Family Knows Best - OT RANT

wrote:

Enfilade wrote:

I go visit my family twice a year--I'm going right before Solstice,
and am gearing up already to be patient.

I would be gearing up to be *a* patient, ie, in the nearest psych unit.

Actually, that's not so true anymore, my family doesn't drive me crazy
the way they used to, in fact I can enjoy seeing them now. But at one time,
I definitely felt way off-kilter after spending time with them and it took
me a long time to recover.

Joyce

There is a great movie called "Home for the Holidays" that touches on
this. Holly Hunter has the leading role and as an adult she goes home to
her parents house for Thanksgiving. One line in the movie is my
favorite. She's looking around at everyone and thinks "Who are these
people?" It's a great comedy and perfect for this time of year if you
haven't seen it yet. I watch it every year because it fits my family.
Ann Bancroft and Robert Downy Jr. also play great parts in it.

Bob

wrote:

Enfilade wrote:

I go visit my family twice a year--I'm going right before Solstice,
and am gearing up already to be patient.

I would be gearing up to be *a* patient, ie, in the nearest psych unit.

Actually, that's not so true anymore, my family doesn't drive me crazy
the way they used to, in fact I can enjoy seeing them now. But at one time,
I definitely felt way off-kilter after spending time with them and it took
me a long time to recover.

Joyce

There is a great movie called "Home for the Holidays" that touches on
this. Holly Hunter has the leading role and as an adult she goes home to
her parents house for Thanksgiving. One line in the movie is my
favorite. She's looking around at everyone and thinks "Who are these
people?" It's a great comedy and perfect for this time of year if you
haven't seen it yet. I watch it every year because it fits my family.
Ann Bancroft and Robert Downy Jr. also play great parts in it.

Bob

I would not consider 150 lbs "fat" - unless you're 3 feet tall, maybe.

I'm 5'5". I don't feel fat. She tells me I'm fat. Whatever. My
clothes fit; Dylan thinks I'm hot; that's all I care.

I think you've done really well to be able to separate yourself from
her to this degree. Even just the awareness that her problems aren't
your problems can go a long way.

Well, I'm in a rational mood now. I'm a little less calm when she
provokes me. Like when she changed my eulogy to my grandmother to
suit herself, knowing I wouldn't find out until after the funeral,
since I couldn't attend it. Cripes, I was ready to /kill/ for days
afterwards.

Thanks Tweed *Snugs*

--Fil

Bob M wrote:

There is a great movie called "Home for the Holidays" that touches on
this. Holly Hunter has the leading role and as an adult she goes home to
her parents house for Thanksgiving.

You know, I've never seen that movie. And I love Holly Hunter. I should
definitely put that on my Netflix* queue.

Joyce

*Netflix is an online DVD rental service.

Enfilade wrote:

Well, I'm in a rational mood now. I'm a little less calm when she
provokes me.

Aren't we all?

Like when she changed my eulogy to my grandmother to
suit herself, knowing I wouldn't find out until after the funeral,
since I couldn't attend it. Cripes, I was ready to /kill/ for days
afterwards.

A tad controlling, is she? Aaargh, I'd be ready to write *her* a eulogy
for that one!

Joyce

wrote:

Enfilade wrote:

Well, I'm in a rational mood now. I'm a little less calm when she
provokes me.

Aren't we all?

Like when she changed my eulogy to my grandmother to
suit herself, knowing I wouldn't find out until after the funeral,
since I couldn't attend it. Cripes, I was ready to /kill/ for days
afterwards.

A tad controlling, is she? Aaargh, I'd be ready to write *her* a eulogy
for that one!

I'm with you, Joyce! If she wanted to eulogize the same
person, why didn't she write one of her own? I don't think
funerals are limited to one - I've attended some where
several people spoke. (Sometimes poeple who'd known the
deceased in different aspects of his/her life, but not always.)

Joyce