Hurt and shocked

I hadn't realised that my posts for support through my (perhaps) terminal
illness had been seen as whimpering by some.
Any others feel like that? I would like to know.
If so, maybe this is not such a safe place to share worries, as well as cat
anecdotes, as I thought.

Tweed
Sad

Christina Websell wrote:
I hadn't realised that my posts for support through my (perhaps) terminal
illness had been seen as whimpering by some.
Any others feel like that? I would like to know.
If so, maybe this is not such a safe place to share worries, as well as cat
anecdotes, as I thought.

Tweed
Sad

Who has suggested it was whimpering? I'm shocked - I sure never saw it
as such. Jeez, you were looking at major surgery that could have had
seriously negative outcome. Your posts never seemed like whimpering,
never seemed inappropriate. We're a large family here, and this is where
us cat-loving people come to discuss our cats and our non-cat related
concerns. Things that concern any one of us are appropriate for
discussion here, as are issues where any one of us needs support. I sure
hope that nobody has suggested otherwise.

Please, continue to come here with any concerns where you feel a need
for support. That's what we're here for, isn't it? That, and discussing
how to better serve our feline masters

Dan

Christina Websell wrote:
I hadn't realised that my posts for support through my (perhaps)
terminal illness had been seen as whimpering by some.
Any others feel like that? I would like to know.
If so, maybe this is not such a safe place to share worries, as well
as cat anecdotes, as I thought.

Tweed
Sad

{{{{{{Christina}}}}}} Of course it's not whimpering! My god! Who would
say such a thing to you over a thing so precious as LIFE?

Jill

"Christina Websell" wrote in message
...
I hadn't realised that my posts for support through my (perhaps) terminal
illness had been seen as whimpering by some.
Any others feel like that? I would like to know.
If so, maybe this is not such a safe place to share worries, as well as
cat anecdotes, as I thought.

Tweed
Sad

Certainally not!! You were scared to pieces and I would have been too -
everything I read (may have missed some?) showed great concern for you
and I saw an outpouring of support as well as helpful suggestions for your
furred and feathered babies...........Lorna

"Christina Websell" wrote in message
...
I hadn't realised that my posts for support through my (perhaps) terminal
illness had been seen as whimpering by some.
Any others feel like that? I would like to know.
If so, maybe this is not such a safe place to share worries, as well as
cat
anecdotes, as I thought.

Tweed
Sad

No, of course not Christina. I know the post you're talking about, and I
know why it was posted, but look at it like this... we're like a big family
here (in fact I think I'm closer to most of you than I am to a lot of my
blood relatives), and family members sometimes have spats and say things in
the heat of the moment they later regret.

Personally I think what happened is, you misunderstood Jill's situation (she
lives far away from her long lost love, met him in *her* city for the art
show, and had *no* way to go and search for his dog - also, well see
below*), and it seemed like you were chiding her for something that she
couldn't control. Anyway I think that post was just in defense of Jill more
than an attack on you.

I know there have been lots of times I needed a crowbar to get my foot out
of my mouth, I don't know of anybody alive who hasn't said something they've
later regretted.

Please, don't let one post upset you or get you worried about how the group
feels about you. This is the one safe haven we all have where we can come
with our troubles, about cats or anything else, and not worry about what we
post or how we sound - we can be assured of love an acceptance. So don't
worry, we don't think you were whining - I, for one, would have been
screaming in panic had I been in your position!

* Years ago I was married to an abusive alcoholic. People invariably would
come to *ME* to complain about his behavior like *I* could control what he
said or did. It was extremely frustrating to be held accountable for
someone else's actions. I know this isn't at all the same, but still Jill
can't be held responsible for something her LLL does or does not do.
Ultimately every person is responsible for what they say and do and it
doesn't help to chide someone else about it.

Hugs,

CatNipped

Who would say that??? =o(

No, Tweed. I don't feel you were whimpering, nor did I feel it was in
any way inappropriate. I thought you had every right to ask for
courage and support when facing the scary possibility of a serious bout
of cancer. Believe me, in your shoes I'd have done exactly the same
thing!

{{{Christina}}}

Melissa

in article , Christina Websell at
wrote on 6/23/05 7:06 PM:

I hadn't realised that my posts for support through my (perhaps) terminal
illness had been seen as whimpering by some.
Any others feel like that? I would like to know.
If so, maybe this is not such a safe place to share worries, as well as cat
anecdotes, as I thought.

Tweed
Sad



Good God no! Whoever you heard that from feels that way but **I** certainly
don't!! Trust me, that that must be a very singular feeling, because for
heavens sake it certainly is NOT a group feeling. Please do not take it as
such.

"jmcquown" wrote in message
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Christina Websell wrote:
I hadn't realised that my posts for support through my (perhaps)
terminal illness had been seen as whimpering by some.
Any others feel like that? I would like to know.
If so, maybe this is not such a safe place to share worries, as well
as cat anecdotes, as I thought.

Tweed
Sad

{{{{{{Christina}}}}}} Of course it's not whimpering! My god! Who would
say such a thing to you over a thing so precious as LIFE?

Jill


Someone did:

quote:
And your bitching about how horrible it was for her human to actually
make the income he needed to support ALL his pets is really getting on
my last remaining nerve, not to mention you having the gall to
verbally abuse someone who has been nothing but supportive of YOUR
whimperings.

Here, have some cool-off time in the bit-bucket. (PLONK!)

--

"Christina Websell" wrote in message
...
I hadn't realised that my posts for support through my (perhaps) terminal
illness had been seen as whimpering by some.
Any others feel like that? I would like to know.
If so, maybe this is not such a safe place to share worries, as well as
cat
anecdotes, as I thought.

Tweed
Sad

Christina,

If you found out that someone said something like that, then it's their
prob. and not yours. I'm so considerate of health probs., scares, and
terminal illnesses. Why? B/c my mom has lung cancer, and we find out
tomorrow if it's traveled to her brain. I'm scared to death, and I know she
is right this very moment. I just posted in the stop-smoking group. I
suppose I whined big time in a sense. But so effin' what. That place, just
like this place is full of loving people who want nothing best for us all.

As far as I'm concerned, your fears were warranted and ARE warranted. And
I'm sure everyone agrees. If you feel like yelling, whining, crying or
moaning in here, I for one am listening.

I wish you peace and purrs..... {{{Tweed}}}!!!

--

·.·´¨ ¨)) -:¦:-
¸.·´ .·´¨¨))
Laurie ----- sad for you, sad for me, sad for my mom, and my
dad....
((¸¸.·´ ..·´
-:¦:- ((¸¸ ·.·

*~*LiveLoveLaugh*~* Aloha!!!!!

"There is no remedy for love but to love more"...
~~Henry David Thoreau

"Christina Websell" wrote in message
...
I hadn't realised that my posts for support through my (perhaps) terminal
illness had been seen as whimpering by some.
Any others feel like that? I would like to know.
If so, maybe this is not such a safe place to share worries, as well as
cat anecdotes, as I thought.

Tweed
Sad




Absolutely not. I can't imagine why anyone would have that reaction.
Whoever it was, you have just described a particularly uncaring,
self-centered individual. Ignore 'em.

MaryL