OT - I'm *REALLY* Angry Now

I had a closer look at the thing, and it's not even a new frame - it's all
scratched and the glass is FILTHY!

Hugs,

CatNipped

"CatNipped" wrote in message
...
I don't know if I wrote about this here but...

I've been webmaster for Gulf Coast Mensa for the last 10 years. I've won
20 "National Mensa" awards for the work I did on it (all done by hand,
over thousands of hours, of web Architecture (applications on the site
were database-driven). Someone on the "Board of Directors" decided they
wanted a "hipper", more "with it" site that uses all the new social
software. I tried to tell them that they were opening themselves up to a
HUGE security breach, but they wouldn't listen, they wanted on of the
little cookie cutter like sites that other group (who didn't have anybody
who "knows" web architecture like I do).

They asked for volunteers for the job of webmaster, and one little
techie-noids on the board jumped all over that. She outright STOLE an
entire site from North Texas Mensa - here, look at the two:

http://www.gcmensa.org/
http://northtexasmensa.org/ntm/index.php

She still has the NTM webmasters name still on pages of the site (like the
"MoQuotes). I had no idea this was going on.

I learned that I had been "let go" when I read about it in the paper
newsletter that goes to members. I was, understandable, angry at the way
this was done (my feelings were very hurt). I told them that this was a
really crappy way to treat someone who had dedicated so much time and
devotion to the site for ten years (every 6 months or so the Board gives
out "Service Awards" to different people who did this or that, but I never
once got one - I didn't mind or complain, I was a 'stay-at-home" member,
disliking the meetings and parties). I wrote a note in one of the group's
email distribution list and I guess quite a few people agreed with me that
this was a disgraceful way to treat me.

Then, just a few moments ago I opened up a package from the new webmaster,
MaDiana. It was a "service award" worded:

"Certificate of Eternal Gratitude
Presented to
Lori Crews
for
outstanding dedication,
service and commitment
as
Gulf Coast Mensa Web Master
by
Arturo Huerta ~ LocSec
and the Gulf Coast Mensa Board of Directors
Thursday, January 7, 2010 ~ Houston, Texas

Along with this they sent a $25 Visa Gift Card. You can look at the card
and tell it's been hanging around in someone's pocket since Christmas and
someone just said, "here toss this in too".

What do you think, should I send the whole package back, or keep it for a
while (like DH suggested) to decided the best way to react to this blatant
insult?

--
Hugs,

CatNipped
See all my masters at: http://www.PossiblePlaces.com/CatNipped/

No cluons were harmed when Jack Campin - bogus address wrote:
I was in Mensa briefly. Interesting scene if your hobby is collecting
neurotics.

Not *all* of us are neurotic - there's the 2% of us who aren't (big grin).

I'm a Life Member, and have been a member for over 30 years. Mensa has
been like family for me.

Just remember that the GCM board is not Mensa. The members are Mensa.


Hugs and Purrs,
Mark
--
Proof of Sanity Forged Upon Request

my DH was invited to join, after the first meeting he knew it wasn't for
him///... "why on earth would i go to a place on purpose to deal with people
who only have their brains to talk about, are more socially inept than i am
and twice as nurotic as some close family members i generally avoid"

i never even bothered, Lee
"Jofirey" wrote in message
...

"CatNipped" wrote in message
...
I don't know if I wrote about this here but...

I've been webmaster for Gulf Coast Mensa for the last 10 years. I've won
20 "National Mensa" awards for the work I did on it (all done by hand,
over thousands of hours, of web Architecture (applications on the site
were database-driven). Someone on the "Board of Directors" decided they
wanted a "hipper", more "with it" site that uses all the new social
software. I tried to tell them that they were opening themselves up to a
HUGE security breach, but they wouldn't listen, they wanted on of the
little cookie cutter like sites that other group (who didn't have anybody
who "knows" web architecture like I do).

They asked for volunteers for the job of webmaster, and one little
techie-noids on the board jumped all over that. She outright STOLE an
entire site from North Texas Mensa - here, look at the two:

http://www.gcmensa.org/
http://northtexasmensa.org/ntm/index.php

She still has the NTM webmasters name still on pages of the site (like
the "MoQuotes). I had no idea this was going on.

I learned that I had been "let go" when I read about it in the paper
newsletter that goes to members. I was, understandable, angry at the way
this was done (my feelings were very hurt). I told them that this was a
really crappy way to treat someone who had dedicated so much time and
devotion to the site for ten years (every 6 months or so the Board gives
out "Service Awards" to different people who did this or that, but I
never once got one - I didn't mind or complain, I was a 'stay-at-home"
member, disliking the meetings and parties). I wrote a note in one of
the group's email distribution list and I guess quite a few people agreed
with me that this was a disgraceful way to treat me.

Then, just a few moments ago I opened up a package from the new
webmaster, MaDiana. It was a "service award" worded:

"Certificate of Eternal Gratitude
Presented to
Lori Crews
for
outstanding dedication,
service and commitment
as
Gulf Coast Mensa Web Master
by
Arturo Huerta ~ LocSec
and the Gulf Coast Mensa Board of Directors
Thursday, January 7, 2010 ~ Houston, Texas

Along with this they sent a $25 Visa Gift Card. You can look at the card
and tell it's been hanging around in someone's pocket since Christmas and
someone just said, "here toss this in too".

What do you think, should I send the whole package back, or keep it for a
while (like DH suggested) to decided the best way to react to this
blatant insult?

--
Hugs,

CatNipped
See all my masters at: http://www.PossiblePlaces.com/CatNipped/


As a general rule there just is no way to reply to that kind of nonsense.
But a gift card is a gift card. (probably, bet its been used). Buy nip.

They are so not worth it. Sometimes we have to suck it up and put up with
that kind of **** from family and hope they grow up. Acquaintances, no
way.

You have confirmed my main reason for avoiding MENSA. I don't like
registering guns. Why on earth would we want to register brains. Tested
intelligence is only a fraction of what makes a person who they are and of
what they are worth.

Jo

and since this was such an insult i wish there was a way she could let the
people she is fond of know that not only was the certificate a slap a used
frame was used... and do it without wining, Lee
"Mark Edwards" wrote in message
m...
No cluons were harmed when Jack Campin - bogus address wrote:
I was in Mensa briefly. Interesting scene if your hobby is collecting
neurotics.

Not *all* of us are neurotic - there's the 2% of us who aren't (big grin).

I'm a Life Member, and have been a member for over 30 years. Mensa has
been like family for me.

Just remember that the GCM board is not Mensa. The members are Mensa.


Hugs and Purrs,
Mark
--
Proof of Sanity Forged Upon Request

No cluons were harmed when Stormmee wrote:
my DH was invited to join, after the first meeting he knew it wasn't for
him///... "why on earth would i go to a place on purpose to deal with
people who only have their brains to talk about, are more socially inept
than i am and twice as nurotic as some close family

Wow. Y'all must have just met up with the wrong folks.

My experience has been that the high IQ score is the ONLY thing members
have in common and that interests, hobbies and specialties run the same
gamut as everyone else. While I have met some neurotic members (and maybe a
psychotic member - grin), most have been no more strange or difficult than
the non-members I know.

As for 'socially inept', Mensa is a social group in which I am perfectly
'ept' (grin). If I am inept in other social circles, it is because I don't
like to play many of the so-called social games...

Anyway, I am sorry to hear that anyone has had an unsatisfying experience
with Mensa, as I've never had a problem. Maybe our expectations are just
different.


Hugs and Purrs,
Mark
--
Proof of Sanity Forged Upon Request

No cluons were harmed when Jo wrote:
Tested intelligence is only a fraction of what makes a person who
they are and of what they are worth.

Hear! Hear! I wholeheartedly agree with this! A person is worth no more
and no less after they have been certified as having a high IQ.


Hugs and Purrs,
Mark
--
Proof of Sanity Forged Upon Request

"Mark Edwards" wrote in message
m...
No cluons were harmed when Stormmee wrote:
my DH was invited to join, after the first meeting he knew it wasn't for
him///... "why on earth would i go to a place on purpose to deal with
people who only have their brains to talk about, are more socially inept
than i am and twice as nurotic as some close family

Wow. Y'all must have just met up with the wrong folks.

My experience has been that the high IQ score is the ONLY thing members
have in common and that interests, hobbies and specialties run the same
gamut as everyone else. While I have met some neurotic members (and maybe
a
psychotic member - grin), most have been no more strange or difficult than
the non-members I know.

As for 'socially inept', Mensa is a social group in which I am perfectly
'ept' (grin). If I am inept in other social circles, it is because I don't
like to play many of the so-called social games...

Anyway, I am sorry to hear that anyone has had an unsatisfying experience
with Mensa, as I've never had a problem. Maybe our expectations are just
different.


Hugs and Purrs,
Mark
--
Proof of Sanity Forged Upon Request


Mark, I think it depends on the group. When I first joined, in New Orleans,
I found the people there to be horrid egotistical boobs. Then I came to
Houston and after a while decided to go to one of the meetings. The people
where very friendly, crazy (like me), and fun! I immediately rejoined and
eventually became webmaster. Unfortunately, over the years, the group has
changed, a lot of the membership "split and quit" when a large "scandal"
(such as this one) happened. I don't want that to happen, I just want them
to leave me alone and I'll quietly go away (and not renew), AFTER I've
decided what to do about this insult - and insult was exactly what it was,
THAT couldn't have been made any clearer.

Hugs,

CatNipped

i think part of the issue for dh was the locality of this particular group.
it was in close proximinity to a university, he was in his mid 20's and had
been in real life for several years before returning to college, most of
those at the meeting were barely old enough to vote and seemed intent on
impressing him, i don't think this is all groups just the one he visited,
Lee
"Mark Edwards" wrote in message
m...
No cluons were harmed when Stormmee wrote:
my DH was invited to join, after the first meeting he knew it wasn't for
him///... "why on earth would i go to a place on purpose to deal with
people who only have their brains to talk about, are more socially inept
than i am and twice as nurotic as some close family

Wow. Y'all must have just met up with the wrong folks.

My experience has been that the high IQ score is the ONLY thing members
have in common and that interests, hobbies and specialties run the same
gamut as everyone else. While I have met some neurotic members (and maybe
a
psychotic member - grin), most have been no more strange or difficult than
the non-members I know.

As for 'socially inept', Mensa is a social group in which I am perfectly
'ept' (grin). If I am inept in other social circles, it is because I don't
like to play many of the so-called social games...

Anyway, I am sorry to hear that anyone has had an unsatisfying experience
with Mensa, as I've never had a problem. Maybe our expectations are just
different.


Hugs and Purrs,
Mark
--
Proof of Sanity Forged Upon Request

No cluons were harmed when CatNipped wrote:
I just want them to leave me alone and I'll quietly go away (and not
renew), AFTER I've decided what to do about this insult - and insult was
exactly what it was, THAT couldn't have been made any clearer.

It certainly was an insult on many levels, which ****es *me* off because
they did it to someone I consider a dear friend - you.

You could always talk to the media, to cause them some embarassment (evil
grin).


Hugs and Purrs,
Mark
--
Proof of Sanity Forged Upon Request

Mark Edwards wrote:

My experience has been that the high IQ score is the ONLY thing members
have in common and that interests, hobbies and specialties run the same
gamut as everyone else. While I have met some neurotic members (and maybe a
psychotic member - grin), most have been no more strange or difficult than
the non-members I know.

I'm sure that's true. That's true in almost any group of people. (OK,
if your sample group was "people in psychiatric hospitals" you'd get a
somewhat skewed result. )

As for 'socially inept', Mensa is a social group in which I am perfectly
'ept' (grin). If I am inept in other social circles, it is because I don't
like to play many of the so-called social games...

Don't assume that because you don't understand how some people relate to
each other that they're playing games. One person's "games" is another's
natural form of social interaction. Most of us are most "ept" when we're
with people who share not only similar interests, but similar ways of
talking to each other. In some groups, I'm very friendly and extroverted,
I have plenty to say and lots of people to say it to, and everyone I meet
is just fascinating. They "get" me, and I get them. But in others, I hang
out on the edges, hoping I can leave soon. I suspect the same is true
for most people.

Joyce

--
After a cruel childhood, one must reinvent oneself. Then reimagine
the world. -- Mary Oliver