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"dirtylitterboxofferingstospammers" wrote in message ... My pet peeve, though, are the people who, dripping with self-righteousness, have to comment on the shopping cart contents of anyone who's a little fatter than skeletal. "You don't really *need* that, do you dear?" they'll say, pointing to any high-calorie item. Seriously, there ARE people who are that rude! I am not slim. I am overweight. I am fat. The other week was the cycling club annual dinner & award ceremony, which I had to be at as I'm racing secretary and had organised the trophies, engravings, medals and the production of the programme for the event (my printer had been working overtime, as had I). Whilst at the dinner, in the middle of the main course, a person told me about how, if I wanted to stay slim & healthy like him, I should not eat a meal such as the one on the plate... Since this sounds like it is something that will happen again, you need to come up with a truly scathing but ladylike sounding comeback for such insufferable boors. My own mother wouldn't dare to criticize me for the food on my plate while I was eating and I suspect it would get ugly if a stranger tried it. I'm guessing you have better manners than I do. Jo |
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On Sun, 21 Nov 2004 19:36:55 GMT, "Jeanette"
wrote: I've only commented ONCE on the contents of someone else's trolley. It had nothing in it but a litter tray, two feeding dishes, a bag of litter, and a huge pack of kitten food. I couldn't resist asking them if they'd adopted one kitten or two. Jeanette I swear sometimes I go to the grocery store only to shop for the cats. It's happened to me several times that, while looking at a cart full of cat litter and cat food, someone asks "I take it you have cats?" ;-) Always makes me laugh a little. Ginger-lyn |
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On Sun, 21 Nov 2004 19:36:55 GMT, "Jeanette"
wrote: I've only commented ONCE on the contents of someone else's trolley. It had nothing in it but a litter tray, two feeding dishes, a bag of litter, and a huge pack of kitten food. I couldn't resist asking them if they'd adopted one kitten or two. Jeanette I swear sometimes I go to the grocery store only to shop for the cats. It's happened to me several times that, while looking at a cart full of cat litter and cat food, someone asks "I take it you have cats?" ;-) Always makes me laugh a little. Ginger-lyn |
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Double BAH!!
Triple BAH! ;-) I know it's not ladylike to ask someone to step out into the hall to find out who's still standing to walk back in. It's not gentlemanly either, but I would have been sorely tempted. I've ridden centuries and trained on a banked track, but have always had weight trouble and what those people did was inexcusable. That won't take away the hurt, but maybe some supportive hugs from someone who's been there will. ((((((((((((( Helen ))))))))))) Regards and Purrs, O J Why thank you OJ. Track cycling is great fun, isn't it. No brakes... steep banking... Love it! Cheers, helen s --This is an invalid email address to avoid spam-- to get correct one remove fame & fortune **$om $ --Due to financial crisis the light at the end of the tunnel is switched off-- |
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Double BAH!!
Triple BAH! ;-) I know it's not ladylike to ask someone to step out into the hall to find out who's still standing to walk back in. It's not gentlemanly either, but I would have been sorely tempted. I've ridden centuries and trained on a banked track, but have always had weight trouble and what those people did was inexcusable. That won't take away the hurt, but maybe some supportive hugs from someone who's been there will. ((((((((((((( Helen ))))))))))) Regards and Purrs, O J Why thank you OJ. Track cycling is great fun, isn't it. No brakes... steep banking... Love it! Cheers, helen s --This is an invalid email address to avoid spam-- to get correct one remove fame & fortune **$om $ --Due to financial crisis the light at the end of the tunnel is switched off-- |
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Sherry wrote:
So they send them to nonprofit org's (that they choose,) and they're really just volunteers kind of. The ones we get at the shelter have no intention of turning a hand. I'm not sure what you mean by "they're only just volunteers" (sort of). Are they paid? They want to stand and yap all day, or play with the animals. We try to "teach" them good work eithics, but it's a lost cause. Joyce |
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Sherry wrote:
So they send them to nonprofit org's (that they choose,) and they're really just volunteers kind of. The ones we get at the shelter have no intention of turning a hand. I'm not sure what you mean by "they're only just volunteers" (sort of). Are they paid? They want to stand and yap all day, or play with the animals. We try to "teach" them good work eithics, but it's a lost cause. Joyce |
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CatNipped wrote:
How inexcusably rude! I've been saying this for years - there is one form of prejudice, intolerance and discrimination that it's still perfectly OK for people to display - prejudice against large people (I won't even say overweight because if you're fit and healthy then what you weigh may be just right for your body type and you're not overweight at all!). I don't have any problem with the word "fat" myself. It's just an innocent adjective, like "tall", "short", and "thin." There's no judgement implied, unless the speaker adds a negative attitude to it. I wouldn't use the word "fat" to describe a person I don't know well, though, because so many people feel deeply insulted or humiliated by it. So I use words like "big", "large", "heavy", or, perhaps "zaftig", a Yiddish word for chubby or full-figured. (The word literally means "juicy", which tells you something about that culture's attitudes about body size! ) The word "overweight" really sets my teeth on edge, especially when directed at me. It's *inherently* judgemental - the implication is that you've gone *over* some norm. But as you said, if one is fit and healthy, then what's the problem? The irony of it is that many people consider the word "fat" to be rude, and say "overweight" to be polite. My reactions to each word is quite the opposite. I lost 100 pounds and it did make all my medical problems go away (I was not supposed to weigh what I weighed for my body type). However, I had no idea how it would change how people treated me. Isn't that amazing? And being treated differently, in both obvious and subtle ways, day in and day out, is going to change your perception of yourself and the world. It's going to change how you feel day in and day out. Little things you'd never notice, like getting smiles from people on the bus instead of unfriendly stares or glances. When you were bigger, you might have just dismissed that sort of unfriendliness as people's bad moods or general unhappiness with life. To suddenly start being treated with more respect and warmth, in stores, on the street, etc, must change a person's outlook and mood a great deal. Then they'll say, "Ever since I lost weight, I've been so much happier!" They think it's the fat that makes them unhappy, when in fact, it's the prejudice. I take no credit in losing all that weight, my surgeon did all the work (I do exercise a lot, but I always liked to exercise, I just couldn't at my weight), but people keep congratulating me like I'd won the lottery. They tell me how good I look I know someone who has intractable seizure disorder, and several years ago she had a severe episode of uncontrolled seizures, which resulted in her being hospitalized for 3 weeks, part of the time in Intensive Care. During that time, she lost about 30 pounds. By the time she was released, she looked gaunt, frail and sickly (which she was - she could hardly walk across the room on her own). But people saw her and told her how great she looked after losing all that weight. OK, maybe part of that was just their attempt to make her feel better about the fact that she really looked TERRIBLE - at least they could focus on her weight loss. But she was really annoyed at people's harping on her weight, as though something wonderful had occurred. We used to make jokes about the All! New! Really Effective! SEIZURE DIET!! Lose 30 pounds in 3 weeks - wheeee! I'd like to see what would happen if a television show made fun of a member of an ethnic minority like they make fun of large people. I'd like to see what would happen if employers discriminated against a member of an ethnic minority like they discriminate against large people. The only reason people can't get away with being so openly racist is because people of ethnic minorities have worked for their right to be treated with respect. Bigots who want to discriminate will do it unless the victims of bigotry make it very uncomfortable for them to continue doing it. There actually is a movement for accepting people of all sizes, and treating everyone respectfully and equally, regardless of size. In some cities in the US, laws have been recently enacted forbidding discrimination on the basis of size, which means you can sue if you think you've been discriminiated against. (Note: if the job you applied for requires you to crawl into tiny spaces, and you didn't get the job because you're too fat to fit into the spaces, that is *not* legal discrimination. It's only discrimination if your characteristic doesn't affect your ability to perform the duties.) I'm proud to say that San Francisco has such a law - in fact, I helped it to pass. The state of Michigan also has an anti-size discrimination law. But it's true that in most places, people can openly deny you employment or housing, just because they don't like the way you look. Oh my, I just looked at the length of this post - this is one of my favorite rants, so I get carried away. But I do think this is a very serious issue. I agree that size discrimination and fat phobia is a serious issue. It is a life-and-death issue, too, not just because of people who starve themselves, but also because many doctors won't even treat you if you're fat, because they figure that whatever's wrong with you will go away if you lose weight. It's a real problem. Hmm... perhaps we need an ongoing thread called "Rant", for those of us who are inclined in that direction, to vent our various pet peeves. Joyce, member of the Rant Brigade |
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