Paranoia strikes deep

Rhonda wrote:
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I don't agree at all with people in this thread who have told you you
are being paranoid and depressed, and get it seen to. How can you tell
someone that? You can't diagnose that stuff over the internet even if
you have a psychology degree and know someone's whole situation.

I don't agree either. I think she makes a valid point. People really
don't respond to posts like we used to. It's not that she's depressed
or paranoid, that's really the way it is. She isn't the first to bring
this up. Cheryl noticed it long ago, and so have I.

I think you're a very intelligent person, Joyce, and sometimes your
answers go deeper to spark conversation than the average answer. In the
real world, there would be a conversation.

Absolutely. Some really interesting threads die out quickly, and I
don't know why. I thought it was sad when a catfight imported over
from rec.food.cooking started more "conversation" than any other thread
that day. I always did hate that.

Sherry

wrote:
I've been participating on this ng since 1999, and yet I don't feel
that there is anyone here who likes me very much, or values my
contributions. I don't know why that would be, though - I'm a
genuine cat-lover, I respond to other people's posts, I have a good
sense of humor, and I respect netiquette. I don't have to be
everyone's best friend, and I know that nobody can be liked by
everyone, but I keep having this feeling like pretty much everyone
here has a negative response to me for some reason.

I'll probably regret sending this because it's so revealing, and
vulnerability just draws the sadists and slimebuckets out of the
woodwork. This is Usenet after all. But 99% of the people who post
regularly here are neither sadists nor slimebuckets, so I'm just
going to take the risk. I don't plan on unsubscribing in a huff, I
like reading about everyone's cats, and I enjoy this community even
if the community doesn't enjoy me. But it still makes me sad.

So if I'm just being depressed and paranoid, please let me know
this. And if for some reason I do bug you, you can let me know that,
too, especially if it's something I can or should change. You know,
sometimes people do obnoxious things in a social situation without
even meaning to. So if I have virtual bad breath, please don't let
me keep breathing it on you!

Joyce

I hate when paranoia strikes me as it, apparently, has you. It's a joy to
read your posts! Take a nap, listen to your favorite song, pet your kitties
and put a smile on your face. :~)

kili

On 2006-12-10 09:17:20 -0600, said:


wrote:
I've been participating on this ng since 1999, and yet I don't feel
that there is anyone here who likes me very much, or values my
contributions. I don't know why that would be, though - I'm a
genuine cat-lover, I respond to other people's posts, I have a good
sense of humor, and I respect netiquette. I don't have to be everyone's
best friend, and I know that nobody can be liked by everyone, but I
keep having this feeling like pretty much everyone here has a negative
response to me for some reason.

I'll probably regret sending this because it's so revealing, and
vulnerability just draws the sadists and slimebuckets out of the
woodwork. This is Usenet after all. But 99% of the people who post
regularly here are neither sadists nor slimebuckets, so I'm just
going to take the risk. I don't plan on unsubscribing in a huff, I
like reading about everyone's cats, and I enjoy this community even
if the community doesn't enjoy me. But it still makes me sad.

So if I'm just being depressed and paranoid, please let me know
this. And if for some reason I do bug you, you can let me know that,
too, especially if it's something I can or should change. You know,
sometimes people do obnoxious things in a social situation without
even meaning to. So if I have virtual bad breath, please don't let
me keep breathing it on you!

Joyce

I don't think you're being paranoid, because I feel the same way, and I
don't think *I'm* being paranoid. I don't think it's personal, either.
I think the dynamics of this group have changed a lot. We have much
fewer posts. Many people have dropped out or just rarely post. For
instance, Cheryl and Karen used to reply to a lot of my posts. I think
they're both just busy with IRL, but I really notice it when I post
something and no one replies. I miss them. So what I'm trying to say
is, fewer active posters make fewer replies.
Sherry

It's true. I barely get time to skim anymore. I will have a lot more
time soon.

wrote:
I've been participating on this ng since 1999, and yet I don't feel
that there is anyone here who likes me very much
(snippage)

Sweetie, I like you a lot! I don't always reply to every post but I like
appreciate them, I really do!

Jill

On 10 Dec 2006 06:53:14 GMT, wrote:

I've been participating on this ng since 1999, and yet I don't feel
that there is anyone here who likes me very much, or values my
contributions. I don't know why that would be, though - I'm a
genuine cat-lover, I respond to other people's posts, I have a good
sense of humor, and I respect netiquette. I don't have to be everyone's
best friend, and I know that nobody can be liked by everyone, but I
keep having this feeling like pretty much everyone here has a negative
response to me for some reason.

I'll probably regret sending this because it's so revealing, and
vulnerability just draws the sadists and slimebuckets out of the
woodwork. This is Usenet after all. But 99% of the people who post
regularly here are neither sadists nor slimebuckets, so I'm just
going to take the risk. I don't plan on unsubscribing in a huff, I
like reading about everyone's cats, and I enjoy this community even
if the community doesn't enjoy me. But it still makes me sad.

So if I'm just being depressed and paranoid, please let me know
this. And if for some reason I do bug you, you can let me know that,
too, especially if it's something I can or should change. You know,
sometimes people do obnoxious things in a social situation without
even meaning to. So if I have virtual bad breath, please don't let
me keep breathing it on you!

Joyce
Joyce,

I certaintly appreciate your posts. You're one of the more articulate
folks here and I really do enjoy reading your stories! Please don't
leave!

I don't reply much because I mostly read the ng at work (lunch and
breaks only, Boss!!) and the system is set up to not allow me to post.
So the only time I can post is weekends, like now, or evenings, which
doesn't happen much. We work 9-10 hr days and at the end of them, I'm
pretty well bushed. After taking a little time for Eric, myself, and
the Chigger Ranch Crew (Tiger, Casper and the Lucy-monster), there
isn't much time for much else. But I always read and enjoy...So hang
around and keep me from going crazy at work!!!

--Kim

wrote:
I've been participating on this ng since 1999, and yet I don't feel
that there is anyone here who likes me very much, or values my
contributions.

I like you, and appreciate the things you write. The group is ten
years old now, and it's maturing.

wrote:

I've been participating on this ng since 1999, and yet I don't feel
that there is anyone here who likes me very much, or values my
contributions. I don't know why that would be, though - I'm a
genuine cat-lover, I respond to other people's posts, I have a good
sense of humor, and I respect netiquette. I don't have to be everyone's
best friend, and I know that nobody can be liked by everyone, but I
keep having this feeling like pretty much everyone here has a negative
response to me for some reason.

I'll probably regret sending this because it's so revealing, and
vulnerability just draws the sadists and slimebuckets out of the
woodwork. This is Usenet after all. But 99% of the people who post
regularly here are neither sadists nor slimebuckets, so I'm just
going to take the risk. I don't plan on unsubscribing in a huff, I
like reading about everyone's cats, and I enjoy this community even
if the community doesn't enjoy me. But it still makes me sad.

So if I'm just being depressed and paranoid, please let me know
this. And if for some reason I do bug you, you can let me know that,
too, especially if it's something I can or should change. You know,
sometimes people do obnoxious things in a social situation without
even meaning to. So if I have virtual bad breath, please don't let
me keep breathing it on you!

Joyce

I'm really sorry you are feeling that way. I read all the posts and I
see nothing wrong with yours. But mostly I am very behind in reading
rpca, so I post only short replies and even then not to every post.
English is not my maternal language and there are times when I would
like to make a longer comment to a post, but I cannot find the right
words in English
I hope you will continue to post. Lots of hugs and purrs,
Polonca and Soncek

wrote:
I've been participating on this ng since 1999, and yet I don't feel
that there is anyone here who likes me very much, or values my
contributions. I don't know why that would be, though - I'm a
genuine cat-lover, I respond to other people's posts, I have a good
sense of humor, and I respect netiquette. I don't have to be everyone's
best friend, and I know that nobody can be liked by everyone, but I
keep having this feeling like pretty much everyone here has a negative
response to me for some reason.

I'll probably regret sending this because it's so revealing, and
vulnerability just draws the sadists and slimebuckets out of the
woodwork. This is Usenet after all. But 99% of the people who post
regularly here are neither sadists nor slimebuckets, so I'm just
going to take the risk. I don't plan on unsubscribing in a huff, I
like reading about everyone's cats, and I enjoy this community even
if the community doesn't enjoy me. But it still makes me sad.

So if I'm just being depressed and paranoid, please let me know
this. And if for some reason I do bug you, you can let me know that,
too, especially if it's something I can or should change. You know,
sometimes people do obnoxious things in a social situation without
even meaning to. So if I have virtual bad breath, please don't let
me keep breathing it on you!

Joyce
listen love, if someone doesn't like me I just think "sod 'em! their
loss for not choosing me as a friend!" If someone doesn't like you then
they are not worth worrying about, and if someone is rude or nasty to
you for no apparant reason then they obviously have some issues in
themsleves which they should sort out but instead are taking out their
angst on you, nothing to do with you, so therefore just "sod 'em!".
so just ignore anyone who is petty enough to give you any grief or
negativity about any of your posts, you are entitled to post your news
and that is what this is for, and if anyone does give you any crap then
send them in my direction and I will give them a slap for it (as much
as i can over email at least).

you keep posting away, don't worry about other people, if they are of
the opinion that your contributions are not valid or that you do not
deserve the respect that is due to you then those people's opinions are
really not worth worrying about, sod 'em basically, don't let then
bring you down.

do your kitties love you? yes? then that is all you need
chin up, it will all look better after xmas

Like some of the others, I don't post often, but I do enjoy your posts.
Please stay with us!

Purrs from my two coming your way!
--
Sam, closely supervised by Mistletoe

So cute! Can I borrow that?

Rhonda

bookie wrote:

listen love, if someone doesn't like me I just think "sod 'em!