wrote:

They're worse on the DH front, but at least it looks like I've
recovered one of my "lost" friendships.

He came over last night and we talked for four or five hours, even
stuff from years ago (we've known each other half my life). Worked
through a lot, got very honest about a lot, and it looks like we are
very solidly dear friends once again.

I'm so happy to hear this! It's hard to lose a longtime friend,
especially when everything else is going so badly and you really
need support.

He is going to help me through
some of this divorce stuff, too, whatever he can, whenever he can. I
am so grateful. Friends make all the difference

You're not kidding! I can compare two significant relationship breakups
in my life, one in 1987 and the other in '99. In '87 I had also lost a
lot of friends and had been very stressed for a long time. I pretty
much fell apart when my SO and I split. In '99, I was very suddenly
and rether unceremoniously dumped by my long-term SO, and I was really
scared I was going to have another 1987. But a very close friend said
to me, "Don't forget that you have a lot of people in your life right
now who really care about you," and I realized it was true. And suddenly,
I knew right then that I was going to be OK. I was still in pain, still
angry and grieving, but I knew I wasn't going to fall apart. I was able
to keep my life going. My kitties played a big role in that, too!

And so today I follow in Yowie's footsteps, and begin to take
antidepressants. I hope they will help me through this time, give me
more energy, and help my outlook. I really, really hate going this
route

How come? I mean, how come you hate going this route? It might be the
best thing you can do for yourself at the moment. It doesn't have to
be permanent.

So glad things are getting better - purrs for that to continue!

Joyce