Jack Russell next door

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It's driving me mad. Our houses are attached and every time they leave
it it barks for hours. and howls. Weekends are the worst, they
leave it alone all day. I do expect a dog to bark if I have one next
door, but it's getting too much. They recently had a baby and the
dog seems to have gone out of the window. I've tried very hard for
the past 18 months not to bother about it, but no the continual
barking is really getting on my nerves. It's not his fault. He's left
alone too much. I am not up to falling out with a new neighbour. but.
they leave him alone too much and the poor lad is breaking his heart
about it. They are out all day every day and every weekend, he sits
in the window looking for them. And barks and barks.




Just posted a note through the door about "finding a solution" Came to
the end of my tether. they left him nearly all day yesterday and he
barked for hours. They are out again and he's barking. I've had
enough. It's not the dog's fault. He's lonely. I expect they won't
like
it but I cannot tolerate it any more. Of course I expect a dog to bark
if I have one next door. It's not about that. It's about him never
shutting up when they leave him for hours. Fed up with it. 18 months
is enough.


Absolutely! I hope it works.

Judith

I'm trying to do it nicely, I said in the note that I don't want to fall
out
about it but they leave him too long and he is horribly lonely and
distressed.

That sounds fine, but I hope you also went into some detail and described
the consistent barking. I expect you did, but you did not mention it when
you described your message to them.

MaryL


I did it as best I could, but I expect they won't like me for it. It's a
very difficult situation. But something has to be done as I'm fed up with
his barking. They leave him too long, the poor dog is lonely.


Tweed

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It's driving me mad. Our houses are attached and every time they leave
it it barks for hours. and howls. Weekends are the worst, they
leave it alone all day. I do expect a dog to bark if I have one next
door, but it's getting too much. They recently had a baby and the
dog seems to have gone out of the window. I've tried very hard for
the past 18 months not to bother about it, but no the continual
barking is really getting on my nerves. It's not his fault. He's left
alone too much. I am not up to falling out with a new neighbour. but.
they leave him alone too much and the poor lad is breaking his heart
about it. They are out all day every day and every weekend, he sits
in the window looking for them. And barks and barks.




Just posted a note through the door about "finding a solution" Came to
the end of my tether. they left him nearly all day yesterday and he
barked for hours. They are out again and he's barking. I've had
enough. It's not the dog's fault. He's lonely. I expect they won't
like
it but I cannot tolerate it any more. Of course I expect a dog to bark
if I have one next door. It's not about that. It's about him never
shutting up when they leave him for hours. Fed up with it. 18 months
is enough.


Absolutely! I hope it works.

Judith

I'm trying to do it nicely, I said in the note that I don't want to fall
out
about it but they leave him too long and he is horribly lonely and
distressed.

That sounds fine, but I hope you also went into some detail and described
the consistent barking. I expect you did, but you did not mention it when
you described your message to them.

MaryL
They didn't come to discuss it but every time he barked today they shut him
up. That's not the point. I expect a dog to bark if I have one next door but
I don't want him barking all day (and howling) because he is distressed
about being left for hours.

y

On 6/22/2015 3:05 PM, MaryL wrote:
On 6/22/2015 12:54 PM, Christina Websell wrote:
"Judith Latham" wrote in message
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"Christina Websell" wrote in
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It's driving me mad. Our houses are attached and every time they leave
it it barks for hours. and howls. Weekends are the worst, they
leave it alone all day. I do expect a dog to bark if I have one next
door, but it's getting too much. They recently had a baby and the
dog seems to have gone out of the window. I've tried very hard for
the past 18 months not to bother about it, but no the continual
barking is really getting on my nerves. It's not his fault. He's left
alone too much. I am not up to falling out with a new neighbour. but.
they leave him alone too much and the poor lad is breaking his heart
about it. They are out all day every day and every weekend, he sits
in the window looking for them. And barks and barks.




Just posted a note through the door about "finding a solution" Came to
the end of my tether. they left him nearly all day yesterday and he
barked for hours. They are out again and he's barking. I've had
enough. It's not the dog's fault. He's lonely. I expect they won't
like
it but I cannot tolerate it any more. Of course I expect a dog to bark
if I have one next door. It's not about that. It's about him never
shutting up when they leave him for hours. Fed up with it. 18 months
is enough.


Absolutely! I hope it works.

Judith

I'm trying to do it nicely, I said in the note that I don't want to
fall out
about it but they leave him too long and he is horribly lonely and
distressed.

That sounds fine, but I hope you also went into some detail and
described the consistent barking. I expect you did, but you did not
mention it when you described your message to them.

MaryL


Messages to neighbors you don't know can be tricky. This has nothing to
do with a dog or a pet.... when I lived in my apartment in Cordova there
was a young couple with a baby who moved in next door. These apartments
were like duplexes; only one adjoining wall. No, I did NOT have a
problem with the baby!

The problem was they subscribed to the daily newspaper. The husband
went to work every day, the young woman stayed home with the baby. Me,
I went to work every day.

The newspapers were thrown in the back yard in bright orange wrappers by
the guy who delivered them. It was a shared back yard behind both of
our fenced-in patios. She'd let the newspapers pile up for a week. It
bothered me, because that's a crystal clear sign to burglars "no one is
home". Except she was home.

I wrote what I thought was a fairly friendly but clear note asking them
to please bring in their newspapers every morning so our apartments
don't appear to be easy pickin's for thieves.

I got home from work a couple of daqys later and she knocked on my door.
Did you leave me this note? Yes, I did. She started to yell at me.
(She was rather young.) I said, I wasn't trying to be rude but you're
home ALONE, all day long with your infant. Not picking up the
newspapers just screams "no one is home". Would you REALLY want someone
to try to break in thinking the place was empty because of a bunch of
newspapers?"

She hadn't thought of it like that. I mentioned the newspaper guy
tosses some of their newspapers in "my" backyard, too. I don't
subscribe to the newspaper but these people don't know that.

She was like, "Oh, I hadn't thought about that." No. She hadn't. After
we talked she realized I had a valid point. She (or her husband, not
sure which) started bringing in the daily morning newspaper. Or maybe
they realized no one was reading it and cancelled the subscription. LOL

Tweed's neighbors may respond positively to the note after she explains
things. Me, I wouldn't want to put up with constant barking, either.

Jill

On 6/22/2015 3:32 PM, Christina Websell wrote:

MaryL
They didn't come to discuss it but every time he barked today they shut him
up. That's not the point. I expect a dog to bark if I have one next door but
I don't want him barking all day (and howling) because he is distressed
about being left for hours.

y

I agree. That is dog abuse (and also neighbor abuse--you). If they did
not understand before, the should understand now. The big question is,
will they take action to help the poor dog (and you) now that they have
been informed. I *hope* they will.

MaryL

It is an awkward situation- we've got something similar with both our neighbours. Esther upstairs has no volume control and when she shouts down the phone we can hear her. This we can tolerate- her job means she's only home at weekends and she goes to bed early.

Downstairs- we have no idea how many people are in there or for that matter who they are but once an argument starts it lasts several days complete with doors being slammed at 5am or earlier and screaming and people arguing in the hallway at full blast. Sometimes it sounds like there are 10 or more people involved...

I don't want to say anything- the woman downstairs is nice and she's been through a lot over the last few years. Her sister was stabbed to death by her husband in front of their little boy when she challenged him on gambling debts. Then she found out her husband had been racking up gambling debts as well and with the help of some friends threw him out (He was such a pain that that was ONE screaming argument in the hallway I didn't mind)

We then had a problem after she asked us not to let him in where he kept trying to get in by telling us he forgot his keys and getting nasty when we wouldn't let him in on one occasion I had to hide on the stairs as he was outside. Once he tried to barge past me saying "Get out of my way you're just a woman!" Yes but I'm bigger than he is and perfectly capable of "accidentally" tripping him up...Well I was trying to get out of his way okay?

Seriously I'm glad he's gone (Although I saw him coming out the house for the first time in over a year yesterday). The charmer introduced himself when he moved in by informing Dave "You disabled. You live in a hospital. This now Bengali house".

Lesley

Slave of the Fabulous Furballs

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On 6/22/2015 3:32 PM, Christina Websell wrote:

MaryL
They didn't come to discuss it but every time he barked today they shut
him
up. That's not the point. I expect a dog to bark if I have one next door
but
I don't want him barking all day (and howling) because he is distressed
about being left for hours.

y

I agree. That is dog abuse (and also neighbor abuse--you). If they did
not understand before, the should understand now. The big question is,
will they take action to help the poor dog (and you) now that they have
been informed. I *hope* they will.

MaryL


they are both at home since, Both cars are there. It's not my intention
that they don't leave him, of course you should be able to leave a dog for
few hours, but not so long as they do. The poor dog is so lonely that he is
breaking his heart. I've tolerated it for 18 months and now I've had
enough.
I am expecting them to hate me but last weekend he hardly stopped barking,
and it finally got too much.
I tried to send a nice note about it but I know they won't like it one
little bit.
No response, although there seems to be someone with him and he's only
barked three times today (7 am is a bit early though)

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On 6/22/2015 3:05 PM, MaryL wrote:
On 6/22/2015 12:54 PM, Christina Websell wrote:
"Judith Latham" wrote in message
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In article , Christina Websell
wrote:

"Christina Websell" wrote in
message ...
It's driving me mad. Our houses are attached and every time they
leave
it it barks for hours. and howls. Weekends are the worst, they
leave it alone all day. I do expect a dog to bark if I have one next
door, but it's getting too much. They recently had a baby and the
dog seems to have gone out of the window. I've tried very hard for
the past 18 months not to bother about it, but no the continual
barking is really getting on my nerves. It's not his fault. He's left
alone too much. I am not up to falling out with a new neighbour.
but.
they leave him alone too much and the poor lad is breaking his heart
about it. They are out all day every day and every weekend, he sits
in the window looking for them. And barks and barks.




Just posted a note through the door about "finding a solution" Came to
the end of my tether. they left him nearly all day yesterday and he
barked for hours. They are out again and he's barking. I've had
enough. It's not the dog's fault. He's lonely. I expect they won't
like
it but I cannot tolerate it any more. Of course I expect a dog to bark
if I have one next door. It's not about that. It's about him never
shutting up when they leave him for hours. Fed up with it. 18 months
is enough.


Absolutely! I hope it works.

Judith

I'm trying to do it nicely, I said in the note that I don't want to
fall out
about it but they leave him too long and he is horribly lonely and
distressed.

That sounds fine, but I hope you also went into some detail and
described the consistent barking. I expect you did, but you did not
mention it when you described your message to them.

MaryL


Messages to neighbors you don't know can be tricky. This has nothing to
do with a dog or a pet.... when I lived in my apartment in Cordova there
was a young couple with a baby who moved in next door. These apartments
were like duplexes; only one adjoining wall. No, I did NOT have a problem
with the baby!

The problem was they subscribed to the daily newspaper. The husband went
to work every day, the young woman stayed home with the baby. Me, I went
to work every day.

The newspapers were thrown in the back yard in bright orange wrappers by
the guy who delivered them. It was a shared back yard behind both of our
fenced-in patios. She'd let the newspapers pile up for a week. It
bothered me, because that's a crystal clear sign to burglars "no one is
home". Except she was home.

I wrote what I thought was a fairly friendly but clear note asking them to
please bring in their newspapers every morning so our apartments don't
appear to be easy pickin's for thieves.

I got home from work a couple of daqys later and she knocked on my door.
Did you leave me this note? Yes, I did. She started to yell at me. (She
was rather young.) I said, I wasn't trying to be rude but you're home
ALONE, all day long with your infant. Not picking up the newspapers just
screams "no one is home". Would you REALLY want someone to try to break
in thinking the place was empty because of a bunch of newspapers?"

She hadn't thought of it like that. I mentioned the newspaper guy tosses
some of their newspapers in "my" backyard, too. I don't subscribe to the
newspaper but these people don't know that.

She was like, "Oh, I hadn't thought about that." No. She hadn't. After
we talked she realized I had a valid point. She (or her husband, not sure
which) started bringing in the daily morning newspaper. Or maybe they
realized no one was reading it and cancelled the subscription. LOL

Tweed's neighbors may respond positively to the note after she explains
things. Me, I wouldn't want to put up with constant barking, either.

Jill

I am trying to do it kindly, I will see what happens next weekend and if he
is left again for 12 hours and barks my house down, I will tell them it
cannot continue. The dog has barked like crazy for 18 months every time
they leave him and I ignored it. To be kind. In case he was settling in.
It's not going to improve if I don't tell them about it, is it?
It's like the chinese water torture. Bark, pause, bark, pause for 20
minutes at a time. I finally cracked.
I love dogs but even I can't tolerate it any more.
The dog is lonely and bored, they leave it too much, doubt they will like me
saying so. Which I will if they come round to discuss Like how about one of
those things that have treats in, like a ball and he might spend some time
doing that.

On 6/24/2015 3:46 PM, Christina Websell wrote:
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On 6/22/2015 3:05 PM, MaryL wrote:
On 6/22/2015 12:54 PM, Christina Websell wrote:
"Judith Latham" wrote in message
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In article , Christina Websell
wrote:

"Christina Websell" wrote in
message ...
It's driving me mad. Our houses are attached and every time they
leave
it it barks for hours. and howls. Weekends are the worst, they
leave it alone all day. I do expect a dog to bark if I have one next
door, but it's getting too much. They recently had a baby and the
dog seems to have gone out of the window. I've tried very hard for
the past 18 months not to bother about it, but no the continual
barking is really getting on my nerves. It's not his fault. He's left
alone too much. I am not up to falling out with a new neighbour.
but.
they leave him alone too much and the poor lad is breaking his heart
about it. They are out all day every day and every weekend, he sits
in the window looking for them. And barks and barks.




Just posted a note through the door about "finding a solution" Came to
the end of my tether. they left him nearly all day yesterday and he
barked for hours. They are out again and he's barking. I've had
enough. It's not the dog's fault. He's lonely. I expect they won't
like
it but I cannot tolerate it any more. Of course I expect a dog to bark
if I have one next door. It's not about that. It's about him never
shutting up when they leave him for hours. Fed up with it. 18 months
is enough.


Absolutely! I hope it works.

Judith

I'm trying to do it nicely, I said in the note that I don't want to
fall out
about it but they leave him too long and he is horribly lonely and
distressed.

That sounds fine, but I hope you also went into some detail and
described the consistent barking. I expect you did, but you did not
mention it when you described your message to them.

MaryL


Messages to neighbors you don't know can be tricky. This has nothing to
do with a dog or a pet.... when I lived in my apartment in Cordova there
was a young couple with a baby who moved in next door. These apartments
were like duplexes; only one adjoining wall. No, I did NOT have a problem
with the baby!

The problem was they subscribed to the daily newspaper. The husband went
to work every day, the young woman stayed home with the baby. Me, I went
to work every day.

The newspapers were thrown in the back yard in bright orange wrappers by
the guy who delivered them. It was a shared back yard behind both of our
fenced-in patios. She'd let the newspapers pile up for a week. It
bothered me, because that's a crystal clear sign to burglars "no one is
home". Except she was home.

I wrote what I thought was a fairly friendly but clear note asking them to
please bring in their newspapers every morning so our apartments don't
appear to be easy pickin's for thieves.

I got home from work a couple of daqys later and she knocked on my door.
Did you leave me this note? Yes, I did. She started to yell at me. (She
was rather young.) I said, I wasn't trying to be rude but you're home
ALONE, all day long with your infant. Not picking up the newspapers just
screams "no one is home". Would you REALLY want someone to try to break
in thinking the place was empty because of a bunch of newspapers?"

She hadn't thought of it like that. I mentioned the newspaper guy tosses
some of their newspapers in "my" backyard, too. I don't subscribe to the
newspaper but these people don't know that.

She was like, "Oh, I hadn't thought about that." No. She hadn't. After
we talked she realized I had a valid point. She (or her husband, not sure
which) started bringing in the daily morning newspaper. Or maybe they
realized no one was reading it and cancelled the subscription. LOL

Tweed's neighbors may respond positively to the note after she explains
things. Me, I wouldn't want to put up with constant barking, either.

Jill

I am trying to do it kindly, I will see what happens next weekend and if he
is left again for 12 hours and barks my house down, I will tell them it
cannot continue. The dog has barked like crazy for 18 months every time
they leave him and I ignored it. To be kind. In case he was settling in.
It's not going to improve if I don't tell them about it, is it?
It's like the chinese water torture. Bark, pause, bark, pause for 20
minutes at a time. I finally cracked.
I love dogs but even I can't tolerate it any more.
The dog is lonely and bored, they leave it too much, doubt they will like me
saying so. Which I will if they come round to discuss Like how about one of
those things that have treats in, like a ball and he might spend some time
doing that.


Yes, something to keep him occupied like a treat-toy might help.
Leaving a radio or the TV on might help. *Anything* to help quell the
constant barking when the poor dog is alone all day long! I understand
your frustration.

Jill

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On 6/24/2015 3:46 PM, Christina Websell wrote:
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On 6/22/2015 3:05 PM, MaryL wrote:
On 6/22/2015 12:54 PM, Christina Websell wrote:
"Judith Latham" wrote in message
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In article , Christina Websell
wrote:

"Christina Websell" wrote in
message ...
It's driving me mad. Our houses are attached and every time they
leave
it it barks for hours. and howls. Weekends are the worst, they
leave it alone all day. I do expect a dog to bark if I have one
next
door, but it's getting too much. They recently had a baby and the
dog seems to have gone out of the window. I've tried very hard
for
the past 18 months not to bother about it, but no the continual
barking is really getting on my nerves. It's not his fault. He's
left
alone too much. I am not up to falling out with a new neighbour.
but.
they leave him alone too much and the poor lad is breaking his
heart
about it. They are out all day every day and every weekend, he
sits
in the window looking for them. And barks and barks.




Just posted a note through the door about "finding a solution" Came
to
the end of my tether. they left him nearly all day yesterday and he
barked for hours. They are out again and he's barking. I've had
enough. It's not the dog's fault. He's lonely. I expect they won't
like
it but I cannot tolerate it any more. Of course I expect a dog to
bark
if I have one next door. It's not about that. It's about him never
shutting up when they leave him for hours. Fed up with it. 18
months
is enough.


Absolutely! I hope it works.

Judith

I'm trying to do it nicely, I said in the note that I don't want to
fall out
about it but they leave him too long and he is horribly lonely and
distressed.

That sounds fine, but I hope you also went into some detail and
described the consistent barking. I expect you did, but you did not
mention it when you described your message to them.

MaryL
I am trying to do it kindly, I will see what happens next weekend and if
he
is left again for 12 hours and barks my house down, I will tell them it
cannot continue. The dog has barked like crazy for 18 months every time
they leave him and I ignored it. To be kind. In case he was settling
in.
It's not going to improve if I don't tell them about it, is it?
It's like the chinese water torture. Bark, pause, bark, pause for 20
minutes at a time. I finally cracked.
I love dogs but even I can't tolerate it any more.
The dog is lonely and bored, they leave it too much, doubt they will like
me
saying so. Which I will if they come round to discuss Like how about one
of
those things that have treats in, like a ball and he might spend some
time
doing that.


Yes, something to keep him occupied like a treat-toy might help. Leaving a
radio or the TV on might help. *Anything* to help quell the constant
barking when the poor dog is alone all day long! I understand your
frustration.

Jill
No barking except the usual 7.30 now. The weekend is coming up which has
been the problem. I tried, but if he barks the place down again, at the
weekend I will tell them one more time. I've really been patient about it.
I love dogs. But I can not tolerate his continual barking when he is left
all day. See what happens this weekend.
I have sent a nice note so they know it's kind, up to now.

The owners were out much of the day today and apart from his waking me up
like he always does, there was not a peep out of him. Maybe they took him
out with them, or got him one of those toys that he has to work at all day
to get treats out of, but they seems to have taken my kindly note on board.
I am more than happy about today, let's see about tomorrow. Weekends are
always the worst.
The thing is that if I don't tell them about it, they probably won't know
that's he's driven me mad for 18 months but it's always a difficult thing to
approach and is more than likely that they will have ill-feeling about it.
But at least I told them myself without reporting them to the authorities.
To give them a chance to sort it out between ourselves.