in article , Kuisse0002 at
wrote on 7/16/03 5:51 PM:

My husband loves cats more than I do and is very frustrated at our at ours at
the moment. Our cat is very skittish and two incidents that took place
recently
made her really upset and most unforgiving with my husband.

The first one took place two months ago.Hubby put on thick gloves to pick her
up and hold her &held her up very tightly so that she won't bite or stuggle. I
was supposed to put her collar on but I screamed at him I couldn't and he
loudly told me to get on with it, etc - all in front of the cat - in the end
the collar didn't go in and he released/flung the cat out disgusted at me. The
cats alright but was not too crazy about him after this. But the cat was still
affectionate to him.

Then a couple of weeks ago, when my husband had to feed the cat, called her in
and helped open the flap for her. He had an severly cut hand which was injured
earlier. One hand held the food and the injured hand opened the flap- it was a
very stormy, rainy & windy day also - the pain of the finger and the wind
together made the flap slip off his hand and the flap sorta flapped back onto
cat's face. The cat was NOT happy!. (it was literally a slap on the face for
the cat!!!)

Ever since then, at the sight of my husband the cat would run off and away as
fast and far and as possible. My husband is most upset about this - he tried
to call her, pet her, etc but she would only cower away from him. The only
time
husband can have any contact with cat is when I hold her, or I sit wth her, or
when I'm around next to her preventing her from running off.

Please help. It is not a happy household at the moment. How do i make the cat
gain back his trust and vice versa. I feel like I should be writing to Dr Phil
about this !

I think it will take time and a lack of "incidents" probably. He might do a
lot of sitting on the floor in range of her just doing some reading or tv
watching. You might look into some Feliway too just to destress her.Time is
probably the answer though.

Karen