On 2006-06-09, CatNipped penned:
"Monique Y. Mudama" wrote in message
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Well, obviously you should do whatever makes you feel comfortable.
My mom tried to shame me into shaving, and even told me, "If you
weren't dating [ex-bf], you would have to shave to get a
boyfriend." Hrmph! Hasn't been true thus far in my life, and
obviously that kind of BS is what I'm still reacting to
(sub)consciously today.

Yeah, I can see where you'd rebel - that was an awful thing to say
(but then reading about your mom, that one doesn't surprise me).

*sigh* sadly true. Therapy is helping immensely. I'm really starting
to understand myself, for example why my anger (even rage) flares up
so easily. No wonder, when I had to deal with these kinds of
comments! It's hard to be mad at your mom, so I found ways to
redirect.

I love my mother. Please don't take anything I say as meaning
anything other than that. I also know that she loves me and never
meant to hurt me. I can only assume she has her own emotional
baggage. As they say, children don't come with a manual.

I think some of my feelings about this issue come from having grown
up in a different era. I certainly don't think I should tell
someone else what's right for them, I'm a *FIRM* believer in
"different strokes for different folks".

I think the vast, vast majority of people in my generation expect
women to shave all sorts of places, and consider it gross if they
don't. *shrug* I agree with "different strokes," for sure.

--
monique, who spoils Oscar unmercifully

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