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Karen Chuplis wrote:
It depends on how agressive they are acting. Is it real fighting? Karen The playing/fighting usually lasts about 5 seconds - Luna (the kitten, who weighs 5 lbs) always initiates it (Golddust, the older cat, who weighs 11 lbs, has started it about .5% of the time), and it usually is Luna going up to Golddust and trying to grab her around the neck from either the bottom or top, and then Golddust whacks her and hisses and yelps one time, then runs off. So it's not really much of an incident. According to the chart at: http://www.feline-behavior.com/html/cats_cats.html Vocalizations: Golddust is the only one that vocalizes and they're usually just hissing or yelping once. Injuries: No injuries to either cat. Avoidance: They hang out in the same rooms, eat at bowls about a foot apart at the same time, used to sleep in the same room and use the same litterbox (currently Golddust is separated in another room 'cos of the cystitis), and Golddust will watch Luna play and sometimes engage in play at the same time (but not with Luna, just with another string or something). Roles: Neither seem to really be either on the offensive or defensive - Luna will arch up with her tail fluffed (but in kittens, I've read that that's a sign of play, not aggressiveness?) sometimes, but not often anymore. Golddust just lays around watching Luna and they walk by each other most of the time without incident. Friendliness: See the above info - they seem to tolerate each other, but not real friendly. Initiation: Luna pretty much always starts it. Of course, once Golddust gets over her cystitis, she might want to start playing again, but who knows. So based on the above, I don't think it's real fighting, but it's not totally play either. Thanks for reading. brian -- If you want to reply to this message by mail, you will have to change the reply address to |
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Chris wrote:
Well, I don't think the clawing/declawing is the issue. I agree it sounds like kitten behavior. I don't know where your vet gets its ideas but I have one female who has 'mothered' every kitten that came after her (3). Yeah, I know that there are thousands (if not tens of thousands or millions) of people out there that have an older female cat that has had a female kitten introduced and gotten along. I'm thinking it may just be the personalities/traits of these specific cats. It takes a while for them to settle in & I absolutely would not worry about accidental scratches. My wife and I were in a difference of opinion here - I thought that if the kitten injured the older one, it would be pretty minor the first time or two, then if the kitten really did get aggressive, it would get worse. My wife seemed to think it would be a fairly major injury first time out (either accidentally caused or instinctively caused). Even declawed cats pack quite a wallop when a little one really starts anoying them. Yeah, the older cat is 11 lbs and the kitten's about 5 lbs, so the older one really could whack (or sit on) the kitten fairly well if she got ****ed off enough. And the fact that they sleep in the same room, etc. just tells you that the big one is NOT afraid of the little guy. Just give it some time & don't worry--you know they really do work it out out in their own way! That's kind of what I was thinking, but my wife's and my opinions are so differing that it's too damn stressful to have to deal with this whole thing every time something goes the tiniest bit awry with the cats. Thanks for the post. brian -- If you want to reply to this message by mail, you will have to change the reply address to |
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Chris wrote:
Well, I don't think the clawing/declawing is the issue. I agree it sounds like kitten behavior. I don't know where your vet gets its ideas but I have one female who has 'mothered' every kitten that came after her (3). Yeah, I know that there are thousands (if not tens of thousands or millions) of people out there that have an older female cat that has had a female kitten introduced and gotten along. I'm thinking it may just be the personalities/traits of these specific cats. It takes a while for them to settle in & I absolutely would not worry about accidental scratches. My wife and I were in a difference of opinion here - I thought that if the kitten injured the older one, it would be pretty minor the first time or two, then if the kitten really did get aggressive, it would get worse. My wife seemed to think it would be a fairly major injury first time out (either accidentally caused or instinctively caused). Even declawed cats pack quite a wallop when a little one really starts anoying them. Yeah, the older cat is 11 lbs and the kitten's about 5 lbs, so the older one really could whack (or sit on) the kitten fairly well if she got ****ed off enough. And the fact that they sleep in the same room, etc. just tells you that the big one is NOT afraid of the little guy. Just give it some time & don't worry--you know they really do work it out out in their own way! That's kind of what I was thinking, but my wife's and my opinions are so differing that it's too damn stressful to have to deal with this whole thing every time something goes the tiniest bit awry with the cats. Thanks for the post. brian -- If you want to reply to this message by mail, you will have to change the reply address to |
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Chris wrote:
Well, I don't think the clawing/declawing is the issue. I agree it sounds like kitten behavior. I don't know where your vet gets its ideas but I have one female who has 'mothered' every kitten that came after her (3). Yeah, I know that there are thousands (if not tens of thousands or millions) of people out there that have an older female cat that has had a female kitten introduced and gotten along. I'm thinking it may just be the personalities/traits of these specific cats. It takes a while for them to settle in & I absolutely would not worry about accidental scratches. My wife and I were in a difference of opinion here - I thought that if the kitten injured the older one, it would be pretty minor the first time or two, then if the kitten really did get aggressive, it would get worse. My wife seemed to think it would be a fairly major injury first time out (either accidentally caused or instinctively caused). Even declawed cats pack quite a wallop when a little one really starts anoying them. Yeah, the older cat is 11 lbs and the kitten's about 5 lbs, so the older one really could whack (or sit on) the kitten fairly well if she got ****ed off enough. And the fact that they sleep in the same room, etc. just tells you that the big one is NOT afraid of the little guy. Just give it some time & don't worry--you know they really do work it out out in their own way! That's kind of what I was thinking, but my wife's and my opinions are so differing that it's too damn stressful to have to deal with this whole thing every time something goes the tiniest bit awry with the cats. Thanks for the post. brian -- If you want to reply to this message by mail, you will have to change the reply address to |
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Sounds pretty normal for this stage. I wouldn't worry.
Karen "Brian or Sharon Beuchaw" wrote in message ... Karen Chuplis wrote: It depends on how agressive they are acting. Is it real fighting? Karen The playing/fighting usually lasts about 5 seconds - Luna (the kitten, who weighs 5 lbs) always initiates it (Golddust, the older cat, who weighs 11 lbs, has started it about .5% of the time), and it usually is Luna going up to Golddust and trying to grab her around the neck from either the bottom or top, and then Golddust whacks her and hisses and yelps one time, then runs off. So it's not really much of an incident. According to the chart at: http://www.feline-behavior.com/html/cats_cats.html Vocalizations: Golddust is the only one that vocalizes and they're usually just hissing or yelping once. Injuries: No injuries to either cat. Avoidance: They hang out in the same rooms, eat at bowls about a foot apart at the same time, used to sleep in the same room and use the same litterbox (currently Golddust is separated in another room 'cos of the cystitis), and Golddust will watch Luna play and sometimes engage in play at the same time (but not with Luna, just with another string or something). Roles: Neither seem to really be either on the offensive or defensive - Luna will arch up with her tail fluffed (but in kittens, I've read that that's a sign of play, not aggressiveness?) sometimes, but not often anymore. Golddust just lays around watching Luna and they walk by each other most of the time without incident. Friendliness: See the above info - they seem to tolerate each other, but not real friendly. Initiation: Luna pretty much always starts it. Of course, once Golddust gets over her cystitis, she might want to start playing again, but who knows. So based on the above, I don't think it's real fighting, but it's not totally play either. Thanks for reading. brian -- If you want to reply to this message by mail, you will have to change the reply address to |
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Sounds pretty normal for this stage. I wouldn't worry.
Karen "Brian or Sharon Beuchaw" wrote in message ... Karen Chuplis wrote: It depends on how agressive they are acting. Is it real fighting? Karen The playing/fighting usually lasts about 5 seconds - Luna (the kitten, who weighs 5 lbs) always initiates it (Golddust, the older cat, who weighs 11 lbs, has started it about .5% of the time), and it usually is Luna going up to Golddust and trying to grab her around the neck from either the bottom or top, and then Golddust whacks her and hisses and yelps one time, then runs off. So it's not really much of an incident. According to the chart at: http://www.feline-behavior.com/html/cats_cats.html Vocalizations: Golddust is the only one that vocalizes and they're usually just hissing or yelping once. Injuries: No injuries to either cat. Avoidance: They hang out in the same rooms, eat at bowls about a foot apart at the same time, used to sleep in the same room and use the same litterbox (currently Golddust is separated in another room 'cos of the cystitis), and Golddust will watch Luna play and sometimes engage in play at the same time (but not with Luna, just with another string or something). Roles: Neither seem to really be either on the offensive or defensive - Luna will arch up with her tail fluffed (but in kittens, I've read that that's a sign of play, not aggressiveness?) sometimes, but not often anymore. Golddust just lays around watching Luna and they walk by each other most of the time without incident. Friendliness: See the above info - they seem to tolerate each other, but not real friendly. Initiation: Luna pretty much always starts it. Of course, once Golddust gets over her cystitis, she might want to start playing again, but who knows. So based on the above, I don't think it's real fighting, but it's not totally play either. Thanks for reading. brian -- If you want to reply to this message by mail, you will have to change the reply address to |
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Sounds pretty normal for this stage. I wouldn't worry.
Karen "Brian or Sharon Beuchaw" wrote in message ... Karen Chuplis wrote: It depends on how agressive they are acting. Is it real fighting? Karen The playing/fighting usually lasts about 5 seconds - Luna (the kitten, who weighs 5 lbs) always initiates it (Golddust, the older cat, who weighs 11 lbs, has started it about .5% of the time), and it usually is Luna going up to Golddust and trying to grab her around the neck from either the bottom or top, and then Golddust whacks her and hisses and yelps one time, then runs off. So it's not really much of an incident. According to the chart at: http://www.feline-behavior.com/html/cats_cats.html Vocalizations: Golddust is the only one that vocalizes and they're usually just hissing or yelping once. Injuries: No injuries to either cat. Avoidance: They hang out in the same rooms, eat at bowls about a foot apart at the same time, used to sleep in the same room and use the same litterbox (currently Golddust is separated in another room 'cos of the cystitis), and Golddust will watch Luna play and sometimes engage in play at the same time (but not with Luna, just with another string or something). Roles: Neither seem to really be either on the offensive or defensive - Luna will arch up with her tail fluffed (but in kittens, I've read that that's a sign of play, not aggressiveness?) sometimes, but not often anymore. Golddust just lays around watching Luna and they walk by each other most of the time without incident. Friendliness: See the above info - they seem to tolerate each other, but not real friendly. Initiation: Luna pretty much always starts it. Of course, once Golddust gets over her cystitis, she might want to start playing again, but who knows. So based on the above, I don't think it's real fighting, but it's not totally play either. Thanks for reading. brian -- If you want to reply to this message by mail, you will have to change the reply address to |
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Hi,
Sharon here. First of all, thanks for your concern. There have been some things I think Brian has not noticed as much as I have. The older cat seemed depressed after we brought the Luna in (wouldn't play, hid and slept all day). Also, as Luna grew more comfortable in her new environment, she became more aggressive and Golddust became reluctant to go into the room with her at night to sleep. (Golddust has always put herself to bed at night, or else Mommy might carry her and kiss her, and she doesn't like that!) Also, one day Golddust followed me to the door as I was leaving for work and sat on my purse, as if she didn't want me to leave. We have had her five years and she has never behaved like that. Then I noticed that the kitten would run up and start drinking water if Golddust was drinking water, and Golddust would stop drinking. Same thing with food. And whenever Golddust would come into the living from her hiding place to hang with us, Luna would attack her. Golddust seemed pretty shaken after these little encounters, not just annoyed. And then, as it turns out, Golddust got sick fairly soon afterward, with cystitis, a condition that stress can contribute to. We had to get her X-rayed to make sure she did not have kidney stones or a blockage. My main worry is that the stress over the kitten will make Golddust sick again. Golddust was here first. She should feel safe and comfortable in her own home. It gets me mad when I see cats at a shelter who were given up because they didn't get along with a new kitten in the house. These people, in my view, are not true cat people, but I digress. Currently, they are in separate rooms until Golddust fully recuperates. I'm thinking we might supervise them when they are together, and keep them in different rooms when we leave the house. I'm not sure how long we should do this, however. Any input would be appreciated. I don't want them to just tolerate each other. I want them to be friends. It is obvious that Luna wants to be top cat, but she does not like to be left alone, we have found. Golddust gets annoyed with her, but stares at her in fascination when she plays and has licked her. I am not without hope. But I am wondering how long we should give it. We don't want Golddust to get sick again, and we want to do what is best for Luna, too. As for the declawing issue, that is completely secondary at this point. Taking her claws away would not make her harmless to Golddust, probably. Thank again for reading. Sharon Brian or Sharon Beuchaw wrote: Chris wrote: Well, I don't think the clawing/declawing is the issue. I agree it sounds like kitten behavior. I don't know where your vet gets its ideas but I have one female who has 'mothered' every kitten that came after her (3). Yeah, I know that there are thousands (if not tens of thousands or millions) of people out there that have an older female cat that has had a female kitten introduced and gotten along. I'm thinking it may just be the personalities/traits of these specific cats. It takes a while for them to settle in & I absolutely would not worry about accidental scratches. My wife and I were in a difference of opinion here - I thought that if the kitten injured the older one, it would be pretty minor the first time or two, then if the kitten really did get aggressive, it would get worse. My wife seemed to think it would be a fairly major injury first time out (either accidentally caused or instinctively caused). Even declawed cats pack quite a wallop when a little one really starts anoying them. Yeah, the older cat is 11 lbs and the kitten's about 5 lbs, so the older one really could whack (or sit on) the kitten fairly well if she got ****ed off enough. And the fact that they sleep in the same room, etc. just tells you that the big one is NOT afraid of the little guy. Just give it some time & don't worry--you know they really do work it out out in their own way! That's kind of what I was thinking, but my wife's and my opinions are so differing that it's too damn stressful to have to deal with this whole thing every time something goes the tiniest bit awry with the cats. Thanks for the post. brian -- If you want to reply to this message by mail, you will have to change the reply address to -- If you want to reply to this message by mail, you will have to change the reply address to |
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Hi,
Sharon here. First of all, thanks for your concern. There have been some things I think Brian has not noticed as much as I have. The older cat seemed depressed after we brought the Luna in (wouldn't play, hid and slept all day). Also, as Luna grew more comfortable in her new environment, she became more aggressive and Golddust became reluctant to go into the room with her at night to sleep. (Golddust has always put herself to bed at night, or else Mommy might carry her and kiss her, and she doesn't like that!) Also, one day Golddust followed me to the door as I was leaving for work and sat on my purse, as if she didn't want me to leave. We have had her five years and she has never behaved like that. Then I noticed that the kitten would run up and start drinking water if Golddust was drinking water, and Golddust would stop drinking. Same thing with food. And whenever Golddust would come into the living from her hiding place to hang with us, Luna would attack her. Golddust seemed pretty shaken after these little encounters, not just annoyed. And then, as it turns out, Golddust got sick fairly soon afterward, with cystitis, a condition that stress can contribute to. We had to get her X-rayed to make sure she did not have kidney stones or a blockage. My main worry is that the stress over the kitten will make Golddust sick again. Golddust was here first. She should feel safe and comfortable in her own home. It gets me mad when I see cats at a shelter who were given up because they didn't get along with a new kitten in the house. These people, in my view, are not true cat people, but I digress. Currently, they are in separate rooms until Golddust fully recuperates. I'm thinking we might supervise them when they are together, and keep them in different rooms when we leave the house. I'm not sure how long we should do this, however. Any input would be appreciated. I don't want them to just tolerate each other. I want them to be friends. It is obvious that Luna wants to be top cat, but she does not like to be left alone, we have found. Golddust gets annoyed with her, but stares at her in fascination when she plays and has licked her. I am not without hope. But I am wondering how long we should give it. We don't want Golddust to get sick again, and we want to do what is best for Luna, too. As for the declawing issue, that is completely secondary at this point. Taking her claws away would not make her harmless to Golddust, probably. Thank again for reading. Sharon Brian or Sharon Beuchaw wrote: Chris wrote: Well, I don't think the clawing/declawing is the issue. I agree it sounds like kitten behavior. I don't know where your vet gets its ideas but I have one female who has 'mothered' every kitten that came after her (3). Yeah, I know that there are thousands (if not tens of thousands or millions) of people out there that have an older female cat that has had a female kitten introduced and gotten along. I'm thinking it may just be the personalities/traits of these specific cats. It takes a while for them to settle in & I absolutely would not worry about accidental scratches. My wife and I were in a difference of opinion here - I thought that if the kitten injured the older one, it would be pretty minor the first time or two, then if the kitten really did get aggressive, it would get worse. My wife seemed to think it would be a fairly major injury first time out (either accidentally caused or instinctively caused). Even declawed cats pack quite a wallop when a little one really starts anoying them. Yeah, the older cat is 11 lbs and the kitten's about 5 lbs, so the older one really could whack (or sit on) the kitten fairly well if she got ****ed off enough. And the fact that they sleep in the same room, etc. just tells you that the big one is NOT afraid of the little guy. Just give it some time & don't worry--you know they really do work it out out in their own way! That's kind of what I was thinking, but my wife's and my opinions are so differing that it's too damn stressful to have to deal with this whole thing every time something goes the tiniest bit awry with the cats. Thanks for the post. brian -- If you want to reply to this message by mail, you will have to change the reply address to -- If you want to reply to this message by mail, you will have to change the reply address to |
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Hi,
Sharon here. First of all, thanks for your concern. There have been some things I think Brian has not noticed as much as I have. The older cat seemed depressed after we brought the Luna in (wouldn't play, hid and slept all day). Also, as Luna grew more comfortable in her new environment, she became more aggressive and Golddust became reluctant to go into the room with her at night to sleep. (Golddust has always put herself to bed at night, or else Mommy might carry her and kiss her, and she doesn't like that!) Also, one day Golddust followed me to the door as I was leaving for work and sat on my purse, as if she didn't want me to leave. We have had her five years and she has never behaved like that. Then I noticed that the kitten would run up and start drinking water if Golddust was drinking water, and Golddust would stop drinking. Same thing with food. And whenever Golddust would come into the living from her hiding place to hang with us, Luna would attack her. Golddust seemed pretty shaken after these little encounters, not just annoyed. And then, as it turns out, Golddust got sick fairly soon afterward, with cystitis, a condition that stress can contribute to. We had to get her X-rayed to make sure she did not have kidney stones or a blockage. My main worry is that the stress over the kitten will make Golddust sick again. Golddust was here first. She should feel safe and comfortable in her own home. It gets me mad when I see cats at a shelter who were given up because they didn't get along with a new kitten in the house. These people, in my view, are not true cat people, but I digress. Currently, they are in separate rooms until Golddust fully recuperates. I'm thinking we might supervise them when they are together, and keep them in different rooms when we leave the house. I'm not sure how long we should do this, however. Any input would be appreciated. I don't want them to just tolerate each other. I want them to be friends. It is obvious that Luna wants to be top cat, but she does not like to be left alone, we have found. Golddust gets annoyed with her, but stares at her in fascination when she plays and has licked her. I am not without hope. But I am wondering how long we should give it. We don't want Golddust to get sick again, and we want to do what is best for Luna, too. As for the declawing issue, that is completely secondary at this point. Taking her claws away would not make her harmless to Golddust, probably. Thank again for reading. Sharon Brian or Sharon Beuchaw wrote: Chris wrote: Well, I don't think the clawing/declawing is the issue. I agree it sounds like kitten behavior. I don't know where your vet gets its ideas but I have one female who has 'mothered' every kitten that came after her (3). Yeah, I know that there are thousands (if not tens of thousands or millions) of people out there that have an older female cat that has had a female kitten introduced and gotten along. I'm thinking it may just be the personalities/traits of these specific cats. It takes a while for them to settle in & I absolutely would not worry about accidental scratches. My wife and I were in a difference of opinion here - I thought that if the kitten injured the older one, it would be pretty minor the first time or two, then if the kitten really did get aggressive, it would get worse. My wife seemed to think it would be a fairly major injury first time out (either accidentally caused or instinctively caused). Even declawed cats pack quite a wallop when a little one really starts anoying them. Yeah, the older cat is 11 lbs and the kitten's about 5 lbs, so the older one really could whack (or sit on) the kitten fairly well if she got ****ed off enough. And the fact that they sleep in the same room, etc. just tells you that the big one is NOT afraid of the little guy. Just give it some time & don't worry--you know they really do work it out out in their own way! That's kind of what I was thinking, but my wife's and my opinions are so differing that it's too damn stressful to have to deal with this whole thing every time something goes the tiniest bit awry with the cats. Thanks for the post. brian -- If you want to reply to this message by mail, you will have to change the reply address to -- If you want to reply to this message by mail, you will have to change the reply address to |
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