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Ping Phil - Anyone, HELP HELP HELP
Tayla is the most affectionate cat I've ever had... she throws herself all
over you and rubs her little face all over yours, giving nose kisses and purring. But... I just don't know if we'll be able to keep her. The yowling and chasing and posturing with Demi, Jessie and Sammy are expected and that's not what I'm worried about. It's her behavior with the kittens. Ben told me she was "rough" with the kittens, but I hadn't seen what he was talking about until today - I just thought she was holding them down to lick them. Ozzy was laying on the back of my couch and Tayla jumped up next to him and started licking him. Then, out of the blue, she started growling, hissing, biting and scratching him. He went totally limp, so there wasn't any physical damage - I squirted the heck out of Tayla until she jumped down. Then about half an hour later Ozzy and Archer were laying in the same spot and Tayla did the same thing, savagely (to me) attacking them for no reason. Granted there wasn't any blood that I could see, but were I a kitten this would have been *REALLY* traumatic for me to go through. Does anyone know what might be causing this? Could it be that she just had her own kittens taken away from her that eliciting this kind of behavior? Since there's no blood should I not worry about this or is this something I need to really worry about (as if I ever needed an excuse to worry)?! She has never been alone and unsupervised with any other cat, and at this point I don't know if I could go to work with her loose in the house with everybody else! I do have the option of returning her to the no-kill rescue that we adopted her from (in fact I had to sign a contract saying that if I ever wanted to part with her we *HAD* to bring her back there). But man, I would really, really hate doing this. On the other hand, I have Jessie traumatized, Sammy fighting with Jessie, and the possibility of Tayla doing some real damage to the kittens. There was a notation on her adoption papers that she went ballistic around dogs - there was nothing at all about her behavior around other cats. As sweet as she is to humans, I think she would make a perfect "only cat", but I just don't know if she'll ever be safe around other cats. On the other hand, being an adult cat during kitten season I have a feeling she would not be adopted for a long, long time. Please, can anybody help me with this? -- Hugs, CatNipped See all my masters at: http://www.PossiblePlaces.com/CatNipped/ |
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Ping Phil - Anyone, HELP HELP HELP
"CatNipped" wrote There was a notation on her adoption papers that she went ballistic around dogs - there was nothing at all about her behavior around other cats. As sweet as she is to humans, I think she would make a perfect "only cat", but I just don't know if she'll ever be safe around other cats. On the other hand, being an adult cat during kitten season I have a feeling she would not be adopted for a long, long time. Please, can anybody help me with this? Catnipped, you're smart, if it looks like real aggression towards the kittens, that together with the way she is with the adults, and the way she is with humans suggests she might be happier as an only cat. You have so many kitties now, you know how I feel about returning cats, but you have to think of everyone else in the house. I know it would be heartbreaking to let her go, but it would be heartbreaking to have her hurt or make miserable all the other cats, too. -- Posted via a free Usenet account from http://www.teranews.com |
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"cybercat" wrote in message
.. . "CatNipped" wrote There was a notation on her adoption papers that she went ballistic around dogs - there was nothing at all about her behavior around other cats. As sweet as she is to humans, I think she would make a perfect "only cat", but I just don't know if she'll ever be safe around other cats. On the other hand, being an adult cat during kitten season I have a feeling she would not be adopted for a long, long time. Please, can anybody help me with this? Catnipped, you're smart, if it looks like real aggression towards the kittens, that together with the way she is with the adults, and the way she is with humans suggests she might be happier as an only cat. You have so many kitties now, you know how I feel about returning cats, but you have to think of everyone else in the house. I know it would be heartbreaking to let her go, but it would be heartbreaking to have her hurt or make miserable all the other cats, too. I know, but ****** I hate to have to make that kind of decision! She is *SO* sweet otherwise. At least, thank gawd, we adopted her from the no-kill rescue, SunMart, that operates out of PetsMart, so at the very least I know she won't be euthanized. Also, they don't have a shelter and board their charges with fosterers, so she won't be confined to a cage either (although with her aggressiveness she may be confined to one room unless they can find a fosterer with no other animals - there are some that will only take one at a time (and if that's the case I think she could make a good argument for herself to be adopted as an only cat))! ^&%*&()*&*(& I hate this! I guess I'm hoping someone can tell me the secret potion to use to make all this behavior go away! : It's been four weeks and one day since her adoption, and I hate to keep her confined to one room for much longer, though. Hugs, CatNipped -- Posted via a free Usenet account from http://www.teranews.com |
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"CatNipped" wrote in message ... snip I know, but ****** I hate to have to make that kind of decision! She is *SO* sweet otherwise. At least, thank gawd, we adopted her from the no-kill rescue, SunMart, that operates out of PetsMart, so at the very least I know she won't be euthanized. Also, they don't have a shelter and board their charges with fosterers, so she won't be confined to a cage either (although with her aggressiveness she may be confined to one room unless they can find a fosterer with no other animals - there are some that will only take one at a time (and if that's the case I think she could make a good argument for herself to be adopted as an only cat))! ^&%*&()*&*(& I hate this! I guess I'm hoping someone can tell me the secret potion to use to make all this behavior go away! : It's been four weeks and one day since her adoption, and I hate to keep her confined to one room for much longer, though. -------- Catnipped...give it some more time...We took Tux as a foster cat (we had four other cats) from a no-kill shelter where he had been fostered in someone's home for several weeks or a month or two. We did not adopt him outright but took him in as a foster of our own on a trial basis. The woman who had been fostering him told me that he had a lot of purrsonality, "maybe too much" (to use her words) and that he could be a little wild with timid cats, but that as long as my other cats weren't shy or timid, Tux would probably be okay with them and that he was a loving lap cat who liked to be picked up and purred a lot. Right. Ho, ho...Tux was quite aggressive toward the other four cats (who are not shy). He would take his revenge on me if I moved him from one location to another and he didn't want to go; he would leap on my leg and bite my ankle. I had to use the water bottle a lot. He wasn't the least bit of a lap cat and hated to be picked up. We kept on and on with him, hoping it would get better. Things did improve, but very slowly. Finally, my husband said he couldn't take it anymore and that Tux would have to be returned. So, I phoned the woman who said she would try to locate another foster home for Tux. She said she couldn't take him back to her house because she was fostering a bunch of other cats, and the truth of the matter was that he had terrorized her other cats. She said that during the time she was fostering Tux, she had been on the verge of losing her job because she was so exhausted at work from breaking up three to four cat fights per night (involving him and other cats). To make a long story short, we all mutually agreed that Tux needed to be an "only cat," and she asked if we could hang onto him for just a little longer until she found an "only cat" foster situation for him. We said okay. Several weeks later, she phoned and said she had a placement for him. But it was too late...he had already calmed down significantly, and he was ours! The moral of the story is: It probably took about six months, but this wild and aggressive cat who needed an "only cat" situation is now a much calmer cat and living successfully in a five-cat household. My theory is that since he had been neutered just before we acquired him, his hormones took several months to quiet down. Additionally, when the no-kill shelter originally picked him up from animal control, he was skinny and full of fleas. He probably had had a very rough time of it and just needed more time to adjust. For the first few months, we did have to keep Tux separated from the other cats when we weren't home, and we also kept him separated from them during the night. You have had Tayla a very short time, and she has really had a very rough time of it. But since she is so sweet and you love her so much, if I were in your shoes, I would get some Feliway and give it more time. Remember, you always have the option of giving her back to the agency at any time, even six months from now, so there's no rush. And BTW, don't feel guilty about having to keep Tayla separated from the other cats for a while longer. If she is aggressive toward your cats, she will be just as aggressive (if not more so) toward the other cats in a foster home, and she will end up being kept separated from the other cats anyway. Good luck. Best regards, ---Cindy S . |
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"cindys" wrote in message
... "CatNipped" wrote in message ... snip I know, but ****** I hate to have to make that kind of decision! She is *SO* sweet otherwise. At least, thank gawd, we adopted her from the no-kill rescue, SunMart, that operates out of PetsMart, so at the very least I know she won't be euthanized. Also, they don't have a shelter and board their charges with fosterers, so she won't be confined to a cage either (although with her aggressiveness she may be confined to one room unless they can find a fosterer with no other animals - there are some that will only take one at a time (and if that's the case I think she could make a good argument for herself to be adopted as an only cat))! ^&%*&()*&*(& I hate this! I guess I'm hoping someone can tell me the secret potion to use to make all this behavior go away! : It's been four weeks and one day since her adoption, and I hate to keep her confined to one room for much longer, though. -------- Catnipped...give it some more time...We took Tux as a foster cat (we had four other cats) from a no-kill shelter where he had been fostered in someone's home for several weeks or a month or two. We did not adopt him outright but took him in as a foster of our own on a trial basis. The woman who had been fostering him told me that he had a lot of purrsonality, "maybe too much" (to use her words) and that he could be a little wild with timid cats, but that as long as my other cats weren't shy or timid, Tux would probably be okay with them and that he was a loving lap cat who liked to be picked up and purred a lot. Right. Ho, ho...Tux was quite aggressive toward the other four cats (who are not shy). He would take his revenge on me if I moved him from one location to another and he didn't want to go; he would leap on my leg and bite my ankle. I had to use the water bottle a lot. He wasn't the least bit of a lap cat and hated to be picked up. We kept on and on with him, hoping it would get better. Things did improve, but very slowly. Finally, my husband said he couldn't take it anymore and that Tux would have to be returned. So, I phoned the woman who said she would try to locate another foster home for Tux. She said she couldn't take him back to her house because she was fostering a bunch of other cats, and the truth of the matter was that he had terrorized her other cats. She said that during the time she was fostering Tux, she had been on the verge of losing her job because she was so exhausted at work from breaking up three to four cat fights per night (involving him and other cats). To make a long story short, we all mutually agreed that Tux needed to be an "only cat," and she asked if we could hang onto him for just a little longer until she found an "only cat" foster situation for him. We said okay. Several weeks later, she phoned and said she had a placement for him. But it was too late...he had already calmed down significantly, and he was ours! The moral of the story is: It probably took about six months, but this wild and aggressive cat who needed an "only cat" situation is now a much calmer cat and living successfully in a five-cat household. My theory is that since he had been neutered just before we acquired him, his hormones took several months to quiet down. Additionally, when the no-kill shelter originally picked him up from animal control, he was skinny and full of fleas. He probably had had a very rough time of it and just needed more time to adjust. For the first few months, we did have to keep Tux separated from the other cats when we weren't home, and we also kept him separated from them during the night. You have had Tayla a very short time, and she has really had a very rough time of it. But since she is so sweet and you love her so much, if I were in your shoes, I would get some Feliway and give it more time. Remember, you always have the option of giving her back to the agency at any time, even six months from now, so there's no rush. And BTW, don't feel guilty about having to keep Tayla separated from the other cats for a while longer. If she is aggressive toward your cats, she will be just as aggressive (if not more so) toward the other cats in a foster home, and she will end up being kept separated from the other cats anyway. Good luck. Best regards, ---Cindy S . Thanks Cindy. We're weren't planning on doing anything right away - that's just my type "A" personality coming into play, I need to have immediate solutions even if I don't plan to act on them for some time. Ben doesn't want to bring Tayla back at all, so it's not like I'm getting pressure from him to do anything. But the one thing I'm worried about is the kittens' personalities. They're about 14 weeks old now, and I don't want them to become cowering cats like Demi did. I think Demi's shyness and her "living" under a bed was because she grew up with Bandit. Bandit was always mean to Demi, even though she never physically hurt Demi. I *HATE* it that Demi is so shy that she runs from everybody and everything - she doesn't come out to play or even socialize except late at night when all is quiet and she can "sneak" 5 minutes of petting. She doesn't even come out to get treats. I would really hate it for the boys to become like that - they're so outgoing and playful now and it would break my heart for them to become timid skulkers. If it were only Demi, Jessie and Sammy involved I wouldn't worry about it at all I'd just let the dynamics play themselves out - but I don't want to ruin the lives of my two little guys. Hugs, CatNipped |
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On Sun 22 Jul 2007 07:41:46p, CatNipped wrote in
rec.pets.cats.health+behav : Thanks Cindy. We're weren't planning on doing anything right away - that's just my type "A" personality coming into play, I need to have immediate solutions even if I don't plan to act on them for some time. Ben doesn't want to bring Tayla back at all, so it's not like I'm getting pressure from him to do anything. But the one thing I'm worried about is the kittens' personalities. They're about 14 weeks old now, and I don't want them to become cowering cats like Demi did. I think Demi's shyness and her "living" under a bed was because she grew up with Bandit. Bandit was always mean to Demi, even though she never physically hurt Demi. I *HATE* it that Demi is so shy that she runs from everybody and everything - she doesn't come out to play or even socialize except late at night when all is quiet and she can "sneak" 5 minutes of petting. She doesn't even come out to get treats. I would really hate it for the boys to become like that - they're so outgoing and playful now and it would break my heart for them to become timid skulkers. If it were only Demi, Jessie and Sammy involved I wouldn't worry about it at all I'd just let the dynamics play themselves out - but I don't want to ruin the lives of my two little guys. Introducing cats is not easy. They tend to be so independent, and other than in feral colonies, they aren't social like dogs are. Even in colonies, there's a pecking order. Just keep in mind that it isn't necessarily an unhappy life for a cat to be hiding all the time. They do that in the wild. Self-preservation. It is their nature. I used to watch Bonnie when she was still feral and she was always chased away from the food by the bigger strays that I fed. That's probably why she was so skinny, but she was surviving. Also, what happens in their kittenhood doesn't always shape how they are when fully grown. Remember the good care Shamrock took of the "kittens" when they were small? Well, now he doesn't snuggle them like he used to, but Bonnie and Scarlett have bonded, and Rhett just likes to domineer everyone. Shamrock doesn't like that one bit, and he gets chased into a corner constantly, and will sit and hiss and sulk. Then take it out on Bonnie. And Rhett, as outgoing as he is with other cats can't stand people. So this isn't a guage to how outgoing he is. It is just how he is. There will always be dynamics among multiple cats. We just have to do what we can do to make sure those dynamics don't result in injury. And, sometimes it does, and sometimes its just in play. Sometimes not. When it happens, we clean up their wounds and let them move on. Try to think like a cat, not a human. ) Good luck and please don't make any quick decisions. I can see that you aren't, and that's so good! -- Cheryl |
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On 23 Jul, 00:41, "CatNipped" wrote:
"cindys" wrote in message ... "CatNipped" wrote in message ... snip I know, but ****** I hate to have to make that kind of decision! She is *SO* sweet otherwise. At least, thank gawd, we adopted her from the no-kill rescue, SunMart, that operates out of PetsMart, so at the very least I know she won't be euthanized. Also, they don't have a shelter and board their charges with fosterers, so she won't be confined to a cage either (although with her aggressiveness she may be confined to one room unless they can find a fosterer with no other animals - there are some that will only take one at a time (and if that's the case I think she could make a good argument for herself to be adopted as an only cat))! ^&%*&()*&*(& I hate this! I guess I'm hoping someone can tell me the secret potion to use to make all this behavior go away! : It's been four weeks and one day since her adoption, and I hate to keep her confined to one room for much longer, though. -------- Catnipped...give it some more time...We took Tux as a foster cat (we had four other cats) from a no-kill shelter where he had been fostered in someone's home for several weeks or a month or two. We did not adopt him outright but took him in as a foster of our own on a trial basis. The woman who had been fostering him told me that he had a lot of purrsonality, "maybe too much" (to use her words) and that he could be a little wild with timid cats, but that as long as my other cats weren't shy or timid, Tux would probably be okay with them and that he was a loving lap cat who liked to be picked up and purred a lot. Right. Ho, ho...Tux was quite aggressive toward the other four cats (who are not shy). He would take his revenge on me if I moved him from one location to another and he didn't want to go; he would leap on my leg and bite my ankle. I had to use the water bottle a lot. He wasn't the least bit of a lap cat and hated to be picked up. We kept on and on with him, hoping it would get better. Things did improve, but very slowly. Finally, my husband said he couldn't take it anymore and that Tux would have to be returned. So, I phoned the woman who said she would try to locate another foster home for Tux. She said she couldn't take him back to her house because she was fostering a bunch of other cats, and the truth of the matter was that he had terrorized her other cats. She said that during the time she was fostering Tux, she had been on the verge of losing her job because she was so exhausted at work from breaking up three to four cat fights per night (involving him and other cats). To make a long story short, we all mutually agreed that Tux needed to be an "only cat," and she asked if we could hang onto him for just a little longer until she found an "only cat" foster situation for him. We said okay. Several weeks later, she phoned and said she had a placement for him. But it was too late...he had already calmed down significantly, and he was ours! The moral of the story is: It probably took about six months, but this wild and aggressive cat who needed an "only cat" situation is now a much calmer cat and living successfully in a five-cat household. My theory is that since he had been neutered just before we acquired him, his hormones took several months to quiet down. Additionally, when the no-kill shelter originally picked him up from animal control, he was skinny and full of fleas. He probably had had a very rough time of it and just needed more time to adjust. For the first few months, we did have to keep Tux separated from the other cats when we weren't home, and we also kept him separated from them during the night. You have had Tayla a very short time, and she has really had a very rough time of it. But since she is so sweet and you love her so much, if I were in your shoes, I would get some Feliway and give it more time. Remember, you always have the option of giving her back to the agency at any time, even six months from now, so there's no rush. And BTW, don't feel guilty about having to keep Tayla separated from the other cats for a while longer. If she is aggressive toward your cats, she will be just as aggressive (if not more so) toward the other cats in a foster home, and she will end up being kept separated from the other cats anyway. Good luck. Best regards, ---Cindy S . Thanks Cindy. We're weren't planning on doing anything right away - that's just my type "A" personality coming into play, I need to have immediate solutions even if I don't plan to act on them for some time. Ben doesn't want to bring Tayla back at all, so it's not like I'm getting pressure from him to do anything. But the one thing I'm worried about is the kittens' personalities. They're about 14 weeks old now, and I don't want them to become cowering cats like Demi did. I think Demi's shyness and her "living" under a bed was because she grew up with Bandit. Bandit was always mean to Demi, even though she never physically hurt Demi. I *HATE* it that Demi is so shy that she runs from everybody and everything - she doesn't come out to play or even socialize except late at night when all is quiet and she can "sneak" 5 minutes of petting. She doesn't even come out to get treats. I would really hate it for the boys to become like that - they're so outgoing and playful now and it would break my heart for them to become timid skulkers. If it were only Demi, Jessie and Sammy involved I wouldn't worry about it at all I'd just let the dynamics play themselves out - but I don't want to ruin the lives of my two little guys. Hugs, CatNipped- Hide quoted text - - Show quoted text - have you tried using a feliway diffuser yet? |
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"Cheryl" wrote in message
... On Sun 22 Jul 2007 07:41:46p, CatNipped wrote in rec.pets.cats.health+behav : Thanks Cindy. We're weren't planning on doing anything right away - that's just my type "A" personality coming into play, I need to have immediate solutions even if I don't plan to act on them for some time. Ben doesn't want to bring Tayla back at all, so it's not like I'm getting pressure from him to do anything. But the one thing I'm worried about is the kittens' personalities. They're about 14 weeks old now, and I don't want them to become cowering cats like Demi did. I think Demi's shyness and her "living" under a bed was because she grew up with Bandit. Bandit was always mean to Demi, even though she never physically hurt Demi. I *HATE* it that Demi is so shy that she runs from everybody and everything - she doesn't come out to play or even socialize except late at night when all is quiet and she can "sneak" 5 minutes of petting. She doesn't even come out to get treats. I would really hate it for the boys to become like that - they're so outgoing and playful now and it would break my heart for them to become timid skulkers. If it were only Demi, Jessie and Sammy involved I wouldn't worry about it at all I'd just let the dynamics play themselves out - but I don't want to ruin the lives of my two little guys. Introducing cats is not easy. They tend to be so independent, and other than in feral colonies, they aren't social like dogs are. Even in colonies, there's a pecking order. Just keep in mind that it isn't necessarily an unhappy life for a cat to be hiding all the time. Maybe not, but *I* would be unhappy. It may not be fair to my other cats, but Sammy is my heart cat. She was my constant companion everywhere I went in the house. Like the Maine Coon I think she has so much of, she didn't like to lap snuggle (except to suck her toe), but she was *ALWAYS* within two feet of me every second that I was home. Now she lives under my bed. *AND I MISS HER SO MUCH I WAS CRYING LAST NIGHT AND AM AGAIN NOW*. It's breaking my heart that Tayla won't let herself be integrated into the household, but it's breaking my heart more to see Sammy living under the bed, Jessie living on top of the refrigerator and sneaking to the litterbox only when we lock Tayla up, and the kittens running and hiding whenever they see Tayla. Demi (!!!??) is the only one who will even be in the same room with Tayla. I'm going to give it a little while longer, but I'm beginning to believe that this just may not be possible - not for us and, I really think, not fair to Tayla either, I just think she needs to be an "only cat" where she can get 100% of the love and attention she craves. Hugs, CatNipped They do that in the wild. Self-preservation. It is their nature. I used to watch Bonnie when she was still feral and she was always chased away from the food by the bigger strays that I fed. That's probably why she was so skinny, but she was surviving. Also, what happens in their kittenhood doesn't always shape how they are when fully grown. Remember the good care Shamrock took of the "kittens" when they were small? Well, now he doesn't snuggle them like he used to, but Bonnie and Scarlett have bonded, and Rhett just likes to domineer everyone. Shamrock doesn't like that one bit, and he gets chased into a corner constantly, and will sit and hiss and sulk. Then take it out on Bonnie. And Rhett, as outgoing as he is with other cats can't stand people. So this isn't a guage to how outgoing he is. It is just how he is. There will always be dynamics among multiple cats. We just have to do what we can do to make sure those dynamics don't result in injury. And, sometimes it does, and sometimes its just in play. Sometimes not. When it happens, we clean up their wounds and let them move on. Try to think like a cat, not a human. ) Good luck and please don't make any quick decisions. I can see that you aren't, and that's so good! -- Cheryl |
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