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Crying Cat
Hello,
I know that pretty much everybody on this website is going to disagree with me about letting cats outside, but I really don't believe in making my cats life miserable. I got him from a shelter two months ago, and have had him inside until yesterday. He spends all day crying at the windows. So the past couple days, I have let him out (I live in a bungalow in Santa Monica). I have been following him around as he sniffs the shared yard out front. He has yet to come back in on his own. I always have to carry him, and then he cries to go back out. Our neighbor cats play and frolic and hang out, and go in and out of their house. I really hope my cat learns to do the same. I have a friend who has had a cat for 7 years. And for seven years this cat has cried at the windows and tried to escape every chance he gets. My friend is great to him, and doesn't believe in letting him out. I disagree. This cat was absolutely born to be an outside cat. And for the last seven years, he hasn't given up trying to get out, and I don't believe he ever will. Anytime I go over there you have to slowly open the door, put your hand down and pick him up - when you walk in the door. Every time. When you leave, you have to stick your foot out, and run out and slam the door to stop him. Every time. I won't live like that. So when my new cat started crying to go out, I'm going to let him out. So anyhow, this post is for the people who let their cats out. Please don't yell at me for deciding to let my cat out, I love him so much that I can't see him miserable. For those people. How can I introduce him to the outside? When can he start going out unattended? Will he ever want to come in on his own? He was feral, I believe, before I got him... Does this mean he is a wanderer in spirit, and won't be coming back? I'm scared, but resigned. If he doesn't come back. I will be very sad, and I won't get another cat. But It's the laws of probablility. Nature takes its course. If he wants to be here, he will come back. I'm no Jailer. If anybody could please help me with letting a new cat outdoors - and the steps I should take... Thanks! -- Message posted via http://www.catkb.com |
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"Skip Turner via CatKB.com" wrote in message ... Hello, I know that pretty much everybody on this website is going to disagree with me about letting cats outside, but I really don't believe in making my cats life miserable. I got him from a shelter two months ago, and have had him inside until yesterday. He spends all day crying at the windows. So the past couple days, I have let him out (I live in a bungalow in Santa Monica). I have been following him around as he sniffs the shared yard out front. If you've had him inside for two months, he will now know the inside of your house as his safe territory. As long as you continue feeding him, and continue ensuring he feels inside is his safe territory, he will keep coming back. You might like to invest in a cat door, which will make it easy for him to come inside when he wants. And make sure you get him micro-chipped, if that's done in your area, and/or get a neck tag for him with his name and your phone number, so that if he does decide to wander for any reason, anyone who finds him can contact you to come and pick him up. |
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Thanks for writing back...
He's microchipped, all caught up on shots and has a collar with my info on it. I also have a cat door on my back door. I just don't know if he'll ever use it. I don't even think he knows it exists... How long do you figure I should follow him around outside before I just let him go? I'm worried that he won't know his way back... Anyone else been through this? Thanks! -- Message posted via http://www.catkb.com |
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In message "Skip Turner via
CatKB.com" wrote: Thanks for writing back... He's microchipped, all caught up on shots and has a collar with my info on it. I also have a cat door on my back door. I just don't know if he'll ever use it. I don't even think he knows it exists... Have you shown him the door? |
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"Skip Turner via CatKB.com" wrote in message ... Thanks for writing back... He's microchipped, all caught up on shots and has a collar with my info on it. I also have a cat door on my back door. I just don't know if he'll ever use it. I don't even think he knows it exists... How long do you figure I should follow him around outside before I just let him go? I'm worried that he won't know his way back... Anyone else been through this? Thanks! My cats I first allowed outside only with me, when they were around 6 months old. At that age, they're wanting to stick pretty close to Mum anyway. I did that for about a month before I'd allow them a little freedom. Your cat is older - the answer is I don't really know. Certainly for about a week I'd make sure I was always with him when he was outside, but he may have ideas of his own, having been an outdoor cat before. It's a good idea to let him outside while he's still hungry (eg, early in the morning, before his morning feed) so he gets to orientate himself while still wondering when the food's going to arrive inside for a while. |
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Dear God, I spend the last three hours of my day playing with him with the
feather toy, and his catnip mouse. I have to wear him out for an hour, before we can go to bed (he joins me). then after about three hours he gets up and cries all night (in my one bedroom place). I've been up for the last two hours and I'm so tired. I have to be at work at 9 and I'm on almost no sleep. Ever since I started letting him out, he just won't shut up. All he wants is to go out. Well about 30 minutes ago I gave him his wish. Then i tried to go back to bed. I couldn't, of course, sleep. He was hiding under the house, then when he did come up - he walked away from me. Down the pathway and into the street, Hid under a car, and walked over to the neighboring apartment building until I grabbed him. That was the farthest he has gone, and he was trotting recklessly without sniffing. I don't think he would have found his way back. Now he's back in the house, ****ed at me, and wants to go out more then ever. I'll never get back to sleep and I hate life. We have a great time together. He has cat furniture, catnip, toys, we play ALL the time. I bring over the neighbors cats to play with him. He sleeps with me, sleeps on my lap is always purring. But he wants out. And I have no idea what to do. I just need sleep! -- Message posted via http://www.catkb.com |
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"Skip Turner via CatKB.com" wrote in message ... Hello, If anybody could please help me with letting a new cat outdoors - and the steps I should take... Thanks! What about a building an enclosure for your cat? http://www.thecatsden.net/index.html http://www.thecatsden.net/gallery.html |
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http://www.thecatconnection.com/page...KWLK/KWLK-PLAY
"Skip Turner via CatKB.com" wrote in message ... Dear God, I spend the last three hours of my day playing with him with the feather toy, and his catnip mouse. I have to wear him out for an hour, before we can go to bed (he joins me). then after about three hours he gets up and cries all night (in my one bedroom place). I've been up for the last two hours and I'm so tired. I have to be at work at 9 and I'm on almost no sleep. Ever since I started letting him out, he just won't shut up. All he wants is to go out. Well about 30 minutes ago I gave him his wish. Then i tried to go back to bed. I couldn't, of course, sleep. He was hiding under the house, then when he did come up - he walked away from me. Down the pathway and into the street, Hid under a car, and walked over to the neighboring apartment building until I grabbed him. That was the farthest he has gone, and he was trotting recklessly without sniffing. I don't think he would have found his way back. Now he's back in the house, ****ed at me, and wants to go out more then ever. I'll never get back to sleep and I hate life. We have a great time together. He has cat furniture, catnip, toys, we play ALL the time. I bring over the neighbors cats to play with him. He sleeps with me, sleeps on my lap is always purring. But he wants out. And I have no idea what to do. I just need sleep! -- Message posted via http://www.catkb.com |
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Skip Turner via CatKB.com wrote: Hello, I know that pretty much everybody on this website is going to disagree with me about letting cats outside, but I really don't believe in making my cats life miserable. I got him from a shelter two months ago, and have had him inside until yesterday. He spends all day crying at the windows. So the past couple days, I have let him out (I live in a bungalow in Santa Monica). I have been following him around as he sniffs the shared yard out front. He has yet to come back in on his own. I always have to carry him, and then he cries to go back out. Our neighbor cats play and frolic and hang out, and go in and out of their house. I really hope my cat learns to do the same. I have a friend who has had a cat for 7 years. And for seven years this cat has cried at the windows and tried to escape every chance he gets. My friend is great to him, and doesn't believe in letting him out. I disagree. This cat was absolutely born to be an outside cat. And for the last seven years, he hasn't given up trying to get out, and I don't believe he ever will. Anytime I go over there you have to slowly open the door, put your hand down and pick him up - when you walk in the door. Every time. When you leave, you have to stick your foot out, and run out and slam the door to stop him. Every time. I won't live like that. So when my new cat started crying to go out, I'm going to let him out. So anyhow, this post is for the people who let their cats out. Please don't yell at me for deciding to let my cat out, I love him so much that I can't see him miserable. For those people. How can I introduce him to the outside? When can he start going out unattended? Will he ever want to come in on his own? He was feral, I believe, before I got him... Does this mean he is a wanderer in spirit, and won't be coming back? I'm scared, but resigned. If he doesn't come back. I will be very sad, and I won't get another cat. But It's the laws of probablility. Nature takes its course. If he wants to be here, he will come back. I'm no Jailer. If anybody could please help me with letting a new cat outdoors - and the steps I should take... Thanks! -- Message posted via http://www.catkb.com I have 5 cats, 2 of which LOVE to go out. We live in the country in a wintry climate. When spring comes they sit at the door. When they go out, we go out with them and sit and watch, maybe read a little, have an iced tea, etc. We usually let them out twice a day for about an hour. They love this and I think it has made the quality of their lives better. But, I do want to emphasize that we stay out with them. |
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On 2005-03-28, Skip Turner via CatKB.com penned:
For those people. How can I introduce him to the outside? When can he start going out unattended? Will he ever want to come in on his own? He was feral, I believe, before I got him... Does this mean he is a wanderer in spirit, and won't be coming back? Is he neutered? That will make a difference. Especially if he was feral, you want to make really sure he knows you're his meal ticket (or, if you prefer, that he loves you) before letting him wander. -- monique, who spoils Oscar unmercifully pictures: http://www.bounceswoosh.org/rpca |
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