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OT--ISN'T THIS A CAT GROUP???
On Aug 15, 3:18*pm, CatNipped wrote:
On 8/15/2011 2:31 PM, Sherry wrote: On Aug 15, 1:53 pm, *wrote: On 8/15/2011 6:29 AM, ---MIKE--- wrote: I am getting discouraged with this group. *There are too many off topic posts and very few posts about our cats. * * * * * * * * * * ---MIKE--- In the White Mountains of New Hampshire * * * *(44° 15' *N - Elevation 1580') I'm sorry, I know I'm the biggest offender. *I'll try to make myself more scarce from now on so others can enjoy the group and not be forced to go to FaceBook. *No hard feelings, I know where you're coming from. -- Hugs, CatNipped I'm really sorry to hear you say that. It's not all about you. There have been posts about everything from bedtime stories to movies to books to riots to air conditioning to unclaimed property and everything else in between. And for the most part, I've enjoyed them all and participated in them. However, and remember, you have my deepest sympathy for the illness you're struggling with-- but the graphic descriptions in your last post turned me quite off. I agree that, if venting makes you feel better, you should by all means do it. However again, I come to this group for entertainment and to get my mind off *my* problems. Your "rotting in the ground" descriptive was too much for me. It just made me think of all the cats I have "rotting in the ground". My next thought -- probably since my mother's 80th birthday would have been today -- about *her* "rotting in the ground." So, no thanks. Call me selfish, but I will not read another post which is that graphic. Sherry I'm very sorry I offended you. -- Hugs, CatNipped Lori, it's not like I haven't written the same kind of stuff too -- everybody has bad days and anyone with a chronic illness doubtless has *really* bad days. Only I keep a handwritten journal. You seem to need feedback and I understand that. Have you ever thought about blogging? My DD, who has a specific health issue, started blogging in a group *with those same issues*. Sure, they were strangers at first. But she developed good friendships AND, unlike usenet, *no one* objects because occasional pity parties are "off topic". They support each other. And I"m sure they learn from each other. If there isn't a specific group for ileostomy patients, couldn't you try starting one? Or just use a regular blogging forum, and with the right keywords, I bet others would find your blog if you made it google- searchable. Even just *writing* in a blog I think would help you. And you wouldn't risk throwing ultra-personal details "out there" where they are subject to criticism, or be pushing somebody else's hot buttons as is always possible with OT posts in a usenet forum. HTH Sherry |
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OT--ISN'T THIS A CAT GROUP???
"CatNipped" wrote:
The problem with that is that you don't know how graphic it's going to be until you've already read it. Maybe we need a "graphic description warning"? That seems fair to me. What do you think, CN? It really doesn't matter any more, I was wrong to post that - knew that when I did it but didn't have the self-restraint to not hit the send key. I'm going to wean off of the newsgroup as much as I can so I won't be even tempted to do that again. It sounds like you haven't even read what the majority of us are saying to you. This frustrates me. People are always doing this kind of thing. Not just you, I see it everywhere. Drives me nuts: - It's fine, go ahead. - Oh, I couldn't. It would be so wrong of me to do that. - No, really, it's fine. I meant it. - I swear I'll never do that again. I'm so embarrassed. - It's no trouble. I wouldn't offer if it were. - I'm just going to go off into the corner and be quiet now... It's like a contest to see who can be the most accomodating. Why are people so afraid to accept each other's generosity and willingness to help? Why are we so insistent on "doing it all for ourselves"? Are people afraid that they might owe something to someone? If so, why? What's so terrible about that? So jeez, CN. People are telling you it's fine to vent your stuff here. If it's super-graphic, a warning in the subject line is probably called for, but that doesn't mean don't post it. One person complained about OT posts, so what? We're all grownups here. If a subject doesn't appeal to someone, they don't have to read it. Nobody's forcing them. Joyce -- - Your mom and I are going to divorce next month. - What??? Why! Call me please? - I wrote Disney and this phone changed it. We are going to Disney. -- damnyouautocorrect.com |
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"CatNipped" wrote in message ... On 8/15/2011 4:22 PM, Christina Websell wrote: wrote in message ... On 8/15/2011 2:57 PM, wrote: Sherry wrote: However again, I come to this group for entertainment and to get my mind off *my* problems. Your "rotting in the ground" descriptive was too much for me. It just made me think of all the cats I have "rotting in the ground". My next thought -- probably since my mother's 80th birthday would have been today -- about *her* "rotting in the ground." So, no thanks. Call me selfish, but I will not read another post which is that graphic. The problem with that is that you don't know how graphic it's going to be until you've already read it. Maybe we need a "graphic description warning"? That seems fair to me. What do you think, CN? Joyce It really doesn't matter any more, I was wrong to post that - knew that when I did it but didn't have the self-restraint to not hit the send key. I'm going to wean off of the newsgroup as much as I can so I won't be even tempted to do that again. I'll still be around whenever I have a cat story or pictures to share - I just put some on FB and am going to add them to my web site to post here. FFS, Lori. *One* person is objecting to OT posts (not necessarily yours) and does that really matter? Your situation is very difficult and you've been told by most it's quite OK to vent, but with a graphic warning if necessary. You have forgotten what I emailed you last week already. Remember what I said. Also remember "this, too, will pass.." Tweed (still with mega shoulder probs) Are you pain pills not working any more? The biggest problems with pain therapy is that the body so soon becomes accustomed to the drugs that they are no long effective. Some times I'll even get off of them a while - and put up with the awful withdrawals - just to get back their original effectiveness. I wanted an appt with my brilliant doc to get the other drug but not until 26th august. I think I can manage with the pain until then. She did improve it, though, with the meds she gave but it is not enough yet. |
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wrote in message ... "CatNipped" wrote: The problem with that is that you don't know how graphic it's going to be until you've already read it. Maybe we need a "graphic description warning"? That seems fair to me. What do you think, CN? It really doesn't matter any more, I was wrong to post that - knew that when I did it but didn't have the self-restraint to not hit the send key. I'm going to wean off of the newsgroup as much as I can so I won't be even tempted to do that again. It sounds like you haven't even read what the majority of us are saying to you. This frustrates me. People are always doing this kind of thing. Not just you, I see it everywhere. Drives me nuts: - It's fine, go ahead. - Oh, I couldn't. It would be so wrong of me to do that. - No, really, it's fine. I meant it. - I swear I'll never do that again. I'm so embarrassed. - It's no trouble. I wouldn't offer if it were. - I'm just going to go off into the corner and be quiet now... It's like a contest to see who can be the most accomodating. Why are people so afraid to accept each other's generosity and willingness to help? Why are we so insistent on "doing it all for ourselves"? Are people afraid that they might owe something to someone? If so, why? What's so terrible about that? So jeez, CN. People are telling you it's fine to vent your stuff here. If it's super-graphic, a warning in the subject line is probably called for, but that doesn't mean don't post it. One person complained about OT posts, so what? We're all grownups here. If a subject doesn't appeal to someone, they don't have to read it. Nobody's forcing them. Joyce What you said. You are so near to my beliefs in most things you could be my twin. Tweed |
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"Sherry" wrote in message
... On Aug 15, 6:29 am, (---MIKE---) wrote: I am getting discouraged with this group. There are too many off topic posts and very few posts about our cats. ---MIKE---In the White Mountains of New Hampshire (44° 15' N - Elevation 1580') I know what you're saying. But we just all need to start some more cat threads to balance things out a bit. I've read elsewhere that rpca is turning into more of a support group for cat owners than being actually about cats. Newsgroups just evolve that way. That's why I am starting to follow facebook more closely than rpca. Lots and lots of cat stories--AND photos and videos too. What about Amber and Tiger? Doesn't Amber have a birthday soon? Hope she is doing well, and Tiger too. Sherry *** I have enjoyed a lot of the cat stories posted here, but I often don't read entire threads. It's easy enough not to read what doesn't interest you. If people need a support group, I'm glad we're here to help. Joy |
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---MIKE--- typed: I am getting discouraged with this group. There are too many off topic posts and very few posts about our cats. The standard advice for people complaining about the poor quality of a newsgroup: 1) Use a killfile. Killfile the posters, subjects and headers you don't like. In this case, almost threads that are off topic are marked 'OT' and are therefore very easy to killfile. Feel free to do so (although you may miss out ot cat-related posts further into the thread) 2) Contribute on-topic material rather than starting yet another off-topic thread complaining about how many off-topic posts there are (see: irony). Not only will you be adding to the quality of the group rather than further diluting its signal to noise ratio, you may well also inspire other people to respond in kind. 3) If you can't do the above two, stop reading the group and go find something else you enjoy doing. Yowie |
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"Yowie" wrote in message
... In , ---MIKE--- typed: I am getting discouraged with this group. There are too many off topic posts and very few posts about our cats. The standard advice for people complaining about the poor quality of a newsgroup: 1) Use a killfile. Killfile the posters, subjects and headers you don't like. In this case, almost threads that are off topic are marked 'OT' and are therefore very easy to killfile. Feel free to do so (although you may miss out ot cat-related posts further into the thread) 2) Contribute on-topic material rather than starting yet another off-topic thread complaining about how many off-topic posts there are (see: irony). Not only will you be adding to the quality of the group rather than further diluting its signal to noise ratio, you may well also inspire other people to respond in kind. 3) If you can't do the above two, stop reading the group and go find something else you enjoy doing. Yowie Right on, Yowie! Joy |
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CatNipped typed: On 8/15/2011 6:29 AM, ---MIKE--- wrote: I am getting discouraged with this group. There are too many off topic posts and very few posts about our cats. ---MIKE--- In the White Mountains of New Hampshire (44° 15' N - Elevation 1580') I'm sorry, I know I'm the biggest offender. I'll try to make myself more scarce from now on so others can enjoy the group and not be forced to go to FaceBook. No hard feelings, I know where you're coming from. Anyone with half a brain could figure out that a post with 'OT' in the subject that is from 'Catnipped' is most likely to be about the progression / symptoms of your illness. Its easy enough to simply skip over those posts, or even killfile entirely. Your netiquette is exemplary, and thankyou for allowing people an easy way to make the choice as to read such posts or not. If it helps you cope, I cannot begrudge you that relief. If they were posts that looked liek they were about cats, but had graphic descriptions as a sort of 'easter egg' in the middle, *then* I'd be annoyed at you. But they aren't. In my book, you are free to carry on, with the understanding that not everyone (including myself) will read all your OT posts. Yowie |
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Christina Websell typed: wrote in message ... "CatNipped" wrote: The problem with that is that you don't know how graphic it's going to be until you've already read it. Maybe we need a "graphic description warning"? That seems fair to me. What do you think, CN? It really doesn't matter any more, I was wrong to post that - knew that when I did it but didn't have the self-restraint to not hit the send key. I'm going to wean off of the newsgroup as much as I can so I won't be even tempted to do that again. It sounds like you haven't even read what the majority of us are saying to you. This frustrates me. People are always doing this kind of thing. Not just you, I see it everywhere. Drives me nuts: - It's fine, go ahead. - Oh, I couldn't. It would be so wrong of me to do that. - No, really, it's fine. I meant it. - I swear I'll never do that again. I'm so embarrassed. - It's no trouble. I wouldn't offer if it were. - I'm just going to go off into the corner and be quiet now... It's like a contest to see who can be the most accomodating. Why are people so afraid to accept each other's generosity and willingness to help? Why are we so insistent on "doing it all for ourselves"? Are people afraid that they might owe something to someone? If so, why? What's so terrible about that? So jeez, CN. People are telling you it's fine to vent your stuff here. If it's super-graphic, a warning in the subject line is probably called for, but that doesn't mean don't post it. One person complained about OT posts, so what? We're all grownups here. If a subject doesn't appeal to someone, they don't have to read it. Nobody's forcing them. Joyce What you said. You are so near to my beliefs in most things you could be my twin. I'll 3rd that sentiment. Well done Joyce for expressing it so well! Yowie |
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