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moving a cat
Our young daughter moved out of the house to her Dad's house. (long
story) We decided that it was in the best interest of her cat, who knows noplace else but our house, neighborhood and animals around to remain with us. As well as her Dad having other animals, cats and dogs, they also live fairly close to a major thouroughfair. Given all this information we decided, for the welfare of the cat, to keep it with us. Now, of all the absurd things, her Dad is threatening to sue us for custody of the cat!!! Yes, really! We would like some documentation that it in the cats best interest to remain with us. Does anyone know who should we talk to or where we should go for appropriate information? Thanks Jay |
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On Sun, 29 Feb 2004 09:02:20 -0800, Jay wrote:
Our young daughter moved out of the house to her Dad's house. (long story) We decided that it was in the best interest of her cat, who knows noplace else but our house, neighborhood and animals around to remain with us. As well as her Dad having other animals, cats and dogs, they also live fairly close to a major thouroughfair. Given all this information we decided, for the welfare of the cat, to keep it with us. Very wise, yes, though FWIW I would suspect that after a few days of adjustment your daughter's cat will get along just fine. Now, of all the absurd things, her Dad is threatening to sue us for custody of the cat!!! Yes, really! =O.o= We would like some documentation that it in the cats best interest to remain with us. Does anyone know who should we talk to or where we should go for appropriate information? DISCLAIMER: IANAL A threat to sue is arbitrary, a suit for possession of a cat will probably be directed to small claims. Please don't consider it legal advice - take it with a grain of salt. My legal advice is this: talk to an attorney or legal aid if you get served. Simply put, familiarity breeds contentment, but the cats can adjust very well. We moved from a studio to a one bed a couple of years ago, and had no problem with the move above and beyond the fact that our cats (four of them at the time - Aggie, the two orange cats, and one long haired black with a locket who preferred to be left alone) spent a couple of days readjusting. The circumstances are a bit different for you, but for whatever this is worth, when we took in Neresse back in March 2002 (thus increasing our population to five), the usual territorial disputes ensued and quickly died down. Our breeding activities are moot in this regard - all the kittens grew up in house, thereby having the family being very familiar with each other. The thoroughfare is not an issue unless kitty spends any amount of time outdoors. In the end, though, you mention it's your daughter's cat. It's my staunch opinion that it should be left entirely up to her. If she can make the decision to move, she should make the decision about the cat. I sincerely apologize if this is a disappointment, Jay, but I'm going off of my own experiences and putting up theory. -- Dennis Carr - | I may be out of my mind, http://www.dennis.furtopia.org | But I have more fun that way. ------------------------------------+------------------------------- |
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On Sun, 29 Feb 2004 09:02:20 -0800, Jay wrote:
Our young daughter moved out of the house to her Dad's house. (long story) We decided that it was in the best interest of her cat, who knows noplace else but our house, neighborhood and animals around to remain with us. As well as her Dad having other animals, cats and dogs, they also live fairly close to a major thouroughfair. Given all this information we decided, for the welfare of the cat, to keep it with us. Very wise, yes, though FWIW I would suspect that after a few days of adjustment your daughter's cat will get along just fine. Now, of all the absurd things, her Dad is threatening to sue us for custody of the cat!!! Yes, really! =O.o= We would like some documentation that it in the cats best interest to remain with us. Does anyone know who should we talk to or where we should go for appropriate information? DISCLAIMER: IANAL A threat to sue is arbitrary, a suit for possession of a cat will probably be directed to small claims. Please don't consider it legal advice - take it with a grain of salt. My legal advice is this: talk to an attorney or legal aid if you get served. Simply put, familiarity breeds contentment, but the cats can adjust very well. We moved from a studio to a one bed a couple of years ago, and had no problem with the move above and beyond the fact that our cats (four of them at the time - Aggie, the two orange cats, and one long haired black with a locket who preferred to be left alone) spent a couple of days readjusting. The circumstances are a bit different for you, but for whatever this is worth, when we took in Neresse back in March 2002 (thus increasing our population to five), the usual territorial disputes ensued and quickly died down. Our breeding activities are moot in this regard - all the kittens grew up in house, thereby having the family being very familiar with each other. The thoroughfare is not an issue unless kitty spends any amount of time outdoors. In the end, though, you mention it's your daughter's cat. It's my staunch opinion that it should be left entirely up to her. If she can make the decision to move, she should make the decision about the cat. I sincerely apologize if this is a disappointment, Jay, but I'm going off of my own experiences and putting up theory. -- Dennis Carr - | I may be out of my mind, http://www.dennis.furtopia.org | But I have more fun that way. ------------------------------------+------------------------------- |
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Our young daughter moved out of the house to her Dad's house. (long
story) We decided that it was in the best interest of her cat, who knows noplace else but our house, neighborhood and animals around to remain with us. As well as her Dad having other animals, cats and dogs, they also live fairly close to a major thouroughfair. Given all this information we decided, for the welfare of the cat, to keep it with us. Now, of all the absurd things, her Dad is threatening to sue us for custody of the cat!!! Yes, really! We would like some documentation that it in the cats best interest to remain with us. Does anyone know who should we talk to or where we should go for appropriate information? Thanks Jay Unless there is more information that you did not include, the fact that "Dad" lives near a major thoroughfare and has other pets doesn't make it an unfit home. Those are both workable situations if "Dad" is conscientious enough to *make* it work. On the other hand, is it possible that Kitty is simply being used as a pawn for adult grudges? If so, and if you truly don't think it's a fit home, hold out and *let* Dad spend his money on attorneys to reclaim the cat. He'll probably give up before anything comes of it. But, for appropriate information on how to present a case to a judge that you are the rightful owner, you'll have to hire a lawyer of your own. IMO, this sounds like a collosal waste of time and money. How old iis the daughter? Old enough to have any say in the matter? Sherry |
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Our young daughter moved out of the house to her Dad's house. (long
story) We decided that it was in the best interest of her cat, who knows noplace else but our house, neighborhood and animals around to remain with us. As well as her Dad having other animals, cats and dogs, they also live fairly close to a major thouroughfair. Given all this information we decided, for the welfare of the cat, to keep it with us. Now, of all the absurd things, her Dad is threatening to sue us for custody of the cat!!! Yes, really! We would like some documentation that it in the cats best interest to remain with us. Does anyone know who should we talk to or where we should go for appropriate information? Thanks Jay Unless there is more information that you did not include, the fact that "Dad" lives near a major thoroughfare and has other pets doesn't make it an unfit home. Those are both workable situations if "Dad" is conscientious enough to *make* it work. On the other hand, is it possible that Kitty is simply being used as a pawn for adult grudges? If so, and if you truly don't think it's a fit home, hold out and *let* Dad spend his money on attorneys to reclaim the cat. He'll probably give up before anything comes of it. But, for appropriate information on how to present a case to a judge that you are the rightful owner, you'll have to hire a lawyer of your own. IMO, this sounds like a collosal waste of time and money. How old iis the daughter? Old enough to have any say in the matter? Sherry |
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"Jay" wrote in message om... Our young daughter moved out of the house to her Dad's house. (long story) We decided that it was in the best interest of her cat, who knows noplace else but our house, neighborhood and animals around to remain with us. As well as her Dad having other animals, cats and dogs, they also live fairly close to a major thouroughfair. Given all this information we decided, for the welfare of the cat, to keep it with us. Now, of all the absurd things, her Dad is threatening to sue us for custody of the cat!!! Yes, really! We would like some documentation that it in the cats best interest to remain with us. Does anyone know who should we talk to or where we should go for appropriate information? Thanks Jay Hi Jay, I'm sorry you are all in this situation. What sort of documentation are you looking for ? Sonmething from a cat behaviour book or a web site? From the cats point of view, I think he would be better off staying where he is. Alison |
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"Jay" wrote in message om... Our young daughter moved out of the house to her Dad's house. (long story) We decided that it was in the best interest of her cat, who knows noplace else but our house, neighborhood and animals around to remain with us. As well as her Dad having other animals, cats and dogs, they also live fairly close to a major thouroughfair. Given all this information we decided, for the welfare of the cat, to keep it with us. Now, of all the absurd things, her Dad is threatening to sue us for custody of the cat!!! Yes, really! We would like some documentation that it in the cats best interest to remain with us. Does anyone know who should we talk to or where we should go for appropriate information? Thanks Jay Hi Jay, I'm sorry you are all in this situation. What sort of documentation are you looking for ? Sonmething from a cat behaviour book or a web site? From the cats point of view, I think he would be better off staying where he is. Alison |
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"Dennis Carr" wrote in message news Very wise, yes, though FWIW I would suspect that after a few days of adjustment your daughter's cat will get along just fine. But it might not . It's heck of a lot for a cat to have to go go through, losing it's territory and moving to a strange house with other cats and dogs. That's major stress and major insecurity. The OP hasn't given many details, whether the cat knows the child's father or if it is used to dogs. All these facts have to be taken into account. I just hope the OP really is fond of the cat and wants to keep it for itself and not just to use as a pawn . Alison Dennis Carr - | I may be out of my mind, http://www.dennis.furtopia.org | But I have more fun that way. ------------------------------------+------------------------------- |
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"Dennis Carr" wrote in message news Very wise, yes, though FWIW I would suspect that after a few days of adjustment your daughter's cat will get along just fine. But it might not . It's heck of a lot for a cat to have to go go through, losing it's territory and moving to a strange house with other cats and dogs. That's major stress and major insecurity. The OP hasn't given many details, whether the cat knows the child's father or if it is used to dogs. All these facts have to be taken into account. I just hope the OP really is fond of the cat and wants to keep it for itself and not just to use as a pawn . Alison Dennis Carr - | I may be out of my mind, http://www.dennis.furtopia.org | But I have more fun that way. ------------------------------------+------------------------------- |
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