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On Jul 21, 4:42*pm, "CatNipped" wrote:
"Kyla =^. .^=`" wrote in messagenews:OrGdnXHvVvTdNx7VnZ2dnUVZ_vKdnZ2d@comca st.com... "hopitus" On Jul 19, 7:39 pm, hopitus On Jul 19, 7:02 pm, Will in New Haven wrote: On Jul 19, 6:01 pm, "tanadashoes" "Sherry" wrote in message ... On Jul 19, 3:57 pm, "tanadashoes" : Next time I'll post child pornography fantasies instead. Sheesh.. Maybe I need a break from most of you. Pam S. disgusted by her stupidity Pam I get the reference (it took me a minute, though)....and it IS just plain weird, isn't it?? I know you have a wonderfully irreverant sense of humor, and I also get that you wouldn't ever offend anybody on purpose. I remember when I got spanked but good just for using the word "lifestyle" in blessed ignorance that it might be an offensive word. Hell. I didn't know. Oops. Can I say "hell?" Maybe you offended some people, now you know. Kick yourself around for 2 seconds then forget about it. But keep your sense of humor. That's what keeps us sane. Sherry =============== I'm sorry. *I got an email from a friend to warn me about this and sent one back saying I could handle it. *And I did. *Then I saw that email from Kyla to Susan about Grandma Shirley's death and lost it. *That email was in as poor of taste or more as my stupid joke, but not one person said anything to her about it. *Some of the very people who jumped on the politically correct bandwagon probably thought it was marvelous. *I'll tell you, if Kyla sends something so disgusting to us when Rob is fighting his last battle, I'll do something violent. There you go. Here I was thinking you had been so terribly wronged, which you had, and you have to prove that your post wasn't so bad by attacking my friend, who sincerely means well. -- Will in New Haven "The welfare of the people has always been the alibi of tyrants, and it provides the further advantage of giving the servants of tyranny a good conscience" Albert Camus If your friend is who it would appear you need to keep it back in rpcc talking catbabble instead of authoring stuff to hurt people's feelings...."means well" is getting *way* out of hand or should I say, "send" finger elsewhere than rpcc. Gee, thanks... .I never meant to hurt anyone's feelings, I'm not like that, *and wish nothing but the best for Pam and Rob. *Cancer is horrible and I feel so bad for what Pam is goin thru, Rob too, and I am sending them both my best wishes *for him to get better. Pam is a wonderful writer, and is going thru a lot, I know. Here's a nice quote for you: "Hell is paved with good intentions" John Ray, 1670 I feel so much better now , and it's The road to hell, BTW Judge not lest ye be judged Thanks for brightening my day...NOT! Kyla Personally, and I hope you don't take this the wrong way, I think you need to "back off". *I have, in the past, been a bit put off by your forwardness - even if it is done with good intentions. *UseNet is a place that some people come to so they can have a bit of fun, "vent" to (virtual) strangers without worrying about the consequences in their real lives, and sometimes just let out their sadness as they're perhaps, for whatever reason, not able to do with their family. Asking for people's addresses, so you can send them cards or letters, when you don't even know them, is sort of creepy to me in a "stalkerish" sort of way. *[I'm even considering taking my name off the Christmas card list so you don't get my address! *And I'll be *VERY* resentful if I have to do that because I have enjoyed exchanging Christmas cards with the people here for 4 or 5 years now!] I understand that some people come here and see all the closeness of this group and want to just dive in - but most of us have been "friends" for years and years and have, only slowly, come to trust one another. *For a newcomer to expect the same is unrealistic and naive and, again, can be very off-putting. This isn't the first time you've had to post an apology about being too forward or "putting your foot in your mouth", in fact I don't even think it's the second or third time! *Maybe you should just try reading a bit and stay more impersonal until people get to know you better or invite you to be closer. Hugs, CatNipped- Hide quoted text - CN, I think this was well-put, the part about being patient when joining a new group, and giving folks time to really get to know you. I am in another group (not cat group)...and it is much like rpca, very nice folks, lots of helpful info. for anyone, newbie or not. But I got turned down the first year for admission into their mailing list. I kept posting and kept reading, asking questions or giving advice myself if I knew an answer. After about 3 years, I finally feel like a part of the group, and not an oustsider. They've been posting for many years, lots of them know each other IRL. People are just wary about IRL contact with people they only barely know online. And rightly so, I reckon. It doesn't mean they hate you, for sure. It just means you're being too forward and forcing a type of intimacy way too soon. BTW, I got on the mailing list this year :-). I truly wasn't offended when I got rejected, because I got a *very* nice e-mail explaining how the list contains home addresses, and they're just so careful about who gets it. It makes me feel better now, actually, knowing that *my* address is on it, and it's not going to be freely given out. Sherry |
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"Sherry" wrote in message
... On Jul 21, 4:42 pm, "CatNipped" wrote: "Kyla =^. .^=`" wrote in messagenews:OrGdnXHvVvTdNx7VnZ2dnUVZ_vKdnZ2d@comca st.com... "hopitus" On Jul 19, 7:39 pm, hopitus On Jul 19, 7:02 pm, Will in New Haven wrote: On Jul 19, 6:01 pm, "tanadashoes" "Sherry" wrote in message ... On Jul 19, 3:57 pm, "tanadashoes" : Next time I'll post child pornography fantasies instead. Sheesh. Maybe I need a break from most of you. Pam S. disgusted by her stupidity Pam I get the reference (it took me a minute, though)....and it IS just plain weird, isn't it?? I know you have a wonderfully irreverant sense of humor, and I also get that you wouldn't ever offend anybody on purpose. I remember when I got spanked but good just for using the word "lifestyle" in blessed ignorance that it might be an offensive word. Hell. I didn't know. Oops. Can I say "hell?" Maybe you offended some people, now you know. Kick yourself around for 2 seconds then forget about it. But keep your sense of humor. That's what keeps us sane. Sherry =============== I'm sorry. I got an email from a friend to warn me about this and sent one back saying I could handle it. And I did. Then I saw that email from Kyla to Susan about Grandma Shirley's death and lost it. That email was in as poor of taste or more as my stupid joke, but not one person said anything to her about it. Some of the very people who jumped on the politically correct bandwagon probably thought it was marvelous. I'll tell you, if Kyla sends something so disgusting to us when Rob is fighting his last battle, I'll do something violent. There you go. Here I was thinking you had been so terribly wronged, which you had, and you have to prove that your post wasn't so bad by attacking my friend, who sincerely means well. -- Will in New Haven "The welfare of the people has always been the alibi of tyrants, and it provides the further advantage of giving the servants of tyranny a good conscience" Albert Camus If your friend is who it would appear you need to keep it back in rpcc talking catbabble instead of authoring stuff to hurt people's feelings...."means well" is getting *way* out of hand or should I say, "send" finger elsewhere than rpcc. Gee, thanks... .I never meant to hurt anyone's feelings, I'm not like that, and wish nothing but the best for Pam and Rob. Cancer is horrible and I feel so bad for what Pam is goin thru, Rob too, and I am sending them both my best wishes for him to get better. Pam is a wonderful writer, and is going thru a lot, I know. Here's a nice quote for you: "Hell is paved with good intentions" John Ray, 1670 I feel so much better now , and it's The road to hell, BTW Judge not lest ye be judged Thanks for brightening my day...NOT! Kyla Personally, and I hope you don't take this the wrong way, I think you need to "back off". I have, in the past, been a bit put off by your forwardness - even if it is done with good intentions. UseNet is a place that some people come to so they can have a bit of fun, "vent" to (virtual) strangers without worrying about the consequences in their real lives, and sometimes just let out their sadness as they're perhaps, for whatever reason, not able to do with their family. Asking for people's addresses, so you can send them cards or letters, when you don't even know them, is sort of creepy to me in a "stalkerish" sort of way. [I'm even considering taking my name off the Christmas card list so you don't get my address! And I'll be *VERY* resentful if I have to do that because I have enjoyed exchanging Christmas cards with the people here for 4 or 5 years now!] I understand that some people come here and see all the closeness of this group and want to just dive in - but most of us have been "friends" for years and years and have, only slowly, come to trust one another. For a newcomer to expect the same is unrealistic and naive and, again, can be very off-putting. This isn't the first time you've had to post an apology about being too forward or "putting your foot in your mouth", in fact I don't even think it's the second or third time! Maybe you should just try reading a bit and stay more impersonal until people get to know you better or invite you to be closer. Hugs, CatNipped- Hide quoted text - CN, I think this was well-put, the part about being patient when joining a new group, and giving folks time to really get to know you. I am in another group (not cat group)...and it is much like rpca, very nice folks, lots of helpful info. for anyone, newbie or not. But I got turned down the first year for admission into their mailing list. I kept posting and kept reading, asking questions or giving advice myself if I knew an answer. After about 3 years, I finally feel like a part of the group, and not an oustsider. They've been posting for many years, lots of them know each other IRL. People are just wary about IRL contact with people they only barely know online. And rightly so, I reckon. It doesn't mean they hate you, for sure. It just means you're being too forward and forcing a type of intimacy way too soon. BTW, I got on the mailing list this year :-). I truly wasn't offended when I got rejected, because I got a *very* nice e-mail explaining how the list contains home addresses, and they're just so careful about who gets it. It makes me feel better now, actually, knowing that *my* address is on it, and it's not going to be freely given out. Sherry ============================================= Too true. Who was it who wrote "I'd never be a part of a group who would have me as a member!" (JOKE) ; Hugs, CatNipped |
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"Sherry" wrote in message ... BTW, I got on the mailing list this year :-). I truly wasn't offended when I got rejected, because I got a *very* nice e-mail explaining how the list contains home addresses, and they're just so careful about who gets it. It makes me feel better now, actually, knowing that *my* address is on it, and it's not going to be freely given out. Sherry I think this is very important. There have been a few occasions when someone on one of the newsgroups has posted another reader's home address or other personal information without first getting consent. This bothers me a lot. The ones I have seen have been done with the best of intentions (such as posting with a suggestion to send get-well or birthday cards), but that information is then exposed to *everyone* who looks at the list -- and we do not have any way of monitoring that information. I realize that most of our information can already be easily obtained, but at least that would take someone doing a search for it. When information is posted to the newsgroups, any number of people now have easy access to that material for purposes that may not be so "good." MaryL |
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Loved your "JOKE". Hav a been here about two years now and really enjoy the
group. I have a terrible memory and finally made a score card type thing for who has which cat. Lots of people want friends, people you can talk to but not feel over powered by. "CatNipped" wrote in message ... "Sherry" wrote in message ... On Jul 21, 4:42 pm, "CatNipped" wrote: "Kyla =^. .^=`" wrote in messagenews:OrGdnXHvVvTdNx7VnZ2dnUVZ_vKdnZ2d@comca st.com... "hopitus" On Jul 19, 7:39 pm, hopitus On Jul 19, 7:02 pm, Will in New Haven wrote: On Jul 19, 6:01 pm, "tanadashoes" "Sherry" wrote in message ... On Jul 19, 3:57 pm, "tanadashoes" : Next time I'll post child pornography fantasies instead. Sheesh. Maybe I need a break from most of you. Pam S. disgusted by her stupidity Pam I get the reference (it took me a minute, though)....and it IS just plain weird, isn't it?? I know you have a wonderfully irreverant sense of humor, and I also get that you wouldn't ever offend anybody on purpose. I remember when I got spanked but good just for using the word "lifestyle" in blessed ignorance that it might be an offensive word. Hell. I didn't know. Oops. Can I say "hell?" Maybe you offended some people, now you know. Kick yourself around for 2 seconds then forget about it. But keep your sense of humor. That's what keeps us sane. Sherry =============== I'm sorry. I got an email from a friend to warn me about this and sent one back saying I could handle it. And I did. Then I saw that email from Kyla to Susan about Grandma Shirley's death and lost it. That email was in as poor of taste or more as my stupid joke, but not one person said anything to her about it. Some of the very people who jumped on the politically correct bandwagon probably thought it was marvelous. I'll tell you, if Kyla sends something so disgusting to us when Rob is fighting his last battle, I'll do something violent. There you go. Here I was thinking you had been so terribly wronged, which you had, and you have to prove that your post wasn't so bad by attacking my friend, who sincerely means well. -- Will in New Haven "The welfare of the people has always been the alibi of tyrants, and it provides the further advantage of giving the servants of tyranny a good conscience" Albert Camus If your friend is who it would appear you need to keep it back in rpcc talking catbabble instead of authoring stuff to hurt people's feelings...."means well" is getting *way* out of hand or should I say, "send" finger elsewhere than rpcc. Gee, thanks... .I never meant to hurt anyone's feelings, I'm not like that, and wish nothing but the best for Pam and Rob. Cancer is horrible and I feel so bad for what Pam is goin thru, Rob too, and I am sending them both my best wishes for him to get better. Pam is a wonderful writer, and is going thru a lot, I know. Here's a nice quote for you: "Hell is paved with good intentions" John Ray, 1670 I feel so much better now , and it's The road to hell, BTW Judge not lest ye be judged Thanks for brightening my day...NOT! Kyla Personally, and I hope you don't take this the wrong way, I think you need to "back off". I have, in the past, been a bit put off by your forwardness - even if it is done with good intentions. UseNet is a place that some people come to so they can have a bit of fun, "vent" to (virtual) strangers without worrying about the consequences in their real lives, and sometimes just let out their sadness as they're perhaps, for whatever reason, not able to do with their family. Asking for people's addresses, so you can send them cards or letters, when you don't even know them, is sort of creepy to me in a "stalkerish" sort of way. [I'm even considering taking my name off the Christmas card list so you don't get my address! And I'll be *VERY* resentful if I have to do that because I have enjoyed exchanging Christmas cards with the people here for 4 or 5 years now!] I understand that some people come here and see all the closeness of this group and want to just dive in - but most of us have been "friends" for years and years and have, only slowly, come to trust one another. For a newcomer to expect the same is unrealistic and naive and, again, can be very off-putting. This isn't the first time you've had to post an apology about being too forward or "putting your foot in your mouth", in fact I don't even think it's the second or third time! Maybe you should just try reading a bit and stay more impersonal until people get to know you better or invite you to be closer. Hugs, CatNipped- Hide quoted text - CN, I think this was well-put, the part about being patient when joining a new group, and giving folks time to really get to know you. I am in another group (not cat group)...and it is much like rpca, very nice folks, lots of helpful info. for anyone, newbie or not. But I got turned down the first year for admission into their mailing list. I kept posting and kept reading, asking questions or giving advice myself if I knew an answer. After about 3 years, I finally feel like a part of the group, and not an oustsider. They've been posting for many years, lots of them know each other IRL. People are just wary about IRL contact with people they only barely know online. And rightly so, I reckon. It doesn't mean they hate you, for sure. It just means you're being too forward and forcing a type of intimacy way too soon. BTW, I got on the mailing list this year :-). I truly wasn't offended when I got rejected, because I got a *very* nice e-mail explaining how the list contains home addresses, and they're just so careful about who gets it. It makes me feel better now, actually, knowing that *my* address is on it, and it's not going to be freely given out. Sherry ============================================= Too true. Who was it who wrote "I'd never be a part of a group who would have me as a member!" (JOKE) ; Hugs, CatNipped |
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Geez, I can't seem to do anything right
I've only been here sinch March and have grown to love this group, and yes I have made mistakes, many, but I'm learning. I'm so sorry if I've offended people here. Please forgive me. Hug Kyla --feeling sad "Granby" Loved your "JOKE". Hav a been here about two years now and really enjoy the group. I have a terrible memory and finally made a score card type thing for who has which cat. Lots of people want friends, people you can talk to but not feel over powered by. "CatNipped" "Sherry" On Jul 21, 4:42 pm, "CatNipped" : "Kyla =^. .^=`" "hopitus" On Jul 19, 7:39 pm, hopitus On Jul 19, 7:02 pm, Will in New Haven wrote: On Jul 19, 6:01 pm, "tanadashoes" "Sherry" wrote in message ... On Jul 19, 3:57 pm, "tanadashoes" : Next time I'll post child pornography fantasies instead. Sheesh. Maybe I need a break from most of you. Pam S. disgusted by her stupidity Pam I get the reference (it took me a minute, though)....and it IS just plain weird, isn't it?? I know you have a wonderfully irreverant sense of humor, and I also get that you wouldn't ever offend anybody on purpose. I remember when I got spanked but good just for using the word "lifestyle" in blessed ignorance that it might be an offensive word. Hell. I didn't know. Oops. Can I say "hell?" Maybe you offended some people, now you know. Kick yourself around for 2 seconds then forget about it. But keep your sense of humor. That's what keeps us sane. Sherry =============== I'm sorry. I got an email from a friend to warn me about this and sent one back saying I could handle it. And I did. Then I saw that email from Kyla to Susan about Grandma Shirley's death and lost it. That email was in as poor of taste or more as my stupid joke, but not one person said anything to her about it. Some of the very people who jumped on the politically correct bandwagon probably thought it was marvelous. I'll tell you, if Kyla sends something so disgusting to us when Rob is fighting his last battle, I'll do something violent. There you go. Here I was thinking you had been so terribly wronged, which you had, and you have to prove that your post wasn't so bad by attacking my friend, who sincerely means well. -- Will in New Haven "The welfare of the people has always been the alibi of tyrants, and it provides the further advantage of giving the servants of tyranny a good conscience" Albert Camus If your friend is who it would appear you need to keep it back in rpcc talking catbabble instead of authoring stuff to hurt people's feelings...."means well" is getting *way* out of hand or should I say, "send" finger elsewhere than rpcc. Gee, thanks... .I never meant to hurt anyone's feelings, I'm not like that, and wish nothing but the best for Pam and Rob. Cancer is horrible and I feel so bad for what Pam is goin thru, Rob too, and I am sending them both my best wishes for him to get better. Pam is a wonderful writer, and is going thru a lot, I know. Here's a nice quote for you: "Hell is paved with good intentions" John Ray, 1670 I feel so much better now , and it's The road to hell, BTW Judge not lest ye be judged Thanks for brightening my day...NOT! Kyla Personally, and I hope you don't take this the wrong way, I think you need to "back off". I have, in the past, been a bit put off by your forwardness - even if it is done with good intentions. UseNet is a place that some people come to so they can have a bit of fun, "vent" to (virtual) strangers without worrying about the consequences in their real lives, and sometimes just let out their sadness as they're perhaps, for whatever reason, not able to do with their family. Asking for people's addresses, so you can send them cards or letters, when you don't even know them, is sort of creepy to me in a "stalkerish" sort of way. [I'm even considering taking my name off the Christmas card list so you don't get my address! And I'll be *VERY* resentful if I have to do that because I have enjoyed exchanging Christmas cards with the people here for 4 or 5 years now!] I understand that some people come here and see all the closeness of this group and want to just dive in - but most of us have been "friends" for years and years and have, only slowly, come to trust one another. For a newcomer to expect the same is unrealistic and naive and, again, can be very off-putting. This isn't the first time you've had to post an apology about being too forward or "putting your foot in your mouth", in fact I don't even think it's the second or third time! Maybe you should just try reading a bit and stay more impersonal until people get to know you better or invite you to be closer. Hugs, CatNipped- Hide quoted text - CN, I think this was well-put, the part about being patient when joining a new group, and giving folks time to really get to know you. I am in another group (not cat group)...and it is much like rpca, very nice folks, lots of helpful info. for anyone, newbie or not. But I got turned down the first year for admission into their mailing list. I kept posting and kept reading, asking questions or giving advice myself if I knew an answer. After about 3 years, I finally feel like a part of the group, and not an oustsider. They've been posting for many years, lots of them know each other IRL. People are just wary about IRL contact with people they only barely know online. And rightly so, I reckon. It doesn't mean they hate you, for sure. It just means you're being too forward and forcing a type of intimacy way too soon. BTW, I got on the mailing list this year :-). I truly wasn't offended when I got rejected, because I got a *very* nice e-mail explaining how the list contains home addresses, and they're just so careful about who gets it. It makes me feel better now, actually, knowing that *my* address is on it, and it's not going to be freely given out. Sherry ============================================= Too true. Who was it who wrote "I'd never be a part of a group who would have me as a member!" (JOKE) ; Hugs, CatNipped |
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I don't usually post from home because of the gawd-awful pain I'm always in
from the neck/shoulder/arm/wrist injury and don't want to acerbate it by being on a computer *more* than 10 hours a day (and I'm probably going to regret this exception), but I've been thinking about this all the way home from work and I had to say this... When I pointed out that someone here was abusing her cats (and there is *PLENTY* of archived proof that this is true), I was *thoroughly* chastised by some for being mean and hateful to the cat abuser and for causing disruption to our nice little group by mentioning such a nasty thing as animal abuse. Now, not mentioning any names, but some people appear to feel it's perfectly fine to be mean and hateful to *you* just for posting a joke. Ironic, huh? I guess some people just never get over being hall monitor and must upbraid anyone and everyone for whatever *they* feel is uncalled for. -- Hugs, CatNipped ---- donning flame-proof underwear See all my masters at: http://www.PossiblePlaces.com/CatNipped/ |
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"MaryL" -OUT-THE-LITTER wrote in
I think this is very important. There have been a few occasions when someone on one of the newsgroups has posted another reader's home address or other personal information without first getting consent. This bothers me a lot. The ones I have seen have been done with the best of intentions (such as posting with a suggestion to send get-well or birthday cards), but that information is then exposed to *everyone* who looks at the list -- Which is effectively everyone on the planet. |
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"MaryL" -OUT-THE-LITTER wrote in message
. .. "Sherry" wrote in message ... BTW, I got on the mailing list this year :-). I truly wasn't offended when I got rejected, because I got a *very* nice e-mail explaining how the list contains home addresses, and they're just so careful about who gets it. It makes me feel better now, actually, knowing that *my* address is on it, and it's not going to be freely given out. Sherry I think this is very important. There have been a few occasions when someone on one of the newsgroups has posted another reader's home address or other personal information without first getting consent. This bothers me a lot. The ones I have seen have been done with the best of intentions (such as posting with a suggestion to send get-well or birthday cards), but that information is then exposed to *everyone* who looks at the list -- and we do not have any way of monitoring that information. I realize that most of our information can already be easily obtained, but at least that would take someone doing a search for it. When information is posted to the newsgroups, any number of people now have easy access to that material for purposes that may not be so "good." MaryL I totally agree - yes you can look it up, but no sense making it *easy*. And even if it isn't somebody doing something illegal, I would be still be very upset if somebody like Kyla took it into her head to mail something to my husband as she did to Susan's Grandma Shirley. BTW, I guess I missed the post with "child porn fantasies"! It wasn't a regular doing this, was it??! Hugs, CatNipped |
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"Kyla =^. .^=`" wrote in message ... Oh dear, what have I done? I certainly meant NO harm when I wrote about Shirley's death. I'm just sitting here in tears knowing I now have everyone in the group hating me and that wasn't my intention at all. Pam, I know Rob has cancer and I am hoping for good results for him, I am wishing nothing but the best for both him and you Pam. I'm crying so hard, I can't think straight. If you all thought it was in bad taste, dreadful, then I guess it was, but that was not my intention at all. I promise. I lost my own Mother last August, and it still hurts. Please forgive me. I'm SO sorry. Kyla --in tears because now I've lost all my friends Kyla, I don't know you, but I can tell you that what you come across as is a drama queen and someone who has to turn all drama into something about you. Many here do it but you're the master at it. Maybe you don't mean it, but I can't believe you've been on Usenet for 11 years and no one has called you a drama queen or even self-centered. I also think you mistake posts meant to be directed toward others as directed toward you because you can't read the attributions. Personally I don't care how others here perceive me any more because I've BTDT. I've gotten a tougher skin. I thought I had a tough side because my first intro to newsgroups was in hacker groups due to my job and a research assignment. I found I liked learning and liked the flaming atmosphere but in a personal group such as this is, you're just "you" and not a Usenet personna, and after a personal trauma in my life I found I wasn't so tough and couldn't even fake it. Don't know if that makes sense, but you are way too self centered and even when someone has just died you find a way to make a scene and turn it about you rather than just let it go. |
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WHAT HAVE I DONE? :(
Cheryl wrote:
Kyla, I don't know you, but I can tell you that what you come across as is a drama queen and someone who has to turn all drama into something about you. Many here do it but you're the master at it. Maybe you don't mean it, but I can't believe you've been on Usenet for 11 years and no one has called you a drama queen or even self-centered. Danger Will Robinson: Alien Rant Approaching. This is not directed at you, Cheryl. If I say "you" in this post, I mean "you-in-general". My take is that Kyla has some very severe emotional problems and is unable to behave differently because of it. She is very emotionally volatile and gets extremely upset easily. This is all exacerbated by some pretty difficult physical problems which make it hard for her to do what she needs to do for her emotional issues. It's not good for people psychologically to sit at home in front of a computer all day, but if you have major mobility issues, you probably don't have much choice. I never take anything she says personally. I feel like most of what Kyla says here is a reflection of her own reality - of where she's at mentally and psychologically. It's not about me, and it's not about anyone else here, either. In other words, before you react negatively to one of Kyla's posts, remember that it's coming from someone who is probably overwhelmed with deep psychological stuff. To be honest, I think she sincerely cannot help it. This probably sounds patronizing as all hell, but I think it's the truth. I try to cut her slack and not take what she says to heart. I do believe she means very well, but she doesn't have very good boundaries. And I think that gets people's back up and they get all bristly about it. All you have to do is set your own limits, and then just allow her to do her thing. Really, she's not harming anyone here. If you (you-in-general) engage with her about her latest faux pas, who's to blame for that? Seriously, just let it go. And before anyone says, "But look at RPCA Hero Of The Month. She has a Horrible Life Condition and she is a Revered Saint because she Never Complains About Anything." Humans are not made out of cookie cutters. Some people have more inner resources than others. Why? It's a mystery. Maybe they were raised by better parents. Or maybe they have something in their brain chemistry that resists negativity, or allows them to continue. Maybe they fight back against problems with pure bitchery. Who knows. Everyone has their personal strengths and we also have *different* kinds of damage. You can't expect everyone to be able to do the same things. That's just ignorant. Nobody has any idea what kind of secret resources an individual person might have, no matter what their life might look like on the outside. We should never compare people to each other. Once again - this is not directed at you, Cheryl. I've been wanting to say this stuff for a while. Kyla is a magnet for people who think that everyone should be repressed, good little saints who never complain. She gets their knickers all in a twist. Can we all get over it, please? Kyla is not hurting anyone! End Of Rant. I found I liked learning and liked the flaming atmosphere but in apersonal group such as this is, you're just "you" and not a Usenet personna, and after a personal trauma in my life I found I wasn't so tough and couldn't even fake it. Cheryl, it sounds like you're doing a bit better, am I right? In any case, it's very nice to see you posting 'round these parts again. -- Joyce ^..^ (To email me, remove the X's from my user name.) |
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