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If we ever needed purrs- what a day this is gonna be long
Lesley wrote: Lesley wrote: Went to my old job this morning to collect stuff- you know how it is, after 3 and a half years I picked up so much stuff that as I've been out of the office for obvious reasons I had to get a cab back. Anyway almost no-one was about with jobs on the line etc they're either having interviews or meetings wiht HR Anthea gave me a real nice card (Black cat) a purse (With the comment for the extra dosh on it- little does she know that until I get my grading sorted out I'll be on less pay still it should get sorted in time for Xmas) and a cute pottery cat- at which point I go all soggy and then when I leave Stamford the hospital cat (My sorta 3rd cat- don't tell the Furballs) is waiting to see me off (It's okay there will still be Neil who claims to dislike cats really "apart from her|" to see she gets fed) Arrived home..The fact that I have brought back the extra "Cosmic" posts I got on ebay means the Furballs are arguing on who gets to sit on the stash ("No fair" says Dunzi "I likes da nip she don't! But she's got there first as I was in Narnia!") My career has faltered a little since my new employers despite my posting back the forms last Sunday only found them yesterday and I can't start until Occupational Health have cleared me which thye won't do til Monday so I can't start til Tuesday (If I start at all...I don't think there's anything in my questionair apart from an incident in 1993 when I saw a psychiatrist- Dave and me had both just lost our jobs and my dad was dying at the time- I had some counselling before things got out of hand and that's it) Finally I get to the ward- Dave has had the MRI at last which being weird he enjoyed- he tells me that when it started it sounded like being on the stage at a Hawkwind gig and at some points he found himself thinking that "They need a guitar solo there" his doctor (Who par for the course is off next week) couldn't believe he enjoyed having an MRI... Then I went from hating the doctor to wanting to have his children in 2 minutes flat he told us that the prelinmary MRI had shown something And I griited ny teeth this is the big one..MS, tumour? Incidentally they found Dave had a minor slip on T5/6 (The spine in his chest) it's probably never caused a symptom would not need surgical intervention and as they have got it early they'll incorperate in his physio... Ahh that Dave is now up for getting up he wants to get from a bed to a chair and his new mate Sean the ward manager is all for the new improved Dave! But... Until he gets the final MRI report and cleared by the medical team he can"t be moved to a chair..(Okay he wants to go out and have a ciggie through he's done real well- a week without one and he refused patches!) or get any physio Til Monday So he's mildly steaming to say the least harbouring fantatsies about stealing a chair or digging his way out or at least killing a patient on his ward who spends his every waking hour screaming for a nurse and pi**ing on the floor if he doesn't get attention AT ONCE!! Even through he can go to the loo even when yesterday they had one guy crash so badly he had 5 nurses attending Still the "Love is" cartoons never includes scratching his back,passing a bottle and then realising as I am not a bloke and how do you b***ers aim straight? Cheers Keep them purrs coming its working so far Lesley Slave of the Fabulous Furballs PS Dave can't believe that people all over the World are sending purrs and prayers for him That whirring sound you hear is my girls on purr patrol for a clean MRI report. LOL! I like Dave's style re the guitar solo in the MRI. Hope he's able to come home, soon and that all will be well with your new job, Lesley. Melissa |
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If we ever needed purrs
tension_on_the_wire wrote: See how therapeutic this group can be?! 8^P Dave was actually surprised when I told him I hadn't worked it out and I asked on the ng and had the answer within hours! Lesley Slave of the Fabulous Furballs |
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If we ever needed purrs- Its official
Hi all By now Dave has worked out which doc's are good with the needle or not (Last Saturday whilst still ill he had to cope with a female doc who introduced herself with "Hi David I am just gonna puncture your groin " then when we got him off the ceiling she calmly asked if it was okay to insert two fingers were the Sun don't shine..As he says all his fears have come true ...and none of them are bad as he thought they would be!) and today "Dartboard boy" turned up....Okay he can't find a vein in Dave's left arm or his groin so he starts talking about his neck and Dave tells him to go away (only not so politely) and later on when I am at the nursing station (asking about another patient whose drip machine had started making odd noises - there are whole stretches of the day where the patients seem to be left to amuse themselves and when I am there I seem to somehow become ward messenger) I noticed there's a tray in which all failed tests are filed and his was on top and someone (The doc I guess) had written on the form "Difficult bleeder" Somehow I don't think they were referring to the fact it's hard to get blood samples from his veins! Anyway he continues to be reasonably well....They are impressed with the speed at which his injuries on his back are healing. He even had one visitor today apart from me and was supposed to have another but it is generally considered that Mallet will be 6 hours late for his own funeral! He said "about 4" which is Mallet speak for "7.00" I was a bit annoyed because this is like Dave's best friend then again as Dave said he would be worried if the guy turned up on time as he would then know something is seriously wrong Can I ask those of you out there if this is normal? I am starting to HATE going round there!!!! I know he's my partner etc but all I do is go to the shop because he can't, sit and argue and watch the clock until I can beat a decent retreat....I walked miles today for any number of reasons eg the dinner tonight was awful and he fancied a burger (Much better for him after seeing the so called "meal") and then the rip off hospital stop closed so I had to go even further! It feels like a full time job and I don't even know if I can cope when I do get to start my new job! So I'll be getting up, trying to learn my new job and then dragging myself to see him, coming home and going through it again. Let's get this straight I do actually LOVE the bas**rd but I am starting to feel irrelevant Best example today he decided that he wanted to sit on the side of the bed- all well and good but whilst he made it he then got cramp as it wasn't visiting time I wasn't there. They ignored him (They do to be fair have several other ill people and there are long peroids where one simply cannot get a nurse) after 3 hours they spotted him but then decided to take this moment to wash his back as he was in a good position they completely ignored that he really needed to lie down so he's been in pain all day as result. And I can't even be there to help!!! I am starting to think I am useless and what it will be like when I start a new job...I am not sure I can take all this at once but I can'tquit on the new job as well Gonna go to bed now- rant over Lesley Worn out slave of the Fabulous Furballs |
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"meeee" wrote in message ... "Lesley" wrote in message ups.com... Hi Tweed I know you work in social services but in child protection BUT can you comment on this can they force Dave and me to live somewhere we don't wanna (And they are suggesting he isn't fit to be in charge of a cat so someone is talking about calling the RSPCA)??? HELP!!!! Lesley I'm sorry I missed this...I've been absenting but popped back in to see how everyone was doing. I am appalled. I can't believe they are treating you and your lovely Dave like this. Fight them tooth and nail!! Give us their address so all of us, your and Dave's friends, can write them nasty letters, Amnesty International style, and shame them into treating you like people. You have our prayers and love. meee and the gang of orange I missed this too, Lesley, until now. No, you cannot be cannot be forced to do anything you do not want to do unless under the Mental Health Act (you are a danger to yourself or others.) Who on earth told you all this rubbish? Please be reassured that except under the above circumstances you are quite safe to carry on your life as normal. No one can force you to leave your home and no-one has any right to say what they did. I can hardly believe it. Who said it? They should be ashamed of themselves. (I did adult work too until 2003, when I had to choose.) Tweed |
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Christina Websell wrote: Who on earth told you all this rubbish? A junior house offcer yeah I know he's wrong but at the time when we are both tired and worried and he seems to sugest to Dave "Dump the cats and go live in Hackney' in some suitable flat with the other disabled and old people" we got worried about it. Seems to have been put on the back burner for the moment Thanks will ask if we need more help Lesley |
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"Lesley" wrote in message oups.com... Christina Websell wrote: Who on earth told you all this rubbish? A junior house offcer yeah I know he's wrong but at the time when we are both tired and worried and he seems to sugest to Dave "Dump the cats and go live in Hackney' in some suitable flat with the other disabled and old people" we got worried about it. Seems to have been put on the back burner for the moment Thanks will ask if we need more help Lesley You work in the health service and you took a junior house officers advice about housing? LOL. Just forget it and carry on as you are. If it is mentioned again just say thanks, but no. S/he has no right to suggest this, anyway and make it seem like its something that you *have* to do. As if you didn't have enough to worry about as it is! It borders on unethical conduct. No-one can make you move against your will, except your landlord if you don't pay the rent g Tweed |
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If we ever needed purrs- update some one give me a wall!
"Lesley" wrote in message ups.com... Hi all When i finally got to the ward poor Dave's smile said it all he was grinning at me and said "I am so glad to see you" First thoughts were is he glad to finally understand the efforts I made on his behalf or is it he has he had some bad news from the scan? Nope! He is glad to see me because he missed dinner and wants me to go and get fish n' chips. Why did he miss dinner? Wait for it! He was being seen by the dietician who wanted to give advice and completely ignored meals were beimg served!!! Ended up he could have had sweet and sour pork but he hates sweet and sour and isn't keen on pork so he got a black mark for not eating The diet person says he will be out by next Thursday even if he cannot walk since they will have sorted his nutrition byt hen and when Dave says what about the fact he can';t walk they say it will happen if he gets some outpatient treatment. So they propose sending him home unable to get to the kitchen to cook and then expecting him to handle eating And our dear little social worker turned out to be the guy that does emergencies only we have not yet met the people who are threatening to send the Furballs to the RSPCA. Someone nearly hit the roof today when Dave asked me how are the girls? They thought he had small children!! I wasn't much help cos I just said okay they've been fed etc and it took a while to explain they are cats They don't seem to understand how important the Furballs are to us\ This bothers me. Who was that some-one and why are they so "on to your case?" It is none of their business whether you have small children, cats, or whatever unless they have evidence that they are suffering. Dave is in hospital because he has health difficulties. Who referred him to the hospital social workers in the first place, and why? Whoever *they* are do not need to understand how important your furballs are - it is none of their business, and tell them so in no uncertain terms. I don't understand what is going on here. Is there something you haven't told me? Are they accusing you of neglect? of not managing? anything? Tweed |
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If we ever needed purrs- Its official
On 30 Sep 2006 15:50:02 -0700, "Lesley" wrote:
Hi all Gonna go to bed now- rant over Lesley Worn out slave of the Fabulous Furballs These are classic symptoms you are undergoing. The stress is almost overwhelming for you. But you are handling it. You are venting here to your good friends. But you also need to take a little time just for yourself. Go have a manicure or a massage. You have to take care of yourself before you can take care of Dave. And you need some special care right now. Purrs, -- CATherine |
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If we ever needed purrs- Its official
"Lesley" wrote in message oups.com... Hi all And I can't even be there to help!!! I am starting to think I am useless and what it will be like when I start a new job...I am not sure I can take all this at once but I can'tquit on the new job as well Gonna go to bed now- rant over Love doesn't have all that much to do with it. I know my husband loves me. His sole help when I'm in the hospital is to bring me bottles of water. (Frozen to the point of slush but not solid so they will stay cold as long as possible) It isn't a lot, and sometimes I've really wished I had an advocate while really ill. But it is what he can do. Sure I envy the patients who have a loving spouse who is there dawn till dusk to keep them company and make sure they have the attention they need. The rest of us enlist them on occasion to run a few errands. You do what you can. Maybe even more than you can. And then you give yourself permission to be human and have limits. You can't be there all the time. You can't do it all. And believe it or not, some of the staff at the hospital will pick up the slack and do there jobs at least some of the time. Sounds like you are tired and worn out. Try to give yourself a breather. There still be plenty to do after you allow yourself a break. Jo |
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Christina Websell wrote: You work in the health service and you took a junior house officers advice about housing? LOL. I know!!! I'll live it down eventually but at the time I am dealing with Dave being seriously ill, all the uncertainties about an actual diagnosis- we still don't have one but he's getting better so we must be on the right track No-one can make you move against your will, except your landlord if you don't pay the rent g Just paid it this morning...and cleaned the litter tray..what an exciting life I am leading at the moment! Lesley Slave of the Fabulous Furballs |
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