What Can I Do To Help This Cat?

I recently adopted a 5 year old dsh/declawed/spayed female who was taken from
her home when the owner threatened to dump her in the street. She was put into
a waiting shelter for one month before I adopted her.

I've had 2-cat combos twice before with little problem...now, I have big
problems. My resident cat is a 10 lb. dsh/neutered/declawed alpha male who
lost his companion 3 months ago. He's claimed every part of the apartment since
then. The new girl was an only cat and is a sweetheart. I brought her into my
bedroom (w/a cage) and introduced the two. It went ok until the second day when
my boy jumped on her. I kept them apart since then. She has exclusive use of
my bedroom.

Problem 1: She has peed on the bed..the sheet..my quilts 3x so far and
deficated on my quilt. I cleaned the mattress as best as I could with a diluted
bleach solution, but she peed again and again. While I was cleaning (when she
threw up - problem 2) she peed on the bed again. I don't know what to do.
Currently there's the litterbox that was always there AND the litterbox that is
in her cage. She used the box twice for peeing but is not consistant. After
peeing in the box, she deficated next to the box. I put large garbage bags
over where she peed on the bed. So...she peed on the garbage bag. Shall I keep
her caged? How can I stop her from going on my bed. Can I teach her to use the
litterbox exclusively?

Problem 2: She doesn't keep food down. I feed her a little more than a
teaspoon of food at a time. When I feed her at breakfast and lunch, she vomits
by dinnertime. Originally, she was given Fancy Feast. I changed it to Friskies
(regular, not shredded or chunks), but she threw that up too. All food given to
her had fish or turkey as the first ingredient, not by-products or water. I had
her at the vets for 3 days so they could monitor this situation. She was
x-rayed and declared fine. Supposedly, she DID keep food down at the vet's
office AND at the month-long stay at the shelter. They fed her Friskies. She
had 5 teeth extracted before I got her and one tooth extracted after I got her.
Dry food isn't an option.

Problem 3: My resident cat cries from the other side of the door. I haven't
slept more than an hour an a time since the new cat arrived. (two weeks ago -
except for the 3 days she was at the vets). The inital arrangement was that
she was kept in the cage (in my bedroom) while my resident cat checked her out.
They met nose-to-nose (through the cage) and there was no hissing. So, I let
her out of the cage and he kept his distance for a short time. Pretty soon, she
hissed at/batted him..so he did the same. Then he started jumping on her (a
habit he had with his former companion..she didn't like it but she was twice
the size of this new cat and defended herself). I felt that made her ill so I
banished him from the bedroom. I visit her in the bedroom often (even though I
can't sleep on the bed). She appears to be very affectionate and nuzzles me
constantly. I make sure the resident cat gets plenty of lovin', too...but
sleep has been out of the question.

I placed over 15 calls to the vet who treated her, my regular vet, a pet
columnist, three cat rescue faciities, two members of the rescue group who
handled this adoption, and other pet people. Perhaps she was given away because
she had these problems. Who knows? I ordered Feliway (to help the cats
co-exist) but I don't know if that'll work. I don't know how to solve any of
the above problems. Perhaps she isn't meant for a 2 cat household. It breaks
my heart, but I am turning psychotic from lack of sleep. Any advice here or
email at would be so appreciated. Thank you.

problem 1: has the vet checked her for a urinary tract infection?
Have you tried a different brand/style of litter? Perhaps try clumping
clay, non-clumping clay, newspaper based, etc until you find one she'll use.

Re. problem 2: Could be that the stree of having another cat that
doens't seem to like her could be contributing. Give the Feliway a
chance, see if it helps. Perhaps even a Feliway diffuser.

problem 1: has the vet checked her for a urinary tract infection?
Have you tried a different brand/style of litter? Perhaps try clumping
clay, non-clumping clay, newspaper based, etc until you find one she'll use.

Re. problem 2: Could be that the stree of having another cat that
doens't seem to like her could be contributing. Give the Feliway a
chance, see if it helps. Perhaps even a Feliway diffuser.