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Larry R Harrison Jr wrote: Thanks for the posts. Based on what I've heard, odds are pretty high the cat will be rehomed. Good to hear... for the cat's sake. My wife has suggested it, because she ALSO does not like this snotty behavior. ::rolling eyes:: And the thing is, while you guys may be good at accepting a cat on its own terms, neither of us are Then you shouldn't have them as pets. --at least with this thing. Other things we can live with "as is," but not this one. Pets don't come with behavior menus. You need to accept the package wholistically or don't waste your and their time trying to force something unnatural. It's not a matter of control, it's a matter of that the main reason we'd even have a cat to begin with is so we can occasionally pick it up & hold it--maybe just for 10-15 seconds, big deal. The *main* reason you have a cat is so that you can hold something soft and furry? Try a stuffed animal. Is that so much to ask? We don't think so, and if the cat thinks so, it has no right to be here. You and your wife are seriously f-ed up. It is about what MY preferences are, and my wife's--the cat's all but don't matter a wit. Okay, if you're not a troll or doing some kind of psych experiment on cat lovers, PLEASE do not subject any other life form to your brand of human arrogance. Animals do not exist to do your bidding. The true joy in pet ownership is the two-way relationship that evolves over time, not egocentric dominance. I'm done with you. I sincerely hope this was a joke. If not, I'll be praying that you place all your cats in alternate homes so they can experience real love and not the sick twisted power-trip you seem to equate with affection. We choose to LET a cat live with us that behaves as we want it to--no cat will be perfect of course, but certain things are total no-nos. BOTH of us dislike this snottiness, and won't tolerate it. Period. The other two cats don't exhibit this behavior, and exhibit nothing severe enough for us to be upset about it, so they are staying. We have our own expectations, and this is one of them. Other ones: we don't like cats which like us but are snotty to people who come over. One of the other two (not the twin to the snot-head) has always been friendly with company. The other of the twin? Haven't seen it yet. Then again, we don't have company over a lot, so we could probably not make a deal out of it either way, but if we had company often, that would be a sticking point. So with this "snotty" issue--okay, maybe it doesn't mean anything personal with resistence towards being picked up. I don't care. I TAKE it personally. I dislike it, my wife dislikes it, and the other two cats don't exhibit this snotty personality. The main thing that's been a reason we've resisted and still keep her at this point is because it still is very cute & cuddly, and it has a twin it plays with. We'd really rather not split up the twins. But my wife is ALSO starting to tire of the cat's snottiness and is starting to say she'd just assume see it go. For us, it's not about taking in a cat and letting it be what it is, at least with something like this. Other things: yes. Some are more playful than others, some more mellow. You don't try to make a mellow cat hyper, or a hyper cat mellow. They are what they are. But if your own reason for owning a cat in the 1st place is to have something cuddly to hold a few seconds during the day, and they won't let you do it, they have no business being there. They don't deserve you. LRH |
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[Fwd: Cat Forever Snobby]
Larry R Harrison Jr wrote:
Okay, call me a "troll." I'm not. I really feel the way I feel. Even my wife--who is a much gentler soul than me--was complaining about it. "I just want to hold you" she would say, and would then put the cat down "fine, be that way." I don't blame her. So you expect that just because you want your cat to behave like a human that it will? (you do realize that cats don't understand English, right?) How unfamiliar are you with animals? Y'know, this is the kind of thing one hears about child abusers: that they can't understand how their baby could be so unappreciative of all their hard work that it would continue to cry even though they begged it to stop. Do you see how foolish and dangerous this kind ego-centrism is? The purpose of owning pets is not to get something from them, it's to give something to them. If this doesn't jive with your needs, then please return the cats to a shelter so someone with more common sense can rescue them from your household. |
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Larry R Harrison Jr wrote:
"Karen Chuplis" wrote in message ... in article , Larry R Harrison Jr at wrote on 12/10/04 10:53 PM: Just like people cats have personalities and some cats do not like to be held. It doesn't make them snotty, it makes them cats with their own personality. In my book, it's snotty. That's it, case closed. And it's unacceptable behavior in my house. I take you in because, yes, 95% of the time I'm just going to sit back while you play and do your own thing. But every now & then, with you looking so cute & cuddly, I'm going to want to pick you up and hold you, probably for 25-30 seconds at which time I've had my fill and you can go on with yourself. Big deal. What's so criminal about that? And I'm thinking--as such, how DARE you protest something so innocent as me wanting to--egads!--hold you for 25 seconds. I can have 35 other cats in my house that are not snobby, and still I won't allow even one to be that way. It's just unacceptable. If there is some way to make it be something else, if there is some mannerisms I can undertake which increase the likelihood she will stop being SNOTTY, then I am willing to try. But I most certainly WILL NOT accept her as she is. Not a chance. She's here to be my pet, and that means her focus is pleasing me and that's the end of the discussion as far as that goes. If it's not her personality, she will be rehomed. Either that, or she may find herself caged up right here, FORCED to be in a position where she can't run and hide and disassociate herself. Either way, it won't be a power "struggle," because she will lose. She can lose the easy way, or the hard way. Or, again, if there is a certain way I can be with her that makes her un-snotty that isn't a power struggle but a way of bringing her around, I'll all for doing it that way. LRHs Seems to me you have a personality issue, not a cat issue. Are you so insecure that the non-compliance from one little critter threatens your ego? If you treat the humans in your life this way, I will guess you will be, or are, a very lonely person. |
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On 2004-12-11, BudGan penned:
They are what they are. But if your own reason for owning a cat in the 1st place is to have something cuddly to hold a few seconds during the day, and they won't let you do it, they have no business being there. They don't deserve you. Please don't breed. -- monique |
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Monique Y. Mudama wrote:
On 2004-12-11, BudGan penned: They are what they are. But if your own reason for owning a cat in the 1st place is to have something cuddly to hold a few seconds during the day, and they won't let you do it, they have no business being there. They don't deserve you. Please don't breed. Okay, what the heck is with people misquoting in this newsgroup??? I did NOT write that paragraph. Please be careful! |
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On 2004-12-13, BudGan penned:
Monique Y. Mudama wrote: On 2004-12-11, Larry R Harrison Jr penned: They are what they are. But if your own reason for owning a cat in the 1st place is to have something cuddly to hold a few seconds during the day, and they won't let you do it, they have no business being there. They don't deserve you. Please don't breed. Okay, what the heck is with people misquoting in this newsgroup??? I did NOT write that paragraph. Please be careful! Argh! Profuse apologies. The freak in question was Larry R Harrison Jr. I never got the original message on my server, and it was late and I screwed up =/ -- monique, who is sometimes allowed to pet Oscar, a grey^H^H^H^Hblue-cream DLH with an attitude! |
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"Monique Y. Mudama" wrote in message ... On 2004-12-11, BudGan penned: They are what they are. But if your own reason for owning a cat in the 1st place is to have something cuddly to hold a few seconds during the day, and they won't let you do it, they have no business being there. They don't deserve you. Please don't breed. -- Probably not much chance of that for Mr. Charm there. |
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"BudGan" wrote in message ... Monique Y. Mudama wrote: On 2004-12-11, BudGan penned: They are what they are. But if your own reason for owning a cat in the 1st place is to have something cuddly to hold a few seconds during the day, and they won't let you do it, they have no business being there. They don't deserve you. Please don't breed. Okay, what the heck is with people misquoting in this newsgroup??? I did NOT write that paragraph. Please be careful! Bud--I thought that sounded like Larry. I take my barb back and aim it at Larry. Sorry. |
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