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How do I get her to trust me?

Feed her on a regular schedule twice a day. First, put the food in the room
where she hides. Call her name when you enter the room and talk to her.
Tell her it's O.K. Tell her she can eat. Then, leave her alone so she will
come out and eat. Shut the door so she will feel more secure.
After a while, go in and get the food dish and take away any remaining food.
When it is time for the next meal, repeat the previous steps.
Eventually, she will expect to be fed at that time and will be looking for
you because she will associate you with the food.
If she shows her face or answers you when you enter the room, put the food
down and sit very still across the room from her. Talk softly to her.
Encourage her to eat while you are there. Do not move.
When she comes out to eat while you are there, move a little closer to the
dish each time you feed her. Always sit perfectly still so you will not
spook her, until she warms up to you a little. Just keep pushing a tiny bit
at a time.
Between feeding time, go into the room with some treats. Sit and read and
pretty much ignore her, except for talking to her. When you go, leave a
couple of treats behind where you were.
If there is a bed or a place to sleep, even on the floor, sleep in there
some nights. She probably will come out and check you out. You might find
her walking on you or on the bed with you, just watching you. Let her get
used to you.
The Feliway suggestion to make her feel more comfortable is very good.
Also, be sure she has a sturdy scratching post, because she will need to
scratch something.
She will come around. Really. Some take longer than others, but she will
come around.
Annie