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On Sat, 11 Jun 2005 00:10:36 GMT, Diane Schirf
wrote: In article , John Doe wrote: ... that particular position is not defensive, it is completely submissive Actually, it's not -- depending on other factors, it can be an attack position. (Trust me -- I've seen this many times.) -- Yes, and the attacking cat knows this as well. Just because the attacks don't stop doesn't mean that the victim is being submissive. The bully may think he his playing and just getting rougher in the play. Or he may just think the fight has escalated. When I got my current sheltie, she was extremely submissive. And did the dog version (on her back) submissive posture for everything. The cats, however, took it as part of the game. It never occurred to them that the dog was begging them to stop. There were some definite misunderstandings between the species. When it comes to cats, that position is agressive, either in play or fighting. But it is NOT a submissive posture. They will do it in submission, nor will they read it as submissive. -- Meghan & the Zoo Crew Equine and Pet Photography http://www.zoocrewphoto.com |
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Sorry to piggyback but this post pretty well sums up the original thought that I don't want to be bothered either to look up at the moment. Barry, she is right. You post very carelessly, and sometimes it seems like you just start typing every thought that bounces through your head at the moment you're writing. If you'd say what you mean, and mean what you say, you'd spend less time backpedaling and explaining. You said "bust the cat's ass." That is EXACTLY what you said, and it's not the first time you claim to be "misunderstood" about your violent tendencies toward behavior modification. Lyn called you on the exact same thing way back, and you made a big deal out of explaining what you meant. I don't think you'd ever intentionally hurt cat. Then say it like you mean it. THINK before you post. I knew Barry would go to the "Wah, I'm misunderstood" line. Now instead of "busting the cat's ass" he's saying he means swatting the cat with newspaper. I'm undecided as to whether he really means what he says the first time, or just has a very poor communication style. Hate to be a Public Plonker, but I did plonk Barry shortly after he got here, then thought I was being hasty and decided to unplonk. Looks like I was right the first time. -- -Kelly |
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KellyH wrote: You know damn well what I meant. Looks like someone got up with a hair across their ass. I knew Barry would go to the "Wah, I'm misunderstood" line. Now instead of "busting the cat's ass" he's saying he means swatting the cat with newspaper. I'm undecided as to whether he really means what he says the first time, or just has a very poor communication style. Hate to be a Public Plonker, but I did plonk Barry shortly after he got here, then thought I was being hasty and decided to unplonk. Looks like I was right the first time. -- -Kelly |
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On 10 Jun 2005 18:41:32 -0700, "bigbadbarry"
wrote: I got new for you, everybody that chastises a child or pet is not a character from deliverance, or ignorant either. I don't use treats and rewards. Treats are for dogs doing parlor tricks, cat's walking high wires. I am good all the time, or at least I try. This is no motivation, this is...how you train an animal. Really, no it's not how you train an animal. I am a *professional* trainer/behaviourist. I solve problems with aggressive animals all the time for my clients. My cats do ICAT, and have dog-style basic obedience. I foster the aggressive, abused, or otherwise 'difficult' dogs for Papillon Rescue. I volunteer train with Lab Rescue. I have helped train detection dogs. When rehabilitating abused or aggressive animals, you *never* use physical force. You use a combination of reward and verbal correction. When training any dog that must work on a high level (Search and Rescue, detection, police dogs, military K-9s) the dogs are *never* *ever* trained with force. They are trained with reward -- usually a special ball or tug toy and lots and lots of praise. I regularly tell my clients and students that the stupider you sound to yourself (high-pitched voice, goofy sing-song, lots of 't' and 'd' sounds) the better the dog likes it and the better he will work for you. After all, you do your work for reward -- why shouldn't your pets? Orchid See Orchid's Kitties! -- http://nik.ascendancy.net/bengalpage Want a Purebred Cat? Read This! -- http://nik.ascendancy.net/orchid |
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Orchid wrote: Yeah, well Brak still needs a swat and he will stop. You don't throw a treat up into the middle of a cat fight. I got new for you, everybody that chastises a child or pet is not a character from deliverance, or ignorant either. I don't use treats and rewards. Treats are for dogs doing parlor tricks, cat's walking high wires. I am good all the time, or at least I try. This is no motivation, this is...how you train an animal. Really, no it's not how you train an animal. I am a *professional* trainer/behaviourist. I solve problems with aggressive animals all the time for my clients. My cats do ICAT, and have dog-style basic obedience. I foster the aggressive, abused, or otherwise 'difficult' dogs for Papillon Rescue. I volunteer train with Lab Rescue. I have helped train detection dogs. When rehabilitating abused or aggressive animals, you *never* use physical force. You use a combination of reward and verbal correction. When training any dog that must work on a high level (Search and Rescue, detection, police dogs, military K-9s) the dogs are *never* *ever* trained with force. They are trained with reward -- usually a special ball or tug toy and lots and lots of praise. I regularly tell my clients and students that the stupider you sound to yourself (high-pitched voice, goofy sing-song, lots of 't' and 'd' sounds) the better the dog likes it and the better he will work for you. After all, you do your work for reward -- why shouldn't your pets? Orchid See Orchid's Kitties! -- http://nik.ascendancy.net/bengalpage Want a Purebred Cat? Read This! -- http://nik.ascendancy.net/orchid |
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"bigbadbarry" wrote in message
oups.com... Catnipped wrote: But Barry, how does causing pain create morality? I think you misunderstood my meaning. And yes, the thief will have a child who is a thief because that is what the child has been taught by emulating his father? I did not say a thief will begat a thief (he probably will, but this is not what I said), I say, a thief can abstain from spanking his child. Yet the child still be immoral. I said this as I thought you was linking your method with morality. Plenty of hoodlums I have known, have never got a spanking (and they are hoodlums for a reason I know.) Spankings or No, does not have an effect on morals. As I say, I got my share of beatings, and I am moral. I am the exception to your rule, and if the rule is broken it is not a rule it is your belief...what it is rooted in, I have not come to conclusion yet. Barry, I know plenty of people who got spanked a *lot* and still grew up bad with no morals. Just as you say I shouldn't link not spanking with morality (although I can argue for doing so), neither should you link spanking with morality. If you have a choice of two ways to correct a behavior, both equally effective (although, again, I can agrue that the reward method is *more* effective), then how is using fear and pain justified? If you can accomplish better results without using fear and pain, why on earth wouldn't you???! then won't a person who causes pain have a child who causes pain? And isn't there enough pain in this life without us adding to it? What does causing pain really teach? Avoidance of the behavior that results in that pain? I hardly think a swat is painful. It is not. It is the temporary sense of feeling disconnected that is the motivator. To take my light from you. To hide my face from you, this is the motivation. If you'll read my response to Killy you'll see that I said it's not the pain that damages, it's the fear that you instill that causes the damage - damage that's *MUCH* harder to repair than mere physical harm. Yes, but again I'm saying it's better to run *toward* something than it is to run away from something. You run towards the person who makes you feel good (especially if they can make you feel good about yourself), you run away from what or who hurts or frightens you. I think it's ok to not spank a child, so long as the child minds. You know. Even if the child doesn't mind, it's OK to not spank a child because there are other ways to change the child (or animal's) behavior. Basically it's called behaviorism. Have you ever read any of B. F. Skinner's research results? It's real and it's well documented. No, I've never heard of this author. Thanks for the reccomendation. B. F Skinner was a psychologist. Here's a quote from one of the web sites about his work... "B. F. Skinner's entire system is based on operant conditioning. The organism is in the process of "operating" on the environment, which in ordinary terms means it is bouncing around it world, doing what it does. During this "operating," the organism encounters a special kind of stimulus, called a reinforcing stimulus, or simply a reinforcer. This special stimulus has the effect of increasing the operant -- that is, the behavior occurring just before the reinforcer. This is operant conditioning: "the behavior is followed by a consequence, and the nature of the consequence modifies the organisms tendency to repeat the behavior in the future." Imagine a rat in a cage. This is a special cage (called, in fact, a "Skinner box") that has a bar or pedal on one wall that, when pressed, causes a little mechanism to release a foot pellet into the cage. The rat is bouncing around the cage, doing whatever it is rats do, when he accidentally presses the bar and -- hey, presto! -- a food pellet falls into the cage! The operant is the behavior just prior to the reinforcer, which is the food pellet, of course. In no time at all, the rat is furiously peddling away at the bar, hoarding his pile of pellets in the corner of the cage. This is fundamentally flawed becuase it assumes that all organisms are good. They are not, it does not give consideration to the foolish. LOL! generations of experts on human behavior would disagree with you that this is flawed. The methods Skinner used have become basic research tools for every student of medicine, psychology or psychiatry (or, really, any other field of study. I get the theory, but see humans would find a way to leave the cage, go get a job and buy many pellets. It's just the truth. but I get the theory. You still don't get it, Barry, a human working at a job is equivalent to a rat pushing the lever - it's doing behavior you wouldn't instinctively do just to get the reward. Doing good as a course of life has it's own set of rewards. Reaping and sowing, what I might think good for myself, someone else might consider it meager. No, for any being with nerve endings there is a basic concept of good and evil: pleasure = good, pain = evil. I never said that pain or punishment doesn't work, but I did say that it only works as a short-term (or partial) solution. I think this is subjective. No, not subjective, not relative, just fact. *************** *************** How do you know that Ruprecht doesn't continue the behavior when you're not there. Here is the logistics. When I swatted Ruprecht he felt disconnected, he didn't like that feeling, and all he has to do to get the feeling back (what feeling? LOVE) is not chew the chords no more. I didn't expect him to know it could kill him, I just wanted him to sample the feeling of losing me. Cause this is what he was fixing to do, loose me. See, right there you are telling me that, even for just an instant, you took away Ruprecht's feeling of LOVE. Why? Because the person he loved hurt him, because the person he loved and trusted frightened him. No matter what my children, grandchildren, or *CATS* do, I *never* want to take away their feeling of being loved. What happens when a person has not feeling of being loved? They become anti-social or even a sociopath. Animals become agressive and dangerous. They become the opposite of what you're trying to make them become. Now take it further, some parents will disown a child. and vica versa, this is extreme. Some angels are fallen, and they are cut off from his face. (forever) **************** **************** ?????? a mother and child was walking out of WalMart and apparently the child had done something she wasn't supposed to because the mother stopped and spanked her. I agree, the girl was probably humiliated. No, not *just* humiliated, the girl was betrayed. The person she most trusted, loved and depended upon took away that trust, love and feeling of dependability and replaced it with pain and fear. Exactly. And a hypocrite is a person who tells a child to play nice and not hit his sister and then hits the child for hitting his sister. "Hits the child" children hit. Parents spank. Ohmygawd! Are you telling me that calling a piece of **** a rse will make it suddenly smell sweet????!! If you assign terms that in people minds are commonly used in association with something, then you are skewing the philosophy. OK, this is now becoming sick. Not only do you want to inflict pain and fear, but you want to brainwash a child that inflicting pain and fear is a *GOOD* thing???! Talk about skewing philosophy - you are talking about how to create a warped serial killer now. You could say, The parent warns the child not to hit his sister. He does it anyway right in front of you. You don't just warn the child not to hit his sister, you praise and reward him for not hitting his sister and the not hitting is sister has become a *GOOD* thing that he strives to achieve because ti results in good things for him. Now, did he, throw a rock and bust her lip? or did he just barely tap her arm to show his protest to your instruction? EIther act would result in consequences that he does not want (time spen in his room, privileges taken away, etc. But not violence to him - violence to him only perpetuates the violence by instilling the idea that violence is an answer to a problem. You cannot remedy all actions with one prescription. The punishment should fit the crime. Yes, if it were a tap on the arm he might get a 5 minute time-out, if it were a rock to the head he might not get to watch TV for a week. The injury to his sister will not be healed by hurting her brother - in fact hurting her brother will likely lead to worse injuries to her in the future because you've taught her brother to inflict pain to get the results he wants from a person. I could also say, that now the one who got hit, feels protected. No, seeing her brother hurt and seeing her protector lose control and use violence would *NOT* make her feel protected. Seeing her parent react in a controlled matter and remedy the situation is what would make her feel protected. When the hypocrite spanks his child, that child associates pain and fear with the giver of that pain. The hypocrite is building a time bomb. I could go on....I could repeat your writings right here by memory. I just think there are times when a swat says it all. A swat says that you think violence is the answer to a problem. You comment assumes that a swat is violence. This is your definition. No, it is the dictionary's definition: swat n : a sharp blow v : hit swiftly with a violent blow; "Swat flies" See the word "violence" in the definition? Judgement is key. You got an inch, you got a mile, and all points in between. We can't let the sots ruin it for the parent who lovingly set thier child in the right path. But teahcing a child that violence is the solution to a problem is *NOT* setting them on the right path. Anger/Love Love should be the reason to control your anger. Respect/Fear Fear is not the same as respect. Fear/Respect You cannot have one without the other No, you couldn't be more wrong. I have *NEVER* respect someone wohm I fear. I'd fear a 6'10" child molestor - but I certainly wouldn't respect him! This is why we have capital punishment. It keeps would be murderers from killing. It makes people change thier minds about killing. No, Barry, statistics show that states that have capital punishment have just as many murders as states that don't. |
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"KellyH" wrote in message news wrote in message Sorry to piggyback but this post pretty well sums up the original thought that I don't want to be bothered either to look up at the moment. Barry, she is right. You post very carelessly, and sometimes it seems like you just start typing every thought that bounces through your head at the moment you're writing. If you'd say what you mean, and mean what you say, you'd spend less time backpedaling and explaining. You said "bust the cat's ass." That is EXACTLY what you said, and it's not the first time you claim to be "misunderstood" about your violent tendencies toward behavior modification. Lyn called you on the exact same thing way back, and you made a big deal out of explaining what you meant. I don't think you'd ever intentionally hurt cat. Then say it like you mean it. THINK before you post. I knew Barry would go to the "Wah, I'm misunderstood" line. Now instead of "busting the cat's ass" he's saying he means swatting the cat with newspaper. I'm undecided as to whether he really means what he says the first time, or just has a very poor communication style. Hate to be a Public Plonker, but I did plonk Barry shortly after he got here, then thought I was being hasty and decided to unplonk. Looks like I was right the first time. -- -Kelly Kelly, do you live alone? Or with an emasculated male? Try reading Barry's posts for their emotion and then re-read for message. Clearly he runs on both levels with his posting and he's quite philosophical which ... is lost or wasted on those not so inclined (yourself) and those who are not introspective. |
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"bigbadbarry" wrote in message oups.com... KellyH wrote: I knew Barry would go to the "Wah, I'm misunderstood" line. Now instead of "busting the cat's ass" he's saying he means swatting the cat with newspaper. I'm undecided as to whether he really means what he says the first time, or just has a very poor communication style. Hate to be a Public Plonker, but I did plonk Barry shortly after he got here, then thought I was being hasty and decided to unplonk. Looks like I was right the first time. -- -Kelly You know damn well what I meant. Looks like someone got up with a hair across their ass. That wasnt'a hair ... it was a bloody lesion. LOL |
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"Meghan Noecker" wrote in message ... On Fri, 10 Jun 2005 19:09:51 -0500, "Catnipped" wrote: I don't think that correction means malice, I think correction means just that - correcting bad behavior by exampling restraint and rewarding good behavior. Children who are not spanked are not unhappy - children who are not disciplined are unhappy, but as I've explained spanking and discipline are not only two different things, they are polar opposites. Especially with animals and very small children. The punishment (discipline) needs to be understandable to the child/animal. And very small chidlren (and animals) are not capable of planning for the future. Thus, they do behaviors without thought to future punishment. And they often cannot relate the punishment to the crime. For example. If you find a mess (overturned trash can, or bathroom accident), the dog or cat will not associate the punishment with the mess. They will associate the punishment with whatever happened at the moment you punished them. So, when I finally got mad and screamed at my dog for yet another indoor accident, she associated it with me entering the room. She cowered every time I entered the room for over a week. It didn't solve the problem, and I made my dog afraid of me. What solved the housebreaking issue? I put her on a leash. It was that simple. Three days of keeping her on a leash in the house. The main reason was so that I could not accidentally leave her alone. Since she was never alone, she never had the chance to mess in the house. Also, by putting her on the leash and making her follow me around the house, I showed her that I was in charge. Not only did I establish that I was in control (leader of the pack), I gave her the confidence that I would take care of things. She became more relaxed the very first day. She no longer had to worry about things. I was in charge. And the "rules" were now obvious. I never hit her. Even a firm "NO" was punishment enough for her. Discipline is more about consistency and making the right thing easy to do and the wrong thing hard to do. Make it easy for them to do the right thing and then reward them for it. -- Meghan & the Zoo Crew Equine and Pet Photography http://www.zoocrewphoto.com Good points, Megan! Where kids are concerned, your statement "Dicipline is more about consistency ..." was SO HARD for my wife to learn. She wanted so desparately to be The Momma that her smothering love became toxic to both kids. She would undermine me with both kids just for points. My son broke away from her at age 10 which made it all that much harder for my daughter to become independent ... which didn't happen until about age 14 when ... she became an estrogen bomb in her own right. LOL |
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"Orchid" wrote in message news On 10 Jun 2005 18:41:32 -0700, "bigbadbarry" wrote: I got new for you, everybody that chastises a child or pet is not a character from deliverance, or ignorant either. I don't use treats and rewards. Treats are for dogs doing parlor tricks, cat's walking high wires. I am good all the time, or at least I try. This is no motivation, this is...how you train an animal. Really, no it's not how you train an animal. I am a *professional* trainer/behaviourist. I solve problems with aggressive animals all the time for my clients. My cats do ICAT, and have dog-style basic obedience. I foster the aggressive, abused, or otherwise 'difficult' dogs for Papillon Rescue. I volunteer train with Lab Rescue. I have helped train detection dogs. When rehabilitating abused or aggressive animals, you *never* use physical force. You use a combination of reward and verbal correction. When training any dog that must work on a high level (Search and Rescue, detection, police dogs, military K-9s) the dogs are *never* *ever* trained with force. They are trained with reward -- usually a special ball or tug toy and lots and lots of praise. I regularly tell my clients and students that the stupider you sound to yourself (high-pitched voice, goofy sing-song, lots of 't' and 'd' sounds) the better the dog likes it and the better he will work for you. After all, you do your work for reward -- why shouldn't your pets? Orchid Orchid. Barry was talking about cats and using treats to some end ... you rambled off on rehabilitating abused DOGs. Disconnect. |
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