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"H. Barker" wrote in message ... Hi all, Okay, let me start by introducing our cat, Mina. .... I'm really not sure what's for the best. Should we just shove her out, lock the door and let her do her own thing? Should we sit with her outside and still prevent her from "escaping"? I mean, there's a million things we could be doing, but I'm damned if I know what to do for the best. It's a nightmare, it really is. I'm terrified of her going out on the road. And I don't want to keep her in all the time if she doesn't want to be in, but generally she seems fine about being in. The fact that her temperament has changed since she started going out is a cause for concern simply because she hasn't been, in my opinion, as affectionate and avoids us both more than she used to. So if anyone has any advice, suggestions or helpful words, please, feel free to send them my way. Thanks, H Our cats are mostly indoors. We let them outside into the fenced back yard when we are home. We don't have a pet door because we want control of when they are in and out. They only are allowed to go out one door, and they know to stay when we open the door until we tell them it is O.K. We keep a pretty good eye on them, but sometimes they go over the six-foot fence. Fortunately, we have understanding neighbors. Cinder will come back when we call her. She is the one who goes outside most often. Rosie is a former feral and had no interest in going out until recently. The problem we have is that she and Cinder still don't trust each other and Cinder will chase Rosie back inside if she comes out when Cinder is there. So, Rosie doesn't get as much of an opportunity to get out. I think you are trying to do what you think is best for your cat. You are learning as you go. That is how we all figure it out. You don't need to be so hard on yourself. Because you recognize that there is a dangerous situation on the other side of your fence, and Mina is jumping over, it probably would be a good idea to stay with her when she is outside. Maybe she would be O.K. with a harness and leash. I don't think that shutting her outside is a good idea. Maybe you could install some kind of motion alarm or sprinkler that would go off when she gets near the fence. After some training time, she might just stay in the yard. Or maybe you could just keep her inside, since she doesn't seem to mind and she is more affectionate when she is an indoors cat. Good luck with your efforts. You did a great thing by rescuing Mina and her kittens and then giving her a loving home. I think Mina is lucky to be in your care. Annie |
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"H. Barker" wrote in message ... Hi all, Okay, let me start by introducing our cat, Mina. .... I'm really not sure what's for the best. Should we just shove her out, lock the door and let her do her own thing? Should we sit with her outside and still prevent her from "escaping"? I mean, there's a million things we could be doing, but I'm damned if I know what to do for the best. It's a nightmare, it really is. I'm terrified of her going out on the road. And I don't want to keep her in all the time if she doesn't want to be in, but generally she seems fine about being in. The fact that her temperament has changed since she started going out is a cause for concern simply because she hasn't been, in my opinion, as affectionate and avoids us both more than she used to. So if anyone has any advice, suggestions or helpful words, please, feel free to send them my way. Thanks, H Our cats are mostly indoors. We let them outside into the fenced back yard when we are home. We don't have a pet door because we want control of when they are in and out. They only are allowed to go out one door, and they know to stay when we open the door until we tell them it is O.K. We keep a pretty good eye on them, but sometimes they go over the six-foot fence. Fortunately, we have understanding neighbors. Cinder will come back when we call her. She is the one who goes outside most often. Rosie is a former feral and had no interest in going out until recently. The problem we have is that she and Cinder still don't trust each other and Cinder will chase Rosie back inside if she comes out when Cinder is there. So, Rosie doesn't get as much of an opportunity to get out. I think you are trying to do what you think is best for your cat. You are learning as you go. That is how we all figure it out. You don't need to be so hard on yourself. Because you recognize that there is a dangerous situation on the other side of your fence, and Mina is jumping over, it probably would be a good idea to stay with her when she is outside. Maybe she would be O.K. with a harness and leash. I don't think that shutting her outside is a good idea. Maybe you could install some kind of motion alarm or sprinkler that would go off when she gets near the fence. After some training time, she might just stay in the yard. Or maybe you could just keep her inside, since she doesn't seem to mind and she is more affectionate when she is an indoors cat. Good luck with your efforts. You did a great thing by rescuing Mina and her kittens and then giving her a loving home. I think Mina is lucky to be in your care. Annie |
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My advice is to keep her inside at all times. It's not cruel,
it's the best thing for her. -- M9 "H. Barker" wrote in message ... Hi all, Okay, let me start by introducing our cat, Mina. She is, we think, about 2-3 years old. She turned up as a stray, eating the hedgehogs food, last summer. We shooed her off for a bit, but eventually caved - she was painfully thin. A couple of weeks passed, and we saw her feeding four kittens. To cut a very long story short, with the help of a superb local rescue home, Newmarket Cats, we captured mum and kittens and they took them on board to feed them up and rehome the babies. Eventually, we took mum back and have had her since about September. I want to make one thing perfectly clear here and now: we don't consider ourselves barbarians or cruel people, but we originally had ideas of maybe, just maybe, keeping her as an indoor only cat. We're on a major road, we're bird lovers, and to top it all, we have no real facilities to letting her in at night - we'd have to wait for her to turn up, etc. We also know you're supposed to keep a cat indoors for a while when you first get them so they get used to the area, right? Our intention was not to be cruel, but to be kind. Besides, she wasn't actively seeking to get out... She wasn't pacing by the door, she wouldn't paw or claw the door or windows. She seemed quite content, really. [I know there are mixed opinions about indoor cats, and I know it provokes strong emotions, so I want to avoid a flame war here and now.] Just recently we decided that she ought to be going outside a bit, I guess it was because if she bolted as a door was opened, we wanted her to trust us enough to come back and not think of it as a desparate bid for freedom. Anyway, we got a cat flap fitted, which we haven't really prepared for her use yet. This was a couple of weeks back. Since then we've been letting her out into our back garden. The back garden isn't huge, but it's okay. There's a six foot wall at the back all along it. Down the sides are similar walls and hedges. We can *sort of* blockade the sides of the house to prevent her from going out down the sides and by the road, but naturally, being a cat, she'll find a way eventually Beyond the wall at the back is a football club car park, the club slightly beyond that. At night a bunch of muppets tear up and down in their cars, so naturally I'd really rather avoid her getting over the wall. She's already been over the wall once. I'm getting slightly ahead of myself here. The other day she managed to climb up onto the back wall and walked along it, but she got really scared, you could just tell. She was miaowing and looking really terrified, pacing up and down. I went around the back via the club car park and she almost leapt into my arms. She struggled on the way home, but she was okay after a while. Then on the weekend she got onto the wall and jumped down into the car park. She disappeared for ages, the first time she'd been out of the house AND out of sight since we had her, pretty much. We let her be for about 15 minutes, just to see what she did. In the end my wife went around and she was cowering at the base of the wall miaowing. My wife picked her up and passed her over the wall to me. The rest of that evening she was very affectionate, so we reckon she scared herself a bit. So we're naturally not the greatest "parents" in the world, and there's probably a load of things we're doing wrong. We're trying, but it's very hard. It's amazing how much stress and tension it puts you under. Since she started going out she's been a different cat; it might only be half an hour a night, near enough, but she wants to go out and when she's in she seems distracted. She wasn't like that before. The problem is that when she's out there, the whole time she's either looking for a way out or she seems to not know what to do or where to go. Sometimes she just wanders up and down sniffing everything, which is fine, and sometimes she just lays under a bush. I'm really not sure what's for the best. Should we just shove her out, lock the door and let her do her own thing? Should we sit with her outside and still prevent her from "escaping"? I mean, there's a million things we could be doing, but I'm damned if I know what to do for the best. It's a nightmare, it really is. I'm terrified of her going out on the road. And I don't want to keep her in all the time if she doesn't want to be in, but generally she seems fine about being in. The fact that her temperament has changed since she started going out is a cause for concern simply because she hasn't been, in my opinion, as affectionate and avoids us both more than she used to. So if anyone has any advice, suggestions or helpful words, please, feel free to send them my way. Thanks, H |
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My advice is to keep her inside at all times. It's not cruel,
it's the best thing for her. -- M9 "H. Barker" wrote in message ... Hi all, Okay, let me start by introducing our cat, Mina. She is, we think, about 2-3 years old. She turned up as a stray, eating the hedgehogs food, last summer. We shooed her off for a bit, but eventually caved - she was painfully thin. A couple of weeks passed, and we saw her feeding four kittens. To cut a very long story short, with the help of a superb local rescue home, Newmarket Cats, we captured mum and kittens and they took them on board to feed them up and rehome the babies. Eventually, we took mum back and have had her since about September. I want to make one thing perfectly clear here and now: we don't consider ourselves barbarians or cruel people, but we originally had ideas of maybe, just maybe, keeping her as an indoor only cat. We're on a major road, we're bird lovers, and to top it all, we have no real facilities to letting her in at night - we'd have to wait for her to turn up, etc. We also know you're supposed to keep a cat indoors for a while when you first get them so they get used to the area, right? Our intention was not to be cruel, but to be kind. Besides, she wasn't actively seeking to get out... She wasn't pacing by the door, she wouldn't paw or claw the door or windows. She seemed quite content, really. [I know there are mixed opinions about indoor cats, and I know it provokes strong emotions, so I want to avoid a flame war here and now.] Just recently we decided that she ought to be going outside a bit, I guess it was because if she bolted as a door was opened, we wanted her to trust us enough to come back and not think of it as a desparate bid for freedom. Anyway, we got a cat flap fitted, which we haven't really prepared for her use yet. This was a couple of weeks back. Since then we've been letting her out into our back garden. The back garden isn't huge, but it's okay. There's a six foot wall at the back all along it. Down the sides are similar walls and hedges. We can *sort of* blockade the sides of the house to prevent her from going out down the sides and by the road, but naturally, being a cat, she'll find a way eventually Beyond the wall at the back is a football club car park, the club slightly beyond that. At night a bunch of muppets tear up and down in their cars, so naturally I'd really rather avoid her getting over the wall. She's already been over the wall once. I'm getting slightly ahead of myself here. The other day she managed to climb up onto the back wall and walked along it, but she got really scared, you could just tell. She was miaowing and looking really terrified, pacing up and down. I went around the back via the club car park and she almost leapt into my arms. She struggled on the way home, but she was okay after a while. Then on the weekend she got onto the wall and jumped down into the car park. She disappeared for ages, the first time she'd been out of the house AND out of sight since we had her, pretty much. We let her be for about 15 minutes, just to see what she did. In the end my wife went around and she was cowering at the base of the wall miaowing. My wife picked her up and passed her over the wall to me. The rest of that evening she was very affectionate, so we reckon she scared herself a bit. So we're naturally not the greatest "parents" in the world, and there's probably a load of things we're doing wrong. We're trying, but it's very hard. It's amazing how much stress and tension it puts you under. Since she started going out she's been a different cat; it might only be half an hour a night, near enough, but she wants to go out and when she's in she seems distracted. She wasn't like that before. The problem is that when she's out there, the whole time she's either looking for a way out or she seems to not know what to do or where to go. Sometimes she just wanders up and down sniffing everything, which is fine, and sometimes she just lays under a bush. I'm really not sure what's for the best. Should we just shove her out, lock the door and let her do her own thing? Should we sit with her outside and still prevent her from "escaping"? I mean, there's a million things we could be doing, but I'm damned if I know what to do for the best. It's a nightmare, it really is. I'm terrified of her going out on the road. And I don't want to keep her in all the time if she doesn't want to be in, but generally she seems fine about being in. The fact that her temperament has changed since she started going out is a cause for concern simply because she hasn't been, in my opinion, as affectionate and avoids us both more than she used to. So if anyone has any advice, suggestions or helpful words, please, feel free to send them my way. Thanks, H |
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Hi guys, Thanks EVERSO much for all your replies - you've all been very supportive and most helpful. However, as my incredibly doubting wife pointed out, the replies have all been kinda one sided, and all, apparently, from the other side of the pond. Not that I am saying they aren't valid. Believe me, I think you're all spot on. If anyone else has any thoughts, please shout. She went out again last night for about 45 mins, and since then, again, she's been kinda anti-me. It's weird, it feels almost like she's going off me, which is odd. I suppose you are all right, that it's just that she can sense my unease. At least, I hope that's what it is Thanks all, H |
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Hi guys, Thanks EVERSO much for all your replies - you've all been very supportive and most helpful. However, as my incredibly doubting wife pointed out, the replies have all been kinda one sided, and all, apparently, from the other side of the pond. Not that I am saying they aren't valid. Believe me, I think you're all spot on. If anyone else has any thoughts, please shout. She went out again last night for about 45 mins, and since then, again, she's been kinda anti-me. It's weird, it feels almost like she's going off me, which is odd. I suppose you are all right, that it's just that she can sense my unease. At least, I hope that's what it is Thanks all, H |
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Hi guys,
Thanks EVERSO much for all your replies - you've all been very supportive and most helpful. However, as my incredibly doubting wife pointed out, the replies have all been kinda one sided, and all, apparently, from the other side of the pond. Not that I am saying they aren't valid. Believe me, I think you're all spot on. If anyone else has any thoughts, please shout. She went out again last night for about 45 mins, and since then, again, she's been kinda anti-me. It's weird, it feels almost like she's going off me, which is odd. I suppose you are all right, that it's just that she can sense my unease. At least, I hope that's what it is Thanks all, H I'm still on the other side of the pond, but I've had both strictly indoor, and now indoor-outdoor cats. We used to live in the city, and the cats stayed indoors. Honestly, cats just adapt. They're happy indoors. There's nothing wrong with keeping them in, they certainly don't suffer. Open windows, sunshine, and cat trees/toys are a must, IMO, though. We since moved, and they can go out at will now. They do, when the weather's nice, but still spend much more time inside. What's really interesting is, we took in a starving stray a few months ago. She won't even stick her nose outside. She knows the outside life isn't what it's cracked up to be and wants no part of it. Sherry |
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Hi guys,
Thanks EVERSO much for all your replies - you've all been very supportive and most helpful. However, as my incredibly doubting wife pointed out, the replies have all been kinda one sided, and all, apparently, from the other side of the pond. Not that I am saying they aren't valid. Believe me, I think you're all spot on. If anyone else has any thoughts, please shout. She went out again last night for about 45 mins, and since then, again, she's been kinda anti-me. It's weird, it feels almost like she's going off me, which is odd. I suppose you are all right, that it's just that she can sense my unease. At least, I hope that's what it is Thanks all, H I'm still on the other side of the pond, but I've had both strictly indoor, and now indoor-outdoor cats. We used to live in the city, and the cats stayed indoors. Honestly, cats just adapt. They're happy indoors. There's nothing wrong with keeping them in, they certainly don't suffer. Open windows, sunshine, and cat trees/toys are a must, IMO, though. We since moved, and they can go out at will now. They do, when the weather's nice, but still spend much more time inside. What's really interesting is, we took in a starving stray a few months ago. She won't even stick her nose outside. She knows the outside life isn't what it's cracked up to be and wants no part of it. Sherry |
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"H. Barker" wrote She went out again last night for about 45 mins, and since then, again, she's been kinda anti-me. It's weird, it feels almost like she's going off me, which is odd. *Sigh* |
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