View Full Version : Re: Advice pls: what to send my friend's cat who died

April 6th 09, 11:37 PM
That is an excellent way to describe making a donation to honor them. My
vet has always done this for me when I lost a cat and it meant so much
to me.


Stormmee wrote:
> the family will know when it is time for another friend to love, there is in
> fact no replacing as such, and as to the donation, it is a way like flowers
> to show you noted their loss and wanted a way to let them know that, flowers
> wilt but the donation is a bit more practicle as it might buy food for one
> more and shows also, imho that you are honoring the fact that they adopted a
> cat to care for, soft,
> "Sandi" > wrote in message
> ...
>> On Sat 04-Apr-2009 20:09, Stan Brown
>> > wrote:
>>> Sat, 04 Apr 2009 06:03:02 +0100 from Sandi >:
>>>> I'm in the UK. My friend and her parents had a lovely
>>>> friendly cat at home for about 10 or 12 years. It died
>>>> earlier today.
>>> When my cat died, the vet sent a notice that she had had a
>>> tree planted in Israel in his name. I thought that was a nice
>>> gesture, but YMMV.
>>> I'd think a donation to any cat welfare organization, in
>>> memory of the pet, would be appreciated. Ideally this would
>>> be a local organization in your friend's town, as opposed to a
>>> less personal national organization.
>> Dear all, I don't want to be dumb or picky but how does a
>> donation to a cat organisation help the bereaved feel better?
>> Isn't a donation really for my benefit as it is a "sensible" or
>> more permanent way of expressing my condolence.
>> But it's my friend who is hurting with grief. She's in her early
>> 30s and lives in the countryside with her parents and their cat
>> has been there almost all her adult life. Thee were no other
>> pets. They all loved the cat, especially my friend who was there
>> most of the day. Now he's gone. Her world has changed.
>> I do not at all mind giving to a good cause like a cat
>> oranisation but what am I not seeing in terms of how it helps my
>> friend or her family?
>> Very sadly, I missed his burial today in one of his favourite
>> spots in the garden. I do not live nearby and only heard about
>> it afterwards. I would have dearly wanted to be there.
>> Does it help to suggest they now get a little kitten to somehow
>> carry or embody the spirit of the deceased cat? I can see how
>> that might go very wrong but maybe it can go very right. Oh I
>> don't know. It's all new to me. What I know is I weep with
>> sorrow and my friend is devastated by her loss.
>> Sorry to go on writing so much. Any suggestions would be
>> welcome. Put me right if I my vision is too clouded. All I know
>> is that I am a swirling pot of emotion and not really too sure
>> about anything much.