Kitty doesn't take to strangers

On Feb 10, 7:14*pm, "cybercat" wrote:
wrote :

Thanks for the insight, Barb.

Mastering your newsreader is also an option. That was ME, not Barb.

Thanks for the insight, ME.

Look, I'm not unsympathetic to your plight, but your boyfriend's house or
his parents house- makes no difference. Like Cyber said, there are always
other options, you've gotta look. You are probably hoping for a wedding
ring in this mess but meanwhile you are closing the door on other possible
suitors so even a room with kitchen privileges that allows a little cat
beats this. (Just my opinion.)

Barb

On Feb 11, 9:43*am, "Barb" wrote:
Look, I'm not unsympathetic to your plight, but your boyfriend's house or
his parents house- makes no difference. *Like Cyber said, there are always
other options, you've gotta look. *You are probably hoping for a wedding
ring in this mess but meanwhile you are closing the door on other possible
suitors so even a room with kitchen privileges that allows a little cat
beats this. *(Just my opinion.)

Barb

So let me get this straight, you are saying to drop my boyfriend who
I've been with for 5 years and live in a shelter? I (that's right, me
not him) was holding out on the whole marriage thing until we had a
steady income and a place of our own by the way. Not that I see what
that has to do with anything. But to get back on the subject, what no
one seems to be getting is that moving out is not an option for
everyone. People, A. Have jobs where they can't just pick up and
leave, B. Don't have funding available to rent an apartment by
themselves or buy a house and, C. Don't have family that they can just
move in with.

It doesn't matter if a person is grown up or not, the irrational thing
would be just picking up and moving out without at least trying to
remedy a situation. I'm not trying to sound mean in my reply. I'm
trying to sound level headed. It's not that I don't appreciate the
input but everyone always jumps to the 'move out' solution whenever
there's a problem. I'll take all the precautions necessary to make
sure Shera is well taken care of and I'm sure if everyone in the
household sits down, we can all talk about how to make things work.
Everyone has to remember that not only do I love Shera with all my
heart, my boyfriend loves her too.

Thanks again.

So let me get this straight, you are saying to drop my boyfriend who
I've been with for 5 years and live in a shelter? ...

*It's not that I don't appreciate the
input but everyone always jumps to the 'move out' solution whenever
there's a problem. *I'll take all the precautions necessary to make
sure Shera is well taken care of and I'm sure if everyone in the
household sits down, we can all talk about how to make things work.
Everyone has to remember that not only do I love Shera with all my
heart, my boyfriend loves her too.

Thanks again.

Jenn,

I think your wonderful for looking to make sure you take care of kitty
first. It's nobody else's business of the why's of it. The situation
is what it is. Too many people think pets are disposal objects when
the going gets tough. I was in a similar situation as yours when I
was 17 and I had nowhere for my kitty after being left broke and
homeless. I ended up moving in with my boyfriends house with his
parents who obsolutely REFUSED to have a cat in the house or garage.
My poor baby ended up living in my boyfriends car for a week until his
Dad took pity on us and let her stay in the garage. Dave's dad ended
up liking her very much and I would even catch him petting her like a
dog! It was too funny. Anyway, kudos to you girlfriend!

Debbie

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It doesn't matter if a person is grown up or not, the irrational thing
would be just picking up and moving out without at least trying to
remedy a situation. I'm not trying to sound mean in my reply. I'm

Do be careful of the child then.

There's a time to be careful and this is it. I know from experience that
toddlers can be hurt by a cat that is scared of them and I dont mean just a
few little scratches. Give the cat hidy holes the toddler can not get to.
Lots of them. Then teach the toddler to leave the cat alone (much harder
than teaching the cat to avoid the toddler which will be natural).

Most of my experience here is comming from semi-feral to fully feral cats.
A cat that has been abandoned and mistreated by a child, seldom really
forgets this. We have to watch Daisy like a hawk when Christopher (now 6)
comes over. Daisy has to be separated from him and all other kids but
Charlotte. She is *dangerous* as in will aim for the face and eyes with
kids (totally safe with adults). We love her dearly and are not about to
ever give her up, but it is our responsibility also to make sure she never
harms a child.

She will avoid kids with no problem but if they trap her in a corner to
'play with the pretty kitty' it will not be a good scene. We have enough
experience to know this without having a tragedy to reinforce it.

This BTW, is why a lovely white medium-long hair cat with incredible emerald
eyes, was bounced from rescue home to rescue home for 18 months without a
single adoptive offer. She will not tolerate children or other cats. She's
over there sleeping on the dog just now about 6 feet from me. (she tolerates
dogs exceptionally well once she teaches them their place in the world ;-)

Everyone is mystified that she loves Charlotte (age 15, daughter) but she's
just that soft voiced unscarey level of age that Daisy took to. Charlotte
of course, was raised with cats so knows how to act. This isnt her first
semi-feral. Shocked us all silly when Daisy first saw her then came out of
her cage to sit in her lap.

Brought the dog in, and she walked right up, licked his nose, then swatted
him on the ass. Love at first sight (grin). (Yes, she had a hidy hole and
we had him on a very strong harness and then let them say hello with him
firmly held at the door and not allowed to approach. She had to walk over
to him and she did).

Basically don't give up the cat, but do protect the cat and toddler from
each other.
If you need tips on how, speak up fast!

On Feb 10, 5:50*pm, "cybercat" wrote:
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On Feb 10, 1:04 pm, "Barb" wrote:

Rethink this whole plan. Your boyfriend's sister? Once people move in on
you it is not easy to get them to move out. I feel badly for the little
cat
that you are foisting all this on in addition to what you are doing here.
If this is your place have no one move in. If it's your boyfriend's place
and he wants this whole group moving in, then you move out.

Barb
To clarify, it's not my boyfriends house or mine, it's his parents and
moving out is unfortunately not an option at this point.

It is ALWAYS an option. Grow up.

Always an option? So are you saying that the average person can just
pick up and move out on a whim? That is ridiculous. I am "grown up"
with a husband, house, and children, does that mean if I have a
problem I can just pick up and move? The nerve of some people to
comment on another person's life when they have absolutely no idea of
the true situation. This person simply asked for advice, they are
helping out family in need and also trying to help their cat adjust
and now she is a bad guy? Does it make you feel good to put people
down?

IDK maybe if this wasn't your first post we would care what you think

"Matthew" wrote in message
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IDK maybe if this wasn't your first post we would care what you think

Everyone is entitled to their opinion. There's always a way to be
independent, particularly for young able-bodied people. Anyone too fragile
to hear the opinion of a stranger has no buisness in Usenet.

On Feb 11, 8:26*pm, "Matthew"
wrote:


IDK *maybe if this wasn't your first post *we would care what you think

LOL Well I was hoping to find a helpful group of cat owners and it is
obvious that this is not that group. And I apoligize for my first
post being so opinionated, after reading other posts though I doubt
you will see me very much anyway. Go ahead make your snide comments,
because it doesn't affect me. I am actually happy with my life and do
not feel the need to judge others based on assumptions.
I do feel bad for the people who ask genuine questions and get rude
remarks and I applaud those of you who give wonderful, helpful advice.
To the original poster, I hope very much that things work out for you.

"cybercat" wrote in message
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"Matthew" wrote in message
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IDK maybe if this wasn't your first post we would care what you think

Everyone is entitled to their opinion. There's always a way to be
independent, particularly for young able-bodied people. Anyone too fragile
to hear the opinion of a stranger has no buisness in Usenet.
I know cyber I just find it funny the original post is from gmail and
someone from gmail jumps in to defend them their only post total not other
post at all a little convenient in my books.

I know why now why I don't even bother with some of the post like this