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On 8/28/2011 8:49 AM, Judith Latham wrote:
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I don't know if ya['ll across the pond have seen this one yet. It's the
first show of the second half of season 6(?), "Let's Kill
Hitler". As usual it was absolutely amazing. I won't put any
spoilers here, but just wanted to say it was aMAzing.

I know you know that *all* Dr. Who episodes are amazing, and I don't
know why I'm even posting this except to express my amazement! ;

How about a thread about time travel.... if you could choose one
moment of history (your own or the world's) to change, what would
you change?

For me it would be *not* marrying my first husband. Well, it
actually goes beyond that. I would *not* befriend my supposedly
"best friend" who introduced me to my first husband. I think that
would have changed my whole life for the better.

I saw it last evening and thought it was very good too. There again
I've been a Doctor who fan since it began.

If I could change something in my history it would be to have shown
confidence even when I wasn't feeling it, from a very early age. It
would have made my life a lot easier.

Judith


That's a good one. I don't think I'd have been pushed around so much
had I done that too.

Its debatable about what I'd change, as all things lead into the next.

If I'd repeated the year in school as was recommended, I would not have
met my ex.

And if I wasn't with my ex, I wouldn't have met Joel.

And again, if I'd chosen the 'better' career, again, I wouldn't have met
Joel

And then one could argue, if I hadn't married Joel and found someone
'better' (whatever that means) I may not have found this group, and I
certainly would not have had the Yowlet (I may not even have had children
at all).

I cannot say life would be better or worse for these events. It may have
been *much* better. I don't know. It could have also been much worse. And,
if circumstances were subtly different, I could be dead. Or even never
been born.

I don't know. I'm not sure if I would *want* to know.

And, more to the point, I'm not terribly sure that its healthy to
speculate too long on how things would have been different 'if only'....
kinda makes me regret what I've got now, and I don't think thats a good
thing (especially when I still struggle on a daily basis to deal with
Joel's ongoing disability and my lack of career progression) I have to
find happiness, joy and fulfillment in what I *do* have and what I can
influence, rather than pine for a better life in the 'if only'.

Yowie

I think you're making good sense here, Yowie. I figured out a long time ago
that it's fine to play what I call the "what if" game if you're doing it
with the future, but it's dangerous to do it with the past.

IOW, wondering, "What if I do this?" is much more likely to have pleasant
results than wondering, "What if I hadn't done that?"

That said, the one thing I would like to change is to have joined
Toastmasters much earlier than I did. My self-confidence has grown
immensely since I did, and many things about my life have improved.

Joy