Any friends of Megan: Can you ask about Henry?

I ****ed off Megan a while ago and she won't talk to me anymore. I
really can't tell anymore whether it's cause I'm a moron or she's a
harridan. Doesn't really matter now, I guess.

We found a stray, nursed him back to health and then were unable to
manage integrating him into our two cat household. He was an
incredible sweetheart - very loving to people.

Megan agreed to adopt him, and when I last saw him he was doing
wonderfully in her amazing, huge Minneapolis menagerie.

I sent her an email a couple days ago asking about Henry, and
predictably, she hasn't responded. If there are friends of hers out
there that can ask, and are less vindictive, please ask her how my
little furball is fairing.

Henry was a strong, Maine-Coonish type cat that had never been
properly socialized with other cats. It took an expert like Megan to
integrate him into the household, we weren't up to the task. She can
properly take credit for making him a successful, sociable indoor cat,
but we took him in, paid the vet bills and otherwise rescued him from
the short life of an outdoor castaway.

I miss him, and having just lost a cat in our family, am concerned
about his welfare. Thanks for any info you can pass along.

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Brian Link wrote:

I miss him, and having just lost a cat in our family, am concerned
about his welfare. Thanks for any info you can pass along.

Sorry about your cat Brian

Maybe your email to megan was sort of an outlet just now
Maybe plant a tree in memory of your cat, plant one for Henry too

Regards

"Brian Link" wrote in message
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I ****ed off Megan a while ago and she won't talk to me anymore. I
really can't tell anymore whether it's cause I'm a moron or she's a
harridan. Doesn't really matter now, I guess.

We found a stray, nursed him back to health and then were unable to
manage integrating him into our two cat household. He was an
incredible sweetheart - very loving to people.

Megan agreed to adopt him, and when I last saw him he was doing
wonderfully in her amazing, huge Minneapolis menagerie.

I sent her an email a couple days ago asking about Henry, and
predictably, she hasn't responded. If there are friends of hers out
there that can ask, and are less vindictive, please ask her how my
little furball is fairing.

Henry was a strong, Maine-Coonish type cat that had never been
properly socialized with other cats. It took an expert like Megan to
integrate him into the household, we weren't up to the task. She can
properly take credit for making him a successful, sociable indoor cat,
but we took him in, paid the vet bills and otherwise rescued him from
the short life of an outdoor castaway.

I miss him, and having just lost a cat in our family, am concerned
about his welfare. Thanks for any info you can pass along.

BLink
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"The worst thing about censorship is [redacted]"

Brian,

I would think that it is obvious to you why Megan won't respond to your
messages. She did adopt Henry when you could not properly care for him, and
she had you over to her home -- so you already know the information you have
now requested. At the same time, you have insulted her (publicly on the
newsgroups and not just privately) on every occasion when you posted
messages about her. Just take a look at your current message -- there are
lots of positive statements, but you started the whole thing by referring to
her as a "harridan," and this message is actually one of your calmer ones.
I wouldn't respond, either, if someone wrote about me in that way. In fact,
I would be *livid.* What you have been doing is classic passive-aggressive
behavior, and you are directing it to someone who gave you help over a very
long period of time.

MaryL

MaryL wrote:

Brian,

I would think that it is obvious to you why Megan won't respond to your
messages. She did adopt Henry when you could not properly care for him, and
she had you over to her home -- so you already know the information you have
now requested.

??? He asked how Henry was doing now...? I don't think that's
unreasonable seeing that it's been, what - over a year since Megan took
him?


At the same time, you have insulted her (publicly on the
newsgroups and not just privately) on every occasion when you posted
messages about her. Just take a look at your current message -- there are
lots of positive statements, but you started the whole thing by referring to
her as a "harridan,"

....and himself a "moron"....

and this message is actually one of your calmer ones.
I wouldn't respond, either, if someone wrote about me in that way. In fact,
I would be *livid.* What you have been doing is classic passive-aggressive
behavior, and you are directing it to someone who gave you help over a very
long period of time.


shrug I think people take themselves way too seriously...

Brian asking how Henry's doing is reasonable, despite any personal
conflicts the two of them had. If anyone's being passive-aggressive,
it's Megan for refusing to give a follow-up info on a cat she adopted.
(Brian's being directly aggressive.) In the past I've taken some cats
from some ****ing jackwad idiots, whom I was *completely* disgusted
with. I still followed up with a wellness report on the cats.
Honestly, how's it gonna hurt her to tell him how Henry is doing? It's
not. It's just sort of assholy of her to withold the information.
And two "assholies" don't make a "right".

-L.

"-L." wrote in message
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MaryL wrote:

Brian,

I would think that it is obvious to you why Megan won't respond to your
messages. She did adopt Henry when you could not properly care for him,
and
she had you over to her home -- so you already know the information you
have
now requested.

??? He asked how Henry was doing now...? I don't think that's
unreasonable seeing that it's been, what - over a year since Megan took
him?


At the same time, you have insulted her (publicly on the
newsgroups and not just privately) on every occasion when you posted
messages about her. Just take a look at your current message -- there
are
lots of positive statements, but you started the whole thing by
referring to
her as a "harridan,"

...and himself a "moron"....

and this message is actually one of your calmer ones.
I wouldn't respond, either, if someone wrote about me in that way. In
fact,
I would be *livid.* What you have been doing is classic
passive-aggressive
behavior, and you are directing it to someone who gave you help over a
very
long period of time.


shrug I think people take themselves way too seriously...

Brian asking how Henry's doing is reasonable, despite any personal
conflicts the two of them had. If anyone's being passive-aggressive,
it's Megan for refusing to give a follow-up info on a cat she adopted.
(Brian's being directly aggressive.) In the past I've taken some cats
from some ****ing jackwad idiots, whom I was *completely* disgusted
with. I still followed up with a wellness report on the cats.
Honestly, how's it gonna hurt her to tell him how Henry is doing? It's
not. It's just sort of assholy of her to withold the information.
And two "assholies" don't make a "right".

-L.


Damn, -L. What a sobering post. You just proved yourself to be
much more mature than I am. I was going to say, sounds like
a clear case of Asshole v. Asshole to me.

Of course Brian has a right to know how Henry is doing, though
I still think he is a scumbag for giving him up.

Mary L,. as usual, is a sanctimonious pill.

cybercat wrote:

Damn, -L. What a sobering post. You just proved yourself to be
much more mature than I am. I was going to say, sounds like
a clear case of Asshole v. Asshole to me.

Of course Brian has a right to know how Henry is doing, though
I still think he is a scumbag for giving him up.

I think in this case, it was the right thing to do. IIRC he didn't
follow Megan's advice, and couldn't get it through his thick head why
he wasn't having any success. (I could be confusing cases, though...)
I don't have any problem rehoming a cat when the person invoved is
either stubborn or stupid.


Mary L,. as usual, is a sanctimonious pill.

shrug Everybody's entitled to their opinions. There are times when
being a "harridan" is totally appropriate. This was probably one of
those times...

-L.

On 20 Aug 2006 09:59:04 -0700, "-L." wrote:


cybercat wrote:

Damn, -L. What a sobering post. You just proved yourself to be
much more mature than I am. I was going to say, sounds like
a clear case of Asshole v. Asshole to me.

Of course Brian has a right to know how Henry is doing, though
I still think he is a scumbag for giving him up.

I think in this case, it was the right thing to do. IIRC he didn't
follow Megan's advice, and couldn't get it through his thick head why
he wasn't having any success. (I could be confusing cases, though...)
I don't have any problem rehoming a cat when the person invoved is
either stubborn or stupid.


Mary L,. as usual, is a sanctimonious pill.

shrug Everybody's entitled to their opinions. There are times when
being a "harridan" is totally appropriate. This was probably one of
those times...

-L.

I don't wanna relive that whole episode, because as far as I'm
concerned Megan and I both acted badly, and I don't wanna argue about
"degrees of acting badly". It's all out there to be googled for those
into soap operas. I removed a section of cardboard from the screen
door early, and she got upset. I wasn't flinging him around the house
by his tail.

Anyway, it's clear that I'm not gonna hear back, and with that I'll
just accept that's the way it is.

We have three cats right now, Louis and Tiger, adopted brothers, and
Chloe from California. They've reached equilibrium, and I'm happy.
Just seeing those little girls who had first tried to adopt Henry the
other day got me curious.

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Brian Link wrote:
I don't wanna relive that whole episode, because as far as I'm
concerned Megan and I both acted badly, and I don't wanna argue about
"degrees of acting badly". It's all out there to be googled for those
into soap operas. I removed a section of cardboard from the screen
door early, and she got upset. I wasn't flinging him around the house
by his tail.

LOL...I think everyone knows that, Brian.


Anyway, it's clear that I'm not gonna hear back, and with that I'll
just accept that's the way it is.

We have three cats right now, Louis and Tiger, adopted brothers, and
Chloe from California. They've reached equilibrium, and I'm happy.

That's good. Has Louis quit peeing?

-L.

"-L." wrote in message
ps.com...

Brian Link wrote:
I don't wanna relive that whole episode, because as far as I'm
concerned Megan and I both acted badly, and I don't wanna argue about
"degrees of acting badly". It's all out there to be googled for those
into soap operas. I removed a section of cardboard from the screen
door early, and she got upset. I wasn't flinging him around the house
by his tail.

LOL...I think everyone knows that, Brian.


Anyway, it's clear that I'm not gonna hear back, and with that I'll
just accept that's the way it is.

We have three cats right now, Louis and Tiger, adopted brothers, and
Chloe from California. They've reached equilibrium, and I'm happy.

That's good. Has Louis quit peeing?


NO. And I do believe that is why Henry got tossed. That is what really kills
me.

Brian Link wrote:

Megan agreed to adopt him, and when I last saw him he was doing
wonderfully in her amazing, huge Minneapolis menagerie.

Therein lies your answer I'm sure with Megan taking care of him,
he's doing great.