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Euthanasia Time for our Cat :(
Oops,
here's the correct links..... Here is Amber at home right after we first saved her from the shelter (just a kitten, maybe three months - this one kills me to look at, the napkin on the floor was almost as big as her)..... http://www.bmecom.com/cat/9809XX_1.jpg And here's Amber as an early adult cat (I think a she was 1.5 years here)...... http://www.bmecom.com/cat/991004_1.jpg On Jun 23, 5:59 pm, "MaryL" On Jun 25, 6:46*pm, Billy wrote: I want to thank each and every one of you who provided support and your time to comment on my posts. You have truly been remarkable and you made such a difference to our feelings by your sensitive and caring comments. I did have her Euthanized yesterday, but we postponed it for a few hours so we would have more time with her. Amazingly, for the past day and a half before this, she hid under the bed and did not eat at all. However, 10 minutes before sending her to her final destination, she limped down the stairs without us calling for her (her belly and sides so bloated looking from the apparent fluids made that hard for her to walk) to our lower floor. My wife held her perched with Amber's head on my wife's shoulders and her body suspended along my wife's chest. Amber purred so loud like she never did in years. We then placed her on my lap and she sat there content and allowed me to stroke her for the final few times. She let the kids stroke her without a hiss, whine, etc. (very unusual). She usually would not let me or esp the kids pet her for more than 20 seconds before she hissed during her later years. She was a very loving, independant "people" cat but could be moody and did what *she* wanted at at *her* decision, so this was also an unusual moment. I woke suddenly in the middle of last night thinking I should have operated to see if the docs were wrong - maybe something she swallowed was lodged somewhere and caused stomach or intestinal issues and the perifontal effusion (I think that was what it was, sort of like the wet form of FIP), maybe something the xrays could not absolutely show. We had her creamated so there is no chance of ever knowing. I just hope and pray that it was *not* something like a swallowed object that lodged somewhere and caused all the fluid buildup from one of the digestive parts being strangulated or partially blocked. Just hope it's not something that we could have corrected.....I'm haunted with the lack of a *100%* definitive diagnosis, and I doubt that I would do this the same way again for another cat. Next time I'll HAVE TO KNOW. Here is Amber at home right after we first saved her from the shelter (just a kitten, maybe three months - this one kills me to look at, the napkin on the floor was almost as big as her).....http://www.bmecom.com/cat/9809XX_1 And here's Amber as an early adult cat (I think a she was 1.5 years here)......http://www.bmecom.com/cat/991004_1 On Jun 23, 5:59*pm, "MaryL" -OUT-THE-LITTER wrote: "Billy" wrote in message ... Well, It's time now. Our cat Amber (for anyone who followed my previous thread) is going to be euthanized tomorrow. She seems ready now, no spunk left, tired look, diareah (just started yesterday), etc. No full meals for 23 days. Little bites of food here an there through the days, that's it. Was still drinking water regularly up until yesterday. I just hope we did not make a mistake by not trying surgery. All the docs said not to do it, the primary vet, oncologist, etc. The surgeon said he could operate, but hes a surgeon and would favor this to some degree, but even he gave a "guarded" prognosis on the outcome. So the consensus was the tumor could not be removed. It was too big they said. We had xrays and ultrasound done. We also had a fine needle aspirate that cells came back consistent with cancer. Here's the xray's and ultrasound for anyone that either knows how to read them or has/had similar xrays of their pet with cancer. I think the xrays of the organs are clouded from the effusion (fluid buildup/ internal drainage from the Cancer) but you might be able to make out where they say the tumor is in the xray. The ultrasound identifies it by the markings. The Xray does not. http://www.bmecom.com/cat/xray_thorax.jpg http://www.bmecom.com/cat/xray_whole-body.jpg http://www.bmecom.com/cat/ultsnd_mass.jpg Billy, I think this is the right decision. *It's always difficult to know when the time is "right," and we tend to second-guess ourselves. *However, I think any other decision--given the circumstances you have described--would be selfish and an act of cruelty. *In other words, you would be doing it for yourself and not for Amber. *What you are doing for her is the final gift of love. *You are sparing her unncecessary pain and you are being a responsible guardian. *I have had friends who have agonized because they waited *too long* and saw their beloved pets suffer unbearable pain. *So, try to console yourself with the knowledge that you did everything reasonable for Amber and that you sought medical counsel before making this most painful of decisions. *I have been through the same process, and you have my deepest sympathy--and my acknowledgement that you are making the right decision.. 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Euthanasia Time for our Cat :(
"Billy" wrote: And here's Amber as an early adult cat (I think a she was 1.5 years here)...... http://www.bmecom.com/cat/991004_1 {{Billy}} She was a truly beautiful brown "mackeral tabby," Wow. And you were the very best friend she ever could have had. |
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Euthanasia Time for our Cat :(
You Have to stop this "what iffing". Her behavior, in being willing to have
each of you touch her, stroke her, love her shows me that she knew what was going to happen. Doctors can, and have been wrong. From what you described it sounds like this wasn't one of those times. If you have to know for the next cat, fine but what is done is done and the kitty is happy and healthy at the bridge. I believe in that. I see so many people on these groups who have kept their beloved cats far too lone and, put them thru far too many test. They are doing it for themselves and not the cat. You followed your heard and paid attention to you beloved cat. Now, just know the kitty is happy, and, you will have a lot of wonderful memories once the pain eases a bit, and it will. Purrs and prayers. "Billy" wrote in message ... Oops, here's the correct links..... Here is Amber at home right after we first saved her from the shelter (just a kitten, maybe three months - this one kills me to look at, the napkin on the floor was almost as big as her)..... http://www.bmecom.com/cat/9809XX_1.jpg And here's Amber as an early adult cat (I think a she was 1.5 years here)...... http://www.bmecom.com/cat/991004_1.jpg On Jun 23, 5:59 pm, "MaryL" On Jun 25, 6:46 pm, Billy wrote: I want to thank each and every one of you who provided support and your time to comment on my posts. You have truly been remarkable and you made such a difference to our feelings by your sensitive and caring comments. I did have her Euthanized yesterday, but we postponed it for a few hours so we would have more time with her. Amazingly, for the past day and a half before this, she hid under the bed and did not eat at all. However, 10 minutes before sending her to her final destination, she limped down the stairs without us calling for her (her belly and sides so bloated looking from the apparent fluids made that hard for her to walk) to our lower floor. My wife held her perched with Amber's head on my wife's shoulders and her body suspended along my wife's chest. Amber purred so loud like she never did in years. We then placed her on my lap and she sat there content and allowed me to stroke her for the final few times. She let the kids stroke her without a hiss, whine, etc. (very unusual). She usually would not let me or esp the kids pet her for more than 20 seconds before she hissed during her later years. She was a very loving, independant "people" cat but could be moody and did what *she* wanted at at *her* decision, so this was also an unusual moment. I woke suddenly in the middle of last night thinking I should have operated to see if the docs were wrong - maybe something she swallowed was lodged somewhere and caused stomach or intestinal issues and the perifontal effusion (I think that was what it was, sort of like the wet form of FIP), maybe something the xrays could not absolutely show. We had her creamated so there is no chance of ever knowing. I just hope and pray that it was *not* something like a swallowed object that lodged somewhere and caused all the fluid buildup from one of the digestive parts being strangulated or partially blocked. Just hope it's not something that we could have corrected.....I'm haunted with the lack of a *100%* definitive diagnosis, and I doubt that I would do this the same way again for another cat. Next time I'll HAVE TO KNOW. Here is Amber at home right after we first saved her from the shelter (just a kitten, maybe three months - this one kills me to look at, the napkin on the floor was almost as big as her).....http://www.bmecom.com/cat/9809XX_1 And here's Amber as an early adult cat (I think a she was 1.5 years here)......http://www.bmecom.com/cat/991004_1 On Jun 23, 5:59 pm, "MaryL" -OUT-THE-LITTER wrote: "Billy" wrote in message ... Well, It's time now. Our cat Amber (for anyone who followed my previous thread) is going to be euthanized tomorrow. She seems ready now, no spunk left, tired look, diareah (just started yesterday), etc. No full meals for 23 days. Little bites of food here an there through the days, that's it. Was still drinking water regularly up until yesterday. I just hope we did not make a mistake by not trying surgery. All the docs said not to do it, the primary vet, oncologist, etc. The surgeon said he could operate, but hes a surgeon and would favor this to some degree, but even he gave a "guarded" prognosis on the outcome. So the consensus was the tumor could not be removed. It was too big they said. We had xrays and ultrasound done. We also had a fine needle aspirate that cells came back consistent with cancer. Here's the xray's and ultrasound for anyone that either knows how to read them or has/had similar xrays of their pet with cancer. I think the xrays of the organs are clouded from the effusion (fluid buildup/ internal drainage from the Cancer) but you might be able to make out where they say the tumor is in the xray. The ultrasound identifies it by the markings. The Xray does not. http://www.bmecom.com/cat/xray_thorax.jpg http://www.bmecom.com/cat/xray_whole-body.jpg http://www.bmecom.com/cat/ultsnd_mass.jpg Billy, I think this is the right decision. It's always difficult to know when the time is "right," and we tend to second-guess ourselves. However, I think any other decision--given the circumstances you have described--would be selfish and an act of cruelty. In other words, you would be doing it for yourself and not for Amber. What you are doing for her is the final gift of love. You are sparing her unncecessary pain and you are being a responsible guardian. I have had friends who have agonized because they waited *too long* and saw their beloved pets suffer unbearable pain. So, try to console yourself with the knowledge that you did everything reasonable for Amber and that you sought medical counsel before making this most painful of decisions. I have been through the same process, and you have my deepest sympathy--and my acknowledgement that you are making the right decision. MaryL- Hide quoted text - - Show quoted text -- Hide quoted text - - Show quoted text - |
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Euthanasia Time for our Cat :(
She was a beautiful girl. I adore brown tabbies. I agree with Granby.
You need to stop beating yourself up. We make the best decisions we can with the information at hand. "Rise up slowly, Angel. It's hard to let you go." |
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