friendship, semi ot

having read many groups for many years and having lurked in some much longer
than i have posted in them it occurs to me that a good group is one where
you feel close to many of the members that post, much as in RL you share and
argue and agree and share some more.

With Rob's passing i contemplated my frienship with pam, gramby and a few
others... and it occurred to me that much like my relationships with my cats
each is special and unique in its own way and while part of the group is
also seperate.

Gramby is a friend in RL who i have know for more years than i care to think
about, her DH was also a friend and it tore me apart when he went ahead,
even though my logical mind says it was the right time for him and gramby...
it hurt me because he is one of the few people in this world that i love and
one of the few who loved me back with no ulterior motive.

as i thought about each person on this group i ended up with pam, now i have
known her on the group for around ten years as i started lurking in 1999,
but i never really got to know her until the spider bite hospital stay, i
called her, knowing myself how lonely hospital stays are as i have had over
twenty of my own... we first chatted and she gave me her and rob's health
status, then we talked about a very wide variety of subject matters that
both of us feel very strongly about, everything from flowers, to men to
parents and even children, even though i have none to talk about...

as i thought about all of this i realised that the same thing that has
allowed me to be friends with pam on the group, and others as well... and
gramby in RL is the same factor that allows me to accept love from and give
love to my cats... it is the thing i most treasure about my DH, it is
unconditional, and undemanding love and friendship. now i know as humans we
have certain expectations, but as much as possible, pam is like gramby, my
DH and some others on the groups not a jealous friend, open and giving and
not envying my friendship with others... this is how my cats are... well all
except storrmmee and she owns DH NOT me... the love these friends and cats
is given freely and the only thing they ask in return is to be cared for as
well...

As sad as it is that rob had to leave us, i must say i have learned a lot
about myself through his passing, the very act of his going ahead has
allowed me to reasses myself, my motives and to be truly grateful for thing
like my friends and cats,

Lee

And all of God's children said AMEN to that.

I liked the unconditionally part, I really need that part a lot.

There comes a time when people have to go. I know that he left when he knew
Pam was resting as she had been up all night. I am sad for her and her
family but like my Bob, it was his time.

Lee or I have to win the lottery so we can go on a road trip this summer.
Hmmm, guess you have to buy a ticket first.
"Stormmee" wrote in message
...
having read many groups for many years and having lurked in some much
longer than i have posted in them it occurs to me that a good group is one
where you feel close to many of the members that post, much as in RL you
share and argue and agree and share some more.

With Rob's passing i contemplated my frienship with pam, gramby and a few
others... and it occurred to me that much like my relationships with my
cats each is special and unique in its own way and while part of the group
is also seperate.

Gramby is a friend in RL who i have know for more years than i care to
think about, her DH was also a friend and it tore me apart when he went
ahead, even though my logical mind says it was the right time for him and
gramby... it hurt me because he is one of the few people in this world
that i love and one of the few who loved me back with no ulterior motive.

as i thought about each person on this group i ended up with pam, now i
have known her on the group for around ten years as i started lurking in
1999, but i never really got to know her until the spider bite hospital
stay, i called her, knowing myself how lonely hospital stays are as i have
had over twenty of my own... we first chatted and she gave me her and
rob's health status, then we talked about a very wide variety of subject
matters that both of us feel very strongly about, everything from flowers,
to men to parents and even children, even though i have none to talk
about...

as i thought about all of this i realised that the same thing that has
allowed me to be friends with pam on the group, and others as well... and
gramby in RL is the same factor that allows me to accept love from and
give love to my cats... it is the thing i most treasure about my DH, it is
unconditional, and undemanding love and friendship. now i know as humans
we have certain expectations, but as much as possible, pam is like gramby,
my DH and some others on the groups not a jealous friend, open and giving
and not envying my friendship with others... this is how my cats are...
well all except storrmmee and she owns DH NOT me... the love these friends
and cats is given freely and the only thing they ask in return is to be
cared for as well...

As sad as it is that rob had to leave us, i must say i have learned a lot
about myself through his passing, the very act of his going ahead has
allowed me to reasses myself, my motives and to be truly grateful for
thing like my friends and cats,

Lee

which means one of us has to make some money first... it was NOT me for feb,
Lee
"Granby" wrote in message
...
And all of God's children said AMEN to that.

I liked the unconditionally part, I really need that part a lot.

There comes a time when people have to go. I know that he left when he
knew Pam was resting as she had been up all night. I am sad for her and
her family but like my Bob, it was his time.

Lee or I have to win the lottery so we can go on a road trip this summer.
Hmmm, guess you have to buy a ticket first.
"Stormmee" wrote in message
...
having read many groups for many years and having lurked in some much
longer than i have posted in them it occurs to me that a good group is
one where you feel close to many of the members that post, much as in RL
you share and argue and agree and share some more.

With Rob's passing i contemplated my frienship with pam, gramby and a few
others... and it occurred to me that much like my relationships with my
cats each is special and unique in its own way and while part of the
group is also seperate.

Gramby is a friend in RL who i have know for more years than i care to
think about, her DH was also a friend and it tore me apart when he went
ahead, even though my logical mind says it was the right time for him and
gramby... it hurt me because he is one of the few people in this world
that i love and one of the few who loved me back with no ulterior motive.

as i thought about each person on this group i ended up with pam, now i
have known her on the group for around ten years as i started lurking in
1999, but i never really got to know her until the spider bite hospital
stay, i called her, knowing myself how lonely hospital stays are as i
have had over twenty of my own... we first chatted and she gave me her
and rob's health status, then we talked about a very wide variety of
subject matters that both of us feel very strongly about, everything from
flowers, to men to parents and even children, even though i have none to
talk about...

as i thought about all of this i realised that the same thing that has
allowed me to be friends with pam on the group, and others as well... and
gramby in RL is the same factor that allows me to accept love from and
give love to my cats... it is the thing i most treasure about my DH, it
is unconditional, and undemanding love and friendship. now i know as
humans we have certain expectations, but as much as possible, pam is like
gramby, my DH and some others on the groups not a jealous friend, open
and giving and not envying my friendship with others... this is how my
cats are... well all except storrmmee and she owns DH NOT me... the love
these friends and cats is given freely and the only thing they ask in
return is to be cared for as well...

As sad as it is that rob had to leave us, i must say i have learned a lot
about myself through his passing, the very act of his going ahead has
allowed me to reasses myself, my motives and to be truly grateful for
thing like my friends and cats,

Lee

you don't see me Irish Gigging to the bank do you, or I forgot you couldn't
see that! Well, too old to click heels so will leave that be.

I did crawl up and clean the front gutters today. Only took 5 minutes
longer than last year. Not bad for an ole broad.
"Stormmee" wrote in message
...
which means one of us has to make some money first... it was NOT me for
feb, Lee
"Granby" wrote in message
...
And all of God's children said AMEN to that.

I liked the unconditionally part, I really need that part a lot.

There comes a time when people have to go. I know that he left when he
knew Pam was resting as she had been up all night. I am sad for her and
her family but like my Bob, it was his time.

Lee or I have to win the lottery so we can go on a road trip this summer.
Hmmm, guess you have to buy a ticket first.
"Stormmee" wrote in message
...
having read many groups for many years and having lurked in some much
longer than i have posted in them it occurs to me that a good group is
one where you feel close to many of the members that post, much as in RL
you share and argue and agree and share some more.

With Rob's passing i contemplated my frienship with pam, gramby and a
few others... and it occurred to me that much like my relationships with
my cats each is special and unique in its own way and while part of the
group is also seperate.

Gramby is a friend in RL who i have know for more years than i care to
think about, her DH was also a friend and it tore me apart when he went
ahead, even though my logical mind says it was the right time for him
and gramby... it hurt me because he is one of the few people in this
world that i love and one of the few who loved me back with no ulterior
motive.

as i thought about each person on this group i ended up with pam, now i
have known her on the group for around ten years as i started lurking in
1999, but i never really got to know her until the spider bite hospital
stay, i called her, knowing myself how lonely hospital stays are as i
have had over twenty of my own... we first chatted and she gave me her
and rob's health status, then we talked about a very wide variety of
subject matters that both of us feel very strongly about, everything
from flowers, to men to parents and even children, even though i have
none to talk about...

as i thought about all of this i realised that the same thing that has
allowed me to be friends with pam on the group, and others as well...
and gramby in RL is the same factor that allows me to accept love from
and give love to my cats... it is the thing i most treasure about my DH,
it is unconditional, and undemanding love and friendship. now i know as
humans we have certain expectations, but as much as possible, pam is
like gramby, my DH and some others on the groups not a jealous friend,
open and giving and not envying my friendship with others... this is how
my cats are... well all except storrmmee and she owns DH NOT me... the
love these friends and cats is given freely and the only thing they ask
in return is to be cared for as well...

As sad as it is that rob had to leave us, i must say i have learned a
lot about myself through his passing, the very act of his going ahead
has allowed me to reasses myself, my motives and to be truly grateful
for thing like my friends and cats,

Lee

now here is where we differ, you RENT NOW, make the landlord do it for
christ sakes, Lee, muttering
"Granby" wrote in message
...
you don't see me Irish Gigging to the bank do you, or I forgot you
couldn't see that! Well, too old to click heels so will leave that be.

I did crawl up and clean the front gutters today. Only took 5 minutes
longer than last year. Not bad for an ole broad.
"Stormmee" wrote in message
...
which means one of us has to make some money first... it was NOT me for
feb, Lee
"Granby" wrote in message
...
And all of God's children said AMEN to that.

I liked the unconditionally part, I really need that part a lot.

There comes a time when people have to go. I know that he left when he
knew Pam was resting as she had been up all night. I am sad for her and
her family but like my Bob, it was his time.

Lee or I have to win the lottery so we can go on a road trip this
summer. Hmmm, guess you have to buy a ticket first.
"Stormmee" wrote in message
...
having read many groups for many years and having lurked in some much
longer than i have posted in them it occurs to me that a good group is
one where you feel close to many of the members that post, much as in
RL you share and argue and agree and share some more.

With Rob's passing i contemplated my frienship with pam, gramby and a
few others... and it occurred to me that much like my relationships
with my cats each is special and unique in its own way and while part
of the group is also seperate.

Gramby is a friend in RL who i have know for more years than i care to
think about, her DH was also a friend and it tore me apart when he went
ahead, even though my logical mind says it was the right time for him
and gramby... it hurt me because he is one of the few people in this
world that i love and one of the few who loved me back with no ulterior
motive.

as i thought about each person on this group i ended up with pam, now i
have known her on the group for around ten years as i started lurking
in 1999, but i never really got to know her until the spider bite
hospital stay, i called her, knowing myself how lonely hospital stays
are as i have had over twenty of my own... we first chatted and she
gave me her and rob's health status, then we talked about a very wide
variety of subject matters that both of us feel very strongly about,
everything from flowers, to men to parents and even children, even
though i have none to talk about...

as i thought about all of this i realised that the same thing that has
allowed me to be friends with pam on the group, and others as well...
and gramby in RL is the same factor that allows me to accept love from
and give love to my cats... it is the thing i most treasure about my
DH, it is unconditional, and undemanding love and friendship. now i
know as humans we have certain expectations, but as much as possible,
pam is like gramby, my DH and some others on the groups not a jealous
friend, open and giving and not envying my friendship with others...
this is how my cats are... well all except storrmmee and she owns DH
NOT me... the love these friends and cats is given freely and the only
thing they ask in return is to be cared for as well...

As sad as it is that rob had to leave us, i must say i have learned a
lot about myself through his passing, the very act of his going ahead
has allowed me to reasses myself, my motives and to be truly grateful
for thing like my friends and cats,

Lee

Go mutter to your cats. Was good exercise and when I told George, was a good
cardiovascular work out for him. That was a twofer.
"Stormmee" wrote in message
...
now here is where we differ, you RENT NOW, make the landlord do it for
christ sakes, Lee, muttering
"Granby" wrote in message
...
you don't see me Irish Gigging to the bank do you, or I forgot you
couldn't see that! Well, too old to click heels so will leave that be.

I did crawl up and clean the front gutters today. Only took 5 minutes
longer than last year. Not bad for an ole broad.
"Stormmee" wrote in message
...
which means one of us has to make some money first... it was NOT me for
feb, Lee
"Granby" wrote in message
...
And all of God's children said AMEN to that.

I liked the unconditionally part, I really need that part a lot.

There comes a time when people have to go. I know that he left when he
knew Pam was resting as she had been up all night. I am sad for her
and her family but like my Bob, it was his time.

Lee or I have to win the lottery so we can go on a road trip this
summer. Hmmm, guess you have to buy a ticket first.
"Stormmee" wrote in message
...
having read many groups for many years and having lurked in some much
longer than i have posted in them it occurs to me that a good group is
one where you feel close to many of the members that post, much as in
RL you share and argue and agree and share some more.

With Rob's passing i contemplated my frienship with pam, gramby and a
few others... and it occurred to me that much like my relationships
with my cats each is special and unique in its own way and while part
of the group is also seperate.

Gramby is a friend in RL who i have know for more years than i care to
think about, her DH was also a friend and it tore me apart when he
went ahead, even though my logical mind says it was the right time for
him and gramby... it hurt me because he is one of the few people in
this world that i love and one of the few who loved me back with no
ulterior motive.

as i thought about each person on this group i ended up with pam, now
i have known her on the group for around ten years as i started
lurking in 1999, but i never really got to know her until the spider
bite hospital stay, i called her, knowing myself how lonely hospital
stays are as i have had over twenty of my own... we first chatted and
she gave me her and rob's health status, then we talked about a very
wide variety of subject matters that both of us feel very strongly
about, everything from flowers, to men to parents and even children,
even though i have none to talk about...

as i thought about all of this i realised that the same thing that has
allowed me to be friends with pam on the group, and others as well...
and gramby in RL is the same factor that allows me to accept love from
and give love to my cats... it is the thing i most treasure about my
DH, it is unconditional, and undemanding love and friendship. now i
know as humans we have certain expectations, but as much as possible,
pam is like gramby, my DH and some others on the groups not a jealous
friend, open and giving and not envying my friendship with others...
this is how my cats are... well all except storrmmee and she owns DH
NOT me... the love these friends and cats is given freely and the only
thing they ask in return is to be cared for as well...

As sad as it is that rob had to leave us, i must say i have learned a
lot about myself through his passing, the very act of his going ahead
has allowed me to reasses myself, my motives and to be truly grateful
for thing like my friends and cats,

Lee

first off i can think of lots better ways to exercise geroges heart, and as
to that road trip you mentioned earlier the DH is currently three hours
into a poker tournament, which means he is doing pretty good, Lee
"Granby" wrote in message
...
Go mutter to your cats. Was good exercise and when I told George, was a
good cardiovascular work out for him. That was a twofer.
"Stormmee" wrote in message
...
now here is where we differ, you RENT NOW, make the landlord do it for
christ sakes, Lee, muttering
"Granby" wrote in message
...
you don't see me Irish Gigging to the bank do you, or I forgot you
couldn't see that! Well, too old to click heels so will leave that be.

I did crawl up and clean the front gutters today. Only took 5 minutes
longer than last year. Not bad for an ole broad.
"Stormmee" wrote in message
...
which means one of us has to make some money first... it was NOT me for
feb, Lee
"Granby" wrote in message
...
And all of God's children said AMEN to that.

I liked the unconditionally part, I really need that part a lot.

There comes a time when people have to go. I know that he left when
he knew Pam was resting as she had been up all night. I am sad for
her and her family but like my Bob, it was his time.

Lee or I have to win the lottery so we can go on a road trip this
summer. Hmmm, guess you have to buy a ticket first.
"Stormmee" wrote in message
...
having read many groups for many years and having lurked in some much
longer than i have posted in them it occurs to me that a good group
is one where you feel close to many of the members that post, much as
in RL you share and argue and agree and share some more.

With Rob's passing i contemplated my frienship with pam, gramby and a
few others... and it occurred to me that much like my relationships
with my cats each is special and unique in its own way and while part
of the group is also seperate.

Gramby is a friend in RL who i have know for more years than i care
to think about, her DH was also a friend and it tore me apart when he
went ahead, even though my logical mind says it was the right time
for him and gramby... it hurt me because he is one of the few people
in this world that i love and one of the few who loved me back with
no ulterior motive.

as i thought about each person on this group i ended up with pam, now
i have known her on the group for around ten years as i started
lurking in 1999, but i never really got to know her until the spider
bite hospital stay, i called her, knowing myself how lonely hospital
stays are as i have had over twenty of my own... we first chatted and
she gave me her and rob's health status, then we talked about a very
wide variety of subject matters that both of us feel very strongly
about, everything from flowers, to men to parents and even children,
even though i have none to talk about...

as i thought about all of this i realised that the same thing that
has allowed me to be friends with pam on the group, and others as
well... and gramby in RL is the same factor that allows me to accept
love from and give love to my cats... it is the thing i most treasure
about my DH, it is unconditional, and undemanding love and
friendship. now i know as humans we have certain expectations, but
as much as possible, pam is like gramby, my DH and some others on the
groups not a jealous friend, open and giving and not envying my
friendship with others... this is how my cats are... well all except
storrmmee and she owns DH NOT me... the love these friends and cats
is given freely and the only thing they ask in return is to be cared
for as well...

As sad as it is that rob had to leave us, i must say i have learned a
lot about myself through his passing, the very act of his going ahead
has allowed me to reasses myself, my motives and to be truly grateful
for thing like my friends and cats,

Lee

Go furry GO!
"Stormmee" wrote in message
...
first off i can think of lots better ways to exercise geroges heart, and
as to that road trip you mentioned earlier the DH is currently three
hours into a poker tournament, which means he is doing pretty good, Lee
"Granby" wrote in message
...
Go mutter to your cats. Was good exercise and when I told George, was a
good cardiovascular work out for him. That was a twofer.
"Stormmee" wrote in message
...
now here is where we differ, you RENT NOW, make the landlord do it for
christ sakes, Lee, muttering
"Granby" wrote in message
...
you don't see me Irish Gigging to the bank do you, or I forgot you
couldn't see that! Well, too old to click heels so will leave that be.

I did crawl up and clean the front gutters today. Only took 5 minutes
longer than last year. Not bad for an ole broad.
"Stormmee" wrote in message
...
which means one of us has to make some money first... it was NOT me
for feb, Lee
"Granby" wrote in message
...
And all of God's children said AMEN to that.

I liked the unconditionally part, I really need that part a lot.

There comes a time when people have to go. I know that he left when
he knew Pam was resting as she had been up all night. I am sad for
her and her family but like my Bob, it was his time.

Lee or I have to win the lottery so we can go on a road trip this
summer. Hmmm, guess you have to buy a ticket first.
"Stormmee" wrote in message
...
having read many groups for many years and having lurked in some
much longer than i have posted in them it occurs to me that a good
group is one where you feel close to many of the members that post,
much as in RL you share and argue and agree and share some more.

With Rob's passing i contemplated my frienship with pam, gramby and
a few others... and it occurred to me that much like my
relationships with my cats each is special and unique in its own way
and while part of the group is also seperate.

Gramby is a friend in RL who i have know for more years than i care
to think about, her DH was also a friend and it tore me apart when
he went ahead, even though my logical mind says it was the right
time for him and gramby... it hurt me because he is one of the few
people in this world that i love and one of the few who loved me
back with no ulterior motive.

as i thought about each person on this group i ended up with pam,
now i have known her on the group for around ten years as i started
lurking in 1999, but i never really got to know her until the spider
bite hospital stay, i called her, knowing myself how lonely hospital
stays are as i have had over twenty of my own... we first chatted
and she gave me her and rob's health status, then we talked about a
very wide variety of subject matters that both of us feel very
strongly about, everything from flowers, to men to parents and even
children, even though i have none to talk about...

as i thought about all of this i realised that the same thing that
has allowed me to be friends with pam on the group, and others as
well... and gramby in RL is the same factor that allows me to accept
love from and give love to my cats... it is the thing i most
treasure about my DH, it is unconditional, and undemanding love and
friendship. now i know as humans we have certain expectations, but
as much as possible, pam is like gramby, my DH and some others on
the groups not a jealous friend, open and giving and not envying my
friendship with others... this is how my cats are... well all except
storrmmee and she owns DH NOT me... the love these friends and cats
is given freely and the only thing they ask in return is to be cared
for as well...

As sad as it is that rob had to leave us, i must say i have learned
a lot about myself through his passing, the very act of his going
ahead has allowed me to reasses myself, my motives and to be truly
grateful for thing like my friends and cats,

Lee

I was wrong it started at 11 and he just called me during the first break
but is doing pretty good. Lee
"Granby" wrote in message
...
Go furry GO!
"Stormmee" wrote in message
...
first off i can think of lots better ways to exercise geroges heart, and
as to that road trip you mentioned earlier the DH is currently three
hours into a poker tournament, which means he is doing pretty good, Lee
"Granby" wrote in message
...
Go mutter to your cats. Was good exercise and when I told George, was a
good cardiovascular work out for him. That was a twofer.
"Stormmee" wrote in message
...
now here is where we differ, you RENT NOW, make the landlord do it for
christ sakes, Lee, muttering
"Granby" wrote in message
...
you don't see me Irish Gigging to the bank do you, or I forgot you
couldn't see that! Well, too old to click heels so will leave that
be.

I did crawl up and clean the front gutters today. Only took 5 minutes
longer than last year. Not bad for an ole broad.
"Stormmee" wrote in message
...
which means one of us has to make some money first... it was NOT me
for feb, Lee
"Granby" wrote in message
...
And all of God's children said AMEN to that.

I liked the unconditionally part, I really need that part a lot.

There comes a time when people have to go. I know that he left when
he knew Pam was resting as she had been up all night. I am sad for
her and her family but like my Bob, it was his time.

Lee or I have to win the lottery so we can go on a road trip this
summer. Hmmm, guess you have to buy a ticket first.
"Stormmee" wrote in message
...
having read many groups for many years and having lurked in some
much longer than i have posted in them it occurs to me that a good
group is one where you feel close to many of the members that post,
much as in RL you share and argue and agree and share some more.

With Rob's passing i contemplated my frienship with pam, gramby and
a few others... and it occurred to me that much like my
relationships with my cats each is special and unique in its own
way and while part of the group is also seperate.

Gramby is a friend in RL who i have know for more years than i care
to think about, her DH was also a friend and it tore me apart when
he went ahead, even though my logical mind says it was the right
time for him and gramby... it hurt me because he is one of the few
people in this world that i love and one of the few who loved me
back with no ulterior motive.

as i thought about each person on this group i ended up with pam,
now i have known her on the group for around ten years as i started
lurking in 1999, but i never really got to know her until the
spider bite hospital stay, i called her, knowing myself how lonely
hospital stays are as i have had over twenty of my own... we first
chatted and she gave me her and rob's health status, then we talked
about a very wide variety of subject matters that both of us feel
very strongly about, everything from flowers, to men to parents and
even children, even though i have none to talk about...

as i thought about all of this i realised that the same thing that
has allowed me to be friends with pam on the group, and others as
well... and gramby in RL is the same factor that allows me to
accept love from and give love to my cats... it is the thing i most
treasure about my DH, it is unconditional, and undemanding love and
friendship. now i know as humans we have certain expectations, but
as much as possible, pam is like gramby, my DH and some others on
the groups not a jealous friend, open and giving and not envying my
friendship with others... this is how my cats are... well all
except storrmmee and she owns DH NOT me... the love these friends
and cats is given freely and the only thing they ask in return is
to be cared for as well...

As sad as it is that rob had to leave us, i must say i have learned
a lot about myself through his passing, the very act of his going
ahead has allowed me to reasses myself, my motives and to be truly
grateful for thing like my friends and cats,

Lee

What a sweet, thoughtful post, Lee. Thank you for posting it.
It's important for people to know these things.
You and Granby are so lucky/blessed to have each other as friends.
I have only been posting here for a couple of years and have met some
really nice people, some of whom have become 'internet' friends. Love, Kyla

"Stormmee"

having read many groups for many years and having lurked in some much
longer than i have posted in them it occurs to me that a good group is one
where you feel close to many of the members that post, much as in RL you
share and argue and agree and share some more.

With Rob's passing i contemplated my frienship with pam, gramby and a few
others... and it occurred to me that much like my relationships with my
cats each is special and unique in its own way and while part of the group
is also seperate.

Gramby is a friend in RL who i have know for more years than i care to
think about, her DH was also a friend and it tore me apart when he went
ahead, even though my logical mind says it was the right time for him and
gramby... it hurt me because he is one of the few people in this world
that i love and one of the few who loved me back with no ulterior motive.

as i thought about each person on this group i ended up with pam, now i
have known her on the group for around ten years as i started lurking in
1999, but i never really got to know her until the spider bite hospital
stay, i called her, knowing myself how lonely hospital stays are as i have
had over twenty of my own... we first chatted and she gave me her and
rob's health status, then we talked about a very wide variety of subject
matters that both of us feel very strongly about, everything from flowers,
to men to parents and even children, even though i have none to talk
about...

as i thought about all of this i realised that the same thing that has
allowed me to be friends with pam on the group, and others as well... and
gramby in RL is the same factor that allows me to accept love from and
give love to my cats... it is the thing i most treasure about my DH, it is
unconditional, and undemanding love and friendship. now i know as humans
we have certain expectations, but as much as possible, pam is like gramby,
my DH and some others on the groups not a jealous friend, open and giving
and not envying my friendship with others... this is how my cats are...
well all except storrmmee and she owns DH NOT me... the love these friends
and cats is given freely and the only thing they ask in return is to be
cared for as well...

As sad as it is that rob had to leave us, i must say i have learned a lot
about myself through his passing, the very act of his going ahead has
allowed me to reasses myself, my motives and to be truly grateful for
thing like my friends and cats,

Lee