OT - I'm SO Discouraged

It might not be a bad idea to ask for a second opinion.

--

Joy

Basically everything is subject to change without notice

"CatNipped" wrote in message
...
He says that if I don't gain weight it means that the intestines will not
be able to sustain me after the ileostomy is reversed. So he's using it
as an indicator for whether or not to do the surgery. I don't really know
the whys and wherefores, he's a bit taciturn (you know how surgeons only
like to see their patients unconscious).

--
Hugs,

CatNipped
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"hopitus" wrote in message
...
On Apr 3, 9:29 pm, "CatNipped" wrote:
Granted, I was carrying a lot of fluid (my feet and hands were twice
their
normal size), but at the surgeon's office I weighed in at 104. The day I
was discharged from the hospital I weighed myself on my digital scale and
it
showed 104.0.
Well, I just weighed myself again and I weighed 97.6! That's 6.4 pounds I
lost in two days!!! The surgeon won't do the surgery to reverse the
ileostomy until I gain at least 20 - 25 pounds, and I can't do that going
backwards.
Eating and drinking sugary/high fat foods didn't help - they just gave me
diarrhea and made the situation worse.
Back on-topic... does anyone have any suggestions / recipes for high
caloric
/ high protein meals and snacks?
Hugs,
CatNipped

I can't see where recipes are going to do you any good because from
what you
say, you (for now) are unable to cook. I was going to suggest parking
yourself
before the tv and having the DH get you lotsa fast food from every
drive-by in
town....but something rang a bell in my mind from something I learned
in the
school I attended before qualifying for medical work. There is a key
sentence
in this wiki definition which explains, at least to me, the reason you
don't seem
to be able to gain much weight at all. It states the function of small
bowel.

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Small_intestine

You also say a good portion of yiour small bowel has been
disconnected.
If I am correct, you are seriously lacking much of the digestive
process for
food intake absorption (small bowel) and no matter what you eat, this
mechanical anatomy state will prevent your goal.
Your GI surgeon knows all this and a great deal more. Is he a few
sandwiches
short of a picnic for ordering you to gain weight?

"CatNipped" wrote in message
...
Granted, I was carrying a lot of fluid (my feet and hands were twice their
normal size), but at the surgeon's office I weighed in at 104. The day I
was discharged from the hospital I weighed myself on my digital scale and
it showed 104.0.

Well, I just weighed myself again and I weighed 97.6! That's 6.4 pounds I
lost in two days!!! The surgeon won't do the surgery to reverse the
ileostomy until I gain at least 20 - 25 pounds, and I can't do that going
backwards.

Eating and drinking sugary/high fat foods didn't help - they just gave me
diarrhea and made the situation worse.

Back on-topic... does anyone have any suggestions / recipes for high
caloric / high protein meals and snacks?

--
Hugs,

CatNipped
See all our masters at: http://www.PossiblePlaces.com/CatNipped

See the RPCA FAQ site, by Mark Edwards, at:
http://www.professional-geek.com/rpcablog/

Email: L(dot)T(dot)Crews(at)comcast(dot)net

Thank you *SO* much Joy. You know, I think it's really great that we've
stayed "post pals" for all these years and I can't tell you how much I value
that friendship. Very few people here have "stayed the course" from 1995's
rec.pets.cats - but, of course, cat people are a breed unto themselves.

Mind you, we've got some really wonderful people who have joined us over the
years, who contribute wonderful stories and anecdotes. [I'm just a bit
distressed that some "old-timers" and welcomed newbies are switching to
FaceBook and post very little or not at all.]

Sorry, I'm getting a bit maudlin - I've pushed myself too much and *way* too
long. I just couldn't stand the mess Ben made in the 44 days I was away -
picture a "bachelor pad" using 2,500 sq. feet of packed trash and, literally
tons of junk that he had suddenly been free to scatter over every square
inch of the house. So I was scrubbing sink and toilet, moving things *WAY*
too heavy for me to move - *and* dealing with this *&^%$# bag every 20 to 30
minutes. Just raising myself off the bed is harder than you can imagine
when you have an open wound which looks like it could, at any minute, burst.
It amazes me how many movements you take for granted involve using your
abdominal muscles.

Crud, there I go again, sorry. BTW, I find that it's getting easier to
type, so posting and emailing are actually good therapeutic exercises.

So, again, thank you! I really appreciate the support the group has given
me. You guys are great!

--
Hugs,

CatNipped
See all our masters at: http://www.PossiblePlaces.com/CatNipped

See the RPCA FAQ site, by Mark Edwards, at:
http://www.professional-geek.com/rpcablog/

Email: L(dot)T(dot)Crews(at)comcast(dot)net


"Joy" wrote in message
...
I knew you meant "scream". Under the circumstances, I think we're all
willing to overlook an occasional typo. And, as far as I'm concerned, feel
free to vent here. You need some outlet for your frustration. Anybody who
doesn't want to read it doesn't have to.

--

Joy

Basically everything is subject to change without notice

"CatNipped" wrote in message
...
Ummm...errrr, that was supposed to be *SCREAM*. Sorry about the
lascivious typo - my cheeks are on fire.

--
Hugs,

CatNipped
See all our masters at: http://www.PossiblePlaces.com/CatNipped

See the RPCA FAQ site, by Mark Edwards, at:
http://www.professional-geek.com/rpcablog/

Email: L(dot)T(dot)Crews(at)comcast(dot)net


"CatNipped" wrote in message
...
Got on the digital scale just now and weighed 94.4 pounds. I know I was
carrying a lot of fluid and had a stomach flu (I'm still forcing myself
to eat and keep it down, but it's hard), but 9.6 pounds in three
days!!!! I'm never going to "qualify" for the reversal surgery. I could
cream, punch a pillow, kick a chair, but frankly, I'm so tired and I
hurt so much that I just can't get up the energy for any of that.

Sorry, I'll try very hard to cut down on the number of "Lori's boring
medical issues" posts.

--
Hugs,

CatNipped
See all our masters at: http://www.PossiblePlaces.com/CatNipped

See the RPCA FAQ site, by Mark Edwards, at:
http://www.professional-geek.com/rpcablog/

Email: L(dot)T(dot)Crews(at)comcast(dot)net


"CatNipped" wrote in message
...
Granted, I was carrying a lot of fluid (my feet and hands were twice
their normal size), but at the surgeon's office I weighed in at 104.
The day I was discharged from the hospital I weighed myself on my
digital scale and it showed 104.0.

Well, I just weighed myself again and I weighed 97.6! That's 6.4
pounds I lost in two days!!! The surgeon won't do the surgery to
reverse the ileostomy until I gain at least 20 - 25 pounds, and I can't
do that going backwards.

Eating and drinking sugary/high fat foods didn't help - they just gave
me diarrhea and made the situation worse.

Back on-topic... does anyone have any suggestions / recipes for high
caloric / high protein meals and snacks?

--
Hugs,

CatNipped
See all our masters at: http://www.PossiblePlaces.com/CatNipped

See the RPCA FAQ site, by Mark Edwards, at:
http://www.professional-geek.com/rpcablog/

Email: L(dot)T(dot)Crews(at)comcast(dot)net

You're welcome. Now get back in bed and stay there! And no more heavy
lifting. If you *must* clean and straighten, limit it to no more than 15
minutes per hour.

PLEASE don't do anything more that could retard your recovery.

I don't know how old you are, but I'm 75, so I'm probably old enough to be
your mother, if not your grandmother. Therefore, I'm entitled to boss you
around. ;-)

Seriously, though, I do want you to take care of yourself. The weight thing
is enough of a problem, you really need to be careful not to do anything
that could tear something loose or otherwise delay the healing. Also,
you'll probably have less pain, or at least less intense, if you follow my
(grand?)motherly advice.

Hugs and purrs,

Joy

--


Basically everything is subject to change without notice

"CatNipped" wrote in message
...
Thank you *SO* much Joy. You know, I think it's really great that we've
stayed "post pals" for all these years and I can't tell you how much I
value that friendship. Very few people here have "stayed the course" from
1995's rec.pets.cats - but, of course, cat people are a breed unto
themselves.

Mind you, we've got some really wonderful people who have joined us over
the years, who contribute wonderful stories and anecdotes. [I'm just a
bit distressed that some "old-timers" and welcomed newbies are switching
to FaceBook and post very little or not at all.]

Sorry, I'm getting a bit maudlin - I've pushed myself too much and *way*
too long. I just couldn't stand the mess Ben made in the 44 days I was
away - picture a "bachelor pad" using 2,500 sq. feet of packed trash and,
literally tons of junk that he had suddenly been free to scatter over
every square inch of the house. So I was scrubbing sink and toilet,
moving things *WAY* too heavy for me to move - *and* dealing with this
*&^%$# bag every 20 to 30 minutes. Just raising myself off the bed is
harder than you can imagine when you have an open wound which looks like
it could, at any minute, burst. It amazes me how many movements you take
for granted involve using your abdominal muscles.

Crud, there I go again, sorry. BTW, I find that it's getting easier to
type, so posting and emailing are actually good therapeutic exercises.

So, again, thank you! I really appreciate the support the group has given
me. You guys are great!

--
Hugs,

CatNipped
See all our masters at: http://www.PossiblePlaces.com/CatNipped

See the RPCA FAQ site, by Mark Edwards, at:
http://www.professional-geek.com/rpcablog/

Email: L(dot)T(dot)Crews(at)comcast(dot)net


"Joy" wrote in message
...
I knew you meant "scream". Under the circumstances, I think we're all
willing to overlook an occasional typo. And, as far as I'm concerned,
feel free to vent here. You need some outlet for your frustration.
Anybody who doesn't want to read it doesn't have to.

--

Joy

Basically everything is subject to change without notice

"CatNipped" wrote in message
...
Ummm...errrr, that was supposed to be *SCREAM*. Sorry about the
lascivious typo - my cheeks are on fire.

--
Hugs,

CatNipped
See all our masters at: http://www.PossiblePlaces.com/CatNipped

See the RPCA FAQ site, by Mark Edwards, at:
http://www.professional-geek.com/rpcablog/

Email: L(dot)T(dot)Crews(at)comcast(dot)net


"CatNipped" wrote in message
...
Got on the digital scale just now and weighed 94.4 pounds. I know I
was carrying a lot of fluid and had a stomach flu (I'm still forcing
myself to eat and keep it down, but it's hard), but 9.6 pounds in three
days!!!! I'm never going to "qualify" for the reversal surgery. I
could cream, punch a pillow, kick a chair, but frankly, I'm so tired
and I hurt so much that I just can't get up the energy for any of that.

Sorry, I'll try very hard to cut down on the number of "Lori's boring
medical issues" posts.

--
Hugs,

CatNipped
See all our masters at: http://www.PossiblePlaces.com/CatNipped

See the RPCA FAQ site, by Mark Edwards, at:
http://www.professional-geek.com/rpcablog/

Email: L(dot)T(dot)Crews(at)comcast(dot)net


"CatNipped" wrote in message
...
Granted, I was carrying a lot of fluid (my feet and hands were twice
their normal size), but at the surgeon's office I weighed in at 104.
The day I was discharged from the hospital I weighed myself on my
digital scale and it showed 104.0.

Well, I just weighed myself again and I weighed 97.6! That's 6.4
pounds I lost in two days!!! The surgeon won't do the surgery to
reverse the ileostomy until I gain at least 20 - 25 pounds, and I
can't do that going backwards.

Eating and drinking sugary/high fat foods didn't help - they just gave
me diarrhea and made the situation worse.

Back on-topic... does anyone have any suggestions / recipes for high
caloric / high protein meals and snacks?

--
Hugs,

CatNipped
See all our masters at: http://www.PossiblePlaces.com/CatNipped

See the RPCA FAQ site, by Mark Edwards, at:
http://www.professional-geek.com/rpcablog/

Email: L(dot)T(dot)Crews(at)comcast(dot)net

I'm still mostly a lurker here, but do want to wish you the best and
hope things get better for you.... This is a good place to vent...

LOL! You'd have had to be a 16 year old mom.

But, seriously, I *am* going to take your advice. I'm actually at the point
that my body won't *let* me do any more. What little energy I have is
better spent on my physical/occupational therapy.

Thank you *SO* much for caring.

--
Hugs,

CatNipped
See all our masters at: http://www.PossiblePlaces.com/CatNipped

See the RPCA FAQ site, by Mark Edwards, at:
http://www.professional-geek.com/rpcablog/

Email: L(dot)T(dot)Crews(at)comcast(dot)net


"Joy" wrote in message
...
You're welcome. Now get back in bed and stay there! And no more heavy
lifting. If you *must* clean and straighten, limit it to no more than 15
minutes per hour.

PLEASE don't do anything more that could retard your recovery.

I don't know how old you are, but I'm 75, so I'm probably old enough to be
your mother, if not your grandmother. Therefore, I'm entitled to boss you
around. ;-)

Seriously, though, I do want you to take care of yourself. The weight
thing is enough of a problem, you really need to be careful not to do
anything that could tear something loose or otherwise delay the healing.
Also, you'll probably have less pain, or at least less intense, if you
follow my (grand?)motherly advice.

Hugs and purrs,

Joy

--


Basically everything is subject to change without notice

"CatNipped" wrote in message
...
Thank you *SO* much Joy. You know, I think it's really great that we've
stayed "post pals" for all these years and I can't tell you how much I
value that friendship. Very few people here have "stayed the course"
from 1995's rec.pets.cats - but, of course, cat people are a breed unto
themselves.

Mind you, we've got some really wonderful people who have joined us over
the years, who contribute wonderful stories and anecdotes. [I'm just a
bit distressed that some "old-timers" and welcomed newbies are switching
to FaceBook and post very little or not at all.]

Sorry, I'm getting a bit maudlin - I've pushed myself too much and *way*
too long. I just couldn't stand the mess Ben made in the 44 days I was
away - picture a "bachelor pad" using 2,500 sq. feet of packed trash and,
literally tons of junk that he had suddenly been free to scatter over
every square inch of the house. So I was scrubbing sink and toilet,
moving things *WAY* too heavy for me to move - *and* dealing with this
*&^%$# bag every 20 to 30 minutes. Just raising myself off the bed is
harder than you can imagine when you have an open wound which looks like
it could, at any minute, burst. It amazes me how many movements you take
for granted involve using your abdominal muscles.

Crud, there I go again, sorry. BTW, I find that it's getting easier to
type, so posting and emailing are actually good therapeutic exercises.

So, again, thank you! I really appreciate the support the group has
given me. You guys are great!

--
Hugs,

CatNipped
See all our masters at: http://www.PossiblePlaces.com/CatNipped

See the RPCA FAQ site, by Mark Edwards, at:
http://www.professional-geek.com/rpcablog/

Email: L(dot)T(dot)Crews(at)comcast(dot)net


"Joy" wrote in message
...
I knew you meant "scream". Under the circumstances, I think we're all
willing to overlook an occasional typo. And, as far as I'm concerned,
feel free to vent here. You need some outlet for your frustration.
Anybody who doesn't want to read it doesn't have to.

--

Joy

Basically everything is subject to change without notice

"CatNipped" wrote in message
...
Ummm...errrr, that was supposed to be *SCREAM*. Sorry about the
lascivious typo - my cheeks are on fire.

--
Hugs,

CatNipped
See all our masters at: http://www.PossiblePlaces.com/CatNipped

See the RPCA FAQ site, by Mark Edwards, at:
http://www.professional-geek.com/rpcablog/

Email: L(dot)T(dot)Crews(at)comcast(dot)net


"CatNipped" wrote in message
...
Got on the digital scale just now and weighed 94.4 pounds. I know I
was carrying a lot of fluid and had a stomach flu (I'm still forcing
myself to eat and keep it down, but it's hard), but 9.6 pounds in
three days!!!! I'm never going to "qualify" for the reversal surgery.
I could cream, punch a pillow, kick a chair, but frankly, I'm so tired
and I hurt so much that I just can't get up the energy for any of
that.

Sorry, I'll try very hard to cut down on the number of "Lori's boring
medical issues" posts.

--
Hugs,

CatNipped
See all our masters at: http://www.PossiblePlaces.com/CatNipped

See the RPCA FAQ site, by Mark Edwards, at:
http://www.professional-geek.com/rpcablog/

Email: L(dot)T(dot)Crews(at)comcast(dot)net


"CatNipped" wrote in message
...
Granted, I was carrying a lot of fluid (my feet and hands were twice
their normal size), but at the surgeon's office I weighed in at 104.
The day I was discharged from the hospital I weighed myself on my
digital scale and it showed 104.0.

Well, I just weighed myself again and I weighed 97.6! That's 6.4
pounds I lost in two days!!! The surgeon won't do the surgery to
reverse the ileostomy until I gain at least 20 - 25 pounds, and I
can't do that going backwards.

Eating and drinking sugary/high fat foods didn't help - they just
gave me diarrhea and made the situation worse.

Back on-topic... does anyone have any suggestions / recipes for high
caloric / high protein meals and snacks?

--
Hugs,

CatNipped
See all our masters at: http://www.PossiblePlaces.com/CatNipped

See the RPCA FAQ site, by Mark Edwards, at:
http://www.professional-geek.com/rpcablog/

Email: L(dot)T(dot)Crews(at)comcast(dot)net

On Mon, 4 Apr 2011 21:43:14 -0500, "CatNipped"
wrote:

LOL! You'd have had to be a 16 year old mom.

But, seriously, I *am* going to take your advice. I'm actually at the point
that my body won't *let* me do any more. What little energy I have is
better spent on my physical/occupational therapy.

Thank you *SO* much for caring.

Rest, rest, and rest some more! You've been through a huge ordeal and
it's going to take your body a long time to recover. You deserve to
look after yourself. (huggles)

On 4/4/2011 8:02 PM, CatNipped wrote:
Thank you *SO* much Joy. You know, I think it's really great that we've
stayed "post pals" for all these years and I can't tell you how much I value
that friendship. Very few people here have "stayed the course" from 1995's
rec.pets.cats - but, of course, cat people are a breed unto themselves.

Mind you, we've got some really wonderful people who have joined us over the
years, who contribute wonderful stories and anecdotes. [I'm just a bit
distressed that some "old-timers" and welcomed newbies are switching to
FaceBook and post very little or not at all.]

Sorry, I'm getting a bit maudlin - I've pushed myself too much and *way* too
long. I just couldn't stand the mess Ben made in the 44 days I was away -
picture a "bachelor pad" using 2,500 sq. feet of packed trash and, literally
tons of junk that he had suddenly been free to scatter over every square
inch of the house. So I was scrubbing sink and toilet, moving things *WAY*
too heavy for me to move - *and* dealing with this *&^%$# bag every 20 to 30
minutes. Just raising myself off the bed is harder than you can imagine
when you have an open wound which looks like it could, at any minute, burst.
It amazes me how many movements you take for granted involve using your
abdominal muscles.

Crud, there I go again, sorry. BTW, I find that it's getting easier to
type, so posting and emailing are actually good therapeutic exercises.

So, again, thank you! I really appreciate the support the group has given
me. You guys are great!


Step #1

GO BACK TO BED & REST your body needs it's energy to heal.

Step #2

TELL BEN HE IS BEING A LAZY SLOB, AND TO START CLEANING THINGS UP...
that you are NOT his mother, he is an adult and should start acting like
one! (feel free to print this out instead of arguing with him)

Geez? Did he expect you to come home from the Hosp. in tip-top shape
and put the house in order? If I were there, I would be reading him the
riot act! I guess I need to send you a bullwhip to use on him?

Ben may have some health problems of his own, but he's definitely in
better shape than YOU are!

--
^..^ This is Kitty. Copy and paste Kitty into your signature to help
her wipe out Bunny's world domination.
--
The ONE and ONLY
lefthanded-pathetic-paranoid-psychotic-sarcastic-wiseass-ditzy
former-blonde in Bloomington! (And proud of it, too)©
email me at nalee1964 (at) comcast (dot) net
http://community.webshots.com/user/mgcmdjeep

"Magic Mood Jeep" wrote in message
...
On 4/4/2011 8:02 PM, CatNipped wrote:
Thank you *SO* much Joy. You know, I think it's really great that we've
stayed "post pals" for all these years and I can't tell you how much I
value
that friendship. Very few people here have "stayed the course" from
1995's
rec.pets.cats - but, of course, cat people are a breed unto themselves.

Mind you, we've got some really wonderful people who have joined us over
the
years, who contribute wonderful stories and anecdotes. [I'm just a bit
distressed that some "old-timers" and welcomed newbies are switching to
FaceBook and post very little or not at all.]

Sorry, I'm getting a bit maudlin - I've pushed myself too much and *way*
too
long. I just couldn't stand the mess Ben made in the 44 days I was
away -
picture a "bachelor pad" using 2,500 sq. feet of packed trash and,
literally
tons of junk that he had suddenly been free to scatter over every square
inch of the house. So I was scrubbing sink and toilet, moving things
*WAY*
too heavy for me to move - *and* dealing with this *&^%$# bag every 20 to
30
minutes. Just raising myself off the bed is harder than you can imagine
when you have an open wound which looks like it could, at any minute,
burst.
It amazes me how many movements you take for granted involve using your
abdominal muscles.

Crud, there I go again, sorry. BTW, I find that it's getting easier to
type, so posting and emailing are actually good therapeutic exercises.

So, again, thank you! I really appreciate the support the group has
given
me. You guys are great!


Step #1

GO BACK TO BED & REST your body needs it's energy to heal.

Step #2

TELL BEN HE IS BEING A LAZY SLOB, AND TO START CLEANING THINGS UP...
that you are NOT his mother, he is an adult and should start acting like
one! (feel free to print this out instead of arguing with him)

Geez? Did he expect you to come home from the Hosp. in tip-top shape
and put the house in order? If I were there, I would be reading him the
riot act! I guess I need to send you a bullwhip to use on him?

Ben may have some health problems of his own, but he's definitely in
better shape than YOU are!

--
^..^ This is Kitty. Copy and paste Kitty into your signature to help
her wipe out Bunny's world domination.
--
The ONE and ONLY
lefthanded-pathetic-paranoid-psychotic-sarcastic-wiseass-ditzy
former-blonde in Bloomington! (And proud of it, too)©
email me at nalee1964 (at) comcast (dot) net
http://community.webshots.com/user/mgcmdjeep

A heart attack isn't exactly a day in the park, and neither is having
someone hospitalized long-term. I don't think either of them should be
working that hard right now.

Joy