upsetting 2 year old

Hi there,
I have a lady who comes to clean my home and she brings her 2 year old
along with her. I have asked her not to bring him as he upsets my cats
and my dog. He is forever chasing them around and this morning, he
pulled one of my cats' tails. This was the last straw for me. I
picked him up and put him outside in the back yard and shut the door.
I went in to his mother and told her that unless she teaches him, she
has to leave him home with her mother like she use to in the beginning.
am I over - reacting? My 2 year old nephew comes there and plays with
my cats and never ever chases them around. they even sit on his lap
when he watches Barney and the eat chips with him.

please advise.
thanx

On Jan 24, 8:57 am, "nay" wrote:
Hi there,
I have a lady who comes to clean my home and she brings her 2 year old
along with her. I have asked her not to bring him as he upsets my cats
and my dog. He is forever chasing them around and this morning, he
pulled one of my cats' tails. This was the last straw for me. I
picked him up and put him outside in the back yard and shut the door.
I went in to his mother and told her that unless she teaches him, she
has to leave him home with her mother like she use to in the beginning.
am I over - reacting? My 2 year old nephew comes there and plays with
my cats and never ever chases them around. they even sit on his lap
when he watches Barney and the eat chips with him.

please advise.
thanx

No, you are not overreaction. I've never heard of a professional
cleaning person bringing her children along on the job. I would find a
new cleaning person.

On Jan 24, 9:57 am, "nay" wrote:
Hi there,
I have a lady who comes to clean my home and she brings her 2 year old
along with her. I have asked her not to bring him as he upsets my cats
and my dog. He is forever chasing them around and this morning, he
pulled one of my cats' tails. This was the last straw for me. I
picked him up and put him outside in the back yard and shut the door.
I went in to his mother and told her that unless she teaches him, she
has to leave him home with her mother like she use to in the beginning.
am I over - reacting? My 2 year old nephew comes there and plays with
my cats and never ever chases them around. they even sit on his lap
when he watches Barney and the eat chips with him.
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Many years ago, my husband and I were part of a dinner club where four
families would take turns having the other families over for dinner.
One of the families had a small child who started chasing my cats. The
cats responded by running into the bedroom to hide under the beds. When
the child attempted to follow the cats into the bedroom. I said to the
child (very nicely): "My cats don't like to be chased. They ran in the
bedroom for privacy. If they want to play, they'll come out later."
Well, the child began to cry, and the mother rebuked me, saying that
her child wasn't used to be scolded by anyone other than his parents. I
thought to myself: "Too bad! Then, maybe she should have scolded him
before I needed to." In my house, the needs of a child to chase my cats
DOES NOT take priority over the needs of the cats to be free from
harassment.

A few years later when we were having dinner at their house (the child
was a little older then and had a sister), the family was taking care
of their neighbor's litter of kittens (obviously, the neighbors had
allowed the mother cat to roam and had not had her spayed). The
children were playing catch with one of the kittens. The parents
watched and said nothing. I was mortified and again put a stop to that.
They were also quite happy to share with us that another neighbor's cat
who was permitted to roam outside had originally been adopted from a
no-kill shelter where part of the agreement was that the cat would be
inside only. At any rate, we discontinued our relationship with these
people after that.

I think you should tell your cleaning lady that she needs to leave the
child at home. If she doesn't comply, hire somebody else.
Best regards,
---Cindy S.

"nay" wrote in news:1169650650.458984.168340@
13g2000cwe.googlegroups.com:

Hi there,
I have a lady who comes to clean my home and she brings her 2 year old
along with her. I have asked her not to bring him as he upsets my
cats
and my dog. He is forever chasing them around and this morning, he
pulled one of my cats' tails. This was the last straw for me. I
picked him up and put him outside in the back yard and shut the door.
I went in to his mother and told her that unless she teaches him, she
has to leave him home with her mother like she use to in the
beginning.
am I over - reacting? My 2 year old nephew comes there and plays
with
my cats and never ever chases them around. they even sit on his lap
when he watches Barney and the eat chips with him.

please advise.
thanx


Your house, your money, your rules. If she's really good and you would
have a hard time finding another cleaning lady, tell her this is her
final warning. If she's not so good and there are other cleaners
around, give her her notice AFTER she has cleaned your house and is
about to leave (to minimize any damage she might do to your house out of
spite.)

Bobble

--
Have you hugged your cat today?

Sonny's web page -- http://web.ncf.ca/ai151/index2.html

My cat doesn't like kids, he's just not used to them I suppose. When
my ex's son used to come over and chase the cat, I told him he needs to
be careful because the cat will get you one day, and he did. He'd
chased him under the bed, and I suppose the cat felt backed into a
corner, so lashed out (which is the first and only time he's done it,
apart from in play), gave an almight hiss and swatted him on his nose,
making it bleed. For some reason the cat was always treated with the
upmost respect from that day on!

On 24 Jan, 16:00, bobblespin wrote:
"nay" wrote in news:1169650650.458984.168340@
13g2000cwe.googlegroups.com:







Hi there,
I have a lady who comes to clean my home and she brings her 2 year old
along with her. I have asked her not to bring him as he upsets my
cats
and my dog. He is forever chasing them around and this morning, he
pulled one of my cats' tails. This was the last straw for me. I
picked him up and put him outside in the back yard and shut the door.
I went in to his mother and told her that unless she teaches him, she
has to leave him home with her mother like she use to in the
beginning.
am I over - reacting? My 2 year old nephew comes there and plays
with
my cats and never ever chases them around. they even sit on his lap
when he watches Barney and the eat chips with him.

please advise.
thanxYour house, your money, your rules. If she's really good and you would
have a hard time finding another cleaning lady, tell her this is her
final warning. If she's not so good and there are other cleaners
around, give her her notice AFTER she has cleaned your house and is
about to leave (to minimize any damage she might do to your house out of
spite.)

Bobble

--
Have you hugged your cat today?

Sonny's web page --http://web.ncf.ca/ai151/index2.html- Hide quoted text -- Show quoted text -

You are not overreacting. She's wrong to bring her child to work in the
first place, and the child must learn to treat animals properly -- who
better to teach him than his mother.

ep

"nay" wrote in message
ups.com...
Hi there,
I have a lady who comes to clean my home and she brings her 2 year old
along with her. I have asked her not to bring him as he upsets my cats
and my dog. He is forever chasing them around and this morning, he
pulled one of my cats' tails. This was the last straw for me. I
picked him up and put him outside in the back yard and shut the door.
I went in to his mother and told her that unless she teaches him, she
has to leave him home with her mother like she use to in the beginning.
am I over - reacting? My 2 year old nephew comes there and plays with
my cats and never ever chases them around. they even sit on his lap
when he watches Barney and the eat chips with him.

please advise.
thanx

On 24 Jan, 14:57, "nay" wrote:
Hi there,
I have a lady who comes to clean my home and she brings her 2 year old
along with her. I have asked her not to bring him as he upsets my cats
and my dog. He is forever chasing them around and this morning, he
pulled one of my cats' tails. This was the last straw for me. I
picked him up and put him outside in the back yard and shut the door.
I went in to his mother and told her that unless she teaches him, she
has to leave him home with her mother like she use to in the beginning.
am I over - reacting? My 2 year old nephew comes there and plays with
my cats and never ever chases them around. they even sit on his lap
when he watches Barney and the eat chips with him.

get rid of this woman immediately, do not allow her into your house
ever again, get another cleaner or do it yourself, do not feel guilty
about it at all if anything SHE should feel guilty about what her
nasty, undisciplined offspring did to your cat. Your cats have a right
to enjoy their home free from harrassment by a badly brought up brat
and if she does not agree then get rid of her. Christ, I would have
given her her marching orders immediately and not even given it another
thought.

why is she bringing her obviously savage son to your house when she
cleans anyway? what if he breaks something whilst she is there, which
considering the way he has behaved so far seems likely to me.

please post back and tell us you have given her the boot, I don't like
the idea of your cats being exposed to this horrible little demon
again, if you really love your cats you will do it.

bookie

please advise.
thanx

First that is unprofessional of a person (s) to bring their child to
another's home while providing cleaning services specially if unannounced.
Get another cleaning service they are a dime a dozen around the world.

Second if any "child" as you described did this to my furballs. The "child"
and his mother would have ended up on their ass out of my house if they
didn't listen. If he would have grabbed Phantom's, Spirit's or Rumble's
tail that child would have been shredded.

In this sue happy world all it takes is a asshole judge to see the others
point of view and you can loose everything. Heed this warning

This happened when a friend brought his grandson to "my" house. He saw my
cats and went after them screaming all the way till an abrupt stop in midair
when I snatched him by his suspenders and handed him back to his
grandfather. I told him if he touches the cats the will rip him to shreds
and I won't stop him next time. My friend makes sure his grandson is close
by but now he is old enough to understand but still NO TOUCH.


"nay" wrote in message
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Hi there,
I have a lady who comes to clean my home and she brings her 2 year old
along with her. I have asked her not to bring him as he upsets my cats
and my dog. He is forever chasing them around and this morning, he
pulled one of my cats' tails. This was the last straw for me. I
picked him up and put him outside in the back yard and shut the door.
I went in to his mother and told her that unless she teaches him, she
has to leave him home with her mother like she use to in the beginning.
am I over - reacting? My 2 year old nephew comes there and plays with
my cats and never ever chases them around. they even sit on his lap
when he watches Barney and the eat chips with him.

please advise.
thanx

"nay" wrote in message
ups.com...
Hi there,
I have a lady who comes to clean my home and she brings her 2 year old
along with her. I have asked her not to bring him as he upsets my cats
and my dog. He is forever chasing them around and this morning, he
pulled one of my cats' tails. This was the last straw for me. I
picked him up and put him outside in the back yard and shut the door.
I went in to his mother and told her that unless she teaches him, she
has to leave him home with her mother like she use to in the beginning.
am I over - reacting? My 2 year old nephew comes there and plays with
my cats and never ever chases them around. they even sit on his lap
when he watches Barney and the eat chips with him.

please advise.
thanx


No, you're not overreating. She should not bring a child of *any* age. I
would tell her you no longer need her services (you can be diplomatic about
it) and look for someone else. Incidentally, this could also protect you
from possible liability. If the child were to fall and injure himself, it's
possible you could be held financially liable.

MaryL

Thank you for helping me clear this up in my head guys. I have given
my cleaning lady the boot. I offered to put him in day care for her if
she wanted and even offered to arrange a sitter for her if this was her
reason for bringing him to work. She blatantly told me that she was
the only one who could take care of her kid and she would continue
bringing him to work. I then told her that I would no longer need her
services, as the contract we initially signed stated in bold letters
that no children were allowed to come to work with her. At the time of
drawing up the contract, my husband said I was being melodramatic but I
thank my lucky stars that I did. It has given me a good loophole to
let her go without any hassles.

thanx again for helping me gain clarity. You see, I'm a typical
cat....when things irritate, I lash out and checking in with you was
just to make sure that I wasnt arching my back for nothing.

love you all lots

Nay


On Jan 24, 5:52 pm, "Rene S." wrote:
On Jan 24, 8:57 am, "nay" wrote:

Hi there,
I have a lady who comes to clean my home and she brings her 2 year old
along with her. I have asked her not to bring him as he upsets my cats
and my dog. He is forever chasing them around and this morning, he
pulled one of my cats' tails. This was the last straw for me. I
picked him up and put him outside in the back yard and shut the door.
I went in to his mother and told her that unless she teaches him, she
has to leave him home with her mother like she use to in the beginning.
am I over - reacting? My 2 year old nephew comes there and plays with
my cats and never ever chases them around. they even sit on his lap
when he watches Barney and the eat chips with him.

please advise.
thanxNo, you are not overreaction. I've never heard of a professional
cleaning person bringing her children along on the job. I would find a
new cleaning person.