Rob's update Saturday 3 March 07

Hey all, I'm responding on what will be Rob's new toy, thanks to
Mandy's boyfriend, Jim, and a certain wonderful lady in a northern
state. The arrangement is that this laptop will go to the hospital or
nursing home with us and that it is Rob's, but we will take it home
when we go home ourselves. Less chance for theft that way. After Rob
is gone, ownership of the laptop will go to Jim. This is an ACER
bought at Radioshack for $700 with a $100 rebate. Jim ponied up over
half of the cash for it, and I covered the rest. It has microsoft
vista on it and is wi-fi (obviously) wired.

We're looking at nursing homes for Rob. I have received two good
recommendations, or at least good as of 10 years ago. We hope to have
him back in Fayetteville this week. I'm currently waiting for lunch
and for Mike to get his heinz ketchup butt up here so we can take this
to Rob. I think Rob will really appreciate this.

We're back on the rollercoaster. When I called the rehab center,
Eric, Rob's nurse, said that Rob was sitting in the lunch room eating
and that he'd responded well to therapy. This after yesterday when
Rob was incontinent, unable to make sense, and so forth. I was told
to get used to it. I think this one is going to be a long one and
going to hurt. Sigh.

To be honest MaryL, I hadn't even thought about DNRs. Oh God, I don't
want to make that decision. As I just posted, Rob was not competent
yesterday, and I talked to the Social Worker who would be doing all
legal paperwork, and he said that he couldn't notarize any legal work
for Rob when he, the social worker, couldn't verify that Rob really
knew what he was signing. I agee with him. But this doesn't make it
any easier.

Pam S.

"tanadashoes" wrote in message
ups.com...
Hey all, I'm responding on what will be Rob's new toy, thanks to
Mandy's boyfriend, Jim, and a certain wonderful lady in a northern
state. The arrangement is that this laptop will go to the hospital or
nursing home with us and that it is Rob's, but we will take it home
when we go home ourselves. Less chance for theft that way. After Rob
is gone, ownership of the laptop will go to Jim. This is an ACER
bought at Radioshack for $700 with a $100 rebate. Jim ponied up over
half of the cash for it, and I covered the rest. It has microsoft
vista on it and is wi-fi (obviously) wired.

We're looking at nursing homes for Rob. I have received two good
recommendations, or at least good as of 10 years ago. We hope to have
him back in Fayetteville this week. I'm currently waiting for lunch
and for Mike to get his heinz ketchup butt up here so we can take this
to Rob. I think Rob will really appreciate this.

We're back on the rollercoaster. When I called the rehab center,
Eric, Rob's nurse, said that Rob was sitting in the lunch room eating
and that he'd responded well to therapy. This after yesterday when
Rob was incontinent, unable to make sense, and so forth. I was told
to get used to it. I think this one is going to be a long one and
going to hurt. Sigh.

To be honest MaryL, I hadn't even thought about DNRs. Oh God, I don't
want to make that decision. As I just posted, Rob was not competent
yesterday, and I talked to the Social Worker who would be doing all
legal paperwork, and he said that he couldn't notarize any legal work
for Rob when he, the social worker, couldn't verify that Rob really
knew what he was signing. I agee with him. But this doesn't make it
any easier.

Pam S.

I thought I had a rough time when my husband died of lung cancer. Your
ordeal is much, much worse. If Rob becomes rational again, you can discuss
the DNR thing with him and find out his wishes. If that's what he wants,
and he's rational, he can sign the papers and it won't be your
responsibility. It's awful to have that kind of power, even when you know
you're trying to do the best for the person.

I didn't really do anything about it when my husband died. However, last
year when it became obvious that my mother needed to go into a nursing home,
I made sure I have a Directive to Physicians and a DNR. I think there are
three forms altogether, but it varies from state to state. Fortunately, my
mother had made her wishes clear, and had given my sister both financial and
medical powers of attorney, so things were done as she wished. It does help
when you know what the person wants, because you're carrying out their
wishes, rather than making the decisions for yourself.

My thoughts and prayers are with you during this very hard time.

((((((((((Pam and Rob))))))))))

Joy

On 3 Mar 2007 11:01:18 -0800, "tanadashoes"
yodeled:

Hey all, I'm responding on what will be Rob's new toy, thanks to
Mandy's boyfriend, Jim, and a certain wonderful lady in a northern
state. The arrangement is that this laptop will go to the hospital or
nursing home with us and that it is Rob's, but we will take it home
when we go home ourselves. Less chance for theft that way. After Rob
is gone, ownership of the laptop will go to Jim. This is an ACER
bought at Radioshack for $700 with a $100 rebate. Jim ponied up over
half of the cash for it, and I covered the rest. It has microsoft
vista on it and is wi-fi (obviously) wired.

We're looking at nursing homes for Rob. I have received two good
recommendations, or at least good as of 10 years ago. We hope to have
him back in Fayetteville this week. I'm currently waiting for lunch
and for Mike to get his heinz ketchup butt up here so we can take this
to Rob. I think Rob will really appreciate this.

We're back on the rollercoaster. When I called the rehab center,
Eric, Rob's nurse, said that Rob was sitting in the lunch room eating
and that he'd responded well to therapy. This after yesterday when
Rob was incontinent, unable to make sense, and so forth. I was told
to get used to it. I think this one is going to be a long one and
going to hurt. Sigh.

To be honest MaryL, I hadn't even thought about DNRs. Oh God, I don't
want to make that decision. As I just posted, Rob was not competent
yesterday, and I talked to the Social Worker who would be doing all
legal paperwork, and he said that he couldn't notarize any legal work
for Rob when he, the social worker, couldn't verify that Rob really
knew what he was signing. I agee with him. But this doesn't make it
any easier.

Pam S.


We are thinking of you and Rob and your whole gang. The Boyz are
sending you massive waves of purrs.


Theresa
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Make Levees, Not War

On Sat 03 Mar 2007 02:01:18p, tanadashoes wrote in
rec.pets.cats.anecdotes news:1172948478.632595.304290@
64g2000cwx.googlegroups.com:

We're back on the rollercoaster.

Pam, I haven't been a reg here but I read from time to time when I
can, and when I read about Rob my heart broke for you. My four are
purring for you and Rob and the kids and kits. My heart goes out to
you.

--
Cheryl

"tanadashoes" wrote:
To be honest MaryL, I hadn't even thought about DNRs. Oh God, I don't
want to make that decision. As I just posted, Rob was not competent
yesterday, and I talked to the Social Worker who would be doing all
legal paperwork, and he said that he couldn't notarize any legal work
for Rob when he, the social worker, couldn't verify that Rob really
knew what he was signing. I agee with him. But this doesn't make it
any easier.

It must be so scary to have to think about things like DNR and long
term care in connection with your spouse.

tanadashoes wrote:


We're looking at nursing homes for Rob. I have received two good
recommendations, or at least good as of 10 years ago. We hope to have
him back in Fayetteville this week. I'm currently waiting for lunch
and for Mike to get his heinz ketchup butt up here so we can take this
to Rob. I think Rob will really appreciate this.

Wish there was more I could do, but sending lots and lots of purrs and
hugs for you all. I do know something of what you're going through, as
my Dad had a brain tumour. He never recovered from the first surgery,
though. In a way, it must be more stressful to live with it for so long,
just waiting for the next recurrence. Glad you have a computer to keep
in touch.

--
Marina, Miranda and Caliban. In loving memory of Frank and Nikki.
Stories and pics at http://koti.welho.com/mkurten/
Pics at http://s120.photobucket.com/albums/o185/frankiennikki/
http://uk.pg.photos.yahoo.com/ph/frankiennikki/
http://community.webshots.com/user/frankiennikki

tanadashoes wrote:

Hey all, I'm responding on what will be Rob's new toy, thanks to
Mandy's boyfriend, Jim, and a certain wonderful lady in a northern
state. The arrangement is that this laptop will go to the hospital or
nursing home with us and that it is Rob's, but we will take it home
when we go home ourselves. Less chance for theft that way. After Rob
is gone, ownership of the laptop will go to Jim. This is an ACER
bought at Radioshack for $700 with a $100 rebate. Jim ponied up over
half of the cash for it, and I covered the rest. It has microsoft
vista on it and is wi-fi (obviously) wired.

We're looking at nursing homes for Rob. I have received two good
recommendations, or at least good as of 10 years ago. We hope to have
him back in Fayetteville this week. I'm currently waiting for lunch
and for Mike to get his heinz ketchup butt up here so we can take this
to Rob. I think Rob will really appreciate this.

We're back on the rollercoaster. When I called the rehab center,
Eric, Rob's nurse, said that Rob was sitting in the lunch room eating
and that he'd responded well to therapy. This after yesterday when
Rob was incontinent, unable to make sense, and so forth. I was told
to get used to it. I think this one is going to be a long one and
going to hurt. Sigh.

To be honest MaryL, I hadn't even thought about DNRs. Oh God, I don't
want to make that decision. As I just posted, Rob was not competent
yesterday, and I talked to the Social Worker who would be doing all
legal paperwork, and he said that he couldn't notarize any legal work
for Rob when he, the social worker, couldn't verify that Rob really
knew what he was signing. I agee with him. But this doesn't make it
any easier.

Pam S.

We are purring and sending lots of hugs and best wishes,
Polonca and Soncek

polonca12000 wrote:
tanadashoes wrote:

Hey all, I'm responding on what will be Rob's new toy, thanks to
Mandy's boyfriend, Jim, and a certain wonderful lady in a northern
state. The arrangement is that this laptop will go to the hospital
or nursing home with us and that it is Rob's, but we will take it
home when we go home ourselves. Less chance for theft that way.
After Rob is gone, ownership of the laptop will go to Jim. This is
an ACER bought at Radioshack for $700 with a $100 rebate. Jim
ponied up over half of the cash for it, and I covered the rest. It
has microsoft vista on it and is wi-fi (obviously) wired.

We're looking at nursing homes for Rob. I have received two good
recommendations, or at least good as of 10 years ago. We hope to
have him back in Fayetteville this week. I'm currently waiting for
lunch and for Mike to get his heinz ketchup butt up here so we can
take this to Rob. I think Rob will really appreciate this.

We're back on the rollercoaster. When I called the rehab center,
Eric, Rob's nurse, said that Rob was sitting in the lunch room eating
and that he'd responded well to therapy. This after yesterday when
Rob was incontinent, unable to make sense, and so forth. I was told
to get used to it. I think this one is going to be a long one and
going to hurt. Sigh.

To be honest MaryL, I hadn't even thought about DNRs. Oh God, I
don't want to make that decision. As I just posted, Rob was not
competent yesterday, and I talked to the Social Worker who would be
doing all legal paperwork, and he said that he couldn't notarize any
legal work for Rob when he, the social worker, couldn't verify that
Rob really knew what he was signing. I agee with him. But this
doesn't make it any easier.

Pam S.

We are purring and sending lots of hugs and best wishes,
Polonca and Soncek

I've got major purrs going for you, too, Pam. I'm so sorry this all is
happening to you.

kili

Pam, when you check out a nursing home be sure to visit after 5pm. The
bosses are gone then and that when you see wwhats going on. Saturday
afternoon is also a good time. let me know if you need any suggestions.
Love you.
Suz&Spicey

still purring and again if you need to talk email me a number and I can
call, have singular with no long distance and lots of minutes left over
every month, Lee
tanadashoes wrote in message
ups.com...
Hey all, I'm responding on what will be Rob's new toy, thanks to
Mandy's boyfriend, Jim, and a certain wonderful lady in a northern
state. The arrangement is that this laptop will go to the hospital or
nursing home with us and that it is Rob's, but we will take it home
when we go home ourselves. Less chance for theft that way. After Rob
is gone, ownership of the laptop will go to Jim. This is an ACER
bought at Radioshack for $700 with a $100 rebate. Jim ponied up over
half of the cash for it, and I covered the rest. It has microsoft
vista on it and is wi-fi (obviously) wired.

We're looking at nursing homes for Rob. I have received two good
recommendations, or at least good as of 10 years ago. We hope to have
him back in Fayetteville this week. I'm currently waiting for lunch
and for Mike to get his heinz ketchup butt up here so we can take this
to Rob. I think Rob will really appreciate this.

We're back on the rollercoaster. When I called the rehab center,
Eric, Rob's nurse, said that Rob was sitting in the lunch room eating
and that he'd responded well to therapy. This after yesterday when
Rob was incontinent, unable to make sense, and so forth. I was told
to get used to it. I think this one is going to be a long one and
going to hurt. Sigh.

To be honest MaryL, I hadn't even thought about DNRs. Oh God, I don't
want to make that decision. As I just posted, Rob was not competent
yesterday, and I talked to the Social Worker who would be doing all
legal paperwork, and he said that he couldn't notarize any legal work
for Rob when he, the social worker, couldn't verify that Rob really
knew what he was signing. I agee with him. But this doesn't make it
any easier.

Pam S.