On Jul 21, 6:12*pm, "CatNipped" wrote:
"Sherry" wrote in message

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On Jul 21, 4:42 pm, "CatNipped" wrote:





"Kyla =^. .^=`" wrote in
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"hopitus"
On Jul 19, 7:39 pm, hopitus
On Jul 19, 7:02 pm, Will in New Haven

wrote:
On Jul 19, 6:01 pm, "tanadashoes"
"Sherry" wrote in message

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On Jul 19, 3:57 pm, "tanadashoes" :

Next time I'll post child pornography fantasies instead. Sheesh.
Maybe I
need a break from most of you.

Pam S. disgusted by her stupidity

Pam I get the reference (it took me a minute, though)....and it IS
just plain weird, isn't it??
I know you have a wonderfully irreverant sense of humor, and I
also
get that you wouldn't ever offend anybody on purpose.
I remember when I got spanked but good just for using the word
"lifestyle" in blessed ignorance that it might be an offensive
word.
Hell. I didn't know.
Oops. Can I say "hell?"
Maybe you offended some people, now you know. Kick yourself around
for
2 seconds then forget about it. But keep your sense of humor.
That's
what keeps us sane.

Sherry

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I'm sorry. I got an email from a friend to warn me about this and
sent one
back saying I could handle it. And I did. Then I saw that email
from Kyla
to Susan about Grandma Shirley's death and lost it. That email was
in as
poor of taste or more as my stupid joke, but not one person said
anything to
her about it. Some of the very people who jumped on the
politically
correct
bandwagon probably thought it was marvelous. I'll tell you, if
Kyla
sends
something so disgusting to us when Rob is fighting his last
battle,
I'll do
something violent.

There you go. Here I was thinking you had been so terribly wronged,
which you had, and you have to prove that your post wasn't so bad by
attacking my friend, who sincerely means well.

--
Will in New Haven
"The welfare of the people has always been the alibi of tyrants, and
it provides the further advantage of giving the servants of tyranny
a
good conscience"
Albert Camus

If your friend is who it would appear you need to keep it back
in rpcc talking catbabble instead of authoring stuff to hurt
people's feelings...."means well" is getting *way* out of hand
or should I say, "send" finger elsewhere than rpcc.

Gee, thanks...
.I never meant to hurt anyone's feelings, I'm not like that, and wish
nothing but the best for Pam and Rob. Cancer is horrible and I feel so
bad for what Pam is goin thru, Rob too, and I am sending them both my
best
wishes for him to get better.
Pam is a wonderful writer, and is going thru a lot, I know.

Here's a nice quote for you:
"Hell is paved with good intentions"
John Ray, 1670

I feel so much better now , and it's The road to hell, BTW
Judge not lest ye be judged
Thanks for brightening my day...NOT!
Kyla

Personally, and I hope you don't take this the wrong way, I think you need
to "back off". I have, in the past, been a bit put off by your
forwardness - even if it is done with good intentions. UseNet is a place
that some people come to so they can have a bit of fun, "vent" to
(virtual)
strangers without worrying about the consequences in their real lives, and
sometimes just let out their sadness as they're perhaps, for whatever
reason, not able to do with their family.

Asking for people's addresses, so you can send them cards or letters, when
you don't even know them, is sort of creepy to me in a "stalkerish" sort
of
way. [I'm even considering taking my name off the Christmas card list so
you don't get my address! And I'll be *VERY* resentful if I have to do
that
because I have enjoyed exchanging Christmas cards with the people here for
4
or 5 years now!]

I understand that some people come here and see all the closeness of this
group and want to just dive in - but most of us have been "friends" for
years and years and have, only slowly, come to trust one another. For a
newcomer to expect the same is unrealistic and naive and, again, can be
very
off-putting.

This isn't the first time you've had to post an apology about being too
forward or "putting your foot in your mouth", in fact I don't even think
it's the second or third time! Maybe you should just try reading a bit and
stay more impersonal until people get to know you better or invite you to
be
closer.

Hugs,

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CN, I think this was well-put, the part about being patient when
joining
a new group, and giving folks time to really get to know you.
I am in another group (not cat group)...and it is much like rpca, very
nice folks, lots of helpful info. for anyone, newbie or not. But I got
turned
down the first year for admission into their mailing list. I kept
posting
and kept reading, asking questions or giving advice myself if I knew
an
answer. After about 3 years, I finally feel like a part of the group,
and not
an oustsider. They've been posting for many years, lots of them know
each
other IRL.
People are just wary about IRL contact with people they only barely
know
online. And rightly so, I reckon. It doesn't mean they hate you, for
sure. It
just means you're being too forward and forcing a type of intimacy way
too
soon.
BTW, I got on the mailing list this year :-). I truly wasn't offended
when I got
rejected, because I got a *very* nice e-mail explaining how the list
contains
home addresses, and they're just so careful about who gets it. It
makes
me feel better now, actually, knowing that *my* address is on it, and
it's
not going to be freely given out.

Sherry

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Too true. *Who was it who wrote "I'd never be a part of a group who would
have me as a member!" (JOKE) *

Groucho Marx, although he said "club" instead of "group. I doubt that
he was the first to use that, though. Some jokes and even whole
routines are very old. The famous "Who's on First" skit was old before
Abbot and Costello were born.

--
Will in New Haven



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