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D*mn I'm mad
Sorry, but I need to vent.
I have a cleaner coming in a couple of times a month, because I just can't keep up with housework with my hand problems. The cleaner came today. I always go out while he's here, to be out of the way. When I came home, the flat was spotless - nothing to complain about there - but a while later I spotted something in Caliban's food bowl. Took a closer look. Kibble! It was *half full* of kibble! I know some people free-feed their cats dry food, but even if I wanted to give Caliban dry food, I couldn't free-feed him because he hoovers everything he sees at once. I don't know why he hadn't touched this food, unless maybe the bowl had been *full* and he had eaten half of it! The other option, which I'm hoping is the right one, is that it was 'off' somehow, so he didn't eat any of it. Though where does he come off giving my cat food that's off, if that's the case? Grrrr. I'm so mad. I know the cleaner likes cats, but he shouldn't be trying to buy Caliban's affection with food, especially not kibble (Caliban hides when the cleaner comes, because he knows the sucky monster will come out soon and eat the floor). Vent over. I did write a polite e-mail requesting they don't feed my cats without permission in future. I pointed out that Caliban had just come off a rigorous diet to lose some dangerous overweight and that, besides overweight, dry food can cause kidney disease in cats. I hope I managed to teach the cleaner something. -- Marina, Miranda and Caliban. In loving memory of Frank and Nikki. |
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Marina wrote:
Sorry, but I need to vent. I have a cleaner coming in a couple of times a month, because I just can't keep up with housework with my hand problems. The cleaner came today. I always go out while he's here, to be out of the way. When I came home, the flat was spotless - nothing to complain about there - but a while later I spotted something in Caliban's food bowl. Took a closer look. Kibble! It was *half full* of kibble! I know some people free-feed their cats dry food, but even if I wanted to give Caliban dry food, I couldn't free-feed him because he hoovers everything he sees at once. I don't know why he hadn't touched this food, unless maybe the bowl had been *full* and he had eaten half of it! The other option, which I'm hoping is the right one, is that it was 'off' somehow, so he didn't eat any of it. Though where does he come off giving my cat food that's off, if that's the case? Grrrr. I'm so mad. I know the cleaner likes cats, but he shouldn't be trying to buy Caliban's affection with food, especially not kibble (Caliban hides when the cleaner comes, because he knows the sucky monster will come out soon and eat the floor). Vent over. I did write a polite e-mail requesting they don't feed my cats without permission in future. I pointed out that Caliban had just come off a rigorous diet to lose some dangerous overweight and that, besides overweight, dry food can cause kidney disease in cats. I hope I managed to teach the cleaner something. Knowing how Caliban likes his food I'm sure he managed to convince the cleaner he was a poor starving cat that hadn't eaten for days. I hope the cleaner has learned somthing without being offended. -- Adrian (Owned by Snoopy & Bagheera) Cats leave pawprints on your heart http://community.webshots.com/user/clowderuk |
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Marina wrote:
Sorry, but I need to vent. I have a cleaner coming in a couple of times a month, because I just can't keep up with housework with my hand problems. The cleaner came today. I always go out while he's here, to be out of the way. When I came home, the flat was spotless - nothing to complain about there - but a while later I spotted something in Caliban's food bowl. Took a closer look. Kibble! It was *half full* of kibble! I know some people free-feed their cats dry food, but even if I wanted to give Caliban dry food, I couldn't free-feed him because he hoovers everything he sees at once. I don't know why he hadn't touched this food, unless maybe the bowl had been *full* and he had eaten half of it! The other option, which I'm hoping is the right one, is that it was 'off' somehow, so he didn't eat any of it. Though where does he come off giving my cat food that's off, if that's the case? Grrrr. I'm so mad. I know the cleaner likes cats, but he shouldn't be trying to buy Caliban's affection with food, especially not kibble (Caliban hides when the cleaner comes, because he knows the sucky monster will come out soon and eat the floor). Vent over. I did write a polite e-mail requesting they don't feed my cats without permission in future. I pointed out that Caliban had just come off a rigorous diet to lose some dangerous overweight and that, besides overweight, dry food can cause kidney disease in cats. I hope I managed to teach the cleaner something. Not to take on the cleaners side, but it sounds like he thought he was just doing a good turn. He didn't know any better. Many people do not treat their cats with the same attention we give ours and do not worry about obesity and have not encountered health problems that need to be dealt with with their own cats so they are not even really aware that something serious could happen with a bowl of cat food. I would suggest you take the action with the thoughtfulness intended and do just what you did - educate them kindly. It sounds as if the action was intended to do just what you wanted - help you out. He didn't know. He wouldn't have known the food was off. If you have it in your flat, he would have assumed it was good. Try to look at this from a different angle. Someone who didn't know any better was trying to do a good deed for you. We should be thankful for people who try to help us. I have someone who comes in every two weeks to help me out. She doesn't have to, she just does. What I pay her is a pittance and it is just an hour every two weeks but she works like crazy when she comes over. For the most part, she knows my habits and likes and dislikes, but it is inevitable that she will move things where I have to look for them or something and I get annoyed for a few minutes. Then I am thankful because no one else would come in and do what she does and because of her I am able to stay functional and get on with getting my life back. It is worth the small annoyances of everything not being exactly as I like them to have my life back. I am not suggesting that you need to put up with a second class job, only if there things here and there that they couldn't possibly have known about, take it into account, educate and be thankful there are people who exist who will do this job for you when you can't. People who are willing to clean for others and take care of them are a special breed of people who do not get paid enough and are unappreciated. Bridget - thankful for all the help I can get |
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Marina wrote:
overweight, dry food can cause kidney disease in cats. I hope I managed to teach the cleaner something. I'm pretty sure the cleaner won't do it again. We have a cleaning service that comes once every two weeks, but I would not dream of not being in the house while they work. I have to make sure none of the kitties pulls a Houdini escape. -- Victor M. Martinez Owned and operated by the Fantastic Seven (TM) Send your spam he Email me he |
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On Wed, 02 Jan 2008 12:19:03 +0200, Marina
wrote: Sorry, but I need to vent. I have a cleaner coming in a couple of times a month, because I just can't keep up with housework with my hand problems. The cleaner came today. I always go out while he's here, to be out of the way. When I came home, the flat was spotless - nothing to complain about there - but a while later I spotted something in Caliban's food bowl. Took a closer look. Kibble! It was *half full* of kibble! I know some people free-feed their cats dry food, but even if I wanted to give Caliban dry food, I couldn't free-feed him because he hoovers everything he sees at once. I don't know why he hadn't touched this food, unless maybe the bowl had been *full* and he had eaten half of it! The other option, which I'm hoping is the right one, is that it was 'off' somehow, so he didn't eat any of it. Though where does he come off giving my cat food that's off, if that's the case? Grrrr. I'm so mad. I know the cleaner likes cats, but he shouldn't be trying to buy Caliban's affection with food, especially not kibble (Caliban hides when the cleaner comes, because he knows the sucky monster will come out soon and eat the floor). Vent over. I did write a polite e-mail requesting they don't feed my cats without permission in future. I pointed out that Caliban had just come off a rigorous diet to lose some dangerous overweight and that, besides overweight, dry food can cause kidney disease in cats. I hope I managed to teach the cleaner something. It's not like he was trying to poison Caliban Marina... the bowl was empty, he thought the cat was hungry, so he fed it. End of story. I'm sure he considered it a good deed. |
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Bridget wrote:
Not to take on the cleaners side, but it sounds like he thought he was just doing a good turn. He didn't know any better. Many people do not treat their cats with the same attention we give ours and do not worry about obesity and have not encountered health problems that need to be dealt with with their own cats so they are not even really aware that something serious could happen with a bowl of cat food. I did recognize that, though I blew my top here by myself when I discovered it. I knew at the same time that he thought he was doing a nice thing. But I don't know where the food came from. I have a small bag of kibble here, that I give Caliban maybe 2-3 pieces of about once a week, but the food in the bowl looked different. So they must have brought it. I got an apologetic reply, too, and a promise that it won't happen again. I don't think I sounded too angry in my message. -- Marina, Miranda and Caliban. In loving memory of Frank and Nikki. |
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Not to take on the cleaners side, but it sounds like he thought he was just doing a good turn. He didn't know any better. Many people do not treat their cats with the same attention we give ours and do not worry about obesity and have not encountered health problems that need to be dealt with with their own cats so they are not even really aware that something serious could happen with a bowl of cat food. I did recognize that, though I blew my top here by myself when I discovered it. I knew at the same time that he thought he was doing a nice thing. But I don't know where the food came from. I have a small bag of kibble here, that I give Caliban maybe 2-3 pieces of about once a week, but the food in the bowl looked different. So they must have brought it. I got an apologetic reply, too, and a promise that it won't happen again. I don't think I sounded too angry in my message. GET OVER IT ALREADY!!! Or are you one of these people that live to complain?!?! I know a few of them and I try my hardest to avoid them at all cost!!! They could find a pile of money and still complain about it!!! |
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On Jan 2, 8:55*am, Marina wrote:
Bridget wrote: Not to take on the cleaners side, but it sounds like he thought he was just doing a good turn. *He didn't know any better. Many people do not treat their cats with the same attention we give ours and do not worry about obesity and have not encountered health problems that need to be dealt with with their own cats so they are not even really aware that something serious could happen with a bowl of cat food. I did recognize that, though I blew my top here by myself when I discovered it. I knew at the same time that he thought he was doing a nice thing. But I don't know where the food came from. I have a small bag of kibble here, that I give Caliban maybe 2-3 pieces of about once a week, but the food in the bowl looked different. So they must have brought it. I got an apologetic reply, too, and a promise that it won't happen again. I don't think I sounded too angry in my message. -- Marina, Miranda and Caliban. In loving memory of Frank and Nikki. I'm with you on this one Marina. I'm sure, as others have said, that it was well intentioned, but I can't imagine any scenario where, as a stranger to a house to perform a service, it would be appropriate to feed an animal I knew nothing about. I could see them leaving a note or asking whether in the future they can/should feed the animal. In hindsight, maybe a note saying "The cat is NOT starving, regardless of what he tells you" might help Happy New Year, Caroline S. |
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On Jan 2, 8:55*am, Marina wrote:
Bridget wrote: Not to take on the cleaners side, but it sounds like he thought he was just doing a good turn. *He didn't know any better. Many people do not treat their cats with the same attention we give ours and do not worry about obesity and have not encountered health problems that need to be dealt with with their own cats so they are not even really aware that something serious could happen with a bowl of cat food. I did recognize that, though I blew my top here by myself when I discovered it. I knew at the same time that he thought he was doing a nice thing. But I don't know where the food came from. I have a small bag of kibble here, that I give Caliban maybe 2-3 pieces of about once a week, but the food in the bowl looked different. So they must have brought it. I got an apologetic reply, too, and a promise that it won't happen again. I don't think I sounded too angry in my message. -- Marina, Miranda and Caliban. In loving memory of Frank and Nikki. I'm with you on this one Marina. I'm sure, as others have said, that it was well intentioned, but I can't imagine any scenario where, as a stranger to a house to perform a service, it would be appropriate to feed an animal I knew nothing about. I could see them leaving a note or asking whether in the future they can/should feed the animal. In hindsight, maybe a note saying "The cat is NOT starving, regardless of what he tells you" might help Happy New Year, Caroline S. |
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I did recognize that, though I blew my top here by myself when I
discovered it. I knew at the same time that he thought he was doing a nice thing. But I don't know where the food came from. I have a small bag of kibble here, that I give Caliban maybe 2-3 pieces of about once a week, but the food in the bowl looked different. So they must have brought it. I got an apologetic reply, too, and a promise that it won't happen again. I don't think I sounded too angry in my message. -- Marina, Miranda and Caliban. In loving memory of Frank and Nikki. I think it was perfectly reasonable to get upset, Marina. I also think you dealt with it appropriately by sending an email rather than chewing the guy out. Clearly he thought he was trying to help with a kindness, but, like you, I am *VERY* funny about what my pets eat. Even my grandma, who looks after Cara several times a week asks me if it's OK for her to have a treat, or be fed scraps etc, as she knows I have Cara on a diet. Helen M |
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