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"Monique Y. Mudama" wrote in message ... On 2004-12-04, penned: Monique Y. Mudama wrote: Anyway, the really sad part to me is that, when I told my dad I was going to look for a therapist to talk some of my stress out, it really bummed him out... my father I guess is just a different generation and a different culture. He said something like, "Well, honey, when you say you're going to see a therapist ... that sounds like, you know, you think you 'need therapy.'" Hi, When I saw this thread's subject line, I wondered whether it might be a good idea to share my experiences. (g) I've decided it is :^) My husband is severely disabled (he's a quadraplegic) and for the past 22 years, I have been his sole housekeeper/chauffeur/carer and general dogsbody most of the time. As the years have passed, his condition has caused him to become dependent on assisted breathing apparatus 24/7 and also frailer. There have been times when I have not coped well with the consequences of his condition and the additional health problems he has had, one of which was a nervous breakdown. Some years ago, I let my fears about what the future might hold for us become an excuse to start drinking very heavily. This was not a good idea. As a result, I became alcohol -dependant. After several months of alcohol abusing, I began to receive treatment for clinical depression. Sometime later my depression enabled me to think that committing suicide was a good idea. At this point in my life, on more than one occasion, after drinking heavily, I'd be slumped on the floor in our darkened sitting room or kitchen with my husband asleep in bed, surrounded by all the anti-depressants that my doctor had prescribed for me (which I had kept getting despite having stopped taking them because I had decided they were not doing me any good) and a knife pressed against my wrist, fearing that if I overdosed on my ads and cut my wrists I wouldn't die quickly; thinking that no human would miss me and worrying about what would happen to my cats if I died. It was my love for cats that made me decide to go on living and seek help to overcome my inability to cope with my situation.. I have learnt the value of: keeping focussed only on the day in hand, remembering that tiredness always makes things seem worse; remembering that bad/difficult times pass; talking to folk; making time to do things for myself, and remembering to get active when I feel angry, frustrated, resentful and/or full of self-pity because when I am active those feelings and emotions often quickly go away. I also find it helpful to think about and make use of the wisdom in this prayer: "God grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change, the courage to change the things I can and the wisdom to know the difference". Sheenah |
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Prayers and purrs for you, Sheenah, and thanks for sharing. I nearly got
there once myself. I hope you'll be able to cope with your caring role. It's very difficult. ((hugs)) Tweed "Sheenah" wrote in message ... "Monique Y. Mudama" wrote in message ... On 2004-12-04, penned: Monique Y. Mudama wrote: Anyway, the really sad part to me is that, when I told my dad I was going to look for a therapist to talk some of my stress out, it really bummed him out... my father I guess is just a different generation and a different culture. He said something like, "Well, honey, when you say you're going to see a therapist ... that sounds like, you know, you think you 'need therapy.'" Hi, When I saw this thread's subject line, I wondered whether it might be a good idea to share my experiences. (g) I've decided it is :^) My husband is severely disabled (he's a quadraplegic) and for the past 22 years, I have been his sole housekeeper/chauffeur/carer and general dogsbody most of the time. As the years have passed, his condition has caused him to become dependent on assisted breathing apparatus 24/7 and also frailer. There have been times when I have not coped well with the consequences of his condition and the additional health problems he has had, one of which was a nervous breakdown. Some years ago, I let my fears about what the future might hold for us become an excuse to start drinking very heavily. This was not a good idea. As a result, I became alcohol -dependant. After several months of alcohol abusing, I began to receive treatment for clinical depression. Sometime later my depression enabled me to think that committing suicide was a good idea. At this point in my life, on more than one occasion, after drinking heavily, I'd be slumped on the floor in our darkened sitting room or kitchen with my husband asleep in bed, surrounded by all the anti-depressants that my doctor had prescribed for me (which I had kept getting despite having stopped taking them because I had decided they were not doing me any good) and a knife pressed against my wrist, fearing that if I overdosed on my ads and cut my wrists I wouldn't die quickly; thinking that no human would miss me and worrying about what would happen to my cats if I died. It was my love for cats that made me decide to go on living and seek help to overcome my inability to cope with my situation.. I have learnt the value of: keeping focussed only on the day in hand, remembering that tiredness always makes things seem worse; remembering that bad/difficult times pass; talking to folk; making time to do things for myself, and remembering to get active when I feel angry, frustrated, resentful and/or full of self-pity because when I am active those feelings and emotions often quickly go away. I also find it helpful to think about and make use of the wisdom in this prayer: "God grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change, the courage to change the things I can and the wisdom to know the difference". Sheenah |
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"Christina Websell" wrote in message ... Prayers and purrs for you, Sheenah, and thanks for sharing. I nearly got there once myself. I hope you'll be able to cope with your caring role. It's very difficult. ((hugs)) Tweed Gosh. I didn't expect to become the focus of any attention. Thank you very much for your purrs, prayers and hugs. Sheenah "Sheenah" wrote in message ... snip |
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"Cheryl Perkins" wrote in message
... Monique Y. Mudama wrote: snip Saying that you don't like exercise because you don't like gyms is like .... um ... saying you don't care for food because you don't like microwave meals. To me, anyway. Gyms are a pale shadow of the real deal. I actually rather like doing stuff at the gym, which I started going to about six months ago. I usually make myself do something on a bike for 20-30 minutes, because it's good for the heart, and then use however many machines I feel inclined to or have time for. I tend to emphasize the machines that work the arms, because I walk a lot and what with that and the stationary bike, I figure my legs are OK. I used to hate exercise because I associated it with team sports which I hate because I don't really care which side wins, and I also don't have very good eye-hand coordination and tend to duck if I see a ball heading towards me, instead of catching or hitting it. Then I got back into swimming (I'd learned the basics as a child), aerobics, tai chi and yoga (not all at the same time!) which I liked. The gym is more flexible (no set class times or lengths!) and my employer pays a good bit of the cost of membership at one practically next door to my workplace. So I decided to give it a try. I'd like to try Yoga or Tai Chi, but like almost anythign that seems to be "women's interest" stuff, the classes around here are all during the day. Then again, by the time I get home from work, I'm already exhausted, and by the time dinner is organised and Cary is in bed, all I can do is flop in front of a TV or Monitor for an hour or so before I fall into bed. I don't know when I'm supposed to find the time to excercise! Yowie |
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"Sheenah" wrote in message ... "Christina Websell" wrote in message ... Prayers and purrs for you, Sheenah, and thanks for sharing. I nearly got there once myself. I hope you'll be able to cope with your caring role. It's very difficult. ((hugs)) Tweed Gosh. I didn't expect to become the focus of any attention. Thank you very much for your purrs, prayers and hugs. Sheenah You expected to post to this lovely group with your pain, and be ignored? No way. Tweed |
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Thank you for having the courage to share your experience. The worse thing
about depression is feeling so alone and feeling that nobody else in the whole world feels that way or cares about you. When we learn that others are feeling or have felt just as bad but have found ways to cope that helps us find the means to go on. Hugs, CatNipped "Sheenah" wrote in message ... "Monique Y. Mudama" wrote in message ... On 2004-12-04, penned: Monique Y. Mudama wrote: Anyway, the really sad part to me is that, when I told my dad I was going to look for a therapist to talk some of my stress out, it really bummed him out... my father I guess is just a different generation and a different culture. He said something like, "Well, honey, when you say you're going to see a therapist ... that sounds like, you know, you think you 'need therapy.'" Hi, When I saw this thread's subject line, I wondered whether it might be a good idea to share my experiences. (g) I've decided it is :^) My husband is severely disabled (he's a quadraplegic) and for the past 22 years, I have been his sole housekeeper/chauffeur/carer and general dogsbody most of the time. As the years have passed, his condition has caused him to become dependent on assisted breathing apparatus 24/7 and also frailer. There have been times when I have not coped well with the consequences of his condition and the additional health problems he has had, one of which was a nervous breakdown. Some years ago, I let my fears about what the future might hold for us become an excuse to start drinking very heavily. This was not a good idea. As a result, I became alcohol -dependant. After several months of alcohol abusing, I began to receive treatment for clinical depression. Sometime later my depression enabled me to think that committing suicide was a good idea. At this point in my life, on more than one occasion, after drinking heavily, I'd be slumped on the floor in our darkened sitting room or kitchen with my husband asleep in bed, surrounded by all the anti-depressants that my doctor had prescribed for me (which I had kept getting despite having stopped taking them because I had decided they were not doing me any good) and a knife pressed against my wrist, fearing that if I overdosed on my ads and cut my wrists I wouldn't die quickly; thinking that no human would miss me and worrying about what would happen to my cats if I died. It was my love for cats that made me decide to go on living and seek help to overcome my inability to cope with my situation.. I have learnt the value of: keeping focussed only on the day in hand, remembering that tiredness always makes things seem worse; remembering that bad/difficult times pass; talking to folk; making time to do things for myself, and remembering to get active when I feel angry, frustrated, resentful and/or full of self-pity because when I am active those feelings and emotions often quickly go away. I also find it helpful to think about and make use of the wisdom in this prayer: "God grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change, the courage to change the things I can and the wisdom to know the difference". Sheenah |
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"Christina Websell" wrote in
message ... "Sheenah" wrote in message ... "Christina Websell" wrote in message ... Prayers and purrs for you, Sheenah, and thanks for sharing. I nearly got there once myself. I hope you'll be able to cope with your caring role. It's very difficult. ((hugs)) Tweed Gosh. I didn't expect to become the focus of any attention. Thank you very much for your purrs, prayers and hugs. Sheenah You expected to post to this lovely group with your pain, and be ignored? No way. Tweed Dear Tweed, I used to be a regular poster here and well remember the warmth, friendliness, supportiveness and great sense of fun that can be found here and which makes this community such a special place. LOL. My elderly Siamese Thalia has just walked past me and by so doing has reminded me that as this NG has cats in it's title, maybe I ought to introduce you to my "gang". They are, in no particular order: Thalia who celebrated her 18th birthday on 26th October, Sylvia, Abbie, Hermoine, Dee Dee, Megan, Ebony, Jim Bo and Jason. Only Thalia is not a former abandoned cat. g Those gang members who willingly posed for photos or were, unfortunately, caught on camera in an unguarded moment, are not aware that their mainly, mugshots, appear at the following link: http://makeashorterlink.com/?A5C2323F9 It may not be a good idea to tell them :^) Love and best wishes Sheenah |
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Sheenah wrote:
My husband is severely disabled (he's a quadraplegic) and for the past 22 years, I have been his sole housekeeper/chauffeur/carer and general dogsbody most of the time. As the years have passed, his condition has caused him to become dependent on assisted breathing apparatus 24/7 and also frailer. There have been times when I have not coped well with the consequences of his condition and the additional health problems he has had, one of which was a nervous breakdown. Wow, when I need emotional support in the future, I'm going to ask you how you've done it. Sheenah and thank you. Pam S. |
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"CatNipped" wrote in message ... The worse thing about depression is feeling so alone and feeling that nobody else in the whole world feels that way or cares about you. When we learn that others are feeling or have felt just as bad but have found ways to cope that helps us find the means to go on. I agree. Hugs, CatNipped (((hugs))) g and love, back at ya :^) Sheenah |
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"Tanada" wrote in message nk.net... Sheenah wrote: My husband is severely disabled (he's a quadraplegic) Wow, when I need emotional support in the future, I'm going to ask you how you've done it. Sheenah and thank you. Pam S. Hi Pam, I remember you breaking the news about Rob having a brain tumour and have just been using Google to get your latest news. Hugs, purrs, prayers and lots of love to you both. Sheenah PS: Does Capt' n' Pine Cone still love Chloe :^) |
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