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Monique Y. Mudama wrote:
On 2005-06-27, CatNipped penned: I have noticed that now-a-days women do have larger waists than when I was young - I wonder why that is? When I was 19 my waist was 20", but I have exceptionally small bones and I grew up training to be a professional dancer and practicing 6 - 8 hours a day (plus, hoola-hoops were first introduced when I was a kid and I spent hours doing that). 20"! Dang! I never hoola-hooped much as a kid, but I tried it at a party as an adult -- and man, does it give your abs a workout! Hrm, I should get myself a hoola hoop .. It's actually making a comeback as an exercise routine. I read something about it in Oxygen I think. You can get weighted hoola hoops, 3 lb and 5 lb I think and there's a video with all sorts of exercises you can do with it. Sounds cool if you have a large room to do it in without knocking your cat off the coffee table! -- Britta "There is no snooze button on a cat who wants breakfast." -- Unknown Check out pictures of Vino at: http://photos.yahoo.com/badwilson click on the Vino album |
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Christina Websell wrote:
"badwilson" wrote in message ... Christina Websell wrote: "Monique Y. Mudama" wrote in message ... Let me preface this by saying that I love my mother. She is a good person, she's kind-hearted, and she doesn't mean to hurt anyone. It's just that she seems to have no filter between her brain and her mouth. Just like mine (gone 2003) and I wish she was here to say these things again, I miss her so much. I might have posted this before. "Do you think it would have been better if I had had you adopted?" On my brother's wife saying she was expecting a second child: "Oh no, not another birthday to buy for.." She also had no filter between brain and mouth. What occurred to her came out immediately. After my third eye operation, 4 weeks in. "Are you going back to work yet?" "No, Mum, the surgeon says not yet." "Well, don't expect me to provide money for your groceries." I think some mothers are like this and you will never change them. I know she loved me. I miss this kind of tough love from her very much now she is gone. Tweed Oh, those comments remind me of what my mom said when I announced that Dennis and I were getting married: "So, I guess you'll be expecting some kind of big wedding present!" -- Britta LOL! Yep, you could be my sister ;-) Did you get a big wedding present, though? Yes, well they really loved Dennis and were actually quite supportive of our getting married. Quite a surprise because I was only 23. They ended up giving us $5000 as a downpayment for our condo. Of course that came with stipulations. The condo had to be in a concrete and steel highrise, south facing, my dad had to approve it before we bought it. Even though their $5000 was only a portion of our downpayment. Sigh. In this case it was easier to just go along with them and get the condo they wanted. A friend of mine, having witnessed my mother in action on more than a few occasions, was with me when I asked my mum to provide day care, in her own home while I worked full time - for my favourite whippet Minnie when Minnie was approaching the end of her life and I was uneasy about leaving her for that long. Well, my mum blew her top. The short answer was no. We came away and my friend said "do you realise your mother is like a camel?" So I said "No, what do you mean?" She said "well, I bet you've seen a camel when it is resting and its owner tells it to get up. It moans and groans and says no way, are you mad, or joking? Get stuffed! Then it gets up and does what it has been asked." LOL! That is very cute :-) This made me laugh, of course and I thought it was a very insightful comment. I said "So do you think my mother will look after Minnie for me while I work?" My friend replied "Of course she will, just wait and see." So, did she agree to do it in the end? Yes, of course. She grew so fond of my darling Minnie herself and nursed her like a baby until I finally decided enough was enough. As we waited for the vet to come, I lay on the settee with Minnie snoozing with her body on mine and her head near my face so I could talk to her. When the vet came I could not face it. I retired upstairs to a bedroom and sobbed. My mother stayed with her until she was gone. After an hour or so she came upstairs and said "it was very peaceful.." and Minnie was carried upstairs and laid on a spare bed in another bedroom by the vet (in stockinged feet in case I heard) until she was buried in my garden the next day. I found it very hard to lose my little dog, the last link with my DH who died in 95 and bought her for me. My mother rang me every day to see how I was. When I was still weeping on the second day, she said "I wish I could take on all your sorrow so you don't have to have it." That was the first and last time she ever said anything as supportive as this to me. She *did* love me. A lot, but she was not demonstrative. Most mothers do, it's just that some feel they have failed as a parent if they don't nag at you to make you perfect. Tweed Of course she loved you. And I don't doubt that my parents love me. Even if they don't show it or ever say it. But that doesn't make dealing with them any less aggravating sometimes! -- Britta "There is no snooze button on a cat who wants breakfast." -- Unknown Check out pictures of Vino at: http://photos.yahoo.com/badwilson click on the Vino album |
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Monique Y. Mudama wrote:
On 2005-06-27, Helen Wheels penned: They're not far off - an Aussie 8 is pretty close to a UK 10. But folks, don't believe the measurements they write on the labels. Even if the label says 26" waist, if you measure it you can bet it will actually be cut to fit more like 29-30". I was a clothing pattern cutter for many years before my current job, and like all new pattern cutters in their first job made my first pattern to fit the measurements printed on the label and was very promptly told that you never do that, 'cause if someone fits into your clothes and thinks their waist therefore must be 26", they'll be happier and more likely to buy. And there I was hoping the buyer would be happy because she knew she was deserving of our quality cloth and great workmanship! Go figure. Is this true for men's clothing as well? I've always preferred buying men's jeans because it seemed like their measurements were more consistent, and the numbers actually made sense. (32" waist at least is a reference point; wtf does "9" mean?) Good question - I don't really know for sure as I only did womens' and childrens' wear, but I believe that mens wear sizing does tend to be more truthful. It's interesting that the childrens' clothing rarely has measurements printed on the label, at least here in Oz. For toddlers up, all you get is a size number which is roughly meant to match the age of the "average" child the garment is meant to fit. |
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CatNipped wrote:
"Helen Wheels" wrote in message ... badwilson wrote: Christina Websell wrote: "wafflycat" waffles*A*T*v21net*D*O*T*co*D*O*T*uk wrote in message ... "Mischief" wrote in message glegroups.com... I'm five feet tall exactly and I'm supposed to be closer to 100-110 pounds.... A load of BS if you ask me My mom once said I should be a size 4. She hasn't said it since, but i've never forgiven her for saying that. Kristi Unless you are 2 ft 6 ins high, she has got it well wrong ;-) Cheers, helen s I have an idea that USA sizes are not the same as UK ones. What would be the bust/waist/hip size for a USA size 4? I think the shoe sizes are different too. Tweed Yes, they are different. The Australian sizes are different too. I noticed that an Aussie 8 is about equal to a US 2. So maybe the UK sizes are the same as the Aussie sizes. They're not far off - an Aussie 8 is pretty close to a UK 10. But folks, don't believe the measurements they write on the labels. Even if the label says 26" waist, if you measure it you can bet it will actually be cut to fit more like 29-30". I was a clothing pattern cutter for many years before my current job, and like all new pattern cutters in their first job made my first pattern to fit the measurements printed on the label and was very promptly told that you never do that, 'cause if someone fits into your clothes and thinks their waist therefore must be 26", they'll be happier and more likely to buy. And there I was hoping the buyer would be happy because she knew she was deserving of our quality cloth and great workmanship! Go figure. seriously, you might be surprised what people really measure. Even professional models, who look even skinnier in person than you'd believe from their pictures, rarely have waists smaller than 27" nowadays. I have noticed that now-a-days women do have larger waists than when I was young - I wonder why that is? When I was 19 my waist was 20", but I have exceptionally small bones and I grew up training to be a professional dancer and practicing 6 - 8 hours a day (plus, hoola-hoops were first introduced when I was a kid and I spent hours doing that). I've been hearing lately that milk (e.g. calcium) helps keep weight off especially around the waist - and when I was a kid doctors recommended drinking *LOTS* of milk, so maybe that had something to do with it also. Or maybe it is something as simple as women wore girdles and waist cinchers back then instead of hip-huggers and halter tops! ; Hugs, CatNipped Yup, I think the girdles had a lot to do with it. A bit like foot-binding really - you tie something that tight around your middle for that long, your body is eventually going to shift itself around and grow into the new shape, even to the extent of your internal organs moving out of the way. Couldn't have been too healthy, could it? Then again, we still put braces on kids' teeth... |
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IT has to be a mum thing. When my mum was admitted to hospital last May
I went to see her and when I got home my brother phoned me and asked how she was I replied "I am worried about her. She didn't tell me my hair needed a wash, criticise me or Dave in any way, nag me about anything and even said "Love you". This is not good." And it wasn't she died two weeks later and virtually the last conversation I had with her went like this: Mum "This isn't funny you know" Me: "I know it's not" Mum: "This is you in 30 years time." Me: "Thanks!" Mum: "Actually with your lifestyle...make that 20...no 15 years" She wouldn't let up with me until the end. Now the boys could do no wrong in her eyes....when I was very small she once told me that the reason she had me and my middle brother only 13 months apart was "You were such a disapointment, not being a son that I had to make it up to your father somehow" Lesley Slave of the Fabulous Furballs |
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"Nan" wrote in message
I wish ladies jeans, etc. came in inseam sizes the way men's pants do. I'm barely 5'3" and even petit jeans usually drag the floor unless I wear heels. I do too. I'm 5' 11" and have a 35 inch inseam. Virtually nothing fits - particularly in Canada, there are fewer tall sizes available. More in the US. I get tired of sales people stiffling their laughter as I come out with nice pants above my ankles. Susan M Otis and Chester |
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"CatNipped" wrote in message
... I have noticed that now-a-days women do have larger waists than when I was young - I wonder why that is? When I was 19 my waist was 20", but I have exceptionally small bones and I grew up training to be a professional dancer and practicing 6 - 8 hours a day (plus, hoola-hoops were first introduced when I was a kid and I spent hours doing that). I've been hearing lately that milk (e.g. calcium) helps keep weight off especially around the waist - and when I was a kid doctors recommended drinking *LOTS* of milk, so maybe that had something to do with it also. Or maybe it is something as simple as women wore girdles and waist cinchers back then instead of hip-huggers and halter tops! ; I also think, not about weight around the waist but general waist size, that height has a lot to do with waist size and the re-naming of sizes. Because I'm so tall, 5' 11", it is an impossibility for me to have a waist size of 24 inches, no matter how slim I am. I'm just "bigger". I believe that its reasonable to resize sizes to compensate for the increase in height amongst the population in general. My mom is 5' 4" and, if we were both in the same physical shape, she'd wear a smaller size just due to her height. I'm not a huge person but, because of my height and my broad shoulders, often wear an XL in a shirt. My mom, 7 inches shorter and relatively much more "round" than I am, wears a M. It's really amazing that anybody can find anything off the rack, if you think of it - we're all so vastly different! Susan M Otis and Chester |
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"Susan M" smawdsley remove @shaw.ca wrote in message
news:CWdwe.1819369$Xk.1773671@pd7tw3no... "CatNipped" wrote in message ... I have noticed that now-a-days women do have larger waists than when I was young - I wonder why that is? When I was 19 my waist was 20", but I have exceptionally small bones and I grew up training to be a professional dancer and practicing 6 - 8 hours a day (plus, hoola-hoops were first introduced when I was a kid and I spent hours doing that). I've been hearing lately that milk (e.g. calcium) helps keep weight off especially around the waist - and when I was a kid doctors recommended drinking *LOTS* of milk, so maybe that had something to do with it also. Or maybe it is something as simple as women wore girdles and waist cinchers back then instead of hip-huggers and halter tops! ; I also think, not about weight around the waist but general waist size, that height has a lot to do with waist size and the re-naming of sizes. Because I'm so tall, 5' 11", it is an impossibility for me to have a waist size of 24 inches, no matter how slim I am. I'm just "bigger". I believe that its reasonable to resize sizes to compensate for the increase in height amongst the population in general. My mom is 5' 4" and, if we were both in the same physical shape, she'd wear a smaller size just due to her height. I'm not a huge person but, because of my height and my broad shoulders, often wear an XL in a shirt. My mom, 7 inches shorter and relatively much more "round" than I am, wears a M. It's really amazing that anybody can find anything off the rack, if you think of it - we're all so vastly different! Susan M Otis and Chester Yes, that's true. Due to better pre-natal and early-life nutrition and care now-a-days, children are just getting bigger than ever in history. But everyone has different body shapes. I'm only 5'5", but I have very long arms and legs and a short torso. I have a problem getting pant legs and sleeves that are long enough. I also have *very* small bones (DH says I have itty-bitty-birdie-bones) - I wear a size 4 on my ring finger and my wrist is only 5.5" in circumference. That's why I need a smaller size - but the smaller sizes tend come only in "petite" - it's almost impossible to find a size 4 regular or tall (and when I find pants that actually fit below the ankle, the waist is usually under my boobs, and when a blouse or jacket sleeve comes down below my wrists, it swallows me in the torso!!). You're right, it's rare that off-the-rack every fits exactly right. Hugs, CatNipped |
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Lesley wrote: IT has to be a mum thing. When my mum was admitted to hospital last May I went to see her and when I got home my brother phoned me and asked how she was I replied "I am worried about her. She didn't tell me my hair needed a wash, criticise me or Dave in any way, nag me about anything and even said "Love you". This is not good." And it wasn't she died two weeks later and virtually the last conversation I had with her went like this: Mum "This isn't funny you know" Me: "I know it's not" Mum: "This is you in 30 years time." Me: "Thanks!" Mum: "Actually with your lifestyle...make that 20...no 15 years" She wouldn't let up with me until the end. Now the boys could do no wrong in her eyes....when I was very small she once told me that the reason she had me and my middle brother only 13 months apart was "You were such a disapointment, not being a son that I had to make it up to your father somehow" Lesley Slave of the Fabulous Furballs Reading this thread has been the best therapy! My mother is the same -- critical about my appearance (weight and hairstyle). I gave up trying to please her as it will never happen and the comments she darts out just make me feel so badly that it takes days to recover from a visit. When she was my age, she too was heavier, but lost the weight. She says, "I did it, you can too." My body is different than hers. She also has many comments on my hair. She thinks it should be a tight curly perm like women in the 50s used to have. Some have told me to just brush it off, ignore her or laugh about it. That doesn't work for me. I have spent a lifetime in the worst relationship with my mother over this stupid crap. She just can't get past it. |
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When my mom's dad was dying, the hospital called her every day to say
he was on the way out and she might want to come to see him. She waited six days until they told her he was dead. Then she went home to join the family. I don't have any pity for Grandpa. He was an abusive son-of-a-b!tch, and if Grandma could have afforded it and wasn't so devoted to her marriage vow, she would have...should have...left him. She decided that marriage vow meant more to her than her life, and it /did/ bring her much physical injury over the years. What my mom fails to see, however, is how quickly she took up Grandpa's role. My mom wasn't physically abusive, but she was neglectful by times...the kind of neglect that results in teachers taking you to the hospital for life-saving surgery because your family won't. I have a hard time forgiving that. --Fil |
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