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Age Appropriate Dress?
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wrote: Jane wrote: Is my NAAFA membership showing? lol I hang out with a bunch of fat- acceptance folks in the DC area, and they're a great group, I tell you. We have all sorts, good and bad. (A lot of cat lovers, too) I'm on the fringes of NAAFA, too. Not a full-fleged member, but I have attended their functions. I used to be a member of the Feminist Caucus and was responsible for the monthly newsletter for a couple of years. Went to almost all their conventions. Where I live there's a lot of fat-acceptance activity, so I can get a shot of support whenever the general culture's thinness obsession starts getting to me. But I've been doing it for many years, so I think some of that positive attitude has sunk in pretty deep - yay! I'm fond of the slogan "Riots not Diets". As long as it's understood there are personal decisions and personal factors in every case. I have metabolic, drug, and lifestyle factors that cause me to carry too much weight. In my own case, I have solid measurements, of physiological and biochemical values, that the weight is bad for me. The most important thing for me in weight control is exercise, and that can be hard with work pressures and depression. I have a decent home gym; I just need to force myself to use it often enough to get into the habit. There have been times, however, when I've been lectured -- that verb is chosen deliberately -- on how I should be accepting of fat. Thank you, no. It's an unwise decision for me personally. |
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[OT] Age Appropriate Dress?
"Howard C. Berkowitz" wrote in message ... In article , Adrian wrote: Jo Firey wrote: "Yoj" wrote in message . com... "Wayne Mitchell" wrote in message news "Yoj" wrote: A cup of strong black coffee can be a real help in a situation like that. It contains drugs that are similar to theophylin that help open up the lungs. Proper treatment is better of course, but coffee can be a real help in the mean time. Jo Also good chocolate, it contains theobromine which is part of the same family. The family is the methylxanthines, of which the major members are caffeine, theophylline, and theobromine. Aminophylline is a modified form of theophylline that is injectable, but really has no current place in the treatment of asthma. Of the three main alkaloids, theophylline, as has been suggested, is the strongest bronchodilator, which helps in an acute asthma attack. Of common beverages, strong tea has the greatest amount of actual theophylline. Coffee has the most caffeine. I thought tea had the highest caffeine amount |
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Howard C. Berkowitz wrote:
There have been times, however, when I've been lectured -- that verb is chosen deliberately -- on how I should be accepting of fat. Thank you, no. It's an unwise decision for me personally. What you do with your body is your business. I just ask that you respect where I am with mine and I will give you (you generic - I feel this toward everyone) the same courtesy. Joyce |
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wrote in message ... What constitutes beauty isn't a consensus. There are many different kinds of taste and aesthetics out there. People who think there's one kind of attractiveness, and then think people should exercise "common sense" about it, are simply imposing their own standards on the world. There's nothing "common" about taste - or sense. Anybody remember the "Drew Carey Show"? Remember his nemesis, Mimi? She had several men who wanted her, weird clothes and makeup included - and I found nothing odd about that. Like you said, people have different tastes. My DH doesn't like "skinny" women. He likes cushiony and comfy and is totally turned off by "boney". -- Hugs, CatNipped See all my masters at: http://www.PossiblePlaces.com/CatNipped/ |
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"EvelynVogtGamble(Divamanque)" wrote in message
... wrote: "EvelynVogtGamble(Divamanque)" wrote: I'm certainly NOT saying you shouldn't wear "pretty" clothes - just that large women should use a little common sense when buying them. Why "should" they, Evelyn? Why shouldn't they just wear what they please? What laws are being broken, legal or ethical? Aesthetic? ;-) Unless a woman really WANTS to look grotesque, common sense dictates that she not wear something she knows is unflattering! (Certainly not when there are available alternatives that are more becoming and minimize her flaws.) And if you answer, "aesthetic laws", that is your own subjective opinion. You don't have a lock on what constitutes beauty. True. However it's not exactly "subjective" when most people are agreed upon certain basics! If you don't CARE whether you look your best, and prefer to wear things that don't suit you, just to make a point, it's not MY problem. (Although IMO anyone who claims to feel that way should probably consider therapy.) Those of us who live in the real world prefer not to appear ridiculous when an easier alternative exists - i.e. to choose our clothes with care and actually SEE ourselves in them when we look in a mirror. Evelyn, there are some people who *DO* see in mirrors what we see, but where we might not like what we see, they *DO*. And believe me, there are other people out there, besides them, who also think they look good. As others have been trying to say, beauty is strictly subjective and different people have different idea about what is beautiful (from a conservative 3-piece Armani suit to ragged jeans with holes in the knees - and even like each at different times!). Just like some people love the color blue and hate the color orange, there are people who love the color orange and hate the color blue! Personally, while I may have my favorites, I tend to like *all* colors. Given the chance to have a large garden of nothing but gorgeous red roses, and a garden of every possible flower, including dandelions, I would go for the second choice. I'm the same way with body types. I like very tall and skinny men in all their variety of clothes, and I also like short chubby men in all their variety of clothes - and everything in between (do you get that I like men in all their aspects? ;). Maybe it's just because I have ADHD, but if everyone in this world thought the same way, acted the same way, and dressed the same way - I would be bored enough to commit suicide! Even those people who annoy me at least keep me interested! -- Hugs, CatNipped See all my masters at: http://www.PossiblePlaces.com/CatNipped/ |
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Two people I'm thinking
of in particular, a couple, have an expensive house on which they have never spent any time or money in decorating. However, they've filled it with all sorts of electronic stuff and cool gadgets and toys. I realize now that the true definition of "decorating" or making a home is surrounding yourself with things you love. Not things your mother loves. Not things your friends love, not things that look like a decorator magazine. Computer parts, cables, stereo components and other gadgets are things he loves. I am suddenly realizing why all my furniture is secondhand, and covered with a massive collection of transforming robots. Except for the bookcases, which I bought to hold, um, more transforming robots, DVDs, and comic books. Makes sense. --Fil |
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Enfilade wrote: Two people I'm thinking of in particular, a couple, have an expensive house on which they have never spent any time or money in decorating. However, they've filled it with all sorts of electronic stuff and cool gadgets and toys. I realize now that the true definition of "decorating" or making a home is surrounding yourself with things you love. Not things your mother loves. Not things your friends love, not things that look like a decorator magazine. Computer parts, cables, stereo components and other gadgets are things he loves. I am suddenly realizing why all my furniture is secondhand, and covered with a massive collection of transforming robots. Except for the bookcases, which I bought to hold, um, more transforming robots, DVDs, and comic books. Makes sense. --Fil Yes! Exactly. My furniture is all second-hand, too. But every piece has a "story". Our little kitchen area table was in the first house my grandparents bought when they married. All my "decorator items" in my kitchen are from my mother's 1950's kitchen, the things that remind me of her busy hands. Nothing matches. I'm not sure I'd want it to! Sherry |
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Cheryl Perkins wrote:
Beauty actually probably isn't strictly subjective if you go by the studies in which researchers ask people to rate the beauty of photos of lots of different people. Sure, some aspects of popularly-recognized 'beauty' is dependent on fashion and culture, but I doubt all of it is. But we are socialized from birth to respond to different appearances in certain ways. That doesn't mean we don't also have our individual taste, but beauty standards are socially constructed, and they contain within them many values, concious and unconcious, of that social culture. People in different parts of the world have all sorts of different ideas of what is beautiful in people. And I would be somewhat skeptical about studies that "prove" that, for example, all men look for certain physical qualities in a woman that have to do with biologically determined standards (and vice versa). I'm not saying that the results of such studies are outright wrong, or that there is no biological component to our visual tastes, but I do think the researchers themselves are biased (because they can't help but be biased), and that will skew the results, too. Choosing clothing involves not only a personal view on what beauty is and a way for each person to express that, but also suitability and communication. I think you're talking about two different things. There's the issue of appropriateness to a specific situation: how you present yourself at work, home, with friends, family, or just out in public by yourself. There is a level of conformity to expectations in many situations, and I'm sure that most people are not arguing about those. I'm certainly not! I haven't heard anyone say that we should all be able to wear bikinis to work and if anyone complains, they're a bigot. What I take issue with is when someone says "She should know better than to wear that in public", as though we all have agreed-upon standards about what "looks good" and what doesn't. I'm sure *some* people agree on certain standards, because that is part of what makes a culture, but we also live among people with many different cultural and subcultural notions of attractiveness. For example, Evelyn believes that it's a fact, and not an opinion, that a fat woman would look terrible in a tight leather outfit. Well, I know for a fact that many people would think she looks great. And maybe she doesn't give a damn what Evelyn thinks - she's dressing for herself and for those who appreciate her. Perhaps she's not "too stupid" to know better, after all. Maybe she knows exactly what she's doing, and is choosing not to be restricted by someone else's social rules. If I can't look dispassionately at my appearance and make a pretty good guess at what it will communicate to people I meet, there may be misunderstanding of a greater or lesser degree. Frankly, I think there will be some misunderstanding no matter what you do, because people have different frames of reference and will infer your "statement" in different ways. You might have a common cultural understanding with some group of people about what you're communicating with your physical presentation, and that might give the impression that that understanding is universal, but it's not. Joyce |
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