Why can't I stop crying over this cat!?!?!?!

please do not feel guilty, love is what allowed you to care for him, and
that love along with the good memories will in time make it easier, soft
wrote in message
ps.com...
This is so GODD**NED UNFAIR! HE was such a great cat. I lost my first
"child" and I haven't cried in weeks until tonight's posting. How long
will the heartache last? HE WAS ONLY SIX YEARS OLD. I love my cats.
Why was he taken away? Why? Why didn't i recognize the signs? why
didn't the vet?!!??!! I wish I could go back and turn the clock. I
spend hours a months helping homeless pets and i neglected my own cat?!
I feel so friggin' guilty. Please if you actually have time, please
say a little prayer that I'll have some peace. i just need peace.

a

Miss Violette was fine in June, then in October in 3 short days, her entire
behavior changed and only a few days later she was at the bridge, soft
Fred Williams wrote in message
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On August 3, 2006 10:58 pm, wrote:

This is so GODD**NED UNFAIR! HE was such a great cat. I lost my first
"child" and I haven't cried in weeks until tonight's posting. How
long
will the heartache last? HE WAS ONLY SIX YEARS OLD. I love my
cats.
Why was he taken away? Why? Why didn't i recognize the signs? why
didn't the vet?!!??!! I wish I could go back and turn the clock. I
spend hours a months helping homeless pets and i neglected my own
cat?!
I feel so friggin' guilty. Please if you actually have time, please
say a little prayer that I'll have some peace. i just need peace.


Not all of your questions can be answered. But we have mostly
all
lost family here and we know what you're going through. What was your
cat's name? What were his\her favourite things? How did he come to
pass away? If it's not too painful, we can Purrray better if we know
who and what we're purrraying for. What were the signs you didn't
recognise? Maybe there was nothing really there that you could have
done.
We generally find the story of the Rainbow Bridge to be a comfort.
You
can find this at:
http://www.petloss.com/poems/maingrp/rainbowb.htm and maybe other
places on the Web.
You obviously loved your cat, and if you didn't recognize the
"signs"
then it wasn't through a lack of caring. I suspect you did the best
you could under the circumstances and that's all anyone, (even
yourself), could have expected of you.

--
Regards,
Fred
(remove FFFF from my email address to email me)

The same thing happened with my lovely little Laura in July 2004. She
went from apparently healthy to sick to at the Bridj in just a week's time.
Gabrielle, still missing her odd-eyed, three-legged white cat

Stormmee wrote:
Miss Violette was fine in June, then in October in 3 short days, her entire behavior changed and only a few days later she was at the bridge, soft

On August 3, 2006 10:58 pm, wrote:
This is so GODD**NED UNFAIR! HE was such a great cat. I lost my first "child" and I haven't cried in weeks until tonight's posting. How long will the heartache last? HE WAS ONLY SIX YEARS OLD. I love my cats. Why was he taken away? Why? Why didn't i recognize the signs? why didn't the vet?!!??!! I wish I could go back and turn the clock. I spend hours a months helping homeless pets and i neglected my own cat?! I feel so friggin' guilty. Please if you actually have time, please say a little prayer that I'll have some peace. i just need peace.

Bast send you peace.

I think we all feel that way...sometimes, the signs are obvious to us
only after the fact. The important thing is that he had a good life
with you, even if it seemed too short. I cried for my Chester for
months, but it gets better.

PacoBell was a help, as I'm sure Miss Moneypenny is for you.

Pam

My little one, Frieda, was sent on her way to the bridge about two weeks
ago. She too hid her problems very well. I didn't realize that she was
so sick until it was too late. Yes, I feel bad about it, but I know I
gave her a good life that she wouldn't have had otherwise (she was the
runt of an abandoned litter). I miss her very much and wish I could go
back and do things differently. You will remember the good times, but
let yourself grieve, it is important to know that it is OK to grieve.

You might want to contact one of the pet support hotlines:
http://www.tufts.edu/vet/petloss/

Above all, take care of yourself.

Julie
meowmie to Frieda (RB), Opus (RB), Binkley (RB), Booker, Chappy & Snowflake

wrote:
This is so GODD**NED UNFAIR! HE was such a great cat. I lost my first
"child" and I haven't cried in weeks until tonight's posting. How long
will the heartache last? HE WAS ONLY SIX YEARS OLD. I love my cats.
Why was he taken away? Why? Why didn't i recognize the signs? why
didn't the vet?!!??!! I wish I could go back and turn the clock. I
spend hours a months helping homeless pets and i neglected my own cat?!
I feel so friggin' guilty. Please if you actually have time, please
say a little prayer that I'll have some peace. i just need peace.

a

Ahhhh Childfree23, my sweetie! You make me laugh at the most
inappropriate moments. I thought you were calling me the ass! Don't
worry, Moneypenny has been nothing but poked and prodded by the vet
since Q passed. How's your health? You were under the weather. We
haven't emailed each other in a cat's nap.


ChildFree23 wrote:
You're an ASS! This person just wants a little sympathy and you
go on and on about the danger of vaccinations!

We'll see what happens when you get pregnant and an unvaccinated
child gives you German measles. Devastation indeed!

Go away!

ChildFree23
And Her Three Fully Vaccinated And Healthy Cats!!!

"Ette B" wrote in message
...
Hello, My heart goes out to you. So young was your cat, just
6 years
young. I had 3 house cats, when I was living on Maui, and
moved back to
the mainland. All 3 of my (sons) died, all died from getting
those
stupid vaccines. THey were house cats on Maui and here in the
mainland.
My last boy died July 4th last year, he was dx with a brain
tumor last
year. Vaccines induce all types of cancers and the vets know
this,
Now I know not to ever another cat vaccinated. I had all my
boys
cremated. Teddy was 3 weeks of age when I found him March
1986 he
was born with one eye ulcerated with glacoma and had that
removed. He
passed away March 2000, I still miss him he was really smart, I
never
had a stupid cat and I have had so many cats here and on Maui,
cats I
saved from starving to death. Lovey, my friend found him at 2
weeks of
age, and Teddy helped me raise him, he passed away August
2002, I
miss and love him too, I dreamed about these two last week and
I woke
myself up calling Lovey! These two died from that cancer they
get from
vaccines, and those tumors are not treatable. I miss them so
much, I
got Marky as he ran to me for help these boys were throwing
stones at
him, he was 1 yrs old March 1991 when he came into my life.
They
were my best friends. I miss all my cats from the 1970's I
raised
23 stray cats. Of all the cats I have had, no one can ever
take their
places, for me, I will miss them forever. Like you, I wish I
could
change things and go back in time, I always say this to
myself, I wish
I knew the dangers of vaccines, they only need one and they are
set for
life. An animal doctor wrote a book to expose the VACCINES,
and that
applies to people also. They are full of toxic chemicals and
depress
the immune system and too many of them will induce cancers
into the
body. I wanted to know what caused MS...... VACCINES, but you
can find
many websites online to prove this and same goes for
children that
the gov makes children and babies get 22 before they can go
to school.
AUTISM. I am a truth seeker and I know alot of things.
Well, I hope
you feel better your love is deep for your cat, they are just
like
children to us. They are so funny! My first friend in life
was a cat
when I was a baby. Cats are such intelligent creatures, I
say,
never underestimate the intelligence of a cat. You can teach
them so
many tricks, and they gain a large vocab of words. My
sister just
lost two cats to death and a dog in March, she loves them and
she
just misses them so much. Ok,.

Hey Paco's Meowmie and Fred the Hoomin :0),

You guys make me feel so much better. At least i'm not crying tonight!
(small victories) Q was just fine and I played and petted him out on
the porch just the night before he died. I thought it was weird
because he isn't very playful....dare I say....lazy. So him showing
interest in toys at all is odd. The last words I said while I petted
him goodnight was "Next week you're going to the vet FatBoy. Oy, she's
gonna scream at me again because your weight". He didn't come in, I
just assumed he wanted to sleep "al fresco" on our porch. When I found
him in the morning, it looked like he died in his sleep. At least he
went to the bridge peacefully, I guess.

My neighbor's cat was in heat the very week and there is a kitten I am
debating taking that looks just like Q. In fact, the neighbors kids
call him Q2.

1) I wonder, is it tacky to get a matching cat when he could never
replace him in my heart?

2) Should I even get another cat at all because I haven't completely
healed.

3) Will Ms. Moneypenny rip that poor kitten to shreads?!?!!?!

4) Am I correct in thinking that Moneypenny is lonely and needs another
feline with her...especially at night? She's so lonely. Her meows are
so sad they give me chills. I know part of it is mourning...but part
of it is being alone.


wrote:
Bast send you peace.

I think we all feel that way...sometimes, the signs are obvious to us
only after the fact. The important thing is that he had a good life
with you, even if it seemed too short. I cried for my Chester for
months, but it gets better.

PacoBell was a help, as I'm sure Miss Moneypenny is for you.

Pam

I can't speak to whether you're ready to take on the responsibility of
caring for another cat. You know what it requires. I wouldn't worry
about whether it's tacky to get a matching cat. I would think about
whether the cat will need you and how well set up you are to help. Ms
Moneypenny seems to need companionship as well. For her I would think
the sooner the better, but the final decision is yours. Loving a new
cat will not diminish the love you had for Q. That's the wonderful
thing about love: You can spread it as wide as you like and it doesn't
thin out.
I would think the two cats, if one is a kitten, will work out their
relationship very quickly. As always introduce them slowly and with
safety precautions. Perhaps the kitten in a cat carrier at first to
see how they react to one another.
Ms Moneypenny may be missing Q in particular, and not so much the
company of just any cat, but a kitten would do much to help her "put
the pieces back together," so to speak.
Best of luck with it.

On August 11, 2006 11:47 pm, wrote:

Hey Paco's Meowmie and Fred the Hoomin :0),

You guys make me feel so much better. At least i'm not crying
tonight!
(small victories) Q was just fine and I played and petted him out on
the porch just the night before he died. I thought it was weird
because he isn't very playful....dare I say....lazy. So him showing
interest in toys at all is odd. The last words I said while I petted
him goodnight was "Next week you're going to the vet FatBoy. Oy,
she's
gonna scream at me again because your weight". He didn't come in, I
just assumed he wanted to sleep "al fresco" on our porch. When I
found
him in the morning, it looked like he died in his sleep. At least he
went to the bridge peacefully, I guess.

My neighbor's cat was in heat the very week and there is a kitten I am
debating taking that looks just like Q. In fact, the neighbors kids
call him Q2.

1) I wonder, is it tacky to get a matching cat when he could never
replace him in my heart?

2) Should I even get another cat at all because I haven't completely
healed.

3) Will Ms. Moneypenny rip that poor kitten to shreads?!?!!?!

4) Am I correct in thinking that Moneypenny is lonely and needs
another
feline with her...especially at night? She's so lonely. Her meows
are
so sad they give me chills. I know part of it is mourning...but part
of it is being alone.


wrote:
Bast send you peace.

I think we all feel that way...sometimes, the signs are obvious to us
only after the fact. The important thing is that he had a good life
with you, even if it seemed too short. I cried for my Chester for
months, but it gets better.

PacoBell was a help, as I'm sure Miss Moneypenny is for you.

Pam

--
Regards,
Fred
(remove FFFF from my email address to email me)

On Fri, 11 Aug 2006 20:47:36 -0700, Owner_6ds wrote:

Hey Paco's Meowmie and Fred the Hoomin :0),

You guys make me feel so much better. At least i'm not crying tonight!
(small victories) Q was just fine and I played and petted him out on
the porch just the night before he died. I thought it was weird
because he isn't very playful....dare I say....lazy. So him showing
interest in toys at all is odd. The last words I said while I petted
him goodnight was "Next week you're going to the vet FatBoy. Oy, she's
gonna scream at me again because your weight". He didn't come in, I
just assumed he wanted to sleep "al fresco" on our porch. When I found
him in the morning, it looked like he died in his sleep. At least he
went to the bridge peacefully, I guess.

My neighbor's cat was in heat the very week and there is a kitten I am
debating taking that looks just like Q. In fact, the neighbors kids
call him Q2.

1) I wonder, is it tacky to get a matching cat when he could never
replace him in my heart?

2) Should I even get another cat at all because I haven't completely
healed.

3) Will Ms. Moneypenny rip that poor kitten to shreads?!?!!?!

4) Am I correct in thinking that Moneypenny is lonely and needs another
feline with her...especially at night? She's so lonely. Her meows are
so sad they give me chills. I know part of it is mourning...but part
of it is being alone.


wrote:
Bast send you peace.

I think we all feel that way...sometimes, the signs are obvious to us
only after the fact. The important thing is that he had a good life
with you, even if it seemed too short. I cried for my Chester for
months, but it gets better.

PacoBell was a help, as I'm sure Miss Moneypenny is for you.

Pam


Answer to 1) Parents are so proud they "bust their buttons" if the
offspring look like them.

Answer 2) Love knows no boundaries.
MLB

wrote:
You guys make me feel so much better. At least i'm not crying tonight!
(small victories) Q was just fine and I played and petted him out on
the porch just the night before he died. I thought it was weird
because he isn't very playful....dare I say....lazy. So him showing
interest in toys at all is odd. The last words I said while I petted
him goodnight was "Next week you're going to the vet FatBoy. Oy, she's
gonna scream at me again because your weight". He didn't come in, I
just assumed he wanted to sleep "al fresco" on our porch. When I found
him in the morning, it looked like he died in his sleep. At least he
went to the bridge peacefully, I guess.

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Louise (cat of few words, but deep feelings)