cat fighting! help!

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"Danathar" wrote in message
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| Any help would be appreciated.

Well, when you put it that way.

And my solution also comes from THANKSGIVING. What a coincidence.

I went to some friends. I took a laser pointer along, mostly by
accident. Had been playing with my cat. Nope, I took it along
to play with their cats if I saw them.

They were really, REALLY enthusiastic about the laser pointer.

WHY?

It solved the problem of their older cat getting along with
the new kitten. JUST LIKE YOU.

Both cats actually chased the pointer together. So this was
togetherness, if you will.

Just had to pass this along. Will it help? I don't know.

I do know the little laser pointers with the buttons are a big
pain. The buttons are more expensive usually than AAA's
and harder to buy.

I found AAA pointers at Best Buy for $14, good deal. Nice and
bright.
Try not to shine it in the eyes. Humans have a blink response
and not sure about cats. They also avoid direct exposure.
But the pointers you buy here in USA, if that is where you are,
will have a DANGER thingee on them. So don't shine them in
anybody's eyes, as a matter of course.


| I feel bad for our older cat. She is older and has stopped
playing
| since we got the newer cat. She just can't seem to do anything
other
| than hiss Marigold. Should I be concerned? I really don't want
to get
| rid of Marigold. She was a pound kitty and I like her, but poor
| whiskers does not deserve this (or maybe she does with the
hissing). I
| think Marigold would be nice if whiskers did not hiss at her
all the
| time. Marigold has attempted over and over to make overtures to
| Whiskers but is always met with a hiss or growl.
|
| sigh...HELP!
|
| Distressed Cat owner!
| -Doug


Thanks! I actually DO have a laser pointer. Whiskers used to play with
it, but since Marigold starting playing with it she just kind of looks
at it and does'nt do anything (Wierd).

-Doug

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I feel bad for our older cat. She is older and has stopped playing
since we got the newer cat. She just can't seem to do anything other
than hiss Marigold. Should I be concerned? I really don't want to get
rid of Marigold. She was a pound kitty and I like her, but poor
whiskers does not deserve this (or maybe she does with the hissing). I
think Marigold would be nice if whiskers did not hiss at her all the
time. Marigold has attempted over and over to make overtures to
Whiskers but is always met with a hiss or growl.

sigh...HELP!


Take heart. The situation is actually not too bad. If all that happens
is a little batting and hissing with no injuries or fights, you're doing
better than a lot of the people who come here for advice on this.

My advice, FWIW: Give them some "alone time". For some time each day,
Marigold goes in the other room with the door closed and Whiskers gets
your undivided attention for play, laptime, grooming, or whatever. Then,
for another time, Marigold gets the same time with you, no competition.
Any time EITHER cat initiates a "hissy fit" - whoever "started it", so
to speak - the instigator gets put in another room for a time out.
Immediately, so they can connect the behavior with the consequence. A
firm 'NO' as the hissing occurs can add to the correction. Say NO
firmly, but not loudly, and (go) get the kitty and put them in the other
room for 5-10 minutes. The consequence of being a brat (hissing/batting)
is that you take your attention away.

Don't forget to praise good behavior! Treats and extra pets for Whiskers
for NOT hissing can give added incentive to "be nice".

If it makes you feel better, it took almost a year for my new addition
(Jeffrey) to be fully accepted by my Rowan. Time outs were very helpful.
They still are, actually, when Rowan decides to be a brat. *LOL*

--

Sounds like a great idea. I'll try it out. Irontically, the day after
they were "having issues" today seems to be a better day. I have been
using the "NO" but I'll tone done the volume a bit. I also clap my
hands and that breaks it up as well.

I'll try doing some alone time with Whiskers and Marigold seperately
and write back. Hopefully Whiskers will start playing again!

thanks!

-Doug

kaeli wrote in message . ..
In article ,
enlightened us with...

I feel bad for our older cat. She is older and has stopped playing
since we got the newer cat. She just can't seem to do anything other
than hiss Marigold. Should I be concerned? I really don't want to get
rid of Marigold. She was a pound kitty and I like her, but poor
whiskers does not deserve this (or maybe she does with the hissing). I
think Marigold would be nice if whiskers did not hiss at her all the
time. Marigold has attempted over and over to make overtures to
Whiskers but is always met with a hiss or growl.

sigh...HELP!


Take heart. The situation is actually not too bad. If all that happens
is a little batting and hissing with no injuries or fights, you're doing
better than a lot of the people who come here for advice on this.

My advice, FWIW: Give them some "alone time". For some time each day,
Marigold goes in the other room with the door closed and Whiskers gets
your undivided attention for play, laptime, grooming, or whatever. Then,
for another time, Marigold gets the same time with you, no competition.
Any time EITHER cat initiates a "hissy fit" - whoever "started it", so
to speak - the instigator gets put in another room for a time out.
Immediately, so they can connect the behavior with the consequence. A
firm 'NO' as the hissing occurs can add to the correction. Say NO
firmly, but not loudly, and (go) get the kitty and put them in the other
room for 5-10 minutes. The consequence of being a brat (hissing/batting)
is that you take your attention away.

Don't forget to praise good behavior! Treats and extra pets for Whiskers
for NOT hissing can give added incentive to "be nice".

If it makes you feel better, it took almost a year for my new addition
(Jeffrey) to be fully accepted by my Rowan. Time outs were very helpful.
They still are, actually, when Rowan decides to be a brat. *LOL*

--

Sounds like a great idea. I'll try it out. Irontically, the day after
they were "having issues" today seems to be a better day. I have been
using the "NO" but I'll tone done the volume a bit. I also clap my
hands and that breaks it up as well.

I'll try doing some alone time with Whiskers and Marigold seperately
and write back. Hopefully Whiskers will start playing again!

thanks!

-Doug

In article ,
enlightened us with...

I'll try doing some alone time with Whiskers and Marigold seperately
and write back. Hopefully Whiskers will start playing again!

thanks!

-Doug


Yeah, don't forget to come back and tell us how they're doing.

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In article ,
enlightened us with...

I'll try doing some alone time with Whiskers and Marigold seperately
and write back. Hopefully Whiskers will start playing again!

thanks!

-Doug


Yeah, don't forget to come back and tell us how they're doing.

--
--
~kaeli~
You feel stuck with your debt if you can't budge it.
http://www.ipwebdesign.net/wildAtHeart
http://www.ipwebdesign.net/kaelisSpace