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Kreisleriana wrote:
Typical exchange: Mr. T: Are you hungry? T: mistakenly thinking he is actually asking me if I am hungry No. Mr. T: Since he was actually trying to tell me he is hungry and wants something to eat, stews, frustrated, thinking I am a Neanderthal woman That's hilarious. I once read a humor book called something like "Jewish as a Second Language". The joke was, that to understand what's going on in a Jewish family, you would need to learn to reinterpret everything you hear according to an entirely new and different set of rules. Ostensibly directed at non-Jews marrying into Jewish families, the book was really meant for Jews to read and snicker at ourselves. Anyway, one of the examples was of a Jewish mother, who used similar indirect modes of communication. If she was cold, she would say, "Do you need a sweater?" Personally, I call that co-dependence, but a minor quibble! Joyce |
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On Fri, 24 Dec 2004 00:31:15 GMT, yodeled:
Kreisleriana wrote: Typical exchange: Mr. T: Are you hungry? T: mistakenly thinking he is actually asking me if I am hungry No. Mr. T: Since he was actually trying to tell me he is hungry and wants something to eat, stews, frustrated, thinking I am a Neanderthal woman That's hilarious. I once read a humor book called something like "Jewish as a Second Language". The joke was, that to understand what's going on in a Jewish family, you would need to learn to reinterpret everything you hear according to an entirely new and different set of rules. Ostensibly directed at non-Jews marrying into Jewish families, the book was really meant for Jews to read and snicker at ourselves. I know that book! My favorite thing in it is the cartoon of the two women standing in a movie line, and having their conversation into microphones, broadcasting it all over the area at large. Theresa Stinky Pictures: http://community.webshots.com/album/125591586JWEFwh My Blog: http://www.humanitas.blogspot.com |
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On Thu, 23 Dec 2004 17:47:08 -0700, "Monique Y. Mudama"
yodeled: On 2004-12-24, Kreisleriana penned: It's certainly why New Yorkers are often considered rude in much of the rest of the US. We do have a rather direct way of talking to each other when we do talk. When I was with the former Mr. T, an Australian of English parentage, he would absolutely cringe at how direct I was, when I thought I was being very polite. He would drive me to distraction with how *indirect* he always was, and he thought I was thoroughly obtuse. Typical exchange: Mr. T: Are you hungry? T: mistakenly thinking he is actually asking me if I am hungry No. Mr. T: Since he was actually trying to tell me he is hungry and wants something to eat, stews, frustrated, thinking I am a Neanderthal woman Replace Mr. T with me, and T with my husband, and that fits my relationship to a, well, "T". It doesn't help that by the time I'm really hungry, I get a headache and can't think straight, so I just want FOOD IN ME NOW. Well, I don't know, maybe it's just me, but I don't see anything wrong with just saying so, rather than asking your loved one to be a mind reader. Theresa Stinky Pictures: http://community.webshots.com/album/125591586JWEFwh My Blog: http://www.humanitas.blogspot.com |
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On 2004-12-24, Kreisleriana penned:
It's certainly why New Yorkers are often considered rude in much of the rest of the US. We do have a rather direct way of talking to each other when we do talk. When I was with the former Mr. T, an Australian of English parentage, he would absolutely cringe at how direct I was, when I thought I was being very polite. He would drive me to distraction with how *indirect* he always was, and he thought I was thoroughly obtuse. Typical exchange: Mr. T: Are you hungry? T: mistakenly thinking he is actually asking me if I am hungry No. Mr. T: Since he was actually trying to tell me he is hungry and wants something to eat, stews, frustrated, thinking I am a Neanderthal woman Replace Mr. T with me, and T with my husband, and that fits my relationship to a, well, "T". It doesn't help that by the time I'm really hungry, I get a headache and can't think straight, so I just want FOOD IN ME NOW. Responses like the above make me furious, because I'm already grouchy and it seems like Eric's purposely trying to make me miserable. -- monique, who is sometimes allowed to pet Oscar, a grey^H^H^H^Hblue-cream DLH with an attitude! |
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On 2004-12-24, Kreisleriana penned:
On Thu, 23 Dec 2004 17:47:08 -0700, "Monique Y. Mudama" yodeled: Replace Mr. T with me, and T with my husband, and that fits my relationship to a, well, "T". It doesn't help that by the time I'm really hungry, I get a headache and can't think straight, so I just want FOOD IN ME NOW. Well, I don't know, maybe it's just me, but I don't see anything wrong with just saying so, rather than asking your loved one to be a mind reader. I absolutely agree with you, in theory. In practice, though, I seem to behave that way. There's a little bit of monologue on Tori Amos' Jupiter EP. She's talking about how she's been seeing this guy and having tea with him for months, and every single time he asks her how many sugars she'd like in her tea. Eventually, she gets really ****ed off, because how hard can it be to remember "how many sugars a girl takes in her tea"??? Seems like, reasonable or not, after the 4000th time I've asked him if he's hungry because I'd like to eat, he should figure it out! And, to be fair, we have been negotiating such communication issues over time. -- monique, who is sometimes allowed to pet Oscar, a grey^H^H^H^Hblue-cream DLH with an attitude! |
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Kreisleriana wrote:
I know that book! My favorite thing in it is the cartoon of the two women standing in a movie line, and having their conversation into microphones, broadcasting it all over the area at large. My favorite bit is the one for young women, where you're supposed to pretend you have company over whenever you answer the phone, so the caller will think you're really popular, and also so you won't seem too eager to talk to the person who's calling (playing hard to get). So, when someone calls and you pick up the phone, the caller is supposed to hear something like, "...*hate* playing tennis when I have my period! ... Hello?" LOL Joyce |
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Kreisleriana wrote:
Well, I don't know, maybe it's just me, but I don't see anything wrong with just saying so, rather than asking your loved one to be a mind reader. But, "if you REALLY loved me, you'd know what I want." Joyce |
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Kreisleriana had some very interesting
things to say about The Things Some People Say (OT): It doesn't help that by the time I'm really hungry, I get a headache and can't think straight, so I just want FOOD IN ME NOW. Well, I don't know, maybe it's just me, but I don't see anything wrong with just saying so, rather than asking your loved one to be a mind reader. As much as I love my DH, he's a bit deficient in people skills [he's a techie, what can I say? :-)]. Subtle does not work on him. In fact, sledgehammers do not always work on him. :-) -- "The universe is quite robust in design and appears to be doing just fine on its own, incompetent support staff notwithstanding. :-)" - the Dennis formerly known as (evil), MCFL |
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Monique Y. Mudama wrote:
There's a little bit of monologue on Tori Amos' Jupiter EP. She's talking about how she's been seeing this guy and having tea with him for months, and every single time he asks her how many sugars she'd like in her tea. Eventually, she gets really ****ed off, because how hard can it be to remember "how many sugars a girl takes in her tea"??? Yeah, but that's not expecting him to be a mind reader. I mean she's TOLD him 400 times! Seems like, reasonable or not, after the 4000th time I've asked him if he's hungry because I'd like to eat, he should figure it out! Well sure. If you just want to suggest that the two of you get something to eat, then why not ask if he's hungry? But in T and Mr. T's case, he seemed to think that saying, "Are you hungry" was going to send her into a frenzy of wifely servitude. ie, "Are you hungry?" means "Woman, get me my dinner!" Joyce |
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