New cat and getting sleep

On Apr 3, 2:42 pm, "barb" wrote:
Don't lock her out of your room. She is afraid of losing you, right now.
Don't forget, she was probably living in a cage when you found her and now
you've shown her how great life can be for a cat.

Teach her what it means when you need to sleep. Play "dead". Totally
ignore her when she tries to wake you. Just lie there and pretend you're
sleeping. Cat's are smart. She will get the idea. Show her you wake up on
your own time.

Lots of luck!
Barb
Of course I don't look busy,
I did it right the first time.


I caved on the tough love tactic half way through the night. I let her
in and we both got a good sleep for the rest of the night, so I was
happy with that.

On 3 Apr, 20:07, wrote:
On Apr 3, 2:42 pm, "barb" wrote:

Don't lock her out of your room. She is afraid of losing you, right now.
Don't forget, she was probably living in a cage when you found her and now
you've shown her how great life can be for a cat.

Teach her what it means when you need to sleep. Play "dead". Totally
ignore her when she tries to wake you. Just lie there and pretend you're
sleeping. Cat's are smart. She will get the idea. Show her you wake up on
your own time.

Lots of luck!
Barb
Of course I don't look busy,
I did it right the first time.

I caved on the tough love tactic half way through the night. I let her
in and we both got a good sleep for the rest of the night, so I was
happy with that.

good! I have tried the 'play dead' thing with mine before, it worked
on one (jessie, current puss, she gets bored and realises her cries
for attention are not working so goes away) and jasper (who would
scratch at you head and even dig you out from under the bed clothes if
you ignored him, but then he woud only do it inthe morning to get you
up for breakfast, not several times in the night, very useful if my
alarm clock did not go off). It may work with her so try it.
also i agree with barb, this puss is scared that she has lost her new
mum and wants to make sue for herself that you have not abandoned her
like her previous mum did, she wants to knwo you are still there so
let her knwo you are. things are very new for her and confusing so let
her snuggle up with you at night to reassure her you are not going to
disappear or kick her out.

do youhave any photos to show us?
Bookie

On Apr 2, 1:06?pm, wrote:
I just got a cat from the humaine society, and in many ways she is a
very well behaved cat. I've been impressed with how easily she has
settled in. The one problem I've had is that she goes from being quiet
in the day to being very vocal at night. She craves attention, and at
night she wakes me up to get it (over and over again). I want to show
her that she has a permanent home and that I love her, but I want to
stop this behaviour from being a regular thing.

Any advice?

What are you...? A child? This is simple common sense.

Look.... It's easy. Take cat's food bowl. Put cat's food bowl in spare
bedroom. Take cat's water bowl. Put cat's water bowl in spare bedroom.
Take cat's litter box. Put cat's litter box in spare bedroom. Take
cat. Put cat in spare bedroom. Say good nite. Turn around. Exit spare
bedroom. Close door.
Then you go to bed! And you sleep! You might want to have a box-fan
running in your room to provide the white noise that you might need if
she starts to cry. But remember... you deserve your rest and she will
eventually get used to it. Ours did. It took about three weeks, but
now when I come out of the shower, Franchester is standing in the
center of his open doorway awaiting the command "chop-chop"! that
tells him to turn and trot into his bedroom lair.
You women.... You've simply got to get by this frantic concern towards
anything that's crying. Crying is not always bad. You'll ruin a child
by running to him every time he cries, and a cat is no different. Do
you have a husband, Emma...? Because if you do, you can ask him to
take care of whatever it is about the crying issue that you can't
understand. Femininity has a place, but that's not all over the place.
Especially in situations where discipline is required.
It won't hurt kitty to cry, Emma. It'll only hurt you...


IBen Getiner

On Apr 2, 1:19�pm, "Matthew" wrote:
First the furball is training you very well. *Just like a child you are
enforcing bad behavior is what you are doing. *For me I don't mind when they
wake me up to be loved on but when I need my sleep I close the door. *Which
they are not happy about but I broke them of the habit.



Now here's a person with common sense. A dying breed, I'm afraid.


IBen

On Apr 4, 5:55 am, "IBen Getiner" wrote:
On Apr 2, 1:19?pm, "Matthew" wrote:

First the furball is training you very well. ?Just like a child you are
enforcing bad behavior is what you are doing. ?For me I don't mind when they
wake me up to be loved on but when I need my sleep I close the door. ?Which
they are not happy about but I broke them of the habit.

Now here's a person with common sense. A dying breed, I'm afraid.

IBen

Finding people on Usenet with pleasant manners is even harder than
finding common sense.

When I posted asking for advice I was unsure whether to be firm and
set a pattern or be lenient with a cat that has been poorly treated
before. I got answers in favor of both methods. This hasn't made the
issue seem much clearer.

However, I do very much appreciate everyone taking the time to give
advice and make suggestions about ways to make the settling in process
smoother.

On Apr 3, 11:09 pm, "bookie" wrote:
do youhave any photos to show us?
Bookie

I do have photos. Thank you for asking.

http://s175.photobucket.com/albums/w147/ewallace25/

On Apr 2, 12:06 pm, wrote:
I just got a cat from the humaine society, and in many ways she is a
very well behaved cat. I've been impressed with how easily she has
settled in. The one problem I've had is that she goes from being quiet
in the day to being very vocal at night. She craves attention, and at
night she wakes me up to get it (over and over again). I want to show
her that she has a permanent home and that I love her, but I want to
stop this behaviour from being a regular thing.

Any advice?

If she was very active during the day she might be able to sleep
through the night. My pussy sleeps throught the night as far as I
know. Of course she might get out of bed turning the night without my
knowledge.

On 4 Apr, 18:20, wrote:
On Apr 3, 11:09 pm, "bookie" wrote:

do youhave any photos to show us?
Bookie

I do have photos. Thank you for asking.

http://s175.photobucket.com/albums/w147/ewallace25/

she is gorgeous!!!!! what a fluff bucket! it woudl take just one quiet
miaow and a look from those huge eyes and i woud be putty in her paws,
no wonder you are finding the tough love approach impossible. oh god,
just give in and give her what she wnats, she has had a hard life and
deserves to be pampered and spoilt for the rest of her life can sleep
when you are dead, what a sweet little darling, just look at those
eyes!!!!! how could anyone resist?

bookie

On Apr 4, 1:13?pm, wrote:
On Apr 4, 5:55 am, "IBen Getiner" wrote:

On Apr 2, 1:19?pm, "Matthew" wrote:

First the furball is training you very well. ?Just like a child you are
enforcing bad behavior is what you are doing. ?For me I don't mind when they
wake me up to be loved on but when I need my sleep I close the door. ?Which
they are not happy about but I broke them of the habit.

Now here's a person with common sense. A dying breed, I'm afraid.

IBen

Finding people on Usenet with pleasant manners is even harder than
finding common sense.


Then you've come to the right place. If you want to keep that streak
alive, that is...

When I posted asking for advice I was unsure whether to be firm and
set a pattern or be lenient with a cat that has been poorly treated
before.


Hmm... I see.. Be firm, but without being mean. Firmness is good in
this situation because it simply means you will allow the cat to be
alone and away from you for a spell. It entails nothing more. Unless
either you or the cat is suicidal, that is.

I got answers in favor of both methods. This hasn't made the
issue seem much clearer.


What do you want, Enmia...? To get a good night's sleep or face each
day having to use toothpicks to prop your eyelids open with? Your
kitty there is a nocturnal creature. Don't let it get you on IT'S
schedule. It's just like what they same about an infant. You gotta let
them cry once in a while. Otherwise... well, it would be just like
what you got here now.. No pet is worth an addiction to sleeping
pills. Your naturally occurring sleep cycle is one of the most
valuable things you have that you were born with, so take good care of
it!

However, I do very much appreciate everyone taking the time to give
advice and make suggestions about ways to make the settling in process
smoother.

You're quite welcome. Come back any time. Until them, I'm gonna get
right on these people who have been exhibiting all these poor manners
in here. We're gonna to get to the bottom of this **** before any more
damage is overdone.

Good luck, and remember... J_L_K_C...... (Just Let Kitty Cry


IBen Getiner

On Apr 4, 3:18?pm, "bookie" wrote:
On 4 Apr, 18:20, wrote:

On Apr 3, 11:09 pm, "bookie" wrote:

do youhave any photos to show us?
Bookie

I do have photos. Thank you for asking.

http://s175.photobucket.com/albums/w147/ewallace25/

she is gorgeous!!!!! what a fluff bucket! it woudl take just one quiet
miaow and a look from those huge eyes and i woud be putty in her paws,
no wonder you are finding the tough love approach impossible. oh god,
just give in and give her what she wnats, she has had a hard life and
deserves to be pampered and spoilt for the rest of her life can sleep
when you are dead, what a sweet little darling, just look at those
eyes!!!!! how could anyone resist?

bookie

Especially these guys......

http://sirius.2kat.net/cats.html