[OT] Age Appropriate Dress?

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Jo Firey wrote:

Personally, I believe that a lot of "overweight" people live virtually
in
hiding because of the judgmental way there are treated by society. And
I
think its pretty sick that they have to.

Again, the definition of overweight as hardly an absolute.

As for mini skirts, anyone who wants to wear one should. As long as
they
are agile enough to keep the bare essentials covered.

At last, a sensible answer! Thank you, Jo. Since when are we obligated
to look good according to other people's standards? People seem to feel
*entitled* to have a lovely view wherever they look, and they actually
feel put out if somebody dresses in a way that they consider ugly, or
they see a bare body part that's (gasp) fat or wrinkled.

Don't like what you see? Please feel free to shift your gaze toward one
of the other 359 degrees in your panorama.

One of my favorite slogans along these lines: "I'm not here to decorate
your world." Hee hee...

Besides, I think we're all forgetting that beauty is not an absolute.
It's totally subjective. So even if you think a woman in low-slung pants
and a bitty top with a big belly is hideous, there are people out there
who think that looks hot. Really, there are. If you don't believe that -
or if you feel the need to label such a person as a nutcase or a weirdo -
try to expand your mind a bit and remember that the world is a big place,
with lots of people who have many different ideas of beauty.

Joyce - relatively modest in public, but I *do* wear shorts even though
I have fat thighs, because my comfort is more important to me than other
people's visual sensibilities. And anyway, I like my thighs.

Good!!! You should! I tend to be rather thinnish and my husband is from a
Pacific Islands country where they like their women curvaceous. He has
informed me that all his aunties will do their best to feed me up when we
visit, and he will probably get told off for starving his wife and kids (my
2 boys being rather runty like me).....beauty is in the eye of the
beholder!!!

"NMR" wrote in message
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Why can't you ground her age or not YOU ARE MOM don't you remember your
mom just like everyone else saying I brought you into this world I can
dang sure take you out of it. Or my Favorite a "Roseanna Conner" saying
I'm your mother I will control you to the day you die

When my daughters were at home, and to some extent afterward, I'd tell them
that if they didn't want to hear what I said, I was going to say it anyway
because it is my job.
However, when one of my daughters fell for and married an emotional abuser,
her dad and I had to walk on eggshells. This man was very controlling, and
if we even hinted that something might not be right, she'd defend him. We
were seriously afraid that if we pushed the issue, we would lose her as well
as any possible contact with future grandchildren. We just made sure that
she knew that if she needed us, we'd be there for her.
It wasn't until he was arrested for voyeurism that she understood the extend
of how much she'd been duped, and she finally asserted herself and dumped
him. He thought she was kidding and refused to move out. When she had the
papers served on him, he became terribly emotionally abusive.
She'd call me and talk for hours. His behavior was so petty and nasty that
we laughed about it when she finished crying. She agreed that by trying to
bully her from leaving, he was making it impossible to stay and easier to
leave. She knew she had no choice. But, still, I was frightened for her.
Now, he is a registered sex offender. She has moved to another state and
has a good job at a major university.
Anyway, Catnipped may be more limited than you know in what she can do or
say to protect her daughter and granddaughter.
Annie

Yoj wrote:

I do like to dress so that I think I look nice if I go out in public.
However, comfort comes first, with one or two exceptions, and I'm a
lot less fussy about what I wear to the market than about what I wear
to a Toastmasters meeting or to church.

My friend Elsa from Bangkok has just moved to Saudi Arabia. They live
in a Western compound, but whenever she leaves the compound, she has to
wear the abaya. She said it's actually a plus, because she can run out
to the market with ragged sweats on and nobody knows! Gotta look on the
good side of the abaya ;-)
--
Britta
"There is no snooze button on a cat who wants breakfast." -- Unknown
Check out pictures of Vino at:
http://photos.yahoo.com/badwilson click on the Vino album

Monique Y. Mudama wrote:
On 2006-02-02, penned:

Joyce - relatively modest in public, but I *do* wear shorts even
though I have fat thighs, because my comfort is more important to me
than other people's visual sensibilities. And anyway, I like my
thighs.

It was a real eye-opener for me in college when I met a girl so small
she could practically fit her whole body in one of the legs of my
shorts.

But she still had cellulite.

That's when I decided that cellulite is simply a fact of life for
those who have it.

This is very true. Cellulite is not a sign of whether someone is fat or
not. Skinny people have it too. It's a genetic condition caused by the
fact that some people have less skin "connectors". I'm not too sure how
to explain it, but I had it explained to me that there are so many
connectors per square inch of skin which attatch it to the muscle below.
Men have way more than women, that's why they don't get cellulite, and
some women have more than others.
--
Britta
"There is no snooze button on a cat who wants breakfast." -- Unknown
Check out pictures of Vino at:
http://photos.yahoo.com/badwilson click on the Vino album

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Yoj wrote:

Engineers and computer programmers can often get away with dressing in a
manner that would earn another type of office worker a reprimand.

One of the things I've always enjoyed about being a programmer and
technical writer (another techie position without a dress code).

I don't mind having to dress up for certain occasions, and in many
cases, it's a matter of respect. For example, I wouldn't show up at
a funeral in ratty shorts and a t-shirt, unless I knew that the people
attending the funeral were going to be dresses similarly.

I once attended a funeral where, at the specific request of
the deceased, everyone wore Hawaiian shirts or mumus. (Even
though his death was accidental, he had left voluminous
instructions for his own eventual funeral.)

Jane wrote:

Sorry, I should have spelled it out, not my sister-in-law, but my
son-in-law - *HER FATHER* - is the one calling her porker. He makes a huge
issue of it every time she puts something into her mouth. He's always been
this way with my daughter, too. She always wore a size *negative* one, then
she had some problems getting off of Effexor and gained about 10 pounds


Well, for what it's worth, my mother cried and said that I was 'too fat
to lead a normal life' when I was a whopping size 16 as a teenager.

I've never been LESS than a size sixteen, but I certainly
wasn't fat then (I once got down to a size fourteen,
briefly, and you could have used my rib-cage for a washboard.)

"EvelynVogtGamble(Divamanque)" wrote:

I notice (with some dismay) that one
of the "large woman" catalogs includes shiny red leather
pants suits among its offerings. They'd look great on any
young, firmly built, proportionately tall woman up to about
a size fourteen. The notion of a size forty wearing such a
getup (in shiny red, yet) boggles the mind!

What do you suggest, navy blue polyester tent dresses? Thank god the
manufacturers of plus-sized clothes have figured out they have a market,
and now make some interesting things to wear in those sizes.

This is just the most petty of attitudes. I think that everyone who
feels the need to judge what other people wear, based on their age or
size, is seriously in need of a life.

Joyce

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"EvelynVogtGamble(Divamanque)" wrote:

I notice (with some dismay) that one
of the "large woman" catalogs includes shiny red leather
pants suits among its offerings. They'd look great on any
young, firmly built, proportionately tall woman up to about
a size fourteen. The notion of a size forty wearing such a
getup (in shiny red, yet) boggles the mind!

What do you suggest, navy blue polyester tent dresses? Thank god the
manufacturers of plus-sized clothes have figured out they have a market,
and now make some interesting things to wear in those sizes.

This is just the most petty of attitudes. I think that everyone who
feels the need to judge what other people wear, based on their age or
size, is seriously in need of a life.

Joyce
and a kick in the rear

dnr wrote:

I also often wonder if my cats - if they'
were able - would LOL at some of my outfits, especially the "full
orange-and-blue"
regalia seen recently during playoff weeks.....

Yay, we're on topic!

One thing I love about animals is that they do not care what we
look like or what we're wearing, whether it's age appropriate or
size appropriate or whatever. Well, OK, one of my cats doesn't
like me in shorts because she doesn't like to sit or step on bare
legs. She'll balance herself precariously on 2 square inches of
the shorts material to avoid stepping on (ewwwww) *human skin*.

This reminds me of a wonderful ad for the Peninsula Humane Society
(in the San Francisco area), which ran on TV for several months last
year. It was a slide show of different human faces, with a voiceover
saying, "Whether you're young, old, straight, gay, fat, thin, tall,
short..." (and a bunch of other characteristics) "...you are
beautiful. Beautiful. To him." And when it said "to him" the screen
showed a photo of a dog. Then cut to the PHS logo. I loved that!

Joyce

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dnr wrote:

I also often wonder if my cats - if they'
were able - would LOL at some of my outfits, especially the "full
orange-and-blue"
regalia seen recently during playoff weeks.....

Yay, we're on topic!

One thing I love about animals is that they do not care what we
look like or what we're wearing, whether it's age appropriate or
size appropriate or whatever. Well, OK, one of my cats doesn't
like me in shorts because she doesn't like to sit or step on bare
legs. She'll balance herself precariously on 2 square inches of
the shorts material to avoid stepping on (ewwwww) *human skin*.

This reminds me of a wonderful ad for the Peninsula Humane Society
(in the San Francisco area), which ran on TV for several months last
year. It was a slide show of different human faces, with a voiceover
saying, "Whether you're young, old, straight, gay, fat, thin, tall,
short..." (and a bunch of other characteristics) "...you are
beautiful. Beautiful. To him." And when it said "to him" the screen
showed a photo of a dog. Then cut to the PHS logo. I loved that!

Joyce

Vino prefers jeans on hoomins. He recognizes them instantly and runs up
to give the jeans a good plucking, same as what he does to his sisal
post. It's so cute!
--
Britta
"There is no snooze button on a cat who wants breakfast." -- Unknown
Check out pictures of Vino at:
http://photos.yahoo.com/badwilson click on the Vino album