Simon & Boyfriend
 

Simon is the only visitor that Boyfriend will tolerate. He's my ex welfare
officer from work and now a friend.
When the doorbell rings, it always sends Boyfie upstairs like a racehorse to
his bedroom before I can open the door.
He never comes back downstairs as long as they are there, no matter how long
it goes past his teatime.
For some months, it's been clear that "Simon is different"

A couple of months ago, I actually thought that Boyfie was going rub his
cheek against Simon's leg, but he chickened out.
Yesterday he came back downstairs, Simon had one leg across the other IYSWIM
with his foot up. Boyfie came towards his foot, looked at it, I thought
he's going to do it this time, but it was still a step too far.
What Boyfie did was curl his tail around Simon's ankle for a few moments and
then disappear outside.
It made me feel quite emotional.
Years and years this boy has been afraid of visitors, even
June who has fed him for weeks has no concessions, he hides from her too if
I am home.
Tweed

Simon & Boyfriend
 

Christina Websell wrote:

A couple of months ago, I actually thought that Boyfie was going rub his
cheek against Simon's leg, but he chickened out.
Yesterday he came back downstairs, Simon had one leg across the other IYSWIM
with his foot up. Boyfie came towards his foot, looked at it, I thought
he's going to do it this time, but it was still a step too far.
What Boyfie did was curl his tail around Simon's ankle for a few moments and
then disappear outside.
It made me feel quite emotional.

Awww. He was flirting! That's how shy boycats let humans know they like
them. When Licky wants attention but is too scared to let me touch him,
he will slink along the furniture with his tail curling this way and that
behind him. It's like he's saying, "This is how I would rub up against
you if I weren't such a scaredy boy."

But Boyfie is obviously a lot more shy than Licky, so it's pretty amazing
what he did. Sooner or later he's going to let Simon pet him, I know it.
One step at a time, though.

--
Joyce

A conservative is one who admires radicals centuries after they're dead.
-- Leo Rosten

Simon & Boyfriend
 

you might speak to simon about taking him if you exit befor boyfriend, its
nice to know he does care or at is not terrified of at least one other human
"Christina Websell" wrote in message
...
Simon is the only visitor that Boyfriend will tolerate. He's my ex
welfare officer from work and now a friend.
When the doorbell rings, it always sends Boyfie upstairs like a racehorse
to his bedroom before I can open the door.
He never comes back downstairs as long as they are there, no matter how
long it goes past his teatime.
For some months, it's been clear that "Simon is different"

A couple of months ago, I actually thought that Boyfie was going rub his
cheek against Simon's leg, but he chickened out.
Yesterday he came back downstairs, Simon had one leg across the other
IYSWIM with his foot up. Boyfie came towards his foot, looked at it, I
thought he's going to do it this time, but it was still a step too far.
What Boyfie did was curl his tail around Simon's ankle for a few moments
and then disappear outside.
It made me feel quite emotional.
Years and years this boy has been afraid of visitors, even
June who has fed him for weeks has no concessions, he hides from her too
if I am home.
Tweed

Simon & Boyfriend
 

Although I am sure Simon would agree because he is such a nice man, I have
been to his house to meet his wife and see his chickens. and it is far too
near a very busy main road to be safe for Boyfriend.
I've already arranged where Boyfie will go if the worst happens. Debbie
Wilson will take him. She is a member of this group, although she rarely
posts now, and is experienced in rescue and difficult shy cats. Although it
might be traumatic for him at first, it will be a far more suitable home as
he will be able to go out safely eventually and wander like he's been used
to.
Anyway, I'm hoping it does not come to that.
I've already far exceeded the life span I was told I had (they said weeks in
2005) but it's been 7 years now and I intend to make it much longer ;-)
Tweed




"Storrmmee" wrote in message
...
you might speak to simon about taking him if you exit befor boyfriend, its
nice to know he does care or at is not terrified of at least one other
human
"Christina Websell" wrote in message
...
Simon is the only visitor that Boyfriend will tolerate. He's my ex
welfare officer from work and now a friend.
When the doorbell rings, it always sends Boyfie upstairs like a racehorse
to his bedroom before I can open the door.
He never comes back downstairs as long as they are there, no matter how
long it goes past his teatime.
For some months, it's been clear that "Simon is different"

A couple of months ago, I actually thought that Boyfie was going rub his
cheek against Simon's leg, but he chickened out.
Yesterday he came back downstairs, Simon had one leg across the other
IYSWIM with his foot up. Boyfie came towards his foot, looked at it, I
thought he's going to do it this time, but it was still a step too far.
What Boyfie did was curl his tail around Simon's ankle for a few moments
and then disappear outside.
It made me feel quite emotional.
Years and years this boy has been afraid of visitors, even
June who has fed him for weeks has no concessions, he hides from her too
if I am home.
Tweed

Simon & Boyfriend
 

"Judith Latham" wrote in message
...
In article , Christina Websell
wrote:
Simon is the only visitor that Boyfriend will tolerate. He's my ex
welfare officer from work and now a friend. When the doorbell rings, it
always sends Boyfie upstairs like a racehorse to his bedroom before I
can open the door. He never comes back downstairs as long as they are
there, no matter how long it goes past his teatime. For some months,
it's been clear that "Simon is different"

A couple of months ago, I actually thought that Boyfie was going rub his
cheek against Simon's leg, but he chickened out. Yesterday he came back
downstairs, Simon had one leg across the other IYSWIM with his foot up.
Boyfie came towards his foot, looked at it, I thought he's going to do
it this time, but it was still a step too far. What Boyfie did was curl
his tail around Simon's ankle for a few moments and then disappear
outside. It made me feel quite emotional. Years and years this boy has
been afraid of visitors, even June who has fed him for weeks has no
concessions, he hides from her too if I am home. Tweed


It sounds as if Boyfie has made up his mind to be friendly and is working
up to a bigger show of affection.

It's only taken 8 or 9 years to get this far..as that's how long Simon has
visited but yes, next time he comes maybe Boyfie will rub against his leg
(and then run away, because it's scary to like anyone but his meowmie)
I'd like him to be more confident with visitors, but this will never happen.
A ring on the doorbell sends him either outside or upstairs to his bedroom.
Perhaps he is just a naturally shy cat or maybe something bad happened to
him - I will never know. Maybe he moved out from his original home because
something bad happened, or maybe he wandered away looking for girlies and
got lost. Who knows? I don't and he cannot tell me.
He seems really happy here so maybe whatever happened turned out for the
best for him.

Tweed

Simon & Boyfriend
 

i am well pleased you have made suitable arrangements, it was your OC that
even started on that path, it is what my grandmother died of, they too gave
her five weeks and she lived ten years, not all pleaseant, but she was able
to visit europe with help from my mother and brother, Lee
"Christina Websell" wrote in message
...
Although I am sure Simon would agree because he is such a nice man, I have
been to his house to meet his wife and see his chickens. and it is far too
near a very busy main road to be safe for Boyfriend.
I've already arranged where Boyfie will go if the worst happens. Debbie
Wilson will take him. She is a member of this group, although she rarely
posts now, and is experienced in rescue and difficult shy cats. Although
it might be traumatic for him at first, it will be a far more suitable
home as he will be able to go out safely eventually and wander like he's
been used to.
Anyway, I'm hoping it does not come to that.
I've already far exceeded the life span I was told I had (they said weeks
in 2005) but it's been 7 years now and I intend to make it much longer ;-)
Tweed




"Storrmmee" wrote in message
...
you might speak to simon about taking him if you exit befor boyfriend,
its nice to know he does care or at is not terrified of at least one
other human
"Christina Websell" wrote in message
...
Simon is the only visitor that Boyfriend will tolerate. He's my ex
welfare officer from work and now a friend.
When the doorbell rings, it always sends Boyfie upstairs like a
racehorse to his bedroom before I can open the door.
He never comes back downstairs as long as they are there, no matter how
long it goes past his teatime.
For some months, it's been clear that "Simon is different"

A couple of months ago, I actually thought that Boyfie was going rub his
cheek against Simon's leg, but he chickened out.
Yesterday he came back downstairs, Simon had one leg across the other
IYSWIM with his foot up. Boyfie came towards his foot, looked at it, I
thought he's going to do it this time, but it was still a step too far.
What Boyfie did was curl his tail around Simon's ankle for a few moments
and then disappear outside.
It made me feel quite emotional.
Years and years this boy has been afraid of visitors, even
June who has fed him for weeks has no concessions, he hides from her too
if I am home.
Tweed

Simon & Boyfriend
 

one thing i can gaurentee you from the human perspective is that even the
worst things sometimes turn out for the best,... i am still looking for the
positive in dh having a stroke but i have actually found some positives in
the house burning, so i am sure boyfriend finds your companionship a
positive, Lee
"Christina Websell" wrote in message
...

"Judith Latham" wrote in message
...
In article , Christina Websell
wrote:
Simon is the only visitor that Boyfriend will tolerate. He's my ex
welfare officer from work and now a friend. When the doorbell rings, it
always sends Boyfie upstairs like a racehorse to his bedroom before I
can open the door. He never comes back downstairs as long as they are
there, no matter how long it goes past his teatime. For some months,
it's been clear that "Simon is different"

A couple of months ago, I actually thought that Boyfie was going rub his
cheek against Simon's leg, but he chickened out. Yesterday he came back
downstairs, Simon had one leg across the other IYSWIM with his foot up.
Boyfie came towards his foot, looked at it, I thought he's going to do
it this time, but it was still a step too far. What Boyfie did was curl
his tail around Simon's ankle for a few moments and then disappear
outside. It made me feel quite emotional. Years and years this boy has
been afraid of visitors, even June who has fed him for weeks has no
concessions, he hides from her too if I am home. Tweed


It sounds as if Boyfie has made up his mind to be friendly and is working
up to a bigger show of affection.

It's only taken 8 or 9 years to get this far..as that's how long Simon has
visited but yes, next time he comes maybe Boyfie will rub against his leg
(and then run away, because it's scary to like anyone but his meowmie)
I'd like him to be more confident with visitors, but this will never
happen. A ring on the doorbell sends him either outside or upstairs to his
bedroom. Perhaps he is just a naturally shy cat or maybe something bad
happened to him - I will never know. Maybe he moved out from his original
home because something bad happened, or maybe he wandered away looking for
girlies and got lost. Who knows? I don't and he cannot tell me.
He seems really happy here so maybe whatever happened turned out for the
best for him.

Tweed

Simon & Boyfriend
 

Christina Websell wrote:

I've already arranged where Boyfie will go if the worst happens. Debbie
Wilson will take him. She is a member of this group, although she rarely
posts now, and is experienced in rescue and difficult shy cats. Although it
might be traumatic for him at first, it will be a far more suitable home as
he will be able to go out safely eventually and wander like he's been used
to.

I'm still here - mainly lurking. I'm not sure if you knew we had
moved.... to rural Cornwall on a very quiet lane and no neighbours, so
it's even more suitable for Boyfie now. Although of course, I hope that
those circumstances never arise.
Can you email me your current email address and I will update you with
my new address details? For your peace of mind.

Deb.
--
http://www.scientific-art.com

"He looked a fierce and quarrelsome cat, but claw he never would;
He only bit the ones he loved, because they tasted good." S. Greenfield

Simon & Boyfriend
 

Of course I did.

"Storrmmee" wrote in message
...
i am well pleased you have made suitable arrangements, it was your OC that
even started on that path, it is what my grandmother died of, they too gave
her five weeks and she lived ten years, not all pleaseant, but she was able
to visit europe with help from my mother and brother, Lee
"Christina Websell" wrote in message
...
Although I am sure Simon would agree because he is such a nice man, I
have been to his house to meet his wife and see his chickens. and it is
far too near a very busy main road to be safe for Boyfriend.
I've already arranged where Boyfie will go if the worst happens. Debbie
Wilson will take him. She is a member of this group, although she rarely
posts now, and is experienced in rescue and difficult shy cats. Although
it might be traumatic for him at first, it will be a far more suitable
home as he will be able to go out safely eventually and wander like he's
been used to.
Anyway, I'm hoping it does not come to that.
I've already far exceeded the life span I was told I had (they said weeks
in 2005) but it's been 7 years now and I intend to make it much longer
;-)
Tweed




"Storrmmee" wrote in message
...
you might speak to simon about taking him if you exit befor boyfriend,
its nice to know he does care or at is not terrified of at least one
other human
"Christina Websell" wrote in
message ...
Simon is the only visitor that Boyfriend will tolerate. He's my ex
welfare officer from work and now a friend.
When the doorbell rings, it always sends Boyfie upstairs like a
racehorse to his bedroom before I can open the door.
He never comes back downstairs as long as they are there, no matter how
long it goes past his teatime.
For some months, it's been clear that "Simon is different"

A couple of months ago, I actually thought that Boyfie was going rub
his cheek against Simon's leg, but he chickened out.
Yesterday he came back downstairs, Simon had one leg across the other
IYSWIM with his foot up. Boyfie came towards his foot, looked at it, I
thought he's going to do it this time, but it was still a step too far.
What Boyfie did was curl his tail around Simon's ankle for a few
moments and then disappear outside.
It made me feel quite emotional.
Years and years this boy has been afraid of visitors, even
June who has fed him for weeks has no concessions, he hides from her
too if I am home.
Tweed

Simon & Boyfriend
 

it was me who brought it up out of concern for tweed's peace of mind, i am
very glad she has already found a suitable home should it hpappen, we all
should do this whilst we can, the DH's recen't illnesses have me thinking
alot more about these sorts of things, Lee
"Debbie Wilson" wrote in message
...
Christina Websell wrote:

I've already arranged where Boyfie will go if the worst happens. Debbie
Wilson will take him. She is a member of this group, although she rarely
posts now, and is experienced in rescue and difficult shy cats. Although
it
might be traumatic for him at first, it will be a far more suitable home
as
he will be able to go out safely eventually and wander like he's been
used
to.

I'm still here - mainly lurking. I'm not sure if you knew we had
moved.... to rural Cornwall on a very quiet lane and no neighbours, so
it's even more suitable for Boyfie now. Although of course, I hope that
those circumstances never arise.
Can you email me your current email address and I will update you with
my new address details? For your peace of mind.

Deb.
--
http://www.scientific-art.com

"He looked a fierce and quarrelsome cat, but claw he never would;
He only bit the ones he loved, because they tasted good." S. Greenfield