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[mostly OT] My drunken neighbor
My next-door neighbor has been on a drunken binge for the past 3
days. I live in an apartment building - a smallish one, 4 units, two upstairs, two downstairs. I'm in one of the upstairs ones, and he is in the other. He lives with a female partner (don't know if they're legally married) and their two cats. They aren't sociable people, but they've always been very polite and neighborly. In particular, the guy has shown a lot of concern about Smudge when she's had her various escapades. Their two cats appear to be healthy and, while a bit shy, certainly not terrorized or seeming to be victims of abuse. A couple of days ago, I woke up to loud banging, but by the time I'd hauled my groggy butt out of bed, it had stopped. While I was making breakfast, I heard more banging outside the back door - I opened it to find my female neighbor outside trying to get in. She said, "The doofus is drunk, and locked the screen door, and now I can't get in." That was the first clue I had of what was to come. Later, I was on my front balcony, painting some shelves, when I heard the guy ranting and raving. It was coherent but still bizarre, all about religion and politics, as far as I could tell. It didn't seem like he was yelling at the woman. Occasionally I'd hear banging. He was clearly in a rage. This went on for hours, and continued until late at night. Then yesterday, same thing. I left the house in the early afternoon, and didn't come home until late, so didn't have to deal with much of it, but it was still going on sporadically. And I was woken up in the middle of the night a couple of times by the banging and crashing. (Sometimes it sounded like he was pounding something at regular intervals with his fist, and other times, it sounded like he was throwing or knocking over heavy objects that would crash loudly and shake the house.) Today it's quiet. Maybe he's sobering up and has a hangover, or maybe he went to work. She is home - I saw her earlier. (I had let Smudge out and Smudge went over to their door - the front door was open but the screen door was shut, so she peered in to annoy their cats. I could hear the neighbor cat meowing, which tells me that their cats are, at least, OK.) When my (female) neighbor saw Smudge, she came outside onto the balcony, and we had a brief conversation. She didn't look hurt or particularly traumatized, so at first glance, it doesn't seem as though her partner is abusing *her*. I wanted to ask if she was OK, but to be honest, I'm *afraid* to get involved because I live alone and I feel vulnerable. However, I plan to talk to my other neighbors and I will see what they think. My kitties were unnerved by all the noise. Licky kept running under the bed and just looking like he was about to bolt any second. Roxy has come up to me a number of times looking for reassurance. Smudge seems mostly unperturbed, but occasionally would get startled. She is easily calmed by some petting and "it's OK, Smudgie." Now who is going to calm me?? Joyce -- To send email to this address, remove the triple-X from my user name. |
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[mostly OT] My drunken neighbor
I would have called the police. I"m sorry but that is disturbing the peace.
wrote in message ... My next-door neighbor has been on a drunken binge for the past 3 days. I live in an apartment building - a smallish one, 4 units, two upstairs, two downstairs. I'm in one of the upstairs ones, and he is in the other. He lives with a female partner (don't know if they're legally married) and their two cats. They aren't sociable people, but they've always been very polite and neighborly. In particular, the guy has shown a lot of concern about Smudge when she's had her various escapades. Their two cats appear to be healthy and, while a bit shy, certainly not terrorized or seeming to be victims of abuse. A couple of days ago, I woke up to loud banging, but by the time I'd hauled my groggy butt out of bed, it had stopped. While I was making breakfast, I heard more banging outside the back door - I opened it to find my female neighbor outside trying to get in. She said, "The doofus is drunk, and locked the screen door, and now I can't get in." That was the first clue I had of what was to come. Later, I was on my front balcony, painting some shelves, when I heard the guy ranting and raving. It was coherent but still bizarre, all about religion and politics, as far as I could tell. It didn't seem like he was yelling at the woman. Occasionally I'd hear banging. He was clearly in a rage. This went on for hours, and continued until late at night. Then yesterday, same thing. I left the house in the early afternoon, and didn't come home until late, so didn't have to deal with much of it, but it was still going on sporadically. And I was woken up in the middle of the night a couple of times by the banging and crashing. (Sometimes it sounded like he was pounding something at regular intervals with his fist, and other times, it sounded like he was throwing or knocking over heavy objects that would crash loudly and shake the house.) Today it's quiet. Maybe he's sobering up and has a hangover, or maybe he went to work. She is home - I saw her earlier. (I had let Smudge out and Smudge went over to their door - the front door was open but the screen door was shut, so she peered in to annoy their cats. I could hear the neighbor cat meowing, which tells me that their cats are, at least, OK.) When my (female) neighbor saw Smudge, she came outside onto the balcony, and we had a brief conversation. She didn't look hurt or particularly traumatized, so at first glance, it doesn't seem as though her partner is abusing *her*. I wanted to ask if she was OK, but to be honest, I'm *afraid* to get involved because I live alone and I feel vulnerable. However, I plan to talk to my other neighbors and I will see what they think. My kitties were unnerved by all the noise. Licky kept running under the bed and just looking like he was about to bolt any second. Roxy has come up to me a number of times looking for reassurance. Smudge seems mostly unperturbed, but occasionally would get startled. She is easily calmed by some petting and "it's OK, Smudgie." Now who is going to calm me?? Joyce -- To send email to this address, remove the triple-X from my user name. |
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... My next-door neighbor has been on a drunken binge for the past 3 days. ... My kitties were unnerved by all the noise. ... ...Smudge seems mostly unperturbed, but occasionally would get startled. She is easily calmed by some petting and "it's OK, Smudgie." Now who is going to calm me?? WE are, friends on this group, with the power of purr. Soothing purrs on their way. Distance is no barrier to the power of purr. -- MatSav |
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Monique Y. Mudama wrote:
On 2007-12-26, penned: Today it's quiet. Maybe he's sobering up and has a hangover, or maybe he went to work. Wow. Purrs for everyone involved -- yes, even this guy, since he must be deeply troubled by *something*. Well, yeah. Nobody becomes a raging drunk becuase they're happy, do they? It would be a lot easier for me to have compassion at a bit more of a distance, though. :-/ Thanks, Joyce -- To send email to this address, remove the triple-X from my user name. |
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My drunken neighbor
On Dec 26, 1:39*pm, wrote:
My next-door neighbor has been on a drunken binge for the past 3 days. I live in an apartment building - a smallish one, 4 units, two upstairs, two downstairs. I'm in one of the upstairs ones, and he is in the other. He lives with a female partner (don't know if they're legally married) and their two cats. They aren't sociable people, but they've always been very polite and neighborly. In particular, the guy has shown a lot of concern about Smudge when she's had her various escapades. Their two cats appear to be healthy and, while a bit shy, certainly not terrorized or seeming to be victims of abuse. A couple of days ago, I woke up to loud banging, but by the time I'd hauled my groggy butt out of bed, it had stopped. While I was making breakfast, I heard more banging outside the back door - I opened it to find my female neighbor outside trying to get in. She said, "The doofus is drunk, and locked the screen door, and now I can't get in." That was the first clue I had of what was to come. Later, I was on my front balcony, painting some shelves, when I heard the guy ranting and raving. It was coherent but still bizarre, all about religion and politics, as far as I could tell. It didn't seem like he was yelling at the woman. Occasionally I'd hear banging. He was clearly in a rage. This went on for hours, and continued until late at night. Then yesterday, same thing. I left the house in the early afternoon, and didn't come home until late, so didn't have to deal with much of it, but it was still going on sporadically. And I was woken up in the middle of the night a couple of times by the banging and crashing. (Sometimes it sounded like he was pounding something at regular intervals with his fist, and other times, it sounded like he was throwing or knocking over heavy objects that would crash loudly and shake the house.) Today it's quiet. Maybe he's sobering up and has a hangover, or maybe he went to work. She is home - I saw her earlier. (I had let Smudge out and Smudge went over to their door - the front door was open but the screen door was shut, so she peered in to annoy their cats. I could hear the neighbor cat meowing, which tells me that their cats are, at least, OK.) When my (female) neighbor saw Smudge, she came outside onto the balcony, and we had a brief conversation. She didn't look hurt or particularly traumatized, so at first glance, it doesn't seem as though her partner is abusing *her*. I wanted to ask if she was OK, but to be honest, I'm *afraid* to get involved because I live alone and I feel vulnerable. However, I plan to talk to my other neighbors and I will see what they think. My kitties were unnerved by all the noise. Licky kept running under the bed and just looking like he was about to bolt any second. Roxy has come up to me a number of times looking for reassurance. Smudge seems mostly unperturbed, but occasionally would get startled. She is easily calmed by some petting and "it's OK, Smudgie." Now who is going to calm me?? Joyce -- To send email to this address, remove the triple-X from my user name. I'm sorry you had such a stressful Christmas, Joyce. Not fun to be the captive audience of someone else's alcoholic emotional melt-down. I have to admit, that if I'd been there, I'd have done what Karen recommended and called the police. Both for your sake, the woman's sake and even the drunken neighbor's sake--maybe he'd have dried out a few hours earlier if he'd realized how disturbing it actually was to his neighbors. The police have more experience dealing with loud and obstreporous drunks, and even if he hadn't dried out, at least you wouldn't have had to listen to the whole thing. Melissa |
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[mostly OT] My drunken neighbor
Monique Y. Mudama wrote:
No doubt! Much easier here from the luxury of my desk. I would be a trembling mess if all that noise were happening near me, I think -- I don't handle others' expressions of raw anger very well. At least it sounds like he didn't hurt any living creature while on his tear? I hope that's the case. Seems that way. But there's still a bit of banging going on. It's not carpentry or anything like that. It's much more random. Plus, the occasional yelling is a clue. Joyce -- To send email to this address, remove the triple-X from my user name. |
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My drunken neighbor
Shiral wrote:
I'm sorry you had such a stressful Christmas, Joyce. Not fun to be the captive audience of someone else's alcoholic emotional melt-down. I have to admit, that if I'd been there, I'd have done what Karen recommended and called the police. Both for your sake, the woman's sake and even the drunken neighbor's sake--maybe he'd have dried out a few hours earlier if he'd realized how disturbing it actually was to his neighbors. The police have more experience dealing with loud and obstreporous drunks, and even if he hadn't dried out, at least you wouldn't have had to listen to the whole thing. I know that was an option, but I was kind of chickensh*t to call - I didn't want them to know it was me and retaliate later. Joyce -- To send email to this address, remove the triple-X from my user name. |
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