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Old December 13th 03, 01:34 PM
Justin Clarke
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I've just lost my beloved cat Squirm after 7 years. She truly was my best
friend and her sudden loss feels more than I can bear. I keep expecting her
to turn up at the front door or see her sleeping on the couch. The thought
of never seeing her again is so devastating that I can't stop crying. Why do
our little friends have to be taken from us? How will I ever get over this?

Justin


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Old December 13th 03, 03:31 PM
Priscilla Ballou
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In article ,
"Justin Clarke" wrote:

I've just lost my beloved cat Squirm after 7 years. She truly was my best
friend and her sudden loss feels more than I can bear. I keep expecting her
to turn up at the front door or see her sleeping on the couch. The thought
of never seeing her again is so devastating that I can't stop crying. Why do
our little friends have to be taken from us? How will I ever get over this?


I'm so very sorry for your loss. It will take time to get over the
worst of it, and I suspect there will be a part that never is gotten
over. Let yourself grieve. It's ok to cry. A broken heart needs to
bleed before it can begin to heal.

Priscilla
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Old December 13th 03, 03:31 PM
Priscilla Ballou
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In article ,
"Justin Clarke" wrote:

I've just lost my beloved cat Squirm after 7 years. She truly was my best
friend and her sudden loss feels more than I can bear. I keep expecting her
to turn up at the front door or see her sleeping on the couch. The thought
of never seeing her again is so devastating that I can't stop crying. Why do
our little friends have to be taken from us? How will I ever get over this?


I'm so very sorry for your loss. It will take time to get over the
worst of it, and I suspect there will be a part that never is gotten
over. Let yourself grieve. It's ok to cry. A broken heart needs to
bleed before it can begin to heal.

Priscilla
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Old December 13th 03, 04:19 PM
Meghan
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Justin,

I lost my best friend "koshka" this past July to kidney disease. She was
only 12, and I was very angry that she didn't get to live to be 16 etc. or
an older age. You must be feeling some of the same thing, that 7 is just
too young!

I can't believe how much I cried over this little cat - I really *love*
animals and even I was starting to wonder what the heck was wrong with me,
because hey - it wasn't a person right? Well.... don't think that!
Whatever you feel, you feel and don't judge it. It will take some time but
you will stop crying about it - and you will have great memories of your
best friend. 5 months later and I still get very sad about not having my
cat around. Sometimes it feels like an aching pit in your gut, but it's not
that crushing pain that you feel in the beginning. I have pictures of her
up, and they're not going anywhere! They make me feel better.

Do whatever it takes to work through it - write your cat a letter (sounds
nuts but it helped me), keep her photos around, write in to this group. The
amount we miss them when they're gone is just a measure of how much they
touched our lives. :-)

Take care,
Meghan
"Justin Clarke" wrote in message
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I've just lost my beloved cat Squirm after 7 years. She truly was my best
friend and her sudden loss feels more than I can bear. I keep expecting

her
to turn up at the front door or see her sleeping on the couch. The thought
of never seeing her again is so devastating that I can't stop crying. Why

do
our little friends have to be taken from us? How will I ever get over

this?

Justin




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Old December 13th 03, 04:19 PM
Meghan
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Justin,

I lost my best friend "koshka" this past July to kidney disease. She was
only 12, and I was very angry that she didn't get to live to be 16 etc. or
an older age. You must be feeling some of the same thing, that 7 is just
too young!

I can't believe how much I cried over this little cat - I really *love*
animals and even I was starting to wonder what the heck was wrong with me,
because hey - it wasn't a person right? Well.... don't think that!
Whatever you feel, you feel and don't judge it. It will take some time but
you will stop crying about it - and you will have great memories of your
best friend. 5 months later and I still get very sad about not having my
cat around. Sometimes it feels like an aching pit in your gut, but it's not
that crushing pain that you feel in the beginning. I have pictures of her
up, and they're not going anywhere! They make me feel better.

Do whatever it takes to work through it - write your cat a letter (sounds
nuts but it helped me), keep her photos around, write in to this group. The
amount we miss them when they're gone is just a measure of how much they
touched our lives. :-)

Take care,
Meghan
"Justin Clarke" wrote in message
...
I've just lost my beloved cat Squirm after 7 years. She truly was my best
friend and her sudden loss feels more than I can bear. I keep expecting

her
to turn up at the front door or see her sleeping on the couch. The thought
of never seeing her again is so devastating that I can't stop crying. Why

do
our little friends have to be taken from us? How will I ever get over

this?

Justin




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Old December 13th 03, 06:10 PM
Annie Wxill
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"Justin Clarke" wrote in message
...
I've just lost my beloved cat Squirm after 7 years. She truly was my best
friend and her sudden loss feels more than I can bear. I keep expecting

her
to turn up at the front door or see her sleeping on the couch. The thought
of never seeing her again is so devastating that I can't stop crying. Why

do
our little friends have to be taken from us? How will I ever get over

this?

Justin

Justin,
Condolences on your loss of Squirm.
In answer to your question, you need to allow yourself to grieve and heal.
The pain is real and you do not have to deny it. However, Squirm will
always have a special place in your heart. Take comfort in your memories.
She will always be with you that way.
You may be surprised down the road when another cat shows up in your life.
Do not think it would be disloyal to Squirm to allow this newcomer to join
her in your heart. There is no rational way to explain it, but it often
seems that the cat that had to leave us recognizes our loss and sends
another cat to keep us company. One way to honor Squirm would be to rescue
another cat.
Hugs,
Annie


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Old December 13th 03, 06:10 PM
Annie Wxill
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"Justin Clarke" wrote in message
...
I've just lost my beloved cat Squirm after 7 years. She truly was my best
friend and her sudden loss feels more than I can bear. I keep expecting

her
to turn up at the front door or see her sleeping on the couch. The thought
of never seeing her again is so devastating that I can't stop crying. Why

do
our little friends have to be taken from us? How will I ever get over

this?

Justin

Justin,
Condolences on your loss of Squirm.
In answer to your question, you need to allow yourself to grieve and heal.
The pain is real and you do not have to deny it. However, Squirm will
always have a special place in your heart. Take comfort in your memories.
She will always be with you that way.
You may be surprised down the road when another cat shows up in your life.
Do not think it would be disloyal to Squirm to allow this newcomer to join
her in your heart. There is no rational way to explain it, but it often
seems that the cat that had to leave us recognizes our loss and sends
another cat to keep us company. One way to honor Squirm would be to rescue
another cat.
Hugs,
Annie


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Old December 13th 03, 07:26 PM
Ginger-lyn Summer
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On Sat, 13 Dec 2003 23:34:52 +1100, "Justin Clarke"
wrote:

I've just lost my beloved cat Squirm after 7 years. She truly was my best
friend and her sudden loss feels more than I can bear. I keep expecting her
to turn up at the front door or see her sleeping on the couch. The thought
of never seeing her again is so devastating that I can't stop crying. Why do
our little friends have to be taken from us? How will I ever get over this?

Justin


Justin, I am so sorry for your loss.

I can't answer "why", but I can answer "how". You need to grieve.
Don't feel badly about crying; it really does help and it is necessary
for the healing process. Know that one day you will feel better
again, and that although you will never forget Squirm, there will come
a time when you realize that you are thinking of her with a smile and
not with pain.

You might want to check out http://www.petloss.com for further help.

Blessings,

Ginger-lyn

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Old December 13th 03, 07:26 PM
Ginger-lyn Summer
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On Sat, 13 Dec 2003 23:34:52 +1100, "Justin Clarke"
wrote:

I've just lost my beloved cat Squirm after 7 years. She truly was my best
friend and her sudden loss feels more than I can bear. I keep expecting her
to turn up at the front door or see her sleeping on the couch. The thought
of never seeing her again is so devastating that I can't stop crying. Why do
our little friends have to be taken from us? How will I ever get over this?

Justin


Justin, I am so sorry for your loss.

I can't answer "why", but I can answer "how". You need to grieve.
Don't feel badly about crying; it really does help and it is necessary
for the healing process. Know that one day you will feel better
again, and that although you will never forget Squirm, there will come
a time when you realize that you are thinking of her with a smile and
not with pain.

You might want to check out http://www.petloss.com for further help.

Blessings,

Ginger-lyn

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Old December 13th 03, 08:13 PM
MacCandace
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Justin, I'm very sorry about Squirm. I agree with what everyone else says:
time really does heal and you won't feel this way forever although you will
always love her. Sometimes another cat helps with the pain but some people
like to wait awhile before doing that...it's an individual thing and do what
feels right to you. But I'm sure Squirm knew how much she was loved and I'm
sure you will meet again someday. Yes, your time together was not long enough
but it never really is no matter how long we have them.

Candace
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