miss him just as much if
not
> more every day. Here's Dudley's story for those who wanted to read
> about him. :)
>
>
> Thanks for writing that, Pam. The way you found him was just
incredible.
> Seeing him sitting on his owner's bed would have got me too! That
was
> touching.
>
> Then to find out he can't see or hear -- he's very lucky he ended up
> with you.
>
> I'm glad he had some time with you. What a sweet cat.
>
> Take care,
>
> Rhonda
>
>
Thanks, Rhonda. He was indeed sweet...sweet as sugar. We are so lucky
we
had him. We just wish he had more time with him. I have no regrets
though. I think we appreciated him for everything he was and we did
not
take him for granted. He was special...much more special than your
average cat. (no offense to my luna or any other kitties :) )
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Anonymous
October 7th 06, 09:11 AM
Rhonda wrote:
> Kitkat wrote:
>
> Hi all. It has been just over a month. I miss him just as much if
not
> more every day. Here's Dudley's story for those who wanted to read
> about him. :)
>
>
> Thanks for writing that, Pam. The way you found him was just
incredible.
> Seeing him sitting on his owner's bed would have got me too! That
was
> touching.
>
> Then to find out he can't see or hear -- he's very lucky he ended up
> with you.
>
> I'm glad he had some time with you. What a sweet cat.
>
> Take care,
>
> Rhonda
>
>
Thanks, Rhonda. He was indeed sweet...sweet as sugar. We are so lucky
we
had him. We just wish he had more time with him. I have no regrets
though. I think we appreciated him for everything he was and we did
not
take him for granted. He was special...much more special than your
average cat. (no offense to my luna or any other kitties :) )
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Anonymous
October 7th 06, 09:11 AM
Rhonda wrote:
> Kitkat wrote:
>
> Hi all. It has been just over a month. I miss him just as much if
not
> more every day. Here's Dudley's story for those who wanted to read
> about him. :)
>
>
> Thanks for writing that, Pam. The way you found him was just
incredible.
> Seeing him sitting on his owner's bed would have got me too! That
was
> touching.
>
> Then to find out he can't see or hear -- he's very lucky he ended up
> with you.
>
> I'm glad he had some time with you. What a sweet cat.
>
> Take care,
>
> Rhonda
>
>
Thanks, Rhonda. He was indeed sweet...sweet as sugar. We are so lucky
we
had him. We just wish he had more time with him. I have no regrets
though. I think we appreciated him for everything he was and we did
not
take him for granted. He was special...much more special than your
average cat. (no offense to my luna or any other kitties :) )
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Anonymous
October 7th 06, 09:11 AM
Rhonda wrote:
> Kitkat wrote:
>
> Hi all. It has been just over a month. I miss him just as much if
not
> more every day. Here's Dudley's story for those who wanted to read
> about him. :)
>
>
> Thanks for writing that, Pam. The way you found him was just
incredible.
> Seeing him sitting on his owner's bed would have got me too! That
was
> touching.
>
> Then to find out he can't see or hear -- he's very lucky he ended up
> with you.
>
> I'm glad he had some time with you. What a sweet cat.
>
> Take care,
>
> Rhonda
>
>
Thanks, Rhonda. He was indeed sweet...sweet as sugar. We are so lucky
we
had him. We just wish he had more time with him. I have no regrets
though. I think we appreciated him for everything he was and we did
not
take him for granted. He was special...much more special than your
average cat. (no offense to my luna or any other kitties :) )
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Anonymous
October 7th 06, 09:11 AM
Rhonda wrote:
> Kitkat wrote:
>
> Hi all. It has been just over a month. I miss him just as much if
not
> more every day. Here's Dudley's story for those who wanted to read
> about him. :)
>
>
> Thanks for writing that, Pam. The way you found him was just
incredible.
> Seeing him sitting on his owner's bed would have got me too! That
was
> touching.
>
> Then to find out he can't see or hear -- he's very lucky he ended up
> with you.
>
> I'm glad he had some time with you. What a sweet cat.
>
> Take care,
>
> Rhonda
>
>
Thanks, Rhonda. He was indeed sweet...sweet as sugar. We are so lucky
we
had him. We just wish he had more time with him. I have no regrets
though. I think we appreciated him for everything he was and we did
not
take him for granted. He was special...much more special than your
average cat. (no offense to my luna or any other kitties :) )
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Kitkat
October 7th 06, 12:45 PM
Anonymous wrote:
> Rhonda wrote:
>
>>Kitkat wrote:
>>
>>Hi all. It has been just over a month. I miss him just as much if
>
> not
>
>>more every day. Here's Dudley's story for those who wanted to read
>>about him. :)
>>
>>
>>Thanks for writing that, Pam. The way you found him was just
>
> incredible.
>
>>Seeing him sitting on his owner's bed would have got me too! That
>
> was
>
>>touching.
>>
>>Then to find out he can't see or hear -- he's very lucky he ended up
>>with you.
>>
>>I'm glad he had some time with you. What a sweet cat.
>>
>>Take care,
>>
>>Rhonda
>>
>>
>
> Thanks, Rhonda. He was indeed sweet...sweet as sugar. We are so lucky
> we
> had him. We just wish he had more time with him. I have no regrets
> though. I think we appreciated him for everything he was and we did
> not
> take him for granted. He was special...much more special than your
> average cat. (no offense to my luna or any other kitties :) )
> Sent via http://Pets-99.com , http://AnimalForum.ws & http://AnimalBlog.org

I have no idea how my post got put up there four jillion times by
"anonymous"...

Lesley
October 7th 06, 12:51 PM
Kitkat wrote:


> I have no idea how my post got put up there four jillion times by
> "anonymous"..

Anonymous is an annoying prat- s/he just did the same thing to me on
rpca where there's a wonderful thread going where people are sending
messages of support to me and my partner who is in hospital. Anonymous
has repeated several postings something like 60 times. I have reported
this to Google Groups but I suspect this person will just come in
through some other group

Lesley

Slave of the Fabulous Furballs

PS Thinking of you and Jasper Dudely. He was one special cat.

Lesley
October 7th 06, 12:56 PM
Kitkat wrote:


> I have no idea how my post got put up there four jillion times by
> "anonymous"..

Anonymous is an annoying prat- s/he just did the same thing to me on
rpca where there's a wonderful thread going where people are sending
messages of support to me and my partner who is in hospital. Anonymous
has repeated several postings something like 60 times. I have reported
this to Google Groups but I suspect this person will just come in
through some other group

Lesley

Slave of the Fabulous Furballs

PS Thinking of you and Jasper Dudely. He was one special cat.

22brix
October 7th 06, 06:14 PM
>
> I have no idea how my post got put up there four jillion times by
> "anonymous"...

I finally killfiled the idiot.

Paige
October 7th 06, 08:37 PM
Hi Pam,

Dudley looked loved and content, thanks to you and your husband for
taking him in. I wish you and your husband all *good* things for being
so kind to Dudley.

I loved your pictures too...:)

Paige

cybercat
October 7th 06, 10:35 PM
"Kitkat" > wrote
> I have no idea how my post got put up there four jillion times by
> "anonymous"...

Someone mentioned that they think it is some sort of post-harvesting
"bot," maybe collecting posts for a web-based Usenet site? Like
"Catkb" or something similar.



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cybercat
October 7th 06, 10:37 PM
"Kitkat" > wrote
>
> Thanks, Rhonda. He was indeed sweet...sweet as sugar. We are so lucky we
> had him. We just wish he had more time with him. I have no regrets though.
> I think we appreciated him for everything he was and we did not take him
> for granted. He was special...much more special than your average cat. (no
> offense to my luna or any other kitties :) )

He really was. Just like, I love our Boo, she is a character, and
totally endearing. BUT--my Gracie could be an angel in a kitty's
body. I have probably gushed more than enough about it. Anyway,
I know what you mean.



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Lesley
October 7th 06, 11:45 PM
Kitkat wrote:


>
> When we arrived at Virginia's apartment (very close to the wake, so we
> literally went DURING the wake) we found Dudley just sitting on
> Virginia's bed, which was one of those hospice kind of beds, not even a
> cushy comfy one. Oh god my heart is breaking again just thinking about
> it. He just had this look on his face like, where the HELL is my mom?
> When is she coming back?

This story always makes me cry...He'd been left by two people he loved
and then suddenly there was someone else to love him....

You did a very great thing to give him some more people to love

I love the shots of him at the window- almost like he was looking at
something. Looking at those it's hard to believe he couldn't see much

Lesley

Slave of the Fabulous Furballs

Mommy of 2 via CatKB.com
October 7th 06, 11:58 PM
Losing a beloved pet is like losing a child. The grief is real, and the
memories last forever. He was a handsome cat and knew he was loved. Bless
you for loving him the way you did.

Lesley wrote:
>> When we arrived at Virginia's apartment (very close to the wake, so we
>> literally went DURING the wake) we found Dudley just sitting on
>> Virginia's bed, which was one of those hospice kind of beds, not even a
>> cushy comfy one. Oh god my heart is breaking again just thinking about
>> it. He just had this look on his face like, where the HELL is my mom?
>> When is she coming back?
>
>This story always makes me cry...He'd been left by two people he loved
>and then suddenly there was someone else to love him....
>
>You did a very great thing to give him some more people to love
>
>I love the shots of him at the window- almost like he was looking at
>something. Looking at those it's hard to believe he couldn't see much
>
>Lesley
>
>Slave of the Fabulous Furballs

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meeee
October 9th 06, 05:13 AM
He is beautiful. I'm so glad you gave him such a happy time in his last few
years.
meeee
"Kitkat" > wrote in message
m...
> Hi all. It has been just over a month. I miss him just as much if not more
> every day. Here's Dudley's story for those who wanted to read about him.
> :)
>
> First off, I have to preface this by saying we had no intention of getting
> another cat. I have had my Luna since she was about 6 months old and at
> the time we did get Dudley, she was about 6 years old. She is a much
> happier single cat, but bless her for tolerating Dudley like she did.
>
> A friend of the family's mother passed away (Virginia was the mom, Linda
> the daughter...and Linda is a dear friend of my mother-in-law.) Linda
> mentioned to us that her mother was ill and did we want a beautiful
> Siamese if and when she passed away. At the time we had no real interest
> (for many reasons besides Luna). When Virginia finally passed away, we
> went to the wake. Linda approached us right away, telling us all about
> Dudley (whose name was then Jasper...i often refer to him on here as
> JasperDuds or J-Dud :) ) Linda said he was a wonderful cat, a bit older,
> and just needed a lap to live out his time on. I was like, NO WAY. But
> then she said that I should "just go see him!!" and like a TOTAL
> SUCKER...I agreed.
>
> When we arrived at Virginia's apartment (very close to the wake, so we
> literally went DURING the wake) we found Dudley just sitting on Virginia's
> bed, which was one of those hospice kind of beds, not even a cushy comfy
> one. Oh god my heart is breaking again just thinking about it. He just had
> this look on his face like, where the HELL is my mom? When is she coming
> back? From what I understand, Dudley spent just about every moment
> attached to Virginia's side. :( My heart broke when I saw him. I just
> KNEW I had to get him the hell out of there. Oddly, there was another cat
> there, too, named Max. Max was younger and more active. He was running
> around and having a jolly time. Plus, the two were NOT bonded at all. So,
> right then I decided, hell yes we are getting this cat out of here. Linda
> would take care of getting Max adopted. But I had to take Dudley. He
> absolutely needed a home.
>
> We brought him home and isolated him in a small room away from Luna until
> we could get him in to the vet. That ended up being about 4 days later and
> in that time, DH and I began to think that Dudley couldn't see...and we
> also thought that he couldn't really hear!!! Apparently Linda was not
> aware of this...but Dudley was deaf and blind. A wonderful, beautiful
> purebred seal point Siamese whose mommy just died... (and that mommy was
> his 2nd mommy...his first was ALSO an elderly woman who died!!)...and he
> couldn't hear OR see and clearly had no idea what the hell was happening
> to him.
>
> We got him checked out at the vet and it was confirmed that he was almost
> completely deaf and blind. Otherwise, he seemed to be in decent health so
> we integrated him as best we could to the rest of the home.
>
> Luna was never fond of him. But she is not an agressive cat, rather a
> scaredy cat! So, basically they just "worked" together. Sometimes if
> Dudley was walking down the hall towards Luna, she would hiss and swat at
> him because she clearly had no idea he couldnt even see her. Sometimes he
> would bump into her while her back was turned so neither knew the other
> was there. Ahh. Such memories.
>
> About 6 months after we got him, Dudley got sick. He was lethargic and
> wouldnt eat and had thrown up quite a bit. We took him to the vet who ran
> blood tests and suspected Pancreatitis. Dudley was a TERRRRRRIBLE patient
> at the vet. I would be too if I could not see or hear but kept getting
> poked by strange things that smelled funky!!!! So, they gave him some
> fluids and some meds and sent him home to recuperate with us. This was on
> a Friday and by Sunday he was not doing better and I took him to the
> emergency vet. He ended up there for 2 nights and saw a specialist who
> worked there during the day. She suspected pancreatitis as well and did an
> ultra sound which showed some thickening of tissue in the I HONESTLY CAN
> NOT REMEMBER which organ!!! :) (stomache? liver? i really think liver) At
> the time, Dudley was about 12.5 years old and I could not justify
> extensive and invasive testing to see if he had cancer or not when I felt
> it was cruel to put him through any kind of serious treatment. DH and I
> decided together then that our mission was to give Dudley the best we
> could for whatever time he had left in life. We would give him all
> supportive/palliative care, but we would not subject our elderly, deaf
> blind cat to such stuff. When he recovered from the bout with
> pancreatitis, we also had a dental done in which they removed all of his
> teeth except his fangs. He was now toofless!!!!
>
> Dudley recovered well and did not have a flare up until this past March.
> He got sick and we took him to the vet immediately. He got meds and fluids
> and literally bounced back within hours! It was fantastic.
>
> Then, DH and I went on vacation to North Carolina in the middle of August.
> The day we left, Dudley got sick. We had a cat sitter, but we still didn't
> find out until the next day and by Friday, I had our neighbor take him to
> the vet. We really hoped he would bounce back again...but alas this time
> he did not. We came home from vacation early and had him back and forth to
> the vet for just over another week. But his systems were just not working
> properly. He was constipated and quite frustrated about it. I was giving
> him fluids at home and then eventually was also giving him all of his meds
> at home via injection. Just over a week later, we really started to
> realize this was not going to get better. On a Monday night, we knew it
> was time. His breathing was labored, he could barely eat and he kept
> trying to use the litter box but couldnt. We decided we would take him in
> the morning to be euthanized and we cried all night about it. Late that
> night we said good night and my DH told Dudley it was okay to LET GO. We
> pet him and we told him we loved him and that he should stop fighting.
>
> He died shortly thereafter. We were in the next room sleeping. My Dudley
> died on his own terms in his own home with his loving mommy and daddy just
> down the hall. We awoke the next morning prepared to take him to the vet
> and he was gone.
>
> We loved Dudley SO DAMN MUCH. His ashes are now back at home with us where
> he belongs.
>
> I'm bawling.
> I miss him.
> He was such a wonderful creature and I learned SOOOO much from having him.
> Two years was not enough.
>
> Here he is....happy and (relatively) healthy:
>
> http://public.fotki.com/kitkatluna/animals/jasper_dudley/window4.html
> that is the picture on his special urn
>
> http://public.fotki.com/kitkatluna/animals/jasper_dudley/dscf0007.html
> he loved the window!
>
> http://public.fotki.com/kitkatluna/animals/jasper_dudley/dscf0019.html
> his infamous buddha pose
>
> http://public.fotki.com/kitkatluna/miscellaneous/random/jasper.html
> the day we brought him home

Kitkat
October 10th 06, 06:23 AM
> I love the shots of him at the window- almost like he was looking at
> something. Looking at those it's hard to believe he couldn't see much

I know. It was always wonderful to see him enjoying some time sitting in
the window. We knew he could smell the outside and feel the warmth of
the sunlight.


Thanks again to everyone for the kind words. We just did what we thought
was right and we wouldn't change a thing.

We sang Dudley songs all weekend. :)

cybercat
October 10th 06, 12:28 PM
"Kitkat" > wrote:
>
> We sang Dudley songs all weekend. :)

hahaha

Sung to the tune of "Rubber Duckie"

Dudley Dudley, you're so fiiiiiiine

And I'm happy thaaaat you're miiiiiiiine ....



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Kitkat
October 10th 06, 10:59 PM
cybercat wrote:
> "Kitkat" > wrote:
>
>>We sang Dudley songs all weekend. :)
>
>
> hahaha
>
> Sung to the tune of "Rubber Duckie"
>
> Dudley Dudley, you're so fiiiiiiine
>
> And I'm happy thaaaat you're miiiiiiiine ....
>
>
>
Me, today at a music assembly at school, singing along with the crowd:

"Come on Dudley, let's do the twist! Oh come on DUUUUDley! Let's do the
twist!"

:)