Aloha Folks!

Kilikini wrote:

My friend, Jill, has already sort-of introduced me to you folks. I wish I
could have seen her post! My news server is about 28 hours behind right now
and it's really frustrating.

Anyway, I'm a newlywed transplanted from Maui, Hawaii to the Tampa Bay area
of Florida. I met my husband via Usenet, believe it or not. We weren't
even looking for each other!



Welcome and Hey! We're northern neighbors of yours here in North
Carolina. We have five cats of our own and a d-thing named Speedy.
Hope to hear more from you soon.

Pam S.

Monique Y. Mudama wrote:
On 2005-01-20, Seanette Blaylock penned:

"Kilikini" had some very interesting things to
say about Aloha Folks!:


Anyway, I'm a newlywed transplanted from Maui, Hawaii to the Tampa Bay area
of Florida. I met my husband via Usenet, believe it or not. We weren't
even looking for each other!

I met my husband online. It can work out. :-)

Me too!


Me three!! My common-law-husband, that is. We're living "in sin" (= not
married). Our sixth anniversary coming up in March.

--
Christine in Vantaa, Finland
christal63 (at) yahoo (dot) com
photos: http://photos.yahoo.com/christal63

CK wrote:

Monique Y. Mudama wrote:

On 2005-01-20, Seanette Blaylock penned:

"Kilikini" had some very interesting
things to
say about Aloha Folks!:


Anyway, I'm a newlywed transplanted from Maui, Hawaii to the Tampa
Bay area
of Florida. I met my husband via Usenet, believe it or not. We
weren't
even looking for each other!


I met my husband online. It can work out. :-)


Me too!


Me three!! My common-law-husband, that is. We're living "in sin" (= not
married). Our sixth anniversary coming up in March.


I started to write a diatribe on the concept of "sin," but decided that
it didn't belong here. I like the feline way of it. There is no such
thing as sin.

Pam S.

On 2005-01-20, Tanada penned:
CK wrote:


Me three!! My common-law-husband, that is. We're living "in sin" (= not
married). Our sixth anniversary coming up in March.


I started to write a diatribe on the concept of "sin," but decided that it
didn't belong here. I like the feline way of it. There is no such thing as
sin.

Pam S.

But, but, it's so much *fun* to tell people you're living in sin! No fair
taking that away!

Our wedding was pretty painless and fun. I don't understand those huge
weddings where everyone goes into debt or employed adults con their parents
into dropping large amounts of green on a "dream" wedding. To each his or her
own, though.

Changing my name, though ... grrr ... I really didn't want to do it, but it
meant so *much* to Eric, so I went through with it. I *still* don't have my
name changed everywhere.

--
monique, roommate of Oscar the (female) grouch
~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~
Eros was adopted! Eros has a home now! *cheer!*

Monique Y. Mudama wrote:
But, but, it's so much *fun* to tell people you're living in sin! No fair
taking that away!

It is fun! I used to call Tom my "partner in crime", but now that the US
Supreme Court ruled that sodomy laws are unconstitutional, we're no
longer commiting a crime!

Changing my name, though ... grrr ... I really didn't want to do it, but it
meant so *much* to Eric, so I went through with it. I *still* don't have my
name changed everywhere.

It's a cultural thing. In Mexico legally you do not change your names
(we use two last names) ever. My mom is Mrs. Hernandez and my dad is Mr.
Martinez. We're the Martinez Hernandez family.

--
Victor M. Martinez
Owned and operated by the Fantastic Seven (TM)
Send your spam he
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On 2005-01-20, Victor Martinez penned:
Monique Y. Mudama wrote:
But, but, it's so much *fun* to tell people you're living in sin! No fair
taking that away!

It is fun! I used to call Tom my "partner in crime", but now that the US
Supreme Court ruled that sodomy laws are unconstitutional, we're no longer
commiting a crime!

Hehehe. Not that most couples, regardless of the genders involved, don't
engage in *some* form of sodomy ...

IIRC the Virginia definitions are particularly strict ... were, I guess.

Changing my name, though ... grrr ... I really didn't want to do it, but it
meant so *much* to Eric, so I went through with it. I *still* don't have
my name changed everywhere.

It's a cultural thing. In Mexico legally you do not change your names (we
use two last names) ever. My mom is Mrs. Hernandez and my dad is Mr.
Martinez. We're the Martinez Hernandez family.

I've heard of that, but clearly, you ended up taking your dad's last name. Is
that cultural, too?

--
monique, roommate of Oscar the (female) grouch
~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~
Eros was adopted! Eros has a home now! *cheer!*

"Monique Y. Mudama" wrote in message
...
On 2005-01-20, Tanada penned:
CK wrote:


Me three!! My common-law-husband, that is. We're living "in sin" (= not
married). Our sixth anniversary coming up in March.


I started to write a diatribe on the concept of "sin," but decided that
it
didn't belong here. I like the feline way of it. There is no such
thing as
sin.

Pam S.

But, but, it's so much *fun* to tell people you're living in sin! No fair
taking that away!

Our wedding was pretty painless and fun. I don't understand those huge
weddings where everyone goes into debt or employed adults con their
parents
into dropping large amounts of green on a "dream" wedding. To each his or
her
own, though.

Changing my name, though ... grrr ... I really didn't want to do it, but
it
meant so *much* to Eric, so I went through with it. I *still* don't have
my
name changed everywhere.

Yeah, me too. Joel and I lived in partial sin (we were engaged to be
married) for 7 years, got married in the 8th year, and not because The
Yowlet was on his way (we'd started marriage preps before the presence of
hte Yowlet was known). Had a simple and sensible wedding at a local beauty
spot (on top of Mt Keira), and buy-you-own-dinner-rather-than-gifts meal at
the local Japanese restaurant.

It still doesn't feel any different than when we weren't married. The
commitment to each other is just the same, the only thing diferent is now
that our material goods go automatically to each other in case of death
rather than having to will it (it should do that in case of de-facto
marriages as well, but they can be disputed by other family members more
easily)

I kept my name (couldnt' see why I needed to change it), so Joel changed his
surname to mine (he's had 3 already, whats the difference?).

I don't wear my rings on my finger unless I'm going out somewhere special or
its one of those times where being obviously married is advantageous because
quite frankly they drive me nuts. I take them off subconciously and leave
them in stupid places without even realising I've removed them. Sometiems I
wake up inthe morning and find htem scattered across my bedroom floor - not
only have I taken them off in my sleep, I have *thrown* them off.

And as an industrial chemist, there are chemicals than can work their way
under rings and cause all sorts of interesting dermatitis (as my right ring
finger can attest - I can't wear a ring on that finger for more than an hour
or so befor ethe dermatitis flares), and besides, even if it doesn't effect
my skin, the chemicals get into the settings and if they don't corrode, they
gum up and destroy the "sparkle" of the stones. My engagement ring has a
green sapphire that is much lighter on one end than the other. Or it used to
when it was new - all the goo and muck I work with has gotten into it and
now its just a dull black, and its not a matter of a simple ultrasonic bath
to get rid of it all (I've had it proffesionally cleaned and all it looked
liek was that the metal had been polished - I can do that at home. And
besides, we have the same ultrasonic baths jewelers have here at work, and
they don't cost me a fortune to use those ones!). I'd have to have the stone
removed, scraped, probably repolished, and have to re-make the ring again
for it to ever look new again. I don't want the same thing to happen to my
wedding ring or eternity ring.

So except for a whole bunch of photos (that you can see at
http://home.insightbb.com/~yowie/wedding.html ) and an official wedding
certificate, nothing much has really changed. Our relationship hasn't
changed, I don't have a new name, I don't wear a wedding ring, and we don't
have a massive hole in our budget from paying for the wedding. Still,
overall, I'd be happy to marry Joel again.

Yowie

Monique Y. Mudama wrote:
I've heard of that, but clearly, you ended up taking your dad's last name. Is
that cultural, too?

Actually, I legally have two last names: Martinez Hernandez. I dropped
the Hernandez here in the US for simplicity sake. Some folks hyphenate
them and I might have done that if I had smaller surnames. Mine are too
long and being Mr. Martinez-Hernandez seemed like a mouthful at the
time. Besides, people kept refering me as Mr. Hernandez, which was very
confusing...
My passport and my green card both have the Hernandez though.

Victor

BTW in Brazil they do the opposite, the mother's name goes before the
father's name.

--
Victor M. Martinez
Owned and operated by the Fantastic Seven (TM)
Send your spam he
Email me he

On 2005-01-21, Victor Martinez penned:
Monique Y. Mudama wrote:
I've heard of that, but clearly, you ended up taking your dad's last name.
Is that cultural, too?

Actually, I legally have two last names: Martinez Hernandez. I dropped the
Hernandez here in the US for simplicity sake. Some folks hyphenate them and
I might have done that if I had smaller surnames. Mine are too long and
being Mr. Martinez-Hernandez seemed like a mouthful at the time. Besides,
people kept refering me as Mr. Hernandez, which was very confusing... My
passport and my green card both have the Hernandez though.

Victor

BTW in Brazil they do the opposite, the mother's name goes before the
father's name.

Okay, but, there must be a limit, right? Or are there people with hundreds of
last names? (Parents each have two last names, marry, that's four last names
for the kids, and so on ...)

--
monique, roommate of Oscar the (female) grouch
~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~
Eros was adopted! Eros has a home now! *cheer!*

Monique Y. Mudama wrote:


But, but, it's so much *fun* to tell people you're living in sin! No fair
taking that away!

Our wedding was pretty painless and fun. I don't understand those huge
weddings where everyone goes into debt or employed adults con their parents
into dropping large amounts of green on a "dream" wedding. To each his or her
own, though.

Changing my name, though ... grrr ... I really didn't want to do it, but it
meant so *much* to Eric, so I went through with it. I *still* don't have my
name changed everywhere.



We brought the whole wedding in for less than $200. It's lasted over 20
years. We had to be legally married in order for Rob to be able to
claim us as military dependents and put us on his military benefits. No
problem, it just made a two year old relationship formal.

I've noticed that, in general and my opinion, the more expense paid on
the wedding, the shorter the marriage.

As for the name change, I was eager to change my name. Tiegs tends to
get too many farmyard animal jokes. Shirk gets even more jokes, but at
least they're less offensive and generally in better taste.

Pam S.