After more interaction with Ben yesterday - even to rehashing some old
feelings about RB cats, I no longer think he could handle this job. He
really does just bury the pain so far inside that it seeps into his soul
along with all the hurts from childhood on, and only makes him bitter and
feel bad about himself. I never would have believed that, of the two of us,
that *I* would be emotionally stronger. Maybe it's because I *can* spew out
my every thought without actually thinking about it that makes it so.
--
Hugs,
CatNipped
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"Storrmmee" wrote in message
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on th e plus side is getting the help to care for them, on the minus side
is that oddly it hurts even worse when you get the help and still lose
them, most of mine are the unwanted throw aways, and if we hadn't
rehabilitated them they would have ben sent to the bridge for the crime of
not being perfectly adoptable../ so/ if ben can know this going in and
take the failures as smaller timed success it could be a good thing, but
otoh, i never did fostering because they never quit coming to the backdoor
long enough for me to fill out any paperwork, the ones we got healthy we
took to the shelter or rehomed, Lee
"CatNipped" wrote in message
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Ben loves our clowder as much as I do - in fact I think he has an
infinite amount of love to bestow on our furry companions. I proposed to
him, this morning, that he stop gathering outdoor strays into an outdoor
clowder (we have the perfect safe backyard, 6' wooden fence, one *very*
large dog house out of the wind with lots of hay inside and a smaller d*g
house on the upper deck for sunning when the weather is warmer, and a
large, raised spa deck that stays warm underneath all winter. Instead of
feeding them and getting emergency vet care only, I want him to take
them, as soon after they come as possible, to our no-kill shelter that I
used to donate funds to when we had the funds - I got three of my clowder
(Percy(RB) and Da Boyz(tm)) from them and have dealt with them a lot so I
know they're reputable but have no space for strays so they rely on
fosterers. The bargain would be...
Bring them to SunSmart who will provide for the immediate, proper vet
visits and de-sexing, *but* also be put on the list as fosterers for cats
waiting for their forever home. I have to research it to make sure the
program will arrange to pay for the vet care and medications (we can
manage buying *only* the food, and don't know where we'll be after the
1st). We have the "off limits" bedroom - it even has a door we ca put up
with screening on the bottom for integration process from when we were
trying to add Hunter(RB) to the clowder..
Ben has a truly amazing rapport with all animals, especially cats
(another reason I knew I would marry him, Bandit, Queen bitch cat of the
entire universe who would not tolerate *anyone* but me *LURVED* him from
the moment she met him). I think it would not only help all the little
lost one, but to *properly* care for the little lost one *AND* give Ben a
chance to use his very large, caring heart and feel *good* about his
successes instead of so bad when her loses each battle (as with Percy,
Hunter, and Inky - all of whom were found too late to save. The SunSmart
people would, unfortunately, have to deal with the ones who can't be
saved (that takes a special type of angel to be so giving and willing to
be hurt).
So what do you guys think? I know there are a lot of people here who
foster. I can imagine the rewards, but what difficulties could we be
facing?
TIA for all you help, and know that I just don't have words that would
express my gratitude for all the comfort you've given us with your purrs,
prayers and love.
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Hugs,
CatNipped
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