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"Luvskats00" wrote in message ... Latest update.... Newbie cat (named Nellie and I added Isabella as her middle name) is so skittish that she will jump 10 feet if I clear my throat! She was trusting/loving, but being forced into the bathroom makes her more afraid. I move in slo-mo and talk softly, but she's jumpy anyway. Trouble is, she has been moved to the bathroom but, once again, peed on the sheet, not in the box. Also, I applied Feliway to the sheet, btw, hoping that will discourage her from peeing on the sheet. I also bought litter and will use that - not newspapers - in the box. Hopefully, that might help. She hasn't thrown up in 30 hours...yay! Oh, definitely use litter and not newspapers. Have you been using newspapers before this? Some cats will use it, but many will not. It also is not effective at absorbing odor. I would suggest non-clumping litter. Also, some people have had success with Cat Attract, a type of litter that supposedly is formulated for litter-training. Here are some links, if you want to read about it: http://cats.about.com/cs/litterbox/fr/catattract.htm http://www.ivillage.com/pets/cats/ar...599155,00.html http://www.petsmart.com/cat/shopping...ct_27921.shtml MaryL |
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"Luvskats00" wrote in message ... Latest update.... Newbie cat (named Nellie and I added Isabella as her middle name) is so skittish that she will jump 10 feet if I clear my throat! She was trusting/loving, but being forced into the bathroom makes her more afraid. I move in slo-mo and talk softly, but she's jumpy anyway. Trouble is, she has been moved to the bathroom but, once again, peed on the sheet, not in the box. Also, I applied Feliway to the sheet, btw, hoping that will discourage her from peeing on the sheet. I also bought litter and will use that - not newspapers - in the box. Hopefully, that might help. She hasn't thrown up in 30 hours...yay! Oh, definitely use litter and not newspapers. Have you been using newspapers before this? Some cats will use it, but many will not. It also is not effective at absorbing odor. I would suggest non-clumping litter. Also, some people have had success with Cat Attract, a type of litter that supposedly is formulated for litter-training. Here are some links, if you want to read about it: http://cats.about.com/cs/litterbox/fr/catattract.htm http://www.ivillage.com/pets/cats/ar...599155,00.html http://www.petsmart.com/cat/shopping...ct_27921.shtml MaryL |
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"Luvskats00" wrote in message ... Latest update.... Newbie cat (named Nellie and I added Isabella as her middle name) is so skittish that she will jump 10 feet if I clear my throat! She was trusting/loving, but being forced into the bathroom makes her more afraid. I move in slo-mo and talk softly, but she's jumpy anyway. Trouble is, she has been moved to the bathroom but, once again, peed on the sheet, not in the box. Also, I applied Feliway to the sheet, btw, hoping that will discourage her from peeing on the sheet. I also bought litter and will use that - not newspapers - in the box. Hopefully, that might help. She hasn't thrown up in 30 hours...yay! Oh, definitely use litter and not newspapers. Have you been using newspapers before this? Some cats will use it, but many will not. It also is not effective at absorbing odor. I would suggest non-clumping litter. Also, some people have had success with Cat Attract, a type of litter that supposedly is formulated for litter-training. Here are some links, if you want to read about it: http://cats.about.com/cs/litterbox/fr/catattract.htm http://www.ivillage.com/pets/cats/ar...599155,00.html http://www.petsmart.com/cat/shopping...ct_27921.shtml MaryL |
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In m,
Mary composed with style: I just want to say that I saw this coming. Megan is nothing if not predictable. She also knows cat behavior pretty well. She was right on with my feral, and this feral and the other two cats are all much less stressed due to her advice. Some people could learn a thing or two. |
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In m,
Mary composed with style: I just want to say that I saw this coming. Megan is nothing if not predictable. She also knows cat behavior pretty well. She was right on with my feral, and this feral and the other two cats are all much less stressed due to her advice. Some people could learn a thing or two. |
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In m,
Mary composed with style: I just want to say that I saw this coming. Megan is nothing if not predictable. She also knows cat behavior pretty well. She was right on with my feral, and this feral and the other two cats are all much less stressed due to her advice. Some people could learn a thing or two. |
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Alison,
I agree with you to an extent. As I have already said, you cannot force cats to like each other, especially in this situation, with a 10 year old resident alpha male. Some cats will live with a newcomer easily, others will never relate, or they may just manage to live alongside each other in an uneasy truce - you can only try. However, if there is no competition for food or safe sleeping places, then cats will accept each other eventually and some will even seem to form close bonds with one another. In my opinion, at this juncture of the resident cat's life, it's almost unkind to try to force two middle age cats to adjust to one another. Talk about stress for the cats and unneeded strain. Sometimes another cat isn't the best idea, or a solution to the problem. I understand the sympathy and the irritation that the original poster went through, when they heard the story about the female cat, which was taken from her home when the owner threatened to dump her in the street. I'd be tempted to take her too. But in this case, if the prognosis of the new cat doesn't improve, then what? The original poster said that her resident cat "claimed every part of the apartment since" and that the resident male cat "jumped on her (the new cat), a habit he had with his former companion." Do you keep the cats separated forever; one cat in the main living area, and the other in a spare bedroom, master bedroom, or a spare bathroom? Granted the resident male cat has been jumping on other cats its whole life; that action is probably never going to change. Will the two cats ever get along? Who is to say? Nevertheless, one thing is certain there will be a lot of fighting regardless of if the new female cat can be helped, and her problems corrected. One has to wonder; CAN the problems of the new cat be corrected? If the cat CAN be helped and the cats DO NOT get along, then what" Take it back to the shelter? Do you force the relationship? What if the problems with the new cat CANNOT be corrected and the new cat continues to urinate and defecate outside the litter box, continuing to ruin mattresses, soiling on carpet, blankets, aggravating the resident cat, and the original poster? Is there a line? Does the original poster say enough is enough? In my opinion, since the two cats are now forced to share a domain, a clear understanding of territory has to be established. The new cat cannot "run away and avoid a confrontation" for long. My gesture of "just let them go at it" may have been a bit over the top, but it's going to happen if the poster wants to keep the cats in the same apartment. Nonetheless, out of all my years of dealing with animals, I have never, never taken a cat to the vet because of puncture wounds, or any damages inflicted by the incisors, canines or molars of another cat. I could be wrong; maybe her cat has ardent taste for blood. They are cats; they will bat at each other with their declawed paws, and hiss and meow really loudly at one another. Once they go through the motions of "going at it", they will most likely stay away from each other until its feeding time. Nonetheless, I hope that the poster works through this predicament. I wish her or him the best of luck. |
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Alison,
I agree with you to an extent. As I have already said, you cannot force cats to like each other, especially in this situation, with a 10 year old resident alpha male. Some cats will live with a newcomer easily, others will never relate, or they may just manage to live alongside each other in an uneasy truce - you can only try. However, if there is no competition for food or safe sleeping places, then cats will accept each other eventually and some will even seem to form close bonds with one another. In my opinion, at this juncture of the resident cat's life, it's almost unkind to try to force two middle age cats to adjust to one another. Talk about stress for the cats and unneeded strain. Sometimes another cat isn't the best idea, or a solution to the problem. I understand the sympathy and the irritation that the original poster went through, when they heard the story about the female cat, which was taken from her home when the owner threatened to dump her in the street. I'd be tempted to take her too. But in this case, if the prognosis of the new cat doesn't improve, then what? The original poster said that her resident cat "claimed every part of the apartment since" and that the resident male cat "jumped on her (the new cat), a habit he had with his former companion." Do you keep the cats separated forever; one cat in the main living area, and the other in a spare bedroom, master bedroom, or a spare bathroom? Granted the resident male cat has been jumping on other cats its whole life; that action is probably never going to change. Will the two cats ever get along? Who is to say? Nevertheless, one thing is certain there will be a lot of fighting regardless of if the new female cat can be helped, and her problems corrected. One has to wonder; CAN the problems of the new cat be corrected? If the cat CAN be helped and the cats DO NOT get along, then what" Take it back to the shelter? Do you force the relationship? What if the problems with the new cat CANNOT be corrected and the new cat continues to urinate and defecate outside the litter box, continuing to ruin mattresses, soiling on carpet, blankets, aggravating the resident cat, and the original poster? Is there a line? Does the original poster say enough is enough? In my opinion, since the two cats are now forced to share a domain, a clear understanding of territory has to be established. The new cat cannot "run away and avoid a confrontation" for long. My gesture of "just let them go at it" may have been a bit over the top, but it's going to happen if the poster wants to keep the cats in the same apartment. Nonetheless, out of all my years of dealing with animals, I have never, never taken a cat to the vet because of puncture wounds, or any damages inflicted by the incisors, canines or molars of another cat. I could be wrong; maybe her cat has ardent taste for blood. They are cats; they will bat at each other with their declawed paws, and hiss and meow really loudly at one another. Once they go through the motions of "going at it", they will most likely stay away from each other until its feeding time. Nonetheless, I hope that the poster works through this predicament. I wish her or him the best of luck. |
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Alison,
I agree with you to an extent. As I have already said, you cannot force cats to like each other, especially in this situation, with a 10 year old resident alpha male. Some cats will live with a newcomer easily, others will never relate, or they may just manage to live alongside each other in an uneasy truce - you can only try. However, if there is no competition for food or safe sleeping places, then cats will accept each other eventually and some will even seem to form close bonds with one another. In my opinion, at this juncture of the resident cat's life, it's almost unkind to try to force two middle age cats to adjust to one another. Talk about stress for the cats and unneeded strain. Sometimes another cat isn't the best idea, or a solution to the problem. I understand the sympathy and the irritation that the original poster went through, when they heard the story about the female cat, which was taken from her home when the owner threatened to dump her in the street. I'd be tempted to take her too. But in this case, if the prognosis of the new cat doesn't improve, then what? The original poster said that her resident cat "claimed every part of the apartment since" and that the resident male cat "jumped on her (the new cat), a habit he had with his former companion." Do you keep the cats separated forever; one cat in the main living area, and the other in a spare bedroom, master bedroom, or a spare bathroom? Granted the resident male cat has been jumping on other cats its whole life; that action is probably never going to change. Will the two cats ever get along? Who is to say? Nevertheless, one thing is certain there will be a lot of fighting regardless of if the new female cat can be helped, and her problems corrected. One has to wonder; CAN the problems of the new cat be corrected? If the cat CAN be helped and the cats DO NOT get along, then what" Take it back to the shelter? Do you force the relationship? What if the problems with the new cat CANNOT be corrected and the new cat continues to urinate and defecate outside the litter box, continuing to ruin mattresses, soiling on carpet, blankets, aggravating the resident cat, and the original poster? Is there a line? Does the original poster say enough is enough? In my opinion, since the two cats are now forced to share a domain, a clear understanding of territory has to be established. The new cat cannot "run away and avoid a confrontation" for long. My gesture of "just let them go at it" may have been a bit over the top, but it's going to happen if the poster wants to keep the cats in the same apartment. Nonetheless, out of all my years of dealing with animals, I have never, never taken a cat to the vet because of puncture wounds, or any damages inflicted by the incisors, canines or molars of another cat. I could be wrong; maybe her cat has ardent taste for blood. They are cats; they will bat at each other with their declawed paws, and hiss and meow really loudly at one another. Once they go through the motions of "going at it", they will most likely stay away from each other until its feeding time. Nonetheless, I hope that the poster works through this predicament. I wish her or him the best of luck. |
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Cheryl,
No one is disputing Megan's' knowledge of cats. It's the way in which she disrespectfully disagrees with others opinions. There are ways that one can respectfully disagree, and offer advice on the topic. |
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